The archive aims to allow readers to look back over the many years of the Pheronews newsletter, which gives us all a great resource for scientific information and user experiences and opinions. Please be aware that many of the offers are out of date, and there are a lot of broken links which are mostly irrelevant anyway.
The back issues are arranged by month and year, although there are some gaps on months that left us deprived of a newsletter
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Pheromone News June , 2001
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June 2001 Dear Readers, Hope you are all well and happy. We’re enjoying a record-breaking long beautiful sunny Spring here in Japan. With the month-long Asian rainy season scheduled to arrive in the next couple of days, I am spending the last of it in our backyard with an i-book on my knee. (alas, not a banjo) And looking forward to being back in the US next month. Big thank you to all who sent in surveys this month! We had massive participation, and thusly a lot of winners: Sue McDowell all won a free bottle o’ pheros of their choice from love-scent.com. If you are one of these folks you should get an e-mail momentarily with further instructions. Don’t forget to smile at someone today! ****************** ==================================== Advertisement Love-Scent is your source for pheromone products that work: The Edge, nHance wipes, New pheromone Additive, Primal Instinct (scented and unscented), Pheromol Factor, pheromone Additive, Andro 4.2, Attraction, APC, Score, Lure, Yes, and Realm by Erox. Also, a full range of products for men and women from Stone Laboratories — including the revolutionary Alter Ego with THREE pheromone ingredients. ***100% money-back guarantee!*** Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone productS ========================================== IN THIS ISSUE OF Pheromone News: *Last Month’s Survey & Contest Results LAST MONTH’S SURVEY & CONTEST RESULTS CONTEST WINNERS: Robert, Wesley, Patricia and Sue ~*Congratulations!*~ SURVEY RESULTS While by no means scientific, the survey did reveal that most people want to have at least a few things in common with their partner. However, it should come as no surprise that men and women look at things differently. Men, for example, told us that a woman’s physical attractiveness was more important than her level of education. Many women, while still placing a good deal of importance on physical attractiveness, also gave more thought to a man’s education or values. However, statistics can sometimes tell only part of the story. In certain categories (especially culture/nationality, socio-economic status, and religion), the majority of people rated the characteristic as lower in importance, but a smaller number who rated the characteristic as very high in importance affected the average. In other words, when it comes to something like nationality or religion, it either matters very little or it matters a lot. THE RESPONSES How important are the following characteristics when it comes to selecting a long-term partner (please rank from 1-10, with 10 being most important): *Culture or nationality: Males–5.6; females–5.5 SELECTED HIGHLIGHTS When it comes to selecting a long-term romantic partner, do you look for certain similarities? Which ones? Males: Females: pheromone Q & A Q: I have been using Pheromol Factor for women for about three weeks now, and have tried doses ranging from one drop to splashing on (as a man would with aftershave). I’ve tried using it in different spots, putting it on my skin sometimes and clothes other times. I have not noticed any different reactions from people. Is it possible that PF may not work for some people? What do you suggest? A: It is true that due to varying body chemistries, different products work for different people. Although we don’t know exactly what is in Pheromol Factor, it is probably the one best stand-alone product. It probably doesn’t get the biggest miracle stories, but it seems to fail the least. Aside from this, you need to make sure you’re affecting people with more than your pheromone signals. For both men and women, it is always important to radiate a sense of having a “good direction.” For better or worse, most people you run into are looking for the BBD (bigger, better deal), someone who is going to cheer them up and help them get on with their life. If your life is on track and you are feeling good about yourself, you will send out a signal that will cause others to want to get to know you. That’s why a sense of humor is so valuable. It shows you have a certain mastery over your feelings and those of others around you. All the Best, Bruce Boyd FEATURE ARTICLE BITTEN BY THE “pheromone BUG” – Last month, pheromone Research News interviewed Phil Stone of Stone Independent Laboratories, a supplier of pheromone products. This article is part two in the series. ————————- Scientific research isn’t a glamorous field. In fact, most research – whether it involves new plant hybrids or revolutionary cancer-fighting drugs – is the result of long hours of lab work and just one “Eureka” moment. Of course, Eureka moments can come in different shapes and forms. Some can even involve bees. As a freshman student in an Organic Chemistry class, Phil Stone and 25 other students were instructed to synthesize a bee pheromone. Stone says the routine experiment was an epiphany for him, and one of the reasons he chose a less-than-conventional career path. “It was like that scene from the Amityville Horror with the flies covering the window – in our case, there were literally three or four hundred bees on the lab window. And inside, there were 26 students making bee pheromones.” “I had no idea, until seeing those bees, that chemistry had that kind of power – in this case it was with insects, but since then we’ve seen a lot of evidence of the importance of pheromones in mammals and in humans,” says Stone. Stone went on to complete a degree in Polymer Chemistry and did post-graduate work on time-release medications for tuberculosis. However, in his own words, he was “bit by the pheromone bug.” He founded Stone Independent Laboratories, which manufactures a range of pheromone products for use by humans. pheromones are chemical compounds that are produced naturally by insects and animals. They are an especially vital means of communication among insects – moths, for example, can be attracted over great distances by pheromones emitted from the female of the species. Today, synthetically reproduced insect pheromones are widely used by the bug control industry. In the world of mammals, some species will immediately adopt a mating stance with just a whiff of a certain pheromone. Yet, there has always been a degree of controversy in scientific circles over the role pheromones play in human behavior and interaction. The research published to date has, however, shown that pheromones like androstenone and androstenol – which affect the Vomeronasal organ in the nose – do have some measurable effect on human interaction and mate selection. “It’s definitely a new area, or maybe a new frontier,” says Stone. He adds that research on human pheromones is sometimes more difficult to get published because “you’re dealing with an area that’s not generally accepted.” Among the general public, the common attitude seems to be one of ignorance. Many people simply have no idea of the role that pheromones play – whether in insects, animals or humans. “It’s sometimes a challenge trying to explain to people what I do. In fact, the standard reply is, “What?” A lot of people have no idea what I’m even talking about,” says Stone. Other people may have seen sexually suggestive marketing materials that claim human pheromone products will turn anyone into an “irresistible sex magnet.” Those inflated advertising claims can sometimes affect attitudes in a negative way. “It’s frustrating to see these products targeted on a purely sexual standpoint. It turns a lot of people off. Over half of the people buying our products are professionals or business people who just want an edge in their daily business activities,” notes Stone. The stories that Stone hears from customers are enough to suggest that pheromone users are finding that edge. “Honest to God, you wouldn’t believe some of the stories I hear. Almost every week, I’ll get one that I just have to post on the bulletin board, but they’re stories I can’t really use as testimonials because most people just wouldn’t believe them,” he says. On the other hand, he admits that it’s also personally gratifying to know – first hand – what the products are doing for people. “Years ago in school, we always had these ideals about how our research would help people. But of course, to bring a new medical drug to the market is a very long and detailed process, and you never really get to see the end of it. You never get to see the people you’re helping,” says Stone. “So from that standpoint, it’s a lot of fun to be able to see a direct result, especially for somebody who loves immediate gratification.” WIN A FREE BOTTLE OF pheromones! FILL OUT A SURVEY! THE JUNE SURVEY: Throughout history, the idea of the soul mate has been firmly fixed as an important belief in many (but not all) cultures. Today, even with soaring divorce rates and an entertainment industry that glorifies sex, the idea of soul mates is ever-present – in everything from church weddings to Meg Ryan movies. What, then, is a soul mate? Is there really such a thing and, if so, how do you find and recognize this special person? ————————- This month, we’re asking the following questions: 1. Do you believe in the idea of soul mates? Why or why not? 2. Do you think you have a soul mate (even if you haven’t found him or her yet)? 3. If you answered ‘yes’ to Question One, how do you know when you’ve found your soul mate? *************** Once again, send your completed survey to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems ================================================ NEW PRODUCTS ON THE MARKET Alter Ego Alter Ego contains THREE pheromones (androstenone, androstenol and androsterone) and represents a big leap forward in pheromone technology. Alter Ego has a mild, natural fragrance that fades into a unique musky essence. Available online at: Or by phone at: User Corner Last Friday night, I went to my usual after work hangout for happy hour. I sat at the bar. A female that I sort of knew, came in and sat next to me. I had talked to this girl before, she had been friendly, but that’s about it. She had told me that since this is a small community, that she could not ever make any type of PDA (public display of affection). Well after about a half hour, she was rubbing my arms, neck and back, smiling incessantly, it was like she had melted. About an hour later a guy I know came in with a girl, his first “date” with her. They sat at a table about 3 feet behind me. She was a really cute blonde, wearing a black miniskirt. Even though I was still sitting with the girl who was rubbing all over me by now, this blonde comes over and starts talking to me/us. In a little while, this one was all over me too. The recipe? 2 sprays of The Edge on the chest, Alter Ego on the wrists. Designer cologne. And yeah, I’d say it was a hit…or two. Pheromone News may be distributed freely, if the sign-up information is included. Send articles and personal stories to: ========================================== |
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Pheromone News May, 2001
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May 2001 Letter from the prez… Hello Readers, Thanks for all the great feedback this past month. I’m sure Dale, our new editor will put it to good use. I even got a few corrections from Canadians and Australians about the proper spelling of the word “eh?” I’ll be more careful… eh? I don’t think anyone mentioned the fact that Pher News has historically been late every month, but under Dale’s new directorship, we are looking at the second issue in a row coming out more or less on schedule. Wow! Congrats also go to our two “free pheros” winners for the month. Douglas and Karen can pick a bottle of something from love-scent.com. They will get an e-mail confirmation shortly about that. Don’t forget to send in a survey yourself this month (see below). You just might win something. The odds are quite good. Don’t forget to smile at someone today! ==================================== Advertisement Love-Scent.com is your one-stop source for pheromone products that work: The Edge, nHance wipes, New pheromone Additive, Primal Instinct (scented and unscented), Pheromol Factor, pheromone Additive, Andro 4.2, Attraction, APC, Lure, Yes, and Realm by Erox. Also, a full range of products for men and women from Stone Laboratories — including the revolutionary Alter Ego with THREE pheromone ingredients. Risk free Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone productS ========================================== IN THIS ISSUE OF Pheromone News: *Last Month’s Survey & Contest Results LAST MONTH’S SURVEY & CONTEST RESULTS CONTEST WINNERS: Douglas and Karen ~*Congratulations!*~ SURVEY RESULTS SELECTED HIGHLIGHTS: 1. What’s your favorite feature of the Pheromone News? 2. What issues/questions would you like to see explored in future surveys? 3. What do you feel is the least useful feature of the Pheromone News? 4. What issues or topics would you like to see featured in upcoming issues of the Pheromone News? 5. What could be added to Pheromone News to make it even better? – Perhaps an HTML version of it would be easier to read. pheromone Q & A Q: What kind of reactions can I expect while wearing pheromones? What should I look for when I’m talking to women while I’m wearing a pheromone product? A: It can depend on the product you’re using, but generally it takes a little time to get “good” at using supplemental pheromones. Many successful users have been perfecting the art for months or even years. It is a little like getting a musical instrument or a tool of some sort. It takes a while to learn how to use it. If you want to meet a lot of new people, you will still have to initiate most encounters. However, if you are simply out and around others, and look relatively friendly (“safe”), I guarantee that you’ll notice your level of attractiveness to others has changed when using a reasonably potent pheromone product. If you use too much of a product you’ll probably notice a decreased response from others, and if you don’t use enough you may notice only a slight change. However, once you discover the right amount, you will notice the optimal increase with that particular product. From there, application points, combinations of products and/or combinations of pheromone products with traditional colognes are directions that will bring even further, synergistic results. After a while you start to take for granted the new levels of social respect you command, but most distinctively I remember the very first time I wore a pheromone product, and the first time I used a product called the Edge. Both experiences were in small shops, while being waited on by female staff. On the one occasion, two female employees kept me detained for about 20 minutes while they learned everything they could about me. On the second occasion the woman waiting on me was aggressively helpful, and towards the end got a bad case of the giggles. These women didn’t jump over the counter and tear off my clothes, like some marketers of pheromone products would have you believe, but there was unmistakably something funny going on. That is what I advise you to be on the look out for. All the Best, Bruce Boyd FEATURE ARTICLE THE MYSTERIOUS THIRD pheromone If you’ve used a pheromone product in the past, you’re likely familiar with androstenone and androstenol. These human pheromones are used – individually and in varying blends or concentrations – in virtually every pheromone product on the market today. Yet, according to Phil Stone, a third pheromone has shown enough effectiveness to merit its use in a commercial product. The pheromone is called androsterone and is an ingredient in Alter Ego, a product for males that is manufactured by Stone Independent Laboratories. To find out more about androsterone, Pheromone News recently interviewed Phil Stone. Pheromone News: Why use androsterone in a pheromone product? Phil Stone: “Basically, it was just one of the many steroid backbone compounds we were looking at, as far as having a potential for use in a pheromone product. There are obviously many more that qualify as having some type of influence, subconsciously, and this was at the top of the list. Really, more than anything else, it was a trial and error type of thing. Over the past two years we’ve been doing trial and error on different blends, working them up one at a time, trying various concentrations and different blends of different pheromones. This one, time and time again, has shown the most potential.” PN: Are there any formal scientific studies supporting androsterone? PS: “We’ve done quite a few little informal studies, as well as a couple of formal ones we’re waiting to publish, looking at various demographic groups and determining which (pheromones) have the most effectiveness. We worked with two groups, in doing two double blind studies in 2000, and those we’re trying to get published right now. It’s kind of a hard sell because we’re dealing with some stuff that’s not generally accepted, but we’re hoping to have something published as early as June.” PN: What are the benefits of using three human pheromones in a product? PS: “It’s generally accepted that androstenone can produce or signal something of an aggressive effect in men, which is also responsible for a great deal of the attraction we find from women. For a long time, we’ve been coupling that compound (androstenone) with androstenol. Androstenol is generally accepted – when it’s used alone – to be more of a male attractant, actually. When you combine the two together, it’s not necessarily a different effect, but for our purposes the numbers go up. We’re looking for women who would choose A over B in a double blind, with studies that entail anything from two tissues with different blends, to studies in the field where blends are applied to test subjects and we can get readings from that. It’s not anything that can be published and it’s not that scientific, but time and time again we see that combining androstenol and androstenone will get a higher response from women, or more attraction. “And we found that when we add androsterone, the numbers increase by over 30 per cent from just the combination of androstenone and androstenol. Right now, we’re also looking at individually adding androsterone to either androstenone or androstenol, and that’s at an early stage but it looks interesting.” PN: What kind of effects would someone notice using a product with androsterone? PS: “Among people using our product, the most common comparison is with Primal Instinct (a popular androstenone-only product). People are noticing that Alter Ego seems to give a much stronger “hit,” and that’s obviously subjective, but it’s the feedback we’re receiving. “One of the interesting things we didn’t necessarily look for when doing our own studies is that people seem to notice a kind of mood-enhancing, calming effect. We’ve heard this time and time again from people using Alter Ego on a daily basis, and there are literally thousands of them now. I don’t know whether to associate it more with the fragrance or the pheromones, but almost half of the feedback has mentioned some type of feel-good response.” PN: Does the addition of androsterone mean people should apply more or less of the product? PS: “This is kind of a new frontier, but the theory that’s accepted right now is that each individual person has their own pheromone signature characteristic. You produce various amounts of pheromones at different levels than other people. There seems to be definite evidence to lead us to believe there’s a most effective, efficient concentration. It’s a matter of trying to attain that by increasing your own signature by various degrees, and noticing the different results.” WIN A FREE BOTTLE OF pheromones! FILL OUT A SURVEY! THE MAY SURVEY: According to many experts in human behavior and relationships, we often mate and marry those who are similar to us. Among other things, we’re said to look for similarities in socio-economic status, religion, culture and education. This month, we’re asking the following questions: 1. When it comes to selecting a long-term romantic partner, do you look for certain similarities? Which ones? 2. How important are the following characteristics when it comes to selecting a long-term partner(please rank from 1-10, with 10 being most important): _____ Culture or nationality *************** Once again, send your completed survey to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems ================================================ NEW PRODUCTS ON THE MARKET Alter Ego Revolutionary new product from Stone Independent Labs! Alter Ego contains THREE pheromones (androstenone, androstenol and androsterone) and represents a big leap forward in pheromone technology. Alter Ego has a mild, natural fragrance that fades into a unique musky essence. Available online at: Or by phone at: User Corner I just tried the new Primal Instinct, and additives or not this stuff works…the attention from the women was mind blowing. Three dates for this weekend alone, not to mention a funny story about the way it commands respect. My car needed to go in the shop and all the local shops were busy, but one told me over the phone to stop by to see if they could fit me in. I arrived and there must have been 10 customers ahead of me, all anxious to get in and get out. Well, after waiting 15 minutes or so I went up and asked the girl behind the counter (who was a blue eyed, big-busted beauty) what the chances were of getting in. She smiled at me and said “Your chances of getting in were pretty good,” with a smile on her face a mile wide. She handed me the forms to fill out and a piece of paper. When returning to my seat to fill them out I noticed that she wrote her phone number and address – and also, “are you married? If not call me!!!” Talk about your lucky day. Two more women asked if I was busy this weekend as well, all in the same day. This just from wearing PI and Andro 4.2, along with Bare Seduction and Tommy Boy!! Pheromone News may be distributed freely, if the sign-up information is included. 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Pheromone News April, 2001
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April, 2001 Letter from the prez… Yes, it has been 3 months since the last issue of the Pheromone News. With a baby, a 5 year old, a beautiful wife, a growing business, and a “day job” as well, it finally dawned on me to hire someone to take over the News. As much as I have enjoyed writing it, I am happy to announce that I have found a wonderful replacement in the form of Dale Andrews, who is actually a professional writer (what a concept!). He is also a Canadian, but I talked to him on the phone for quite a while and he didn’t say “aye?” even once, so I hope you will all welcome him warmly. 😉 He’s a great guy as well as a great writer. By the way, my family and I just spent the last month touring the US on a half business half Disneyland/Sea World trip. We had a great time, arriving back here in Japan only yesterday. I think half my consciousness is still out over the Pacific somewhere, but I figure since Dale did such a fine job on the NEW pheromone Research News, the least I could do would be to add my opening monologue and send it out. Enjoy and…. Don’t forget to smile at someone today! ****************** ****************** Advertisement Check out our newest products: The Edge, nHance wipes, the New pheromone Additive, and Score. Also new, a range of products for men and women from Stone Laboratories — including the revolutionary Alter Ego with THREE pheromone ingredients. Our product lineup also includes these favorites: ***100% money-back guarantee on everything!*** Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone productS ========================================== IN THIS ISSUE OF Pheromone News: *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results LOVE-SCENT SURVEY RESULTS We owe you an apology! We lost the responses to our last survey (November issue) and therefore cant include the results in this newsletter. We’re reprinting the November survey in this issue, so be sure to respond whether you answered last time or not. Instead of making our usual drawing for free pheromones from the list of survey entries, we’ve randomly picked two names from our newsletter subscriber list. WINNERS: Jon Sandberg and Petter from Norway. ~*Congratulations!*~ pheromone Q&A Q: What happens if I mix cologne with pheromone products like The Edge or New pheromone Additive? A: Some people say that mixing diminishes the potency and I have always tended to apply products separately, but I don’t think you need to worry about that. Just make sure you find the right ratio when you mix anything, and that varies according to the cologne you use and your own body chemistry. Experiment with small amounts, starting with about a 10% additive mix and work up. Someone recently said 20% worked well, and that sounds about right depending on the fragrance. Both the Edge and New Additive have the same type and amount of pheromones in each bottle, so it is probably just a matter of convenience which one you prefer. Bruce Boyd FEATURE ARTICLE Human Scent: The Forgotten Language Your dog can smell fear, and a female pig will instantly assume a mating stance after a good whiff of the male of the species. Have humans lost the ability to communicate in such a way? Most people would agree that we’re capable of detecting a wide range of scents, some pleasant, others not – but that’s where it ends. Yet, there is growing evidence that humans can not only detect emotions by scent, but also communicate in other ways with the equipment up our noses. Conveying information Scientists have shown that people can actually recognize the smell of happiness or fear. Researchers Denise Chen (Monell Chemical Senses Center) and Jeannette Haviland (Rutgers University) asked a group of men and women to wear absorbent pads under their arms while watching humorous or frightening movie scenes. The pads were put into separate jars and 37 men and 40 women were asked to sniff the contents and identify happy or scared smells. Most volunteers claimed they couldn�ft smell anything, but the guesses were still quite accurate. �gWomen were especially good at picking the male fear odor,�h said Chen in a May, 1999 report in New Scientist. Over three-quarters of the women, and more than half the men, correctly picked the jar containing the scent of fearful men. Over half of the women identified the jar with the scent of happy men. Still, men couldn’t identify the smell of fear from females or the happy scents of other males, according to New Scientist. One likely reason is that women generally have a better sense of smell. In a related study, Chen and Haviland also showed that human body odors can affect our moods. In the experiment, 308 student volunteers were exposed to the scents of a wide range of people. The scent of old women had the most positive effect on volunteers�f moods. In general, smells from older people and women improved the mood of the student volunteers. Hormonal changes may make the body odor of older people, and especially women, signal they are approachable, said Haviland in a July 1999 report in New Scientist. On the other hand, she speculated it may also be that older women are generally happy and their scent can provoke this mood in others. pheromone Connection Many scientists now acknowledge the existence of the human VNO and it’s ability to receive certain stimuli and transmit the information to the brain. Whether those stimuli affect our behavior is still a controversial subject. One study actually used sophisticated electronic equipment to measure the VNO’s operation, as reported in the June 2000 issue of Pheromone News. The study, titled Perfumery and the Sixth Sense, was funded by Erox Corp. (a manufacturer of pheromone-based colognes) and performed by Clive Jennings-White at the University of Utah. Yet other research has shown that, at least in pigs, the VNO isn’t necessary at all for detection of the pheromone androstenone, a substance that signals sexual attraction and causes the female to adopt a mating stance. This study, by Drs. Dorries KM, Adkins-Regan E, and Halpern BP of Cornell University, could have implications in the human world. After blocking off the VNO and measuring the behavior of these pigs versus normal “control” pigs, the researchers found that: Does this research let us conclude that humans, with our weaker VNO equipment, might detect pheromones in the same manner? At this point, the answer could be, maybe. The extremely overt reactions of pigs and other animals means it is far easier to examine their behavior. The human animal, on the other hand, is more difficult to study. Yet, there is valid scientific evidence to suggest that pheromones like androstenone and androstenol are somehow detected by humans, and contribute to our own mating and courtship behaviors. In the meantime, take a deep breath and pay attention to what you smell; your nose could be trying to tell you something. WIN A FREE BOTTLE OF pheromones! FILL OUT A SURVEY! THE MARCH SURVEY: Thanks, 1. What’s your favorite feature of the Pheromone News? 2. What issues/questions would you like to see explored in future surveys? 3. What do you feel is the least useful feature of the Pheromone News? 4. What issues or topics would you like to see featured in upcoming issues of the Pheromone News? 5. What could be added to Pheromone News to make it even better? *************** Once again, send your completed survey to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems ================================================ NEW PRODUCTS ON THE MARKET Alter Ego Alter Ego contains THREE pheromones (androstenone, androstenol and androsterone) and represents a big leap forward in pheromone technology. Alter Ego has a mild, natural fragrance that fades into a unique musky essence. Available online at: Or by phone at: User Corner Today I went to get a haircut so I figured it would be a good time to test some pheromones. I put Alter Ego and some cologne on my neck, and The Edge on my chest. Usually the lady that cuts my hair is pretty silent and never talks much, but today she wouldn’t shut up, and she asked a lot of personal questions. Also, I noticed an increased amount of looks and glances. Whenever I’m wearing AE girls do pay more attention to me, and some guys try to be my best buddy and others are really aggressive. At first I was skeptical of pheromones, but now I believe that there is something to them. Lance ================================================= Pheromone News may be distributed freely, if the sign-up information is included. Send articles and personal stories to: You can also sign up by sending a blank e-mail to: |
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Pheromone News November, 2000
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November, 2000 Hello Readers, Too late for “Happy Thanksgiving” and with my track record for getting the Pheromone News out on schedule, I’d better get in a “Merry Christmas” and a “Happy Hanukkah” now, while I have the chance… Happy holidays to you all, however you celebrate. Also, a big thank you to readers who sent in various home remedies for my injured knee. I actually tried some of them and they seem to help. Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. With this issue readers Curtis, Kim, and Allain won something. Don’t forget to smile at someone today! Check the URL you are visiting carefully. Send articles and personal stories to: Primal Instinct, Pheromol Factor, pheromone Additive *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results I got very lucky this month as readers were able to figure out what I was getting at by the use of the term “social skills.” As you all seemed to gather, I wasn’t referring to knowing which fork to eat your salad with, and I was actually quite moved by what I read, as a great number of you obviously recognize the tremendous need for personal/spiritual growth in fostering a happy relationship. WINNERS: 1. Wouldn’t you agree that we need to spend at least as much time developing the kind of “social skills” we need to maintain a healthy relationship, as we do searching for the ideal mate? 2. If so, what can we do to get those skills? THE RESULTS **Selected highlights!** Well you have to like and love your self, or else you won’t find anyone else who will. Getting social skills is a must have to find any kind of relationship, or else you end up offending everyone you know. I believe you can acquire social skills by making it a habit to interact with people, and not just members of the opposite sex either. By doing so, you become more comfortable expressing yourself and it becomes easier to communicate with people and they’ll feel more compelled to communicate with you. Without the “social skills” I wouldn’t give a guy a second look. Hold open a door for me and speak politely and that is the first step in introduction of yourself. The studies that have been done say that first impressions are formed within the first 5 seconds of meeting someone, which goes to show that even before you get to say “hi”, someone has an opinion of you based on your appearance. Self improvement such as anger management,learning to respect others,truly listening, and all the other important things can be learned,like anything else, with a conscious effort-learning from your mistakes and THINKING about the best way to say or do things will get you on the road to effective communication.Whether you try to learn on your own or with the help of self-improvement tapes, seminars,or other outside forces-the key to success is to be honest with yourself in what you need improvement in, then the desire to change something, and then the effort. It will be breaking a bad habit-catching yourself doing the undesirable thing, and taking a different approach. I believe there is always someone who has cross that path before me. So I would sit and talk to successful couples to get a few tips and advice. Often people develop these skills through trial and error within relationships. It isn’t impossible however, to sit and think of what you want from a relationship, and what you can contribute. All you have to do is think of cause and effect. Even in a healthy relationship we all have areas in which we can improve. Developing “social skills” in ourselves also keep a relationship from going stale. It’s even better when you consciously work on skills together. The acquisition is painful. It requires becoming unselfish enough to recognize other people and their needs. There are many avenues available. Professional counseling is helpful for those who can afford it. Books like “How to Talk so Your Kids Will Listen (and Listen so Your Kids Will Talk)” are full of great tips that apply to all age levels (including a significant other). There are assertiveness courses that help balance the selfishness/doormat attitude most of us have to get over. John Gray (Mars/Venus) has some great tips. The book “His Needs, Her Needs” lays out how our differing needs affect the relationship. Find someone who has the skills you are wanting and study him/her. Ask him/her for advice and for how he/she achieved his/her skills. Then ask if he/she will help you improve yours. Finding a mate is only the tip of the iceberg. Keeping them is the rest of it. As a whole we need to learn better skills in learning to communicate with each other, to listen and to react after thinking on it instead of just spouting off what first comes to mind. For those people who are looking for a long-term relationship, and not just a fling or a few-month-long love affair, keeping it going after the “head over heels” phase has ended is the most difficult part, but also that which best tests the maturity of the two partners. Since we never know when are ideal mate will come along, perhaps the social skills we need aren’t needed at all! A healthy relationship is a shared adventure, not by what you know, but what makes us both happy. I personally could care less if society thought I was skillful or not..it’s between me and my man what we find works or doesn’t..a shared partnership. Practice , Practice and more practice, you need to sharpen your own senses and enjoy learning more about the opposite sex with regard to their own particular feeling. Take chances and go out with a lot of people – build up a repertoire of dating experiences and test your abilities. People are not born conversationalists; they must acquire their skills somewhere. Go back to teaching some basics in our children. Including respecting one another. It starts in the homes and the school systems. Let me tell you its very VERY hard to succeed. Each evening you should over think the whole day. Analyze the things you’ve said, things you’ve done and the feelings you had. for SURE you will find a lot of improvements. Maybe you could have been more friendly to your neighbor? You could have been more generous to your kids ? Maybe you even had a chance with this nice lady in the bar if you dint tirade with the barkeeper about the overpriced drink and showed generosity? Learn to trust a person until they give you a reason not to. Never worry about what others think of you. Learn how to smile regardless of how stressful the situation or how rude the person. If we just slow down and walk through a situation it usually isn’t as bad as it seems. Learn not to run from problems, but to confront them in a level headed manner. If you are mad or upset, give yourself time to calm down before you tackle the problem. Learn to talk and not argue. Always listen to both sides of a story, but never be pulled into the “he said, she said” game. That only hurts others in the end. Be a good listener as well as a good adviser. Never judge a person by what they do or have, rather by who they are. I could go on, but you get the idea. Spend time in social situations, church groups, bowling league, softball teams etc. Go anywhere there are people and interact with them…observe how others treat each other….take the best of those actions and reactions and incorporate them into yourself. Most of these skills should be taught by parents and family. We cannot rely on schools and overworked teachers to raise our families. They have a difficult enough time providing instruction on educational skills without trying to teach social skills. Ethics and morals MUST be learned at home, and if we wish to be respected, then we must converse in a manner which shows respect for others. The same way we get them as when we were children — by associating with others. Everyone has different standards as to what is acceptable socially, and the more you recognize – and accept – these differences the easier it is to socialize. When I started looking for a mate, I changed my way of life and pretended to be someone I wasn’t. I only found people with those “social skills” that I was trying to pretend I had. The relationships never worked out. I finally found someone who loved me for me and didn’t need me to be have a “model” personality. I learn from my mistakes as I live and I then change with each new learned lesson ( be it of compassion, honesty, etc…) It would be nice if we could get them from out parents but that is not always possible. I have found that good communication and the willingness to admit we are wrong and asking our partners what they want helps. I think it starts with our parents and the type of relationship we were raised in. If it was one of love and honesty, then it tells true that we would be of the same caliber in our own adult relationships. But we are human beings and capable of learned behavior (which can go both positive and negative). Ultimately, the skills should be started in infancy by observing positive parental interaction. Social skills, as a core means of communication in our society has become less and less important. If we would like to enter into and maintain a healthy long-term relationship, the skills should be developed as soon as possible, if they haven’t been developed, then they should be even as late as within an already established relationship. In case we don’t get the skills from our family environment, then schools should implement the teaching of these skills as part of their curriculum; that is how important they are. For those of us who are older, there could be various methods of acquiring the skills, like a chat room or discussion group through your web-site. There is an abundance of self-help books, information on the internet, classes, TV shows directed at developing better interpersonal relationships, etc. that are available to anyone who wants to make the effort to better themselves. Care enough to exercise the infinite patience it takes to resolve the many inevitable differences between partners. Things like compassion can be “practiced” on a daily basis. You see a grocery bagger sagging with tired feet at the end of their shift… offer to carry out your own…you’re going that way anyway. Encourage them to take a minute for themselves. I think the most essential “social skill” is simply common courtesy, or “The Golden Rule-” Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Having respect and courtesy for your partner is the biggest hurdle to get over. After that, common interests, chemistry, etc. will follow as a matter of course. An affluent person may view “social skills” as knowing which utensil to use at a meal, from watching good couples communicating within them and learning from our mistakes like when you see your parents fighting. We can read books or listen to tapes or take classes to acquire these skills. Simple! Practice, practice, practice! Practice with your friends, family, partners, and anybody else you come in contact in a daily basis. Every time someone talks to you, try your best to be honest, sincere, and all the good quality that you can think of. I’m very good at making people laugh, therefore, I got a lot of friends, both sexes. The most important ingredient in developing social skills is to learn to listen to who you’re talking to. Get to know yourself. Learn what you really like and gravitate towards those areas. Go to classes and ask questions. Learn to be kind and considerate and how to be a true friend. Read, listen and converse. Put yourself out there. The best way to learn is through experience. Think before we react, think of the other persons feelings before making a comment or judgment. Don’t vocalize your thoughts until you have really thought about the reaction to your action. First and foremost you need to develop an understanding of people. You need to stop thinking about yourself and become genuinely interested and involved with other people. By doing this, people will naturally be inclined towards you and this in turn helps you develop these social skills. take a good look inside, and try to become what we want ourselves to be. But this can be tricky, too because you have to want to be whatever it is for yourself and not just to please that other person or be what you think he/she wants you to be like. We have those skills the trick is to release the Ego from the game. We Need to learn from watching other healthy relationships… We can learn by imitation. I don’t mean be fake, but try to watch how successful people around you interact with each other. You can even try asking them how they would handle situations to give you a basis. Sincerity and humor are two of the best social skills that I know. Learn from watching a couple that has been married for more than 30 years. Perhaps our grandparents hold the true knowledge on this one. Simply observe. By observing our mate, we can get ideas about what they really like. And by doing so, we can decide whether it’s worth to provide what they like. One of the ways I try to develop my own social skills is by treating others as I want to be treated. That means, for me, respect, courtesy, thoughtfulness, a smile, a sense of humor, not always trying to be dominant in a conversation, listening, speaking openly but tactfully, and following through with promises made. It’s not about being Miss Nice or being a doormat, either, but simply treating people well. If you are practicing good social skills in your everyday life, you hone these skills and they can help you advance at work, do better in school, be a better neighbor and become a an active part in your community. Live life. Learn who “YOU” are and learn to love yourself and be comfortable with who you are. Read Scott Peck’s “A Road Less Traveled” and listen to a lot of John Grey’s stuff. Create a genuine interest in learning the skills and caring about your mate. Volunteer, volunteer, volunteer. Be a part of the phone bank or watch polls at election time. Become a docent at the local museum. Help kids with a scouting project. Donate your technical skills to schools. Everybody has a special talent they can share with others. Hmmmm…sharing…isn’t that a big part of most relationships? Q: Are there any ways to raise the pheromone level with out using the cologne? A: Yes, there are many, but simply maintaining good general health is probably the most advisable. A: Personally, I wouldn’t worry about mixing with cologne unless you want to go that route. I don’t think it is necessary and may even increase the chance of loss through destruction of the active ingredient and/or precipitation. The other question is not so easy to answer. There are pluses and minuses to both skin and clothing application. When you skin-apply a product like Realm and (probably) Athena’s, which contain other steroidal material in addition to the usual andro pheromones, there is always the chance of some entering the blood-stream and causing mood elevation. This also may be possible with some of the strong pheromone products like Primal too. But mostly whether or not to skin apply is a matter of finances, and how “ripe” you want to get for the situation at hand. pheromones applied to clothing last a LONG time. I once had a sweater worn by an old girlfriend of mine, and I got such a warm feeling inhaling the fumes off of that thing. It lasted for months I think. When you go to the gym and put a couple dabs behind your ears, it is gone in an hour or two. You are giving off a lot of the scent quickly at those times, and don’t need to apply much. Experiment and see what works best for you. It can take weeks to find a winning approach. Bruce Boyd NOTE: The following article is the second of a two part series reprinted from the August and September, 1999 issues of the pheromone Research News. While the testosterone-linked “andro” pheromones are produced by both sexes and effectively give others olfactory (smell) information about our testosterone level and therefore our probable interest in sex, the primarily female sex hormones (estrogen and progesterone) are producing pheromone-like substances that give information to others not about the owners interest in sex, but in the likelihood of producing offspring, which biologically is the “reason” we have sex (by the way). As everyone knows, when female animals are at the optimal point in their menstrual cycle for producing offspring (point of ovulation), there occur changes in their vaginal secretions that have a dramatic effect on the sex drive of males of their species that are in the immediate area. These changes are controlled by the normal cyclic changes in female sex hormones (estrogen and progesterone) within the body and work their romantic magic on nearby males, at least in part, by increasing male testosterone levels dramatically, merely by giving them a whiff of the pheromones contained in their vaginal secretions! This phenomenon has obviously been of very big interest to scientists in the fragrance industry and has resulted in the discovery and isolation of the exclusively female human sex pheromone known as “copulins”, which occurs naturally in the vaginal secretions of women. It has been shown in scientific studies (Jutte) to drive male testosterone levels through the roof (150% of baseline), and almost undoubtably has major potential as a part of the romantic arsenal of any woman interested in getting a rise out of her romantic partner. I have also heard from reliable sources that copulins is being evaluated for its potential use by body builders, who are always interested in the anabolic (muscle increasing) effects of high testosterone levels. Other research (Michael et al, 1975) has demonstrated that the composition of the female human pheromone, copulins, varies in close coordination with the varying levels of estrogen and progesterone in the female body, which in animals produce such an obvious behavioral effect in dogs and cats. (ie: the female goes into heat and every male in the neighbor is willing to dodge rush-hour traffic to get near her) CONCLUSION: #1 When males sniff the female pheromone copulins their testosterone level jumps to a towering 150%, which scientists agree increases the sex drive. THEREFORE, all other things being equal, we can guess that men will like women who emit the scent of copulins better than they will like women who don’t *and* they will be rendered “horny” by that whiff of copulins. ALSO, the Michael study tells us that the composition of a woman’s copulins changes according to the phase of her monthly cycle, and this we know is part of the biology that is driving male dogs and cats completely insane to get at ovulating females. UNFORTUNATELY though, the Jutte study was unable to show any relation between the type of copulins (ie, which phase of menstruation it came from) and the amount of attraction it stimulated in male subjects. In other words, males find women wearing all types of copulins equally attractive. What researchers are looking for, of course, is human males being more attracted to ovulating females than to non-ovulating females as is the case with our pets, but were unable to find it. That doesn’t mean that the effect doesn’t exist, but they were unable to detect it with this type of test. There is some evidence from another study (name escapes me at the moment) that pheromones produced by females with high progesterone levels (commonly found during menstruation and pregnancy) have the effect of *reducing* testosterone levels in nearby males, which would of course reduce their sex drive. So, we’re getting thumbs up on copulins as a sex pheromone, but the jury is still out on the effects of ovulation on its attractive powers. (see survey below) But just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE DECEMBER SURVEY: Thanks, 1. What’s your favorite feature of the Pheromone News? 2. What issues/questions would you like to see explored by future surveys? *************** Send completed surveys to: Attraction Available online at: |
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Pheromone News October, 2000
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October, 2000 Hello Readers, Happy Halloween! Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. With this issue readers Jenifer, Kevin, and Chris won something. Be sure to read the survey results this month. They’re very interesting, and don’t forget to smile at someone today! Check the URL you are visiting carefully. Send articles and personal stories to: Primal Instinct, Pheromol Factor, pheromone Additive *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS (average scores): QUALITY WOMEN MEN 2. Write a couple of sentences about what is important to you in a mate: **Selected highlights!** WOMEN SPEAK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN: If I can find someone to make me laugh, that is a good start. Someone who has good communication skills is a must. If you can’t talk about things, there is no point in having a relationship. He should be genuine, honest, witty, a friend. Willing to communicate openly, embrace our differences and be able to express himself with words and actions. The ability to be friends amidst an intimate relationship is very important. Trust is also of the utmost importance. Someone who is truly caring, and open minded. One who will listen to my opinions, and who really wants to work together to make a relationship successful and fulfilling. As corny as it sounds someone who touches my soul, like they can see inside and understand me. Somewhat like their heart speaking to mine. Something I consider most important in a mate is a fertile mind. Someone who is adventurous, and fun to be with. Sense of humor is also extremely important. I want someone that can laugh at jokes as well as make me laugh. They shouldn’t get mad easily and be easy going and fun to be around for the rest of my life. Someone that I am comfortable with. Dependable, but with a little touch of wild side…especially in the bedroom. He lets me “be me” without trying to change me or make a lot of demands I want someone who doesn’t want to control me. I want someone who will let me be me. I want someone who can take care of themselves, who wants to spend time with me but doesn’t mind if I want to go out with the girls instead of being with him. Communication skills are important. If you can talk about it, generally you can work out any other issues. But along with that comes a willingness to listen and the capability to understand AND work things out. One of the most important things to me in a mate is the ability and willingness to get to know me….the real me….to get to know the little things that make me happy…..the simple little things in life that can turn my worst day into my best day. I thing that the most important thing in a mate is their willingness to understand you. Of course that has to be mutual. If your mate continually ignores you when you are trying to tell them personal things about yourself then they obviously don’t really care about “yourself”. I look for a mate who is not shy toward physical closeness, as I value things like embraces very much. What’s important to me is my mate being a caring and considerate person who has a good heart. And who makes me laugh and enjoys the simple things in life. He has the capability of relating to children, being understanding, loving caring, good sense of humor. I want a man to be able to cry if he’s hurting. Having someone you can relate to, being able to communicate with them freely without fear of rejection, a sense of humor, and similar interests. Having a similar sex drive is important as well. That he is responsible, kind, and loving family man. I like a man who is good with children. I grew up with a father who traveled all week and was only home on the weekends but he made every moment special with us and gave us great childhood memories. I think this is very important. I wanted a man who is intelligent, family oriented, able to make me laugh, and gainfully employed. A man who is strong of character, dependable, a good conversationalist, sexy (in his own way), sharing, caring, and loving. A mate should have some interests of his own and respect that you also have some interests that may not include him. A mate needs to be willing to enjoy time as a couple and personal time. I believe the most important thing in any relationship is honesty and trust. Great sex is just the icing on the cake. To be a friend. To be able to love me for all my faults, negativity, health problems I may have when I get older. To be able to carry a decent conversation. To have the same set of high values. To have life long goals that I can be included in. A hobby that we can both share in. For me, it is important that my mate be able to make me laugh, let me cry, hold me up, and be able to have a conversation on the same level as me. I say that what is important to me in a mate is that we can talk to each other about anything. Another thing that I would say is important is that he must know how to kiss, because a kiss can start the fire burning inside and and it can also show how much he really cares about you. The most important thing for me in a mate is communication, because without it there cease to be a relationship. Communication includes Listening and Fairness, Giving and Trusting. Its the freedom to be yourself and the knowledge of knowing the other will be there for you without doubt. Its Sharing and Caring for one another and growing old together, but it all begins with Communication. It is very important to me to find a mate that is compassionate and caring. If he has these traits then the rest will work itself out. I am attracted to a guy who shows that he is sensitive and kind. I also like that they like to be close to me, and are not afraid to show how they feel. MEN SPEAK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A WOMAN: Someone who not only cares about me but about others as well. Someone willing to give of their time whether it be to help friends or charitable work. It is very important for me to be with a person who is very honest and is not afraid to tell me what she thinks. That is in ANY situation. I also am looking for someone who likes what I do and will not expect me to change for them, and can get along with my friends and family. I have been attracted to women who weren’t perfect 10s, and that all boiled down to personality. I don’t need a Cindy Crawford or a Rebecca Romjin-Stamos, and I have met some externally beautiful women who were ugly as sin on the inside. It’s more important to me if we click from a personality standpoint first. You can’t build a relationship with someone you can’t get along with! I like a woman with a sense of humor, and does not take every thing too seriously all the time, as well as the ability to relax and enjoy life. The MOST important thing to me in a mate is fidelity. Without fidelity, there can be no trust. To me it is the cornerstone of a solid relationship and represents total commitment. Most important is compatibility with the same interests and desires. And also the love of passion and spontaneity. i really get turned on by ambitious women, it shows me that they are driven, motivated, and don’t easily quit on things. Being a kind person is becoming more & more important. Most important to me is that the person should be someone I can talk to and laugh with. If we’re not on the same level intellectually, there’s no chance that we can possibly communicate properly on any plane, and communication is the basis of any good relationship. I think companionship and honesty are important. If you have friendship, the rest follows. Compatibility , i.e. sharing same ideas, music, outlook on life and most importantly being a Christian. She should be adventurous and should like to travel. Love to nature and animals is also important. I think the ideal mate is a friend, someone who will support me emotionally and share their innermost experiences with me. Being able to understand I can’t be around them all the time. Possession is a turn off. I love my time to just read. Having her excited about my interests, as I am excited and encourage hers. Laughing is very important to me. And a woman who doesn’t mind me cooking once in a while. Someone who doesn’t take things too seriously and can laugh at herself when she needs to. Being in shape is good not only because she looks good, but also because she’s probably going to be a little more confident, which is a plus, and she’ll probably also be a little healthier than most girls. Somebody who understands when I do something “dumb”, and won’t jump to judge me. I want someone who has a tender heart, and who is loyal, and who will give emotionally those things a man needs. Compatibility is important to me. As is honesty and an ability to laugh. I need someone I can converse with and laugh with, someone with relatively equal intelligence and a similar sense of humor and preferences. I am looking for someone who is responsible, fun to be around, and who does not mind trying new things. The single most important thing in a mate is clearly the capability to talk with him/her. If you are able to just talk and talk for hours then it is a good sign of a potential relationship. On first approach the physical condition (face, body etc.) could be important, but as soon as you get to know someone you will find out that it really is the inside that matters, not the outside. Eventually you will see a not so beautiful person being very pretty in your eyes ========================================== Q: I have never had any luck meeting women. I have tried pheromones and that doesn’t seem to help either. What am I doing wrong? A: Luck is a great thing when it comes along, but you can not count on it. Probably the only thing you can count on is persistence. If you persist you will succeed, and the use of pheromones is no exception. It is very common to notice nothing on the first try; you have to keep at it for a while. Be friendly, be helpful, and most importantly experiment and keep at it. Also, be careful of using too much pheromone and/or cologne, especially if you don’t notice the smell very much yourself. You can definitely overdo it. I have gotten countless letters that basically go like this: I don’t know why it happens this way, but it often does, even with folks you don’t know. But keep in mind that it can be hard to change the minds of friends and co-workers that have you “pegged” a certain way. Finally, anytime you go after something, it is a “crap-shoot” isn’t it? You lose, you lose, you WIN! pheromones just slant the odds more heavily in your favor. You still have to take some chances. I remember sitting in a bar in Ireland once with this very funny guy. Everybody loved him. He was tall thin, gangly and funny-looking, but everybody loved him. They used to call him “Willy Toothbrush” because he carried his toothbrush with him everywhere. But besides his toothbrush, he always seem to have a beautiful girl as well, and I was asking with him about that. He said: “Bruce, if you walked around this bar and asked every one of these women to have a drink with you, eventually you would find one that would say ‘yes’, wouldn’t you?” I had to agree. He continued: “Well, I can tell which one is going to say ‘yes’ before I even ask her, so that makes it easier for me.” There you have it.. Willy Toothbrush’s secret. Maybe it doesn’t have to be painful, but you have to take risks and be persistent if you want success at anything. Bruce Boyd NOTE: The following article is the first of a two part series reprinted from the August and September, 1999 issues of the pheromone Research News. Part 2 will appear next month. The two most popular pheromones that have lately made their way into the news and into the fragrance industry as well are called, androstenone and androstenol. As with all other pheromones they are produced by hormones excreted by the body through the skin where they react with bacteria. These pheromones are quite volatile and move through the air where they are picked up by a specialized sensing apparatus (VNO) in the noses of those nearby, where they transmit vital information about us to those individuals. Since it is our own hormones that drive the production of pheromones, it stands to reason that higher levels of the androgen hormones (ones that cause the sex drive) will cause us to naturally produce higher levels of the pheromones that are popularly made in factories today with the very goal of attracting others for this purpose. Some interesting research performed by Dr. Jutte, shows us how we can do just that. What is it chemically that makes us want to have sex? Surprisingly enough for both men and women it is the same hormone, testosterone! And, how can we establish if a man or women is interested in sexual activity. (for scientific purposes of course). Three ways: All of these work but the first is apparently the least reliable especially with women according to the Jutte study. And how do we make people horney (for scientific purposes of course): porn movies! Yes, an equal number of male and female subjects in the Jutte study were shown a 15 minute pornographic video while they were alone, and their testosterone levels were checked via a saliva test at intervals before and after the “exposure”. What were the results? Who gets hornier from watching sex scenes alone in a room., men or women? You women know the truth, while all the male readers have been believing the big lie for all these years. Scientific results show that………both men and women respond equally!!!! There was a little fudging on the horniness self-report forms by females apparently, but the medical tests showed equality between the sexes! Finally! Oh, by the way, there was one more difference besides the accuracy of the self-report forms, and that was the length of time that the video-induced testosterone “high” lasted. Again no surprise to women and that is that after the stimulating video has been turned off, the average male testosterone level was back to baseline in 15 minutes, ready to roll over and start snoring, while the lonely female testosterone level took much longer to calm down. I knew there had to be a medical explanation for that. So, there you are; the facts are in. If you want to raise your pheromone level naturally, (which won’t crash out on you like your fickle testosterone level guys), just get yourself good and horney for at least 15 minutes. But again, just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE NOVEMBER SURVEY: I get a lot of mail from divorced or separated readers. In fact probably half of the people reading these words right now have been divorced at least once. And for every letter I get that says: “I’ve learned my lesson, next time I’m going to do things differently.” I get twenty that say “I’ve learned my lesson, next time I’m going to pick a better partner.” I have a feeling this is going to be a very unpopular survey, but I have to ask it…. *************** 1. Wouldn’t you agree that we need to spend at least as much time developing the kind of “social skills” we need to maintain a healthy relationship, as we do searching for the ideal mate? 2. If so, what can we do to get those skills? 3. Do you think these skills must be acquired within the context of a relationship? *************** Send completed surveys to: |
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Pheromone News September, 2000
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September, 2000 Hello Readers, Wow! We have been getting one typhoon after another here in Japan. Our old wooden house leaks, and everyone is getting a little soggy. I feel like I’m on a camping trip. Anyway.. onwards and upwards! Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. With this issue readers Linda, Elizabeth, and Hal won something. Be sure to read the survey results this month, and don’t forget to smile at someone today! Send articles and personal stories to: ***SALE ENDS THIS WEEK*** *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS: Now have a look at the…. Selected highlights! Several years before my introduction into the world of dating, I subscribed to the Dating Tip of the Day and the Kissing Tip of the Day at http://www.thekiss.com/tips, “just in case.” Reading the countless messages archived in my Eudora e-mail box increased my repertoire of relationship plans and whatnot. Although many of the reader-suggested ideas are a bit kitschy, there are also a few choice morsels of information. In addition to this website, other romance resources such as http://www.rom101.com and http://www.lovingyou.com exist. These seem much more helpful in determining strategies in current and future relationships. Well, I’ve heard a lot of people say “Dianetics” by L Ron Hubbard has helped them. As far as I’m concerned, The Bible is a good reference source. Just having Faith and Trust in a Supreme Power enables one to have faith and trust in themselves. It has been my belief that it is extremely difficult to love someone else, if you cannot love yourself. A book that I would recommend is “A Man’s Guide: What Women Want”. This is written by Laurence Roy Stains and Stefan Bechtel. This is a basic no-nonsense guide of what we clearly see what a woman wants but usually are too ignorant as men to notice. It helped me to understand women not only in dating situations but also create stronger friendships with the women I already know…. I HIGHLY recommend a book called “The Five Languages of Love”. If I had read this before I probably would not be divorced today. It talks about how people speak different “languages” and if the partners do not know which language to speak, the other partner will not feel validated and fulfilled. The languages are: “Words of Affirmation”, “Quality Time”, “Acts of Service”, “Physical Touch”, and “Gifts”. My spouse “spoke” the “Acts of Service” language, he was always DOING things (working outside, working on the car, lawn, etc). Unfortunately, my “receiving language” was “Quality Time”. So he thought he was doing everything he could to please me and I thought he spent too much time puttering around which was stealing time that we could have spent doing things together. PROBLEM!!! Try reading “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. You have to learn how to understand each other before anything will work in a relationship. Honesty helps also and so does reading the Bible! This may sound a little odd but I think reading the Dalai Lama book The Art of Happiness and using it in conjunction with parts of The Rules book is a good way to form relationships. The Dalai Lama book for relationships in general and the Rules for love relationships. Make a commitment and start standing for someone or for a cause. Read the New Testament. It will read like your own life story. And you will realize we all start off as babies, self-centred , self-opinionated and selfish. Being part of a Christian family of caring and accepting people can do wonders for your spiritual and emotional growth. The thing that has helped the most is a change in “my” attitude. Thats right ladies I have found the secret to a GOOD relationship sexually and otherwise. We have been married 17 years and we have a 5yr. old and a 19 mo. old and let me tell you since our first baby was born the fiz turned flat in our relationship and I blamed it all on my husband I accused him of giving me no attention and that he was always grouchy and tired and after fighting about this for a few years and feeling like our relationship would never be good again I remembered something I had been hearing for years in church “Do unto others as you would have others to do unto you” and “you reep what you sow” hmm.. what was I sowing? I was giving him no attention and I was grouchy and tired all the time!!!! I soon realized if I want this relationship to work out and I do I had to put some effort in it and let me tell you it works!!!!! Sue Johanson, the radio show sex therapist and Registered Nurse, is an excellent resource for all kinds of questions regarding relationships between men and women. – The Secret Language of Relationships : Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship With Anyone — Gary Goldschneider, Joost Elffers; Hardcover $27.96 at Amazon.com Well one of the best books i can say on the market today…is Women on Top by Nancy Friday….For Each Other bye Lonnie Barbach, PhD……and New joy of Sex by Alex Comfort PhD…these books really have helped me and my relationships… This is really a very difficult answer. If it were not so hard people would be married forever. After 3 failed marriages and numerous relationships I have finally come to realize that the problem is within myself. Everyday millions of us are found in the ‘self-help’ — ‘relationship-guide” aisles more than ever before. WHY? When it comes down to the basics of what we know is true, good and right, don’t we really know the basic answers deep down inside? Why do so many feel so compelled for the need for reinforcement and guidance? I am a ardent viewer of OPRAH whenever Dr. Phil is on. His no-nonense approach to honesty in the relationship is awe-inspiring.He really helps you get past your own preconceived notions of yourself and down to the reality of what reaction your actions produce. I personally like all of the John Gray books. He seems to really have a handle on how both men and women think and act. I think many people (myself included) tend to rush into a relationship without really getting to know the person first. That’s OK as long as our expectations are reasonable for the stage that we’re in at the time. And…..sometimes we go in and out of the different stages a number of times with the same person. Attend singles seminars around your city. Go to various sources to get varied viewpoints such as a local community college, a church and possibly a local counseling center If you want more success, personally, in your relationships you have to talk to people who have seen you with the people you date, seen how you interact and treat the other person. Family, friends, people that can view from the outside can help out a lot and point some things out to you that will help you improve the way you treat and let yourself be treated by your girl/boyfriend or date. Don’t be afraid to want to improve and when somebody compliments you on something you do well, grab on to that and run with it!! A favorite book of mine that helped me through the last few years of a 28 year marriage (which ended in divorce) was: “Women Who Run With The Wolves” by ‘Clarice Pinkola Estes’ This book is EXCELLENT for both men and women, and can be found at almost any book store. While his aim is more towards the business aspect, Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People highlights many attributes for improving relationships. I know this comes in book form, as well as seminars and whatnot. He has a whole line of stuff out there to improve your life in an organized way. Basically his theory is that if you acknowledge that you are your own responsibility and that your choices affect your future, and make a conscious effort to BE PROACTIVE (he really digs that word)… one thing I really took to heart was his theory of “Seek First to Understand, THEN to be Understood” that is the background of many relationships. When I was having trouble with my boyfriend, I read several books by Barbara DeAngelis that were very interesting. One was called “The Passion Paradox”. I’m not sure if they were ultimately helpful, but they did make me think. I believe that the way to fully enjoy your personal relationships is to enrich your own life through self discovery. The more you know about yourself, the more you have to offer someone special. I would recommend any self enlightenment book, such as “Seat of Your Soul” by Gary Zukov. It will fill you with a sense of purpose which gives you an undeniable feeling of self worth. When you’re sure of yourself, you become much more attractive. Personally, I’ve found that if you work on yourself, the rest falls into place. Go to the gym, quit the bad habits, clean up your act. People notice a person who cares about themselves and respect themselves. Become someone that others WANT to be around. That’s what I did, and it worked for me. I’d recommend “Are You the One for Me?” by Barbara DeAngelis. She’s very practical and straightforward and offers lots of useful ways to think about love and the reasons behind attraction. I personally like the Dale Carnegie series of books such as “How to stop worrying and start living” I find them very helpful in putting a positive twist on life. The audio tapes by John Gray, “How to find your Soulmate”, was the most intriquing of any tapes or books I’ve encountered in regards to finding that “perfect mate”. They were given to me by a very special man at a time when I felt my self-worth as a woman was nil. The advice given was real and down to earth. Mr. Gray also has a sense of humor ,so there was never a boring moment. Much of what Mr Gray had to say was a bit raw, and “stimulating”, but I made myself sit through every word—-even those things that I didn’t quite agree with—-those were some of the things that hit “home.” The tapes weren’t expensive, but even if they had been, it was worth the priceless advice given. There is a book that i think all men should read, that would help them and the women they come in contact with. I wish i had read this when i was 18. The name of the book is “Everything Your Father Should Have Told You About Women, Love,Romance and Love-making” by: Ben Sterling; Volcano Books, po box 439, 2 Sydenham road, Cheltenham, UK GL526wj I think anything by Dr. “Tell it like it is” Phil McGraw would be beneficial, whether one is in a relationship or single. Absolutely the best book in helping one to have a lasting and fulfilling love is “Keeping the Love You Find…A Personal Guide” by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. In it, Dr. Hendrix points out that all of us – even so-called ‘well-adjusted normal people’ (in my opinion an oxymoron these days!) – have unresolved conflicts that unknowingly make them seek out incompatible partners, sabotage current relationships and/or simply run from commitments without knowing why. The book that I found most useful in getting to know myself, seeing my reactions to others, and affecting change is: ” When I say no, I feel guilty” , by Manuel J. Smith, PhD. I’m new to this site but have attended Barbara DeAngelis seminar and have read her books. Ask Barbara-The 100 most-asked questions about Love, Sex, and Relationships is really a great paperback book for everyone. It’s very informative and straight forward. …another book that may help those who want to be helped, is: “I love you, talk to me” by Donald R. Harvey, I truly believe communication between a man and a woman is the key to a successful relationship and this book is a good start in that direction. The “Marriage Builder” by Lawrence J. Crabb Jr. is also a informative book , sometimes we forget to keep our personal relationship with our spouse, as exciting as the first date or gratifying as the “first time”. …books I recommend: 1001 Ways to Be Romantic by Gregory Godek, 2002 Romantic Ideas : Special Moments You Can Share With the One You Love by Cyndi Haynes, Dale Edwards A friend of mine highly recommends a book called “Men and Women Starting Over” by John Gray. I have learned proper communication skills from a book/workbook (the book has practice sections with example conversations) called “Expressing Your Feelings, The Key To Intimate Relationships” by Roger T. Crenshaw, M.D. I can’t tell you how much this book has helped me in all type of relationships. If you learn the basic skills you will find that there will be less arguing and more deep personal feelings being expressed in any conversation. I highly recommend this book for enhancing all relationships. I think the best book on relationship is the Chicken Soup for the Couple’s Soul: 101 Inspirational Stories About Love and Relationships. Also, books by one of the author of Chicken soup, DeAngelis Barbara are also very good in enriching current and future relationship. I.E. How to make love all the time by DeAngelis Barbara, Phd. In her book, Barbara did mention John Gray’s books (I think she mentioned that she worked with him on some research). One of the famous book on relationship Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: by John Gray. As far as seminar is concerned try Well, file this under the “for what it’s worth department”, but my recommendation for an excellent “improving your success in future relationships” teaching is Barbara DeAngelis’ “Making Love Work” seminar series. This series is comprised of two video tapes: one is the seminar video which covers the following topics: 1) The real reason couples fight & how to prevent it; 2) The wrong & right way to communicate your feelings; 3) The secret ingredient for making love last a lifetime; 4) How to resolve negative feelings in minutes; 5) Live demonstrations of Barbara’s love techniques. The second video tape is entitled “Secrets about men every woman should know” (Hmmmmm…….OK guys, the gig is up; you are fully exposed!). Also included are 5 cassette tapes which talk about: 1) Making love first; 2) Discovering the hidden source of your love problems; 3) Breaking through your emotional walls: secrets for love that lasts; 4) The secret ingredients for making relationships work; 5) Keeping the magic of love alive year after year. There is a lot of useful stuff offered in this seminar, of particular interest to me was how to avoid getting into toxic relationships. We all know people who go from one bad relationship to another bad relationship, because their mind is subconsciously programmed to seek out the wrong people and exclude those who would truly make them happy. ========================================== Q: I would like to ask you a few more questions about Primal (name of product). When I read information on another pheromone product (Athena), they stated that their product has to be mixed with an alcohol based after shave and has to have contact with your skin in order for the product to combine with your body chemistry in order to work. What I have read about Primal is that is doesn’t even have to be on your skin. I do not know which on to believe. What is your opinion? Also if I apply Primal behind my ears and I go workout and sweat a lot, does it wear out? How long does the effect of Primal stay with me if I place it behind my ears? would it be better to place some on my clothes? How many times a day should I put more Primal on? A: Don’t worry about mixing with cologne/aftershave. It is not necessary and will always increase the chance of loss through destruction of the active ingredient and/or precipitation. The other question is not so easy to answer. There are pluses and minuses to both skin and clothing application. When you skin-apply a product like Realm and (probably) Athena’s, which contain other steroidal material in addition to pheromones, there is always the chance of some entering the blood-stream and causing some mood elevation, and I have a feeling this medical-type effect is why Athena says you must apply their products directly to the skin. This may also be possible with some of the strong pheromone products like Primal too. I am not an MD and really don’t known. But mostly whether or not to skin apply is a matter of finances, and how “ripe” you want to get for the situation at hand. pheromones both natural and synthetic applied or otherwise adhering to clothing stay there a LONG time. I once was loaned a sweater worn by an old girlfriend of mine and always got a very warm feeling inhaling the fumes off of that thing. The effect lasted for months I think. On the other hand, you’d have to bury your nose in the material to get the full treatment. When you go to the gym and put a couple dabs or Primal behind your ears, it is gone in an hour or two, but where do you think it went! To a large extent, off into the atmosphere. You are giving off a lot of the scent at those times, and don’t need to apply much. I am a big fan of DateMate and almost always apply it to my shirt collars, but I apply quite a bit. Once the alcohol has evaporated the pheromone scent is coming off into the room very slowly, and thusly lasts for quite a while, even through a couple of clothes washings. Moral of the story? Experiment, experiment, experiment, and try new ideas! Bruce Boyd Probably the most interesting thing about the relatively new science of pheromones, is that its existence represents the possibility of an entirely new or “sixth” sense. For centuries man has been aware that his connection with the world was limited to a mere five avenues of perception: sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. And now suddenly scientists are telling us: “Hey, we have a sixth sense.” That is big news. But, if the perception of pheromones represents a sixth sense, then it must utilize a clearly unique apparatus; something different than those through which we see, hear, taste, touch and smell. And indeed, the idea that we may be on to a new “sense,” is related to the discovery in both man and other mammals of just such a unique sensory organ in the nose known as the Vomeronasal Organ or VNO. Admittedly the VNO is much closer in function and location to our normal sense of smell, than it is to the organs with which we see, hear etc. but it is a separate system none the less, and even connects to a different part of the brain than does our normal smell sensing system. The VNO was discovered in animals as far back as the 1800s, and there has been enough credible research done on animals since then, that there is now little doubt that the perception of pheromones is an important factor in animal behavior and in most cases crucial for courtship and mating to occur. The discovery of the VNO in humans came much later however, and there has been quite a bit of controversy as to whether the organ actually functions in human beings or not. At present, though, I would hazard a guess that few among knowledgable scientists would deny the existence of the VNO in humans and that it at least has the capability to receive and transmit stimuli to the brain. How and to what extent those stimuli affect our behavior is still the subject of much arguing. In the June, 2000 issue of the Pheromone News an article appeared which examined the results of some interesting research concerning the operation of the human VNO. The original study, Perfumery and the Sixth Sense, was performed by Clive Jennings-White at the University of Utah Department of Psychiatry, and was funded by the enormous pheromone cologne manufacturer, Erox Corp. (maker of the Realm colognes) The study used sophisticated electronic equipment attached directly to the VNO organ in human subjects, and was able to actually detect to what degree the organ was sending out signals toward the brain and thereby theoretically giving us a very handy instrument for measuring to what degree various fragrances and “pheromones” stimulate the VNO and in turn presumably affect our feelings and behavior. Myself, I have always been of the mind that the very definition of the word “pheromone” decreed that a substance must be able to stimulate the VNO in order to be considered a true pheromone. Certainly the researchers involved with the Jennings/White study mentioned above feel this way, but recently I received a copy of a very interesting study from the great pheromone scholar and author James Kohl, that begs to differ. The title of the study is: Sensitivity and behavioral responses to the pheromone androstenone are *not* mediated by the vomeronasal organ in domestic pigs. (Whew! What a mouthful) It was conducted by Drs. Dorries KM, Adkins-Regan E, and Halpern BP at the Department of Psychology at Cornell University. Notice the emphasis I have applied to the word “not” in the above title. Probably one of the most dramatic (from a perfumers point of view anyway) demonstrations of the power of pheromones is in its effects on the mating behavior of domestic pigs. When an adult female pig gets a good whif of the male pheromone androstenone (also present in human sweat in great amounts by the way), she will adopt a certain “stance” shall we say and… well, let’s just say, it makes good ad text for pheromone marketers. Anyway, until I read this study however, I was under the distinct impression that this pheromone reaction was mediated entirely by the female pigs VNO, but these researchers are saying NOT mediated by the VNO. What gives, and how can they say that? The experiment consisted of blocking off the VNO entirely using surgical glue and then measuring the behavior of these surgically altered pigs versus the normal, untreated or “control” pigs. In the words of the researchers here is what they found: “Vomeronasal organ-blocked animals did not differ from untreated controls in either androstenone-mediated receptive standing behavior or attraction to the odor of androstenone. We conclude that in the domestic pig, the vomeronasal organ is not necessary for androstenone detection or androstenone-mediated sexual behavior in estrous females.” So there you have it. pheromones are obviously having a very powerful effect on animal mating behavior. pheromones do in fact stimulate the VNO organ, but apparently they can take care of business through other chanels, presumably the nose, as well if the VNO is rendered useless. Hmmm…. Just in case, though, don’t forget to smile! THE SEPTEMBER SURVEY QUESTION: *************** 1. How important to you are the following qualities in a potential mate? Sense of humor 2. Write a couple sentences about what is important to you in a mate: 3. If you don’t mind, please include your sex, age and marital status. (optional) *************** Send completed surveys to: This day i got the pheromone additive it came with a free excite wipe. I used more of the wipe and a few drops of PA mixed with cologne. I had on a white tanktop since it was so hot, so i used the excite wipe on my arms. That day i had a class to go to, I got there and sat in my usual spot, I am a handsome guy, ladies are no problem but i say these sites and decided to see if it takes me farther, anyway I am sitting and this young lady who always flirted with me sat right next to me. then through the whole day she would just look up into my eyes and she couldn’t stop talking, I mean not in a way that she was tongue tied but she wanted to keep speaking just to interact with me in some way, now remember i said she flirted before but never like this! she was like a fan seeing Nsync or something! She kept touching my arms etc…and the whole time I am thinking “this stuff works!” |
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Pheromone News August, 2000
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August, 2000 Hello Readers, Hope you are all well. We are starting to see some red dragonflies here in Japan, the traditional sign that Fall is on the way, and I, for one, am glad to see the steam and heat of our Japanese summer clear off and make way for the deep blue skies and cool weather we will soon be getting. Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. Summer response has been VERY low, so your chances of winning are VERY high! With this issue readers Ric and Bill both won something. Please have a good read, and don’t forget to smile at someone today! Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS: Now have a look at the…. Selected highlights! Being a novice in the dating field, I found the very best approach was simply to wait. About 3 or 4 years ago I developed an interest in Wicca because I thought casting love spells would assist me in discovering a mate; however, after many months of trying and having no success, I decided it was not the proper path. I have been told countless times by countless people that I have to like myself before others will like me. This approach didn’t quite work either – I’m no longer single but I’m still down on myself. After many years of unsuccessful attempts at getting a date, I more or less just gave up, until one day I saw a man and said to myself ‘I’m going to ask him out.’ It worked. So I would simply say just be yourself and don’t rely on gimmicks or prayers or anything of the sort, they don’t work.. and ladies, look for a date in the middle of the month, if you know what I mean. ========================================== Q: I’m kind of worried that these pheromones are similar to drugs. You need to use them always to get girls. What happens when you stop using them? Will your girlfriend stop loving you? A: Good question! I like to compare them more to vitamins than to drugs, but pheromones do seem to create a “high” of some sort, and not only on the target but on the person wearing them. In fact, one very famous pioneer in the commercial pheromone industry emphatically claims that the magic of pheromones is 100% due to their effect on the wearer NOT the person you are trying to attract. I can personally testify to this effect of “getting off on your own pheromones.” I often apply unscented androstenone pheromone to my shirt collars and in idle moments press my nose to the fragrant spot and inhale deeply. There is definitely an energizing effect there, no question about it. If you want to see a VERY funny movie bit on this, check out the hysterical film “A Fish Named Wanda” with Kevin Cline. Very funny! There is quite a bit of research that shows that pheromones and hormones are linked; that is when one goes up the other goes up as well. They play off of each other. Now whether it is a good idea to add to the fire with store-bought pheromones, I can not say. I am not a doctor. If I were a teenager, I probably wouldn’t bother with them. The average person’s hormones and pheromones are running wild at this time already, but from the 20s onward pheromone levels are dropping off like crazy, and you can see the effects on your sex life. As far as “will your girlfriend stop loving you”, anyone that has been married can tell you that “love” and chemical attraction are two very different things. Keeping the fire in your romance is an ongoing effort. Again, maybe it is better to just let nature take its course and get old gracefully, I don’t know. It is a personal decision, but there is no reason to think that pheromones are addictive in the sense that you develop a tolerance to them or that using artificial pheromones will shut off your own production of them. Personally, I think there is evidence that pheromones are “good for you” and set off a healthy spiral of increased confidence and romantic activity and thus a generally more healthy lifestyle. One last thought on this subject….. Almost anything can become obsessive if you let it. One example is make-up. The use of make-up is a personal thing for women, and it can be a lot of fun and can also be very effective in attracting men, BUT it can also become a terrible weight if a woman feels that she can’t be seen without it. Being romantically “involved” with someone implies that you know what they look like without their make-up, and what they smell like without their cologne (or even a bath for that matter). Hopefully once you find Mr. or Miss “Right” you can settle into a comfortable agreement on the use of these little romantic aids, and that goes for everything doesn’t it…. candles, sexy underwear, incense, soft lights and on and on. You can get stuck on any of them, can’t you? Bruce Boyd This article was inspired by an interesting experiment conducted in Switzerland by the zoologist, Claus Wedekind. It brings up an important point about pheromones that is usually overlooked by the public. On the fragrance market today there are only a handful of specific pheromone ingredients used, while in the laboratory several hundred human pheromones have been isolated so far. It also stands to reason that countless thousands more will be discovered in the future. What does this mean? It means that pheromones are not just something that a particular person has a lot of, and which therefore makes him/her more popular with everybody. Each and every individual has his/her own unique pheromone blueprint or “signature” as the scientist, James Kohl (pheromones.com) calls it. This personal pheromone collage in all probability gives those around us an accurate and complete picture of who and what we are without even opening their eyes, perhaps a more accurate impression than is available via the sense of sight. I wouldn’t be surprised if at sometime in the future, law enforcement authorities were able to identify criminals on the basis of “pheromoone-prints” left at the scene of a crime. In a horrifying scene in the movie “Leon”, a super-villain drug lord is able to “smell” that one of his dealers is lying to him, and there is little doubt left in the viewers mind that his ability is accurate. But if these pheromone signals are real, and we are really broadcasting all our deepest secrets for all the world to see, how are they being picked up? Is it really via the sense of smell? Well, until recently, the overwhelming feeling among pheromone researchers was that pheromone signals are picked up by an entirely separate apparatus from those used to pick up smells. It is called the VNO, and all indications are that the VNO/pheromone system is worthy of being referred to as a new sense, perhaps the long sought after “sixth sense”. Even though I sincerely believe in the therapeutic and social value of the pheromone products that are available on the market today, it is clear that they represent a paltry offering compared to what is on the horizon for pheromone technology in the future. The Wedekind study is interesting because it specifically deals with this pheromone blueprint, the relationship it has with an individual’s immune system type, and the ability of the human VNO to give us reliable information about others around us. The experiment: The results: From an evolutionary point of view, this phenomenon needs little explanation. It has long been noted that breeding within a large gene pool, where the chance of dissimilar gene-types mating increases, results in superior offspring, while the opposite conditions, often referred to as “inbreeding” has been shown to bring unfortunate results. The Windekind experiment seems to indicate that without knowing why, women prefer to mate with men with dissimilar immune systems, thereby increasing the chance of producing healthy offspring and can make this decision entirely on the basis of sensing the potential mate’s pheromone blueprint. Just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE AUGUST SURVEY QUESTION: *************** Send completed surveys to: “It’s my third day so far on wearing PI…and this female co-worker seems to have an insatiable urge to sit close to me and rub my hands :)) This never happened before!!!…..I already had a date last night with this new waitress at the bar I used to hang out.” Male, South Africa “Believe it or not – I have gotten more positive results with that group of products (Realm for Women and Inner Realm) then all the other products. Believe it or not Realm for Men actually puts other men in a good mood around you. That is really good to know for business meetings.” Male, USA Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News July, 2000
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July, 2000 Hello Readers, Well, I’m still in Japan. Please enjoy! Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products ONLY FOUR MORE DAYS! *June’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: ~*Congratulations!*~ Natural pheromones and personal hygiene THE RESULTS: Now have a look at the…. Selected highlights! In my eyes the natural clean scent of a woman is sexy….. Most women put on way to much scent. Personally, I love the smell of a lightly perfumed freshly bathed woman. Clean smells great! Even the smell of a nicely scented soap on a woman. Woman’s hair is a great smell as is a nice perfume on the neck and arms! Natural pheromones versus personal Hygiene, that is a great topic. Where should we draw the line? Well, I think there is a big difference between smelling natural and being unhygienic. We all know pheromone are in our sweat and urine, but that does not necessary mean putting sweat and urine on our selves would make us attractive to the opposite sex. I used to have a girl friend that sleeps over at my place once or twice a week, she usually takes a shower before she goes to bed. I find that she smell really nice at around two to three O’clock in the morning, it’s about four hours after she have showered. I prefer the smell of natural aroma over perfume sometimes, especially during love making. It sure beats the smell of strong fragrance, somehow making love with a person wearing perfume just doesn’t feel very natural. I personally shower twice a day with soaps and shampoo that have light scents. Advice to the ladies, the sexiest smell is a five to six hour old natural aroma. It is good to wear perfume during a date but before love making you should take a warm shower and build up that sexy natural aroma of yours. Smell of strong fragrance is often a turn off during sex, while a natural or light scent is a turn on. I feel that natural is good but how do you control it? How do you get just the right blend. My partner is a the squeaky type. I feel that we as a group are becoming more visual and less olfactory and that the giant machine that tells us what to think is very busy selling the idea that to smell is a bad thing. Constant bathing though exciting isn’t that good for the largest organ of the body. (The Skin) I find that if a girl doesn’t take a shower and hasn’t done anything strenuous, it’s fine. Haven’t really noticed an overtly sexual undertone about it, but it’s not all that big a deal either. OF course, to me, a freshly bathed woman is more attractive. However, I have heard of the fact that some cultures forbid their women from taking baths for this very reason. Because men are so visual, I think it doesn’t really matter what a woman wears. Certainly doesn’t with me… Women need to smell clean to me. If I’ve been dating a women and know her well I don’t mind if she has fresh sweat. That is also a turn on, but she needed to shower that day and start fresh. Then a workout, with sweat is good. Perfume is also great of coarse. An attractive women walking passed me leaving her smell in the air for me to inhale excites me. I think the natural scent of a person can both be good or awful; this depends on many causes: emotional states (it’s common to hear that animals smell fear); what someone has just eaten (onion smell reaches the skin) Besides this, bacteria transform sweat producing awful tastes. So it’s better a shower, not to risk too much I have always found to women to be more attractive and certainly appealing with only a hint of ‘perfume’ — provided its a good quality perfume . It takes a certain type of women who knows how to pick perfume that suits there style body type , skin tone , etc. Now the clincher is ,when a woman’s perfume is gone from sweat and body odor begins to emerge I in turn get really excited with the body odor . I could literally taste the odor . Being of Asian decent and my girlfriend is Cuban ( Latina ) she prefers little make up and very little cologne ( she actually uses my Cologne by Aramis Tuscany ). I still cannot understand about Cuban women , they love daily sex — whether you have taken shower or not they want sex . I feel as long as they brush their teeth , fresh breath , — clean ‘beaver’ , bathe or unbathed — I still consider it a turn on , I function in most primitive level. I like a woman when she’s squeaky clean. But I also like the look and smell of a woman with a light glisten of sweat. Besides, taking a shower together to wash off the sweat is very arousing as well! Napoleon’s request was a little over the top. While a woman’s scent can be spell-binding, too much of anything can become a quick turn-off. This is especially true for women that wear perfume. Natural pheromones are more pleasing than artificial perfumes, but should only be noticeable in very close proximity; such as hugging. The scent of a person at close proximity is intriguing, but if I know a woman’s personal aroma from across the room, I become overwhelmed and don’t want to get any closer. There’s no mystery to discover at that point. Of course a woman’s scent isn’t nearly as appealing if it’s not accompanied by a good attitude and friendly hospitality. Like Bruce has stated, natural pheromones vs. personal hygiene has more to do with culture than with personal preference. In some cultures, natural pheromones are considered a turn-on, where in some cultures, not showering everyday is considered disgusting. I am in the second list. I do not prefer the scent of women who have not bathed in more than 24 hours or have just finished playing a game of basketball. I prefer that just-showered, clean-clothes, and a-spray-or-two-of-nice-perfume smell. This is not surprising, because I live in America, and have for my entire life. So have my parents. I also act the same way. If I go out in public, I feel that I have be clean and smell good. I like to smell a soft sweet aroma emulating from my lovers body with just a touch of natural body scent. The mixture of the two create the perfect balance between erotic and primal in the atmosphere. I am male, and I’ve noticed that when women shower more after I tend to think about sex less when I am around them. Even if one has more natural pheromones if they don’t bathe for a few days, I don’t think that the pheromones would be strong enough to cover up the scent of dirt, oil, and sweat. I think that the pheromones found in products such as Primal Instinct and pheromone Additive are a great solution because you get the best of both worlds: a clean, fresh smell, and the seductive power of pheromones. I think [on the subject of Natural vs Hygiene] there should be [and for me there is] a happy medium. Do you like your partner’s “natural aroma?” Yes, sure, I love my partners “natural aroma”, but, like most things, there has to be some common sense added to this equation. When is enough enough? Enough is enough would be, say, if she just spent a hard day [all day] putting up fences in the north forty, [in 95 degree heat] comes home, doesn’t shower or freshen up, and wants to wrestle. I’m here to tell ya, “it ain’t gonna happen!” Gotta be squeaky clean? No, absolutely not, but not sweatin’ like a pig either. Everyone is different, I dated one girl who used to shower, put on baby oil and then talc, she still smelled good. [I could readily detect her natural odor beneath] And it wasn’t a “stanky” one either. On the other hand I’ve dated women who I wouldn’t consider bedding unless the had bathed recently. Ultimately, it’s a matter of personal taste and preference, a really strong odor can be a turnoff, but there has to be at least a suggestion of ‘natural’ odor or you might not get turned on. ———————————- Personal hygiene is a must in my book; who wants to be close to someone who appears and or smells “dirty”…if you showered in the morning and just came home from a grueling day, and want to get romantic, shower again, and then get close. And if you use any cologne or after shave, be careful how much you use, too much of a good thing isn’t good. I like my partner’s natural aroma if he is clean, but if he has been through heavy physical activity, I would prefer that he showered before we get close. When is enough enough? Enough is when an unpleasant body odor over rides any other aroma. Gotta be squeaky clean? Clean is good…showering together can make it even better. I think a person should be clean. However, when in the throes of passion, sweating and releasing one’s personal “scent” can be very exciting. I was married to a man who bathed less frequently than I thought he should. It turned me off. Now I am with a man who can come home from the gym and I get instantly turned on by his scent. I suppose it is all a matter of chemistry. If I had to choose, I would prefer exceptional personal hygiene over natural pheromones any day. But, in retrospect, there is some degree of tolerance when speaking about natural pheromones and their affect on my mood and environment. What I mean is that sometimes natural pheromones being emitted from my male partner is acceptable and even enjoyable–e.g. during times of sexual activity, play time, or even right after work–before the personal hygiene regimen. Leave the natural sweat and odors after a work-out in the gym/locker room shower, guys– those natural pheromones may just be too overwhelming for any one! It is alright on occasion to skip the weekend shower and go “au natural” as long as the unpleasant sensations do not overshadow the pleasure! In my female opinion, I have always noticed a man who had a terrific smell, usually his cologne. Of course, as you mentioned, that could just be a “Pavlov” response. Furthermore, I agree that folks in the US probably do more harm than good with the obsession with personal hygiene. Being clean is good; being extremely clean is not. Our bodies do lose their unique scents when too clean and that lessens others’ attraction to us. Which country is known for its romance? It’s France. Which country is known for stringent hygiene? It’s France, again. The correlation between the two should be obvious to anyone! Do you like your partner’s “natural aroma?” Not really. As odd as it may seem, I am very revolted by his “natural aroma” – he reminds me of a wet dog that’s been left to its own for several weeks. No cologne is ok sometimes, especially if the guy is wearing clean clothes fresh out of the laundry. But too much cologne is sickening; it makes me want to scream “If you’d bathe once in a while, you wouldn’t have to drench yourself with that synthetic fetor!” (but I am guessing very few of the people I am acquainted with would know what the word “fetor” means) Gotta be squeaky clean? Bathe. My partner smells fantastic to me. I actually prefer him to be somewhat less than squeaky clean – *he’s* sexy, not soap. I happily sniff him as often as I can and find myself reacting in “that way” when I come across his scent on the pillow or on clothing he’s worn. I like my partner’s natural aroma, prefer not freshly bathed, although I wouldn’t turn him down in any case. Not filthy either, but then, he’s never that. My advice? Unless you’re a construction or dairy worker, keep bathing down to every other day at most. Don’t marinate in cologne. Yes, i like his personal, natural aroma, because it is so distinctly “him”… Gotta be squeaky clean? I prefer squeaky clean, but if he isn’t, it doesn’t stop me…. Personally I think hygiene is important to everyone, but not something someone needs to get all crazy about. A person who doesn’t take care of themselves one bit will deff’nly be less appealing than the person who is well groomed, but I have known a few people who were so anal about how they looked,smelled,ect.. that it seemed to have the same effect. A good balance is what I like, as long as someone showers once a day and you don’t get a gag reflex when around said person then it’s perfectly fine, sadly my sense of smell is pretty damn bad and I cant comment on the partners aroma to much, if I can smell it clearly then its pro’lly way to much,whatever it is! Oh, and the not bathing for three days? nuh-uh! I don’t care for the smell of perfumes and colognes at all. However, a very subtle scent of an essential oil makes me want to go up and sniff the person more closely. I enjoy a person’s natural aroma, but not if it has turned to rank B.O. Heavy meat eaters usually smell too ‘gamey’ and pungent for me. A day after a shower is a good ripening time, unless the person is unhealthy and eliminating toxins through their skin. I think that a clean smell is the best smell. I can’t imagine a worse smell than sweat and dirt on a guy’s body. I know that they say that washing gets rid of your natural pheromones, but I don’t really believe that anything that smells that bad could be attractive. If they aren’t really dirty, then it would be fine. For some reason I get more frisky when my man gets out of the shower and then puts on some type of cologne versus his after workout smell. I feel that a guy who smells nice is more attractive. Hi, I think cleanliness is next to Godliness!! If he doesn’t smell clean to me he is definitely not getting in my bed for any reason!! I don’t particularly like him to smell of soap but I do want him to smell fresh not sweaty. I’ll make him sweaty if he gets in my bed. but then that is a whole different type of sweaty smell. I just want him clean and fresh starting off. Nothing is more of a turn off to me than a nasty smelling man or one who is dirty especially around his private parts, in other words no head cheese please!!!! ========================================== Q: Are there times when pheromones are stronger or more obvious than others? Could a woman being aroused have an effect on the pheromones being stronger, or the scent being more detected? Dear Machel, So, a big yes. During sex a pheromone tornado is created feeding greater levels of excitement which in turn feed greater pheromone production. Like a nuclear reaction! A: You have definitely been hit by an illegal site. The e-mail address you mention “xciteusa@aol.com” is the address of a real-estate agent in Sarasota FL (USA), who wrote me some months ago pretending to be the representative of a UK company, selling Xcite pheromone Wipes. He swindled me out of over $4,000. and copied the entire Love Scent pheromone Store website and made the bootleg site that you were hit by. This is against both US and international copyright laws and recent US “Cybersquatting” legislation, as well as criminal fraud for taking your money and refusing to send you the product you ordered. If you paid via credit card, it is very easy to get your money back, though. Just telephone your bank and tell them you got hit by an internet scam artist. They will reverse the charge for you. Bruce Boyd Review of “Whose pheromone are You?” by Tom Clark originally published in World Medicine magazine in July of 1978. Every now and then I find a reference to a study done in a public theater, demonstrating that women will unconsciously prefer seats that have been sprayed with male sex pheromones, and apparently I have finally found the source. The experiments featured here were conducted by Clark, who had already done similar tests on unsuspecting patients in a hospital waiting room, Matthew Guiness, an actor with the Royal Shakespeare Company who had produced a late night “pheromone happening” experiment at the famous RSC, and Robin Klassnic, an artist who had experimented with the effects of pheromone sprays on visitor traffic at art exhibitions. The trio booked the Gulbenkian Studio Theater in Newcastle, UK for their experiment on the attractive power of pheromones. First they observed the usual flow of traffic in the theater to see which seats would normally fill up first, and then sprayed certain seats with pheromones to see if they could alter the standard flight pattern. They also sprayed a portion of the programs to see if that might affect their being selected for purchase. The results were interesting. In Clark’s words: “It had worked much better than we dared hope.” The seats on the side balconies which had remained empty during the control (no spray) performances, were now filled and mainly with women, after having been sprayed with pheromones. The researchers were initially disappointed that all the programs both sprayed and unsprayed had sold out before the concert, as that upset the other variable that they had hoped to measure (which programs were selected for purchase), but on a hunch, after the performance was over, the many programs left behind in the theater were examined, and not a single sprayed program could be found. They had all been taken home by their owners, while the unsprayed ones had largely been abandoned. Rock Concert Mania? Clark goes on to speculate about some even more “exciting” pheromone phenomena: “If you observe the crowds at rock concerts you can see pheromones at work.” He claims that the level of hysteria at a rock concert is controlled by the type of ventilation in the concert hall! “If the air currents in a concert hall move from the stage to the audience, the excitement is literally carried from performers to fans. That is why a concert at the Hammersmith Odeon works up the crowds more than one at the Festival Hall, where extractors move the air the other way. Most of the big successful closed theaters have air conditioning circulating air from the front to back and make ideal pop venues.” “The new National Theater, like the Royal Festival Hall, has all round ducted air conditioning. Actors there are said to feel a sense of isolation from the audiences — a sense they never felt at the Old Vic. The cool unemotional atmosphere of these places is OK for classical music or Ibsen, but deadens emotion.” But that’s not all! Clark says that researchers have carefully examined the theater seats occupied by young girls following rock concerts and found that they had been dampened with vaginal secretions by these “girls in orgasm” as he calls them. AND…(I am not making this up!)…he says that from examining these secretions scientists can speculate that a large percentage of the young women had synchronized their menstrual cycles during the weeks of anticipation of the event, stimulated by TV and newspaper ads and were ovulating on the night of the concert! He further supports this with the fact that the evidence for a statistically normal percentage of menstruating women, which can usually be found in the women’s restrooms is completely absent at rock concerts. Other studies apparently support this theory: “It has been noticed that after pop concerts girls often show menstrual disruption, and their periods become irregular.” says Clark. The system which controls menstruation (pituitary gonadotrophins) appears to be “upset by rock concerts as well as leaving home or changing jobs, and is possibly triggered by the presence of new, or strange *male smells.*” Clark also points out that five of the girls that worked in the theater where the pheromone experiment was carried out had had their menstrual cycles disrupted. In the words of Tom Clark himself: “But it did work. It worked in public. It doesn’t amount to a scientific paper but a few hundred people witnessed it. Human pheromones, we maintain, do exist. If you don’t believe it, ask the Royal Shakespeare Company to show you sometime.” Just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE JULY SURVEY QUESTION: The Mental Game of Dating Some months back we conducted a survey on “breaking the ice.” Let’s take it a step further. Where can we learn what to say “after you say ‘hello.'” ****Survey Question**** Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems Sandalwood DateMate (men’s formula only) available online at: Bruce, Results: We are in the off season. My server who uses this product is making more tips, larger tips than he, did during the winter season. This is a money maker for restaurant service personal. Jay ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News June, 2000
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June, 2000 Hello Again Readers, FINALLY! Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *April’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: ~*Congratulations!*~ THE RESULTS: Selected highlights! Women’s advice to men: W- It is always so nice to see men in clothes which seem comfortable on them, clothes that they don’t have to tug on or pull on. Clothes that just seem to hang well on their bodies–whether they be loose or snug. A man dressed in jeans or a pair of khaki pants and a long sleeved white shirt has always been one of my favorites–just a simple combination–clean clothes on a clean body–nothing too fancy–I just like it…and I don’t mean clean as in always smelling like you just got out of the shower—That is nice,too, but clean as in just smelling good,like yourself… W- I would say that the most important thing to me is that the guy is well groomed. Don’t have dirty fingernails, soiled clothing, or scuffed up shoes. More specifically, if the man is dressed in a comfortable manner, or looks like he feels confident, that goes a long way. I don’t care for really baggy pants, it’s nice to see what’s underneath those clothes. Speaking of underneath, no ripped underwear. As far as style, that depends on who is wearing it. Again, what the guy is comfortable in is far more important that the style…if he thinks he’ll look “sexy” in bikini underwear, but feels self-conscious about it, it doesn’t work. W- I think that when a guy has a nice body and wears a skin tight shirt, that is what turns me on. Also, if a guy wears a nice suit that flows, fits him nice and makes him look great, that turns me on too. W- My advice for men, is very neat, well fitting, clean clothing. If in a business suit or blue jeans, fit and condition of the clothes are of the most important. Save the baggy, ripped, old sweats and T-shirts for the gym. W- For me, I like someone who is dressed neatly, and puts some thought into coordinating what they are wearing. I despise the baggy look, because you cant tell if they are fat, sloppy or both! So guys, take note, you can be fashionable WITHOUT your pants looking like they are falling off! W- I like clean-cut guys in dark sweaters (with or without a collared shirt beneath) and light blue jeans.. in the summer, guys who are more modest about their attire are most appealing to me, since it tells me they don’t want to advertise their bodies to the world and leaves something up to the imagination. W- I am attracted to a guy who cares about his appearance. It doesn’t matter if he wears dress pants or jeans as long as they are neat and clean, without holes and wrinkle free and fit well. A real turn off is a guy whose pants are to tight and his love handles are running over. I also like guys who have clean fingernails and who wear some type of cologne. If a guy looks like he has taken time with his appearance before a date then I know he cares about the impression he makes on me. W- I’ve been married to the same man for the past 19 years and what really turns me on is when he’s wearing a suit. He looks so polished, handsome, and sure of himself in a suit. To me, a suit is a very finished look; nothing else is needed to finish this look. W- For me, I think what turns me on the most is when a guy wears reasonably baggy pants, not high on the waist, sometimes with a bit of their boxers showing if they have a good stomach, and I love it when guys wear Doc Martens! They look so cute when they look classy, but in a hip sort of way. Tight pants are the worst, so guys, please don’t wear them! I think the most important thing that attracts me is how confident the guy seems while he’s wearing his clothes. If he likes what he’s wearing, you will be able to tell. That’s what I like the most. W- Really anything goes……as long as it’s clean. But I think, colors can play a big part. If a person pays attention to the colors that look well on them and make good choices, it can only enhance their physical appearance. W- I am attracted to men who dress neatly and are comfortable that way. I have been out with several men who feel t-shirts & jeans are the only thing they need to wear anywhere…it is not so in my thinking. A collared shirt with a nice tight pair of chinos looks good and can go out to dinner and feel comfortable…it would make the woman more comfortable dressing also… she can wear a dress and not feel “over-dressed” next to the man. M- I am a sucker for a preppy dressed woman. The knees start a knockin’ and I can forgive other imperfections when that is the case. However, a nice body dress with some kind of a short heel gets me going too. Hubba Hubba Hubba! There is something about a woman that can make it work. Keep the workout look in the gym, it is a great change of pace and leads to some stimulating of my imagination, but it belongs in the gym. A good sense of humor is just as vital as looking good! M- Well, probably what I can tell all the women out there, is that beauty is in the sight of the beholder. It doesn’t really matter much whether you’re all wrapped up like a mummy reincarnate, or you’re dressed so skimpy that a little breeze is all it takes to take it all off.. I believe that dressing right for the right occasion should be applied here. Colors really set the mood, so choose wisely when it comes to colors.. i.e. red or black for that romantic evening, white or vibrant colors for fun in the sun, even nature colors for strolling in the woods (nope, don’t wear camouflage pls.) like green or beige. I believe that other than pheromones, colors also sets and matches the moods, and the occasion. M- Women should wear makeup, but not too much, or you come out looking fake. Painted fingers and toes are a turn-on. Skirts are great, but not too skimpy. High heels are also nice. Don’t show too much skin, as it leaves some to the imagination. M- A little bit of skin is more of a turn on than a lot. I think it has to do with the theory that more is less. M- Things that women wear that turn me on: tight jeans, boots, bikinis, short shorts, “baby” t-shirts, and short skirts/dresses. M- I believe that it is in every man’s genes to like women who dress sexily. Low cut tops, exposed belly buttons and short skirts are common tricks and they are effective as ever. One may have a great body but it does not do what nature intends it to do (ie. attract) if it is covered up. Unlike men, women have the fortunate ability to greatly vary their attractiveness by the way they dress. I think if harnessed properly, this can give women a headstart in success. M- I think that women are so attractive in tight dresses and semi-short skirts. Not that they should look like street walkers, but when they have it on in good taste, it looks nice. M- What advice can I give to women in the “dress for success” department? I’ve always been the type of person who liked skirts. They don’t have to be up to the butt, just something that brings about the natural curves of their bodies. As far as tops are concerned, the same applies, a nice blouse that accents their figures always worked for me. For that added touch, a nice lace bra or panties managed to attract even more of my attention. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that they should wear see-through clothing. Just any skirt or blouse can be alluring, just as long as it allows enough of the outline of the lacy undergarment to make me wonder “What’s under there?” M- I don’t think it’s a matter of dress, but of coherence between the dress, the girl and her behavior. Beside this, a nice girl, with a beautiful bottom and tight trousers, wearing a t-shirt that lets you see a bare navel, would be wonderful!! M- The old adage that “Less is More” is most true here. Whereas the popular stereotypes seem to indicate that this would mean that the less a woman wears the more attractive she is, I have found that the opposite it true. This means that the less there is to see, the more there is to imagine and it is what a man imagines that makes a woman attractive to him. For instance, the classic picture of Audrey Hepburn standing in front of Tiffany’s in the classic movie “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” is a pose that is exceptionally attractive to most men that I know. She is wearing a black sheath that hides far more than it reveals. This is also one of the reasons why the oriental Choengsam (sp?) dress with the slit up one side is far sexier than a thong bikini. With that outfit a man gets a flash of thigh and the rest is left to his imagination. In all my years (I am in my 50’s – and have lived in many more countries than most men), I have had many women friends. I have found that the ones who seem to attract the most men are the ones who dress to hide (and thus leave it up to the men to imagine what is there) than the ones who dress to reveal. As for myself, I would rather wonder “what the h*** she has got (and later find out in private)” than know, along with everyone else, up front. M- Nothing is more attractive to me than a woman with a well proportioned body wearing a tight fitting top, be it a sweater, blouse, or even a nice t-shirt. Anything that really accentuates the breasts really turns me on. In the dress for success department I can only suggest that a woman choose a wardrobe that is appropriate for her body type, and that it is neat and clean and well put together. None of this skirt and Nike tennis shoes! M- I think colors are very important. Size your clothing to your own size for real and not what you dream you are. Have a nice day. M- I like to see women in those long skirts that fit kinda low on the waist. I also, like our great friend Sisco, love thongs. Either of these things is enough to get all of my interest. Of course, only wear the thong “if you can.” Not that women “who can’t” are unattractive, it’s just that certain clothes fit certain body types and those clothes can make the situation unattractive. However, those “who can’t” would, of course, be attractive in other things. But the above works for me. M- For sex: Low cut blouse and VERY SHORT skirt (no panties, easier access) or just wear your b-day suit. For romance: Solid colored blouse. Medium cut (enough to show that you have cleavage but not too much to make it look like your after him). High heals. Tight black skirt. M- Well I’m a man who is particularly attracted to the female behind, so I like clothes that show that part to good advantage…could be well-fitting jeans, tight fitting skirt or dress…in any case clothes should fit well, or look as if they are comfortable and natural. I’m not a fan of the excessively “baggy” look! Expensive glamorous clothes are not necessary, but I do like soft and sometimes shiny materials. Velvet is a real turn on. M- Here is the greatest fashion advice I’ve ever received: “Dress your personality”. Dress the way you are. When a woman is comfortable with what she’s wearing, she has more confidence in herself. ========================================== pheromone Q and A: Q: I just received a bottle of Primal Instinct and was a little surprised that I can’t smell anything from it, no matter how hard I try. I understand this is not unusual but would like to find out what proportion of guys out there can smell it. Perhaps any guys who have bought a bottle could say if they can detect any smell. A: The only active ingredient in Primal Instinct is androstenone, which to most people has a very strong musky smell. To those who are familiar with the smell of a concentrated androstenone product like Primal Instinct, it is hard to imagine that anyone is unable to smell it, but the percentage is actually quite high. According to a study run by the National Geographic, in the United States, 33% of all men and 29% of all women tested were unable to detect androstenone. Below is an excerpt from an article on the subject that appeared in the December ’99 issue of the Pheromone News. If you can not smell androstenone, please don’t take the “sexiness and pheromone detection ability” correlation too seriously. For the most part it is meant in fun. Also, keep in mind that the ability to detect the smell can be learned, and that it may not be necessary to detect the smell consciously to be affected by it anyway. Full article in 12/99 Pheromone News at: One thing I have to say in defense of the sexuality of my native USA, in regards to these results, is that as a nation we must be the most paranoid about body smell, (with the probable exception of Japan, the country I live in now), due undoubtably to the marketing efforts of antibacterial soap and deodorant companies. I have on a number of occasions gotten angry letters from the US complaining that pheromone products containing nothing more than synthetic androstenone and androstenol smell like “BO.” A number of readers have asked me about some interesting research funded by the Erox Corp, makers of the popular pheromone cologne, Realm. This research, detailed in a paper entitled: “Perfumery and the Sixth Sense” by Clive Jennings-White, from the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Utah, poses some very interesting questions about pheromones? Specifically: “How do they really work?” and “What substances may be called ‘true pheromones?'” Since the very beginning of the rush to put pheromones on the market, Erox has taken a quite unique and sometimes even aggressive stance on the issue of the proper use of pheromones. For starters, Erox Corp. openly states that the goal of their products is the effect that they have on the person *wearing* them NOT on others who happened to be in the area, and that the effects they are looking for are not directly attraction, but a sense of confidence or well-being that then in turn may add to one’s attractiveness. So, unlike virtually every other pheromone product on the market, Erox’s popular Realm Men, designed to be worn by men contains only pheromones that have been shown to stimulate the pheromone sensing system of *men* themselves, and Realm for Women contains only pheromones that stimulate women. And, in a further effort to distance themselves from the rest of the pack, Erox repeatedly refers to the popular pheromone ingredients of the competing products as “pig pheromones,” and claims to have proven that they do not operate as pheromones in humans at all, though they have clearly been shown to be present in human sweat and to affect human behavior as an attractant. How can Erox make these claims then? On the basis of Erox funded studies like “Perfumery and the Sixth Sense.” One thing to keep in mind when considering this research is that according to Erox, and I think most pheromone scientists would agree, in order to be considered a true pheromone a substance must stimulate the vomeronasal organ (VNO). Though physically located in the nose, the VNO is an entirely separate sensing apparatus from our sense of smell and many feel that it deserves to be thought of as a sixth sense. So, in that same way that sights and sounds are different, so are smells and the sensation of pheromones different, and though at present, it would seem that our perception of pheromones is entirely subconscious, it is entirely possible that over time, we will come more and more in touch with this “sixth sense,” and be able to consciously notice the effects of pheromones, in the same way we enjoy the smell of honeysuckle blossoms (which happen to be in bloom in my area at the moment by the way). In the mean time, though, we have to depend on electronic equipment if we are to clearly isolate the effects of pheromones, and Dr. Jennings-White has apparently done that with his “multifunctional miniprobe” which he places in the VNO of his human laboratory subjects to find out which components of human sweat are *really* stimulating the VNO. The results are very interesting. According to this study, neither of the two pheromones most commonly found in popular pheromone colognes today (androstenone and androstenol) were found to have a high impact on the human VNO. In fact, the only components of human sweat, which really rang the bell on the electronic VNO tester were estratetraenol (affects only the male VNO) and androstadienone (affects only females), the active ingredients in Realm Men and Realm Women, respectively. The popular women’s pheromone, copulins (attracts men), was unfortunately, not mentioned in the study. So, if androstenone and androstenol aren’t true pheromones, how do they work? There have been numerous studies demonstrating that these two substances work as attractants. How can that be if they don’t stimulate the VNO? Well, if we are to believe that the Jennings-White experiment is accurate than we have to assume that androstenone and androstenol work via our normal olfactory (smell) system and not through the VNO, and since androstenone has a definite fragrance, it is possible that the attraction is a “learned response,” meaning that we have *learned* to feel good around the smell of the sweat of the opposite sex, through repeated presumably pleasurable exposures, and therefore are attracted to the smell. Similarly to Pavlov’s famous dogs, if every time I smell androstenone, I end up having sex, then it won’t be long until the smell of androstenone works as an attractant for me (provided I like sex of course), and it also need not be a conscious perception or even a very strong one. So, androstenone and androstenol most likely still qualify as sexual attractants or stimulants, giving them the status of “semiochemicals” but not true pheromones in the world of biochemistry, but if the VNO system is really hot-wired to the sex stimulation center of the brain, requiring no prior sexual experience, as many scientists believe, than this Erox study is something important to consider. In the words of Dr. Jennings-White himself: “I have shown that estratetraenol and androstadienone may be used as components in perfumes and can enhance such products. We are approaching a radical shift in the concept of perfumery. Henceforth, the design of a perfume should take into account stimulation of the long neglected sixth sense, the vomeronasal system.” **Important practical point on the use of Realm cologne** Remember that the chemicals discussed here as effective in stimulating the female VNO are found in the *female formula!* NOT the men’s formula as with all other pheromone products. Likewise, the chemicals shown to be effective in stimulating men are found in the *MEN’S* formula. EG: if you are a man and you want to use Realm to attract women, you must wear the *women’s* formula. This might sound strange, and maybe it is, but the women’s version smells like a man’s cologne to me and the men’s formula smells like a woman’s cologne! If you are using or have ever tested either of these products, I would be interested in hearing from you on this point and/or on the effectiveness of the product(s) in general. Just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE JUNE SURVEY QUESTION: Natural pheromones and personal hygiene You may have heard the famous pheromone quote attributed to Napoleon, in a letter to his beloved: “My dear, I will be home in three days. Do not bathe.” Nowadays a thought like this is beyond kinky, especially here in Japan where it is quite common to bathe more than once a day, and entire family holidays are often centered entirely around bathing, but then again.. Japan is not exactly known for romance and passion now is it, and as I remember from my stay in France, my girlfriend was more likely to blast on a little perfume than jump into the shower on date night? Weird? Sexy? Low class? What do you think? Send completed surveys to: Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems One of the advantages of this job is I get samples of lots of new products to try out. Lately I have been playing with a sandalwood scented version of DateMate and a completely new product called “Score,” an androstenone-only spray cologne that has a noticeably patchouli-like fragrance. At the moment though, I have only one new product to announce that is really “on the market” to my knowledge and that is: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone Additive The mixture is about three times as concentrated as DateMate though, since it is made to be blended into your own cologne. Men’s version only, at the moment. “I just got Primal Instinct today, and I decided to put some on even though I was not planning on meeting any women (mainly wanted to see what it smelled like). Anyway, a friend and I were having diner, and I noticed the waitress was…let’s just say more friendly than your average waitress. During the course of our meal, I noticed a few instances where I would look over at her and sure enough she was looking at me. Anyway, when she dropped off the bill, we struck up a conversation that literally lasted around 20 or so minutes (her section was not very busy), and she was making 90% of her eye contact with me, only glancing at my friend occasionally to be polite. Now this may have been a coincidence, but I assure you that this kind of thing just NEVER NEVER NEVER happens to me. While I am not yet convinced that pheromones played a part, you must admit that it is INCREDIBLE that the day this happened, just happened to be the first day I have ever worn pheromones. I’ll keep you posted….damn, this is NUTS!!” Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: You can also join this list by sending a blank e-mail message to: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News April, 2000
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April, 2000 Hello Again Readers, I just received word from ListBot (the company that takes care of the Pheromone News mailings) that their system is jammed up, so only God knows when this “issue” is really going to reach you. I wrote it late enough as it is. Sorry for the delay. Hope you like it! The long awaited cherry blossom season is sweeping northward over the Japanese archipelago. We had the peak here in Sendai last Sunday, and I managed to get to an old Shinto Shrine early that morning for a picnic with the family. I took my digital camera and got a few photos. If you are curious what all the fuss is in Japan with the cherry trees blossoming, have a look at: http://jokes-weekly/album.html ****SCAM ALERT**** Furthermore, If you think you have been victimized by this scam or any site selling bootleg products, please contact me for information on getting your money back. The law is clearly on your side. Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *March’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS: “1.) A product-to-product comparison, and how they stack up against each other. “I would also like to see more stories of the effects real people have encounter using pheromones.” “I would like to know if anyone has compared the effects of wearing a pheromone to the effects of spraying the pheromone in the room (where you plan to have a date or a meeting). This would ‘depersonalize’ the effects. “I have a friend who writes an e-mail newsletter on romance. Perhaps you can have your readers list such newsletters that they receive?” “Maybe how pheromones and sexuality work together.” “I would like to see a survey on the success of pheromone usage on a long term relationship. Any proposals or marriages accredited to the use of pheromones?” “You could ask personal interest questions, but due to the topic of the newsletter, they can be things that people would want to know about the opposite sex but don’t go around asking. For example: “what kind of underwear do you prefer on (the opposite sex)” Or do guys prefer girls wearing nail polish or just natural?” “In future surveys, I would like to see more personal accounts and experiences. These are very interesting to read, and they also provide great insight on which products work the best.” “How about asking people if they’ve had experience with using pheromone products in a non-romantic or sexual setting? In particular, have they used them to help make a sale, ensure that a presentation was well-received, give a speech?” “I think you should do a survey about what surveys you should do. hahaha Just kidding. Really, you should do more surveys for single people, since it appears that the majority of your readers are single. Also, I’d like to hear stories from people who have used pheromones and experienced successful results.” “1. How have you used pheromones in business, such as have you noticed increased sales while using pheromones? “Why not do a survey on ones sexual exploits by age. For example……When you are in your 20″s , you are very sexual and your libido is up there…….30s are good but not like the 20s. Forties things slow down but libido and sexuality, are they still there? 50s…….well……you would not know yet, but trust me something does happen to change all that. Hormone imbalance I suppose. Would pheromones help?” “Question: What is the most unusual experience you have had using one of the products? Have you ever needed to make an impression (in a non-date situation) and used a pheromone-related product and had good results? Have you ever used a product and got unexpected results?” “The other thing I was thinking: describe the difference you feel when you have used a product before something important (again, either in a date-related situation or a non-date related one)—-and when you have not. Describe the reaction you have had from someone after you used a product—how you felt their manner changed toward you—-their body language maybe—their eyes—their voice–The WAY they pay attention to you.” “I have done a lot of hands on research with pheromone products and have found that they instill hostility in the same sex. Statements like: “I don’t know why but i just cant stand that guy, leads me to believe that when using a pheromone based product, other nearby dominant males feel angry and want to fight over territory. I use power play by intimate research, primal instinct, and beaches, i have found that the combination of these three are very enticing, so please formulate some questions on behalf of violence within the same sex due to pheromones.” “Does using pheromones make your partner more wild in bed?” pheromone Q and A: Q: I would like to know the difference between androstenone and androstenol and does putting a cologne along with a pheromone, reduces its effect!! A: Both androstenone and androstenol are testosterone-linked pheromones that are produced naturally by both men and women, though probably in different amounts and ratios. Since testosterone in both men and women regulates sex drive, these two pheromones may serve us by giving others a subconscious reading on our sexual availability at any given moment. On a more mundane level, androstenone has a very strong musky smell that has been described to me as everything from “BO” to “horse piss.” Amazingly enough, though, quite a large percentage of the population can not detect the smell of androstenone at all. Androstenol on the other hand even in great concentration is hard to detect. I myself, can not detect any smell, and I got an e-mail message from a lab researcher a while back who works with the substance and says he has never found anyone who noticed any smell at all coming from it. On the practical side, there is some talk about the effects of these two “andro” pheromones being different. I don’t think any research has been done to support this, but the usual story is that androstenone is more powerful an attractant or more male/macho somehow. It is easy to get this impression from the relative smells of the two, but I can’t say if it is true or not. All the products on the market that contain androstenol also contain androstenone, so there is no way for the consumer to compare the two. Two of the most potent men’s pheromone products on the market, Primal Instinct and Androstenone pheromone Concentrate, contain only androstenone. RE cologne use with pheromones: I have found that using a cologne at the same time as pheromones is good not bad for the effects. Especially with a strong unscented androstenone product like Primal or DateMate, you need cologne to cover the heavy smell of the androstenone. On the other hand, some informed sources feel there is a risk of losing some potency by physically mixing pheromones in with a cologne, so the safest route might be to apply them separately rather than mixing them together, but again I can not personally verify this caution. Judging from the results of last month’s survey, “What readers want to see in future surveys”, it seems that, more than anything, everyone wants to know the inside story on the growing number of pheromone products. In addition to simply asking readers what products they have tried and what results they have gotten, I thought it might be a good idea to list the products that I am familiar with, and give you what information I have on hand at the moment. I have been answering questions along these lines on an almost daily basis for quite a while now, but I think this is the first time I have ever put the information together in one spot. Keep in mind that there are new products appearing on the market all the time, many that I have never even heard of. Some of them may have value, but in general, unless they can provide some hard proof of their pheromone content, there is not much to go on. All the pheromone products that I would recommend fall into one of the following three groups: Group 1. [Products that have been designed and tested by known expert(s) in the field of pheromone research.] *The Athena Products (Athena 10X) *Erox Corp. Products (Realm, men’s and women’s) *Kiotech Products (Pheromol Factor, Xcite pheromone Wipes) Group 2. [Products that have been tested and found to have a substantial amount of active pheromone in them and/or openly display their pheromone content.] Primal Instinct: (men’s formula; contains androstenone only) Clearly the most highly concentrated product on the market, Primal Instinct proudly displays a “guaranteed” androstenone content of 5 mg on the label of every 10 ml bottle they sell, and I can tell you, that is enough! There is no reason on earth to look for a product with more androstenone in it. It is difficult enough as it is to avoid applying too much. $69.95 a bottle, but will last a LONG time! DateMate (men’s and women’s) Androstenone pheromone Concentrate Group 3. [Products that have been around for a while and seem to have a lot of loyal customers] Yes pheromone Cologne Any product that doesn’t fall into one of these 3 groups, and/or has been tested for pheromone content and found wanting should be approached with a great deal of caution. Some other points you might want to consider went buying a pheromone product: Just in case, don’t forget to smile! The Questions: First the original suggestion by Audrey: THE SURVEY QUESTION: Send completed surveys to: Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems I’ve run out of “pheromones in the Cinema” stories! If you can think of any candidates, please send them along. bruce@love-scent.com “I also wanted to tell you that DM really works! Not particularly in romance area : ) but I’m having wonderful relationships with my bosses and customers (I’m a corporate banker…stress!!). They seem to be more cooperative, gentle and most of all, I am more confident of myself. Another surprise (a bit personal, though)… My menstrual cycle was so irregular that it required a serious hormonal treatment. But I could not continue the treatment since the medication damaged my liver and raised blood pressure to a dangerous level. Guess what, my cycle became regular for the first time in years after I started the DM ‘treatment.'” –name withheld In the mood for some laughs? ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: You can also join this list by sending a blank e-mail message to: |
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