October, 2000

Hello Readers,

Happy Halloween!
It’s been a rough month for sports injuries in my family, and we all look like we are dressed as the Mummy for a Halloween party. I threw out my knee at our traditional Japanese Fall neighborhood tug of war, one of my kids fell off the jungle gym and broke his arm a few days after that. Then last Tuesday I separated my shoulder lifting weights. Japan is not known as a “call in sick” kind of a society, though. Neither of us missed a day of work or school.

Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. With this issue readers Jenifer, Kevin, and Chris won something.

Be sure to read the survey results this month. They’re very interesting, and don’t forget to smile at someone today!
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Scam alert:
Know your websites! Scams, phony products, spam propagated sites, and bootleg versions of honest websites are everywhere on the internet. This month’s Scam of the Month award goes to Poole Internet in the UK for “Love Mate” pheromone Additive, a bootleg of Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone Additive.

Check the URL you are visiting carefully.
The one and only Love Scent pheromone Store is at:
http://love-scent.com
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Bruce Boyd
editor
Sendai, Japan
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This Issue’s Pheromone News

*Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results
*pheromone Q and A
*Research Report: Natural pheromone levels and sexual Stimuli
-Bruce Boyd
*This month’s “Free pheromones” Survey/Contest
*New Products
*User Corner; Reader pheromone Stories
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**LAST MONTH’S** SURVEY
What are you looking for in a mate?

WINNERS:
Our drawing winners are:
Jenifer, Kevin, and Chris
~*Congratulations!*~
They will all get a free bottle of a popular pheromone product of their choice.
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THE QUESTIONS (last month)
1. How important to you are the following qualities in a potential mate?
Rate them 0-10 (0 being of no importance and 10 being vital)

THE RESULTS (average scores):

QUALITY WOMEN MEN
Sense of humor 8.6 7.5
Intelligence 8.5 7.5
Handsome/pretty face 5.5 7.1
“Nice body” 5.5 7.2
Skillful in bed 7.2 5.5
Good provider skills 7.8 4.0
Wealth 4.6 2.8
Education 6.0 5.1
General Health 7.3 6.8
Physical Fitness 6.0 6.4
Hobbies/Interests 7.0 6.1
Social skills 7.6 5.9

2. Write a couple of sentences about what is important to you in a mate:

**Selected highlights!**

WOMEN SPEAK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN:

If I can find someone to make me laugh, that is a good start. Someone who has good communication skills is a must. If you can’t talk about things, there is no point in having a relationship.

He should be genuine, honest, witty, a friend. Willing to communicate openly, embrace our differences and be able to express himself with words and actions.

The ability to be friends amidst an intimate relationship is very important. Trust is also of the utmost importance.

Someone who is truly caring, and open minded. One who will listen to my opinions, and who really wants to work together to make a relationship successful and fulfilling.

As corny as it sounds someone who touches my soul, like they can see inside and understand me. Somewhat like their heart speaking to mine.

Something I consider most important in a mate is a fertile mind. Someone who is adventurous, and fun to be with. Sense of humor is also extremely important.

I want someone that can laugh at jokes as well as make me laugh. They shouldn’t get mad easily and be easy going and fun to be around for the rest of my life.

Someone that I am comfortable with. Dependable, but with a little touch of wild side…especially in the bedroom. He lets me “be me” without trying to change me or make a lot of demands

I want someone who doesn’t want to control me. I want someone who will let me be me. I want someone who can take care of themselves, who wants to spend time with me but doesn’t mind if I want to go out with the girls instead of being with him.

Communication skills are important. If you can talk about it, generally you can work out any other issues. But along with that comes a willingness to listen and the capability to understand AND work things out.

One of the most important things to me in a mate is the ability and willingness to get to know me….the real me….to get to know the little things that make me happy…..the simple little things in life that can turn my worst day into my best day.

I thing that the most important thing in a mate is their willingness to understand you. Of course that has to be mutual. If your mate continually ignores you when you are trying to tell them personal things about yourself then they obviously don’t really care about “yourself”.

I look for a mate who is not shy toward physical closeness, as I value things like embraces very much.

What’s important to me is my mate being a caring and considerate person who has a good heart. And who makes me laugh and enjoys the simple things in life.

He has the capability of relating to children, being understanding, loving caring, good sense of humor. I want a man to be able to cry if he’s hurting.

Having someone you can relate to, being able to communicate with them freely without fear of rejection, a sense of humor, and similar interests. Having a similar sex drive is important as well.

That he is responsible, kind, and loving family man.

I like a man who is good with children. I grew up with a father who traveled all week and was only home on the weekends but he made every moment special with us and gave us great childhood memories. I think this is very important.

I wanted a man who is intelligent, family oriented, able to make me laugh, and gainfully employed.

A man who is strong of character, dependable, a good conversationalist, sexy (in his own way), sharing, caring, and loving.

A mate should have some interests of his own and respect that you also have some interests that may not include him. A mate needs to be willing to enjoy time as a couple and personal time.

I believe the most important thing in any relationship is honesty and trust. Great sex is just the icing on the cake.

To be a friend. To be able to love me for all my faults, negativity, health problems I may have when I get older. To be able to carry a decent conversation. To have the same set of high values. To have life long goals that I can be included in. A hobby that we can both share in.

For me, it is important that my mate be able to make me laugh, let me cry, hold me up, and be able to have a conversation on the same level as me.

I say that what is important to me in a mate is that we can talk to each other about anything. Another thing that I would say is important is that he must know how to kiss, because a kiss can start the fire burning inside and and it can also show how much he really cares about you.

The most important thing for me in a mate is communication, because without it there cease to be a relationship. Communication includes Listening and Fairness, Giving and Trusting. Its the freedom to be yourself and the knowledge of knowing the other will be there for you without doubt. Its Sharing and Caring for one another and growing old together, but it all begins with Communication.

It is very important to me to find a mate that is compassionate and caring. If he has these traits then the rest will work itself out.

I am attracted to a guy who shows that he is sensitive and kind. I also like that they like to be close to me, and are not afraid to show how they feel.

MEN SPEAK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A WOMAN:

Someone who not only cares about me but about others as well. Someone willing to give of their time whether it be to help friends or charitable work.

It is very important for me to be with a person who is very honest and is not afraid to tell me what she thinks. That is in ANY situation. I also am looking for someone who likes what I do and will not expect me to change for them, and can get along with my friends and family.

I have been attracted to women who weren’t perfect 10s, and that all boiled down to personality. I don’t need a Cindy Crawford or a Rebecca Romjin-Stamos, and I have met some externally beautiful women who were ugly as sin on the inside. It’s more important to me if we click from a personality standpoint first. You can’t build a relationship with someone you can’t get along with!

I like a woman with a sense of humor, and does not take every thing too seriously all the time, as well as the ability to relax and enjoy life.

The MOST important thing to me in a mate is fidelity. Without fidelity, there can be no trust. To me it is the cornerstone of a solid relationship and represents total commitment.

Most important is compatibility with the same interests and desires. And also the love of passion and spontaneity.

i really get turned on by ambitious women, it shows me that they are driven, motivated, and don’t easily quit on things.

Being a kind person is becoming more & more important.

Most important to me is that the person should be someone I can talk to and laugh with. If we’re not on the same level intellectually, there’s no chance that we can possibly communicate properly on any plane, and communication is the basis of any good relationship.

I think companionship and honesty are important. If you have friendship, the rest follows.

Compatibility , i.e. sharing same ideas, music, outlook on life and most importantly being a Christian.

She should be adventurous and should like to travel. Love to nature and animals is also important.

I think the ideal mate is a friend, someone who will support me emotionally and share their innermost experiences with me.

Being able to understand I can’t be around them all the time. Possession is a turn off. I love my time to just read. Having her excited about my interests, as I am excited and encourage hers. Laughing is very important to me. And a woman who doesn’t mind me cooking once in a while.

Someone who doesn’t take things too seriously and can laugh at herself when she needs to. Being in shape is good not only because she looks good, but also because she’s probably going to be a little more confident, which is a plus, and she’ll probably also be a little healthier than most girls.

Somebody who understands when I do something “dumb”, and won’t jump to judge me. I want someone who has a tender heart, and who is loyal, and who will give emotionally those things a man needs.

Compatibility is important to me. As is honesty and an ability to laugh.

I need someone I can converse with and laugh with, someone with relatively equal intelligence and a similar sense of humor and preferences.

I am looking for someone who is responsible, fun to be around, and who does not mind trying new things.

The single most important thing in a mate is clearly the capability to talk with him/her. If you are able to just talk and talk for hours then it is a good sign of a potential relationship. On first approach the physical condition (face, body etc.) could be important, but as soon as you get to know someone you will find out that it really is the inside that matters, not the outside. Eventually you will see a not so beautiful person being very pretty in your eyes

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pheromone Q&A

Q: I have never had any luck meeting women. I have tried pheromones and that doesn’t seem to help either. What am I doing wrong?

A: Luck is a great thing when it comes along, but you can not count on it. Probably the only thing you can count on is persistence. If you persist you will succeed, and the use of pheromones is no exception. It is very common to notice nothing on the first try; you have to keep at it for a while. Be friendly, be helpful, and most importantly experiment and keep at it. Also, be careful of using too much pheromone and/or cologne, especially if you don’t notice the smell very much yourself. You can definitely overdo it.

I have gotten countless letters that basically go like this:
“I got the product
I tried it and nothing happened.
I tried it again and nothing happened. I got frustrated.
I tried it again and finally bingo!
Thank you very much….”

I don’t know why it happens this way, but it often does, even with folks you don’t know. But keep in mind that it can be hard to change the minds of friends and co-workers that have you “pegged” a certain way.

Finally, anytime you go after something, it is a “crap-shoot” isn’t it? You lose, you lose, you WIN! pheromones just slant the odds more heavily in your favor. You still have to take some chances.

I remember sitting in a bar in Ireland once with this very funny guy. Everybody loved him. He was tall thin, gangly and funny-looking, but everybody loved him. They used to call him “Willy Toothbrush” because he carried his toothbrush with him everywhere. But besides his toothbrush, he always seem to have a beautiful girl as well, and I was asking with him about that. He said: “Bruce, if you walked around this bar and asked every one of these women to have a drink with you, eventually you would find one that would say ‘yes’, wouldn’t you?” I had to agree. He continued: “Well, I can tell which one is going to say ‘yes’ before I even ask her, so that makes it easier for me.” There you have it.. Willy Toothbrush’s secret. Maybe it doesn’t have to be painful, but you have to take risks and be persistent if you want success at anything.

Bruce Boyd
Pheromone News
love-scent.com
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Legal Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and therefore none of the information contained in this newsletter should be construed as medical advice. It is only my personal opinion based on research papers and books I have read on pheromones, my own personal experiences and those of others who have written to me.
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Research: Natural pheromone levels and sexual Stimuli
-Bruce Boyd

NOTE: The following article is the first of a two part series reprinted from the August and September, 1999 issues of the pheromone Research News. Part 2 will appear next month.
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Well, in case you don’t have any celery [natural source of the pheromone androsterone], on hand you might want to read the following article. It describes another natural way to increase your pheromone levels. The scientific basis for the theory comes from a short report drawn from a speech given by the eminent Austrian pheromone researcher, Astrid Jutte.

The two most popular pheromones that have lately made their way into the news and into the fragrance industry as well are called, androstenone and androstenol. As with all other pheromones they are produced by hormones excreted by the body through the skin where they react with bacteria. These pheromones are quite volatile and move through the air where they are picked up by a specialized sensing apparatus (VNO) in the noses of those nearby, where they transmit vital information about us to those individuals. Since it is our own hormones that drive the production of pheromones, it stands to reason that higher levels of the androgen hormones (ones that cause the sex drive) will cause us to naturally produce higher levels of the pheromones that are popularly made in factories today with the very goal of attracting others for this purpose. Some interesting research performed by Dr. Jutte, shows us how we can do just that.

What is it chemically that makes us want to have sex? Surprisingly enough for both men and women it is the same hormone, testosterone! And, how can we establish if a man or women is interested in sexual activity. (for scientific purposes of course).

Three ways:
1. We can ask the subject: “ahem….um…excuses me…but..um….are you horney?”
2. We can check for blood flow to the genital area.
3. We can check testosterone levels.

All of these work but the first is apparently the least reliable especially with women according to the Jutte study. And how do we make people horney (for scientific purposes of course): porn movies! Yes, an equal number of male and female subjects in the Jutte study were shown a 15 minute pornographic video while they were alone, and their testosterone levels were checked via a saliva test at intervals before and after the “exposure”.

What were the results? Who gets hornier from watching sex scenes alone in a room., men or women? You women know the truth, while all the male readers have been believing the big lie for all these years. Scientific results show that………both men and women respond equally!!!! There was a little fudging on the horniness self-report forms by females apparently, but the medical tests showed equality between the sexes! Finally! Oh, by the way, there was one more difference besides the accuracy of the self-report forms, and that was the length of time that the video-induced testosterone “high” lasted. Again no surprise to women and that is that after the stimulating video has been turned off, the average male testosterone level was back to baseline in 15 minutes, ready to roll over and start snoring, while the lonely female testosterone level took much longer to calm down. I knew there had to be a medical explanation for that.

So, there you are; the facts are in. If you want to raise your pheromone level naturally, (which won’t crash out on you like your fickle testosterone level guys), just get yourself good and horney for at least 15 minutes.

But again, just in case, don’t forget to smile!
Bruce Boyd
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WIN A FREE BOTTLE OF pheromones! FILL OUT A SURVEY!
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Survey/Contest time!

THE NOVEMBER SURVEY:
In the October survey, we explored qualities that we are looking for in a mate, but a great number of surveys came with items like “honesty”, “sense of responsibility”, or “compassion” written in at the “other” section of the list. I guess it makes sense to look for someone honest, reliable, kind, etc, etc, but to what extent are we really making these qualities a priority in our search? And even if we are really determined to find a “moral mate”, there is an obvious question to address before we start interviewing potential spouses; a question that reminds me of a line from an old Woody Allen movie: “Any club that would have me as a member, is not the kind of club I want to belong to.” Or as an old girlfriend of mine once said to me: “If you find this ideal mate of yours, why in the world would she want anything to do with you?” Or as the Cajun mama said to her son in a goofy movie recently: “Son, you ain’t got what they call the ‘social skills.'”

I get a lot of mail from divorced or separated readers. In fact probably half of the people reading these words right now have been divorced at least once. And for every letter I get that says: “I’ve learned my lesson, next time I’m going to do things differently.” I get twenty that say “I’ve learned my lesson, next time I’m going to pick a better partner.”

I have a feeling this is going to be a very unpopular survey, but I have to ask it….

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THE QUESTION:

1. Wouldn’t you agree that we need to spend at least as much time developing the kind of “social skills” we need to maintain a healthy relationship, as we do searching for the ideal mate?

2. If so, what can we do to get those skills?

3. Do you think these skills must be acquired within the context of a relationship?

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Cut and paste the area between the rows of stars, answer the question, and..
Send completed surveys to:
news@love-scent.com
Please don’t mail this entire newsletter back to me. (for many reasons) Thanks!
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As usual, I will pick prize winners *at random* from the survey entries at the rate of at least 1 per 50 entries with a minimum of 2 winners each month. Last month there were 142 entries (up from 80 the month before) and 3 winners, which gave entrants a 1 in 47 chance of winning!

Send completed surveys to:
news@love-scent.com
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