Pheromone News November, 2000

November, 2000

Hello Readers,

Too late for “Happy Thanksgiving” and with my track record for getting the Pheromone News out on schedule, I’d better get in a “Merry Christmas” and a “Happy Hanukkah” now, while I have the chance… Happy holidays to you all, however you celebrate. Also, a big thank you to readers who sent in various home remedies for my injured knee. I actually tried some of them and they seem to help.

Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. With this issue readers Curtis, Kim, and Allain won something.

Don’t forget to smile at someone today!
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This Issue’s Pheromone News

*Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results
*pheromone Q and A
*Research Report: Female Sex Hormones and Related pheromones
-Bruce Boyd
*This month’s “Free pheromones” Survey/Contest
*New Products
*User Corner; Reader pheromone Stories
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**LAST MONTH’S** SURVEY
The “social skills” survey

I got very lucky this month as readers were able to figure out what I was getting at by the use of the term “social skills.” As you all seemed to gather, I wasn’t referring to knowing which fork to eat your salad with, and I was actually quite moved by what I read, as a great number of you obviously recognize the tremendous need for personal/spiritual growth in fostering a happy relationship.

WINNERS:
This month’s drawing winners are:
Curtis, Kim, Allain
~*Congratulations!*~
They will all get a free bottle of a popular pheromone product of their choice.
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THE QUESTIONS (last month)

1. Wouldn’t you agree that we need to spend at least as much time developing the kind of “social skills” we need to maintain a healthy relationship, as we do searching for the ideal mate?

2. If so, what can we do to get those skills?

THE RESULTS

**Selected highlights!**

Well you have to like and love your self, or else you won’t find anyone else who will. Getting social skills is a must have to find any kind of relationship, or else you end up offending everyone you know.

I believe you can acquire social skills by making it a habit to interact with people, and not just members of the opposite sex either. By doing so, you become more comfortable expressing yourself and it becomes easier to communicate with people and they’ll feel more compelled to communicate with you.

Without the “social skills” I wouldn’t give a guy a second look. Hold open a door for me and speak politely and that is the first step in introduction of yourself. The studies that have been done say that first impressions are formed within the first 5 seconds of meeting someone, which goes to show that even before you get to say “hi”, someone has an opinion of you based on your appearance.

Self improvement such as anger management,learning to respect others,truly listening, and all the other important things can be learned,like anything else, with a conscious effort-learning from your mistakes and THINKING about the best way to say or do things will get you on the road to effective communication.Whether you try to learn on your own or with the help of self-improvement tapes, seminars,or other outside forces-the key to success is to be honest with yourself in what you need improvement in, then the desire to change something, and then the effort. It will be breaking a bad habit-catching yourself doing the undesirable thing, and taking a different approach.

I believe there is always someone who has cross that path before me. So I would sit and talk to successful couples to get a few tips and advice.

Often people develop these skills through trial and error within relationships. It isn’t impossible however, to sit and think of what you want from a relationship, and what you can contribute. All you have to do is think of cause and effect.

Even in a healthy relationship we all have areas in which we can improve. Developing “social skills” in ourselves also keep a relationship from going stale. It’s even better when you consciously work on skills together.

The acquisition is painful. It requires becoming unselfish enough to recognize other people and their needs. There are many avenues available. Professional counseling is helpful for those who can afford it. Books like “How to Talk so Your Kids Will Listen (and Listen so Your Kids Will Talk)” are full of great tips that apply to all age levels (including a significant other). There are assertiveness courses that help balance the selfishness/doormat attitude most of us have to get over. John Gray (Mars/Venus) has some great tips. The book “His Needs, Her Needs” lays out how our differing needs affect the relationship. Find someone who has the skills you are wanting and study him/her. Ask him/her for advice and for how he/she achieved his/her skills. Then ask if he/she will help you improve yours.

Finding a mate is only the tip of the iceberg. Keeping them is the rest of it. As a whole we need to learn better skills in learning to communicate with each other, to listen and to react after thinking on it instead of just spouting off what first comes to mind.

For those people who are looking for a long-term relationship, and not just a fling or a few-month-long love affair, keeping it going after the “head over heels” phase has ended is the most difficult part, but also that which best tests the maturity of the two partners.

Since we never know when are ideal mate will come along, perhaps the social skills we need aren’t needed at all! A healthy relationship is a shared adventure, not by what you know, but what makes us both happy. I personally could care less if society thought I was skillful or not..it’s between me and my man what we find works or doesn’t..a shared partnership.

Practice , Practice and more practice, you need to sharpen your own senses and enjoy learning more about the opposite sex with regard to their own particular feeling.

Take chances and go out with a lot of people – build up a repertoire of dating experiences and test your abilities. People are not born conversationalists; they must acquire their skills somewhere.

Go back to teaching some basics in our children. Including respecting one another. It starts in the homes and the school systems.

Let me tell you its very VERY hard to succeed. Each evening you should over think the whole day. Analyze the things you’ve said, things you’ve done and the feelings you had. for SURE you will find a lot of improvements. Maybe you could have been more friendly to your neighbor? You could have been more generous to your kids ? Maybe you even had a chance with this nice lady in the bar if you dint tirade with the barkeeper about the overpriced drink and showed generosity?

Learn to trust a person until they give you a reason not to. Never worry about what others think of you. Learn how to smile regardless of how stressful the situation or how rude the person. If we just slow down and walk through a situation it usually isn’t as bad as it seems. Learn not to run from problems, but to confront them in a level headed manner. If you are mad or upset, give yourself time to calm down before you tackle the problem. Learn to talk and not argue. Always listen to both sides of a story, but never be pulled into the “he said, she said” game. That only hurts others in the end. Be a good listener as well as a good adviser. Never judge a person by what they do or have, rather by who they are. I could go on, but you get the idea.

Spend time in social situations, church groups, bowling league, softball teams etc. Go anywhere there are people and interact with them…observe how others treat each other….take the best of those actions and reactions and incorporate them into yourself.

Most of these skills should be taught by parents and family. We cannot rely on schools and overworked teachers to raise our families. They have a difficult enough time providing instruction on educational skills without trying to teach social skills. Ethics and morals MUST be learned at home, and if we wish to be respected, then we must converse in a manner which shows respect for others.

The same way we get them as when we were children — by associating with others. Everyone has different standards as to what is acceptable socially, and the more you recognize – and accept – these differences the easier it is to socialize.

When I started looking for a mate, I changed my way of life and pretended to be someone I wasn’t. I only found people with those “social skills” that I was trying to pretend I had. The relationships never worked out. I finally found someone who loved me for me and didn’t need me to be have a “model” personality. I learn from my mistakes as I live and I then change with each new learned lesson ( be it of compassion, honesty, etc…)

It would be nice if we could get them from out parents but that is not always possible. I have found that good communication and the willingness to admit we are wrong and asking our partners what they want helps.

I think it starts with our parents and the type of relationship we were raised in. If it was one of love and honesty, then it tells true that we would be of the same caliber in our own adult relationships. But we are human beings and capable of learned behavior (which can go both positive and negative).

Ultimately, the skills should be started in infancy by observing positive parental interaction. Social skills, as a core means of communication in our society has become less and less important. If we would like to enter into and maintain a healthy long-term relationship, the skills should be developed as soon as possible, if they haven’t been developed, then they should be even as late as within an already established relationship. In case we don’t get the skills from our family environment, then schools should implement the teaching of these skills as part of their curriculum; that is how important they are. For those of us who are older, there could be various methods of acquiring the skills, like a chat room or discussion group through your web-site.

There is an abundance of self-help books, information on the internet, classes, TV shows directed at developing better interpersonal relationships, etc. that are available to anyone who wants to make the effort to better themselves.

Care enough to exercise the infinite patience it takes to resolve the many inevitable differences between partners.

Things like compassion can be “practiced” on a daily basis. You see a grocery bagger sagging with tired feet at the end of their shift… offer to carry out your own…you’re going that way anyway. Encourage them to take a minute for themselves.

I think the most essential “social skill” is simply common courtesy, or “The Golden Rule-” Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Having respect and courtesy for your partner is the biggest hurdle to get over. After that, common interests, chemistry, etc. will follow as a matter of course. An affluent person may view “social skills” as knowing which utensil to use at a meal,

from watching good couples communicating within them and learning from our mistakes like when you see your parents fighting.

We can read books or listen to tapes or take classes to acquire these skills.

Simple! Practice, practice, practice! Practice with your friends, family, partners, and anybody else you come in contact in a daily basis. Every time someone talks to you, try your best to be honest, sincere, and all the good quality that you can think of. I’m very good at making people laugh, therefore, I got a lot of friends, both sexes.

The most important ingredient in developing social skills is to learn to listen to who you’re talking to.

Get to know yourself. Learn what you really like and gravitate towards those areas. Go to classes and ask questions. Learn to be kind and considerate and how to be a true friend.

Read, listen and converse. Put yourself out there. The best way to learn is through experience.

Think before we react, think of the other persons feelings before making a comment or judgment. Don’t vocalize your thoughts until you have really thought about the reaction to your action.

First and foremost you need to develop an understanding of people. You need to stop thinking about yourself and become genuinely interested and involved with other people. By doing this, people will naturally be inclined towards you and this in turn helps you develop these social skills.

take a good look inside, and try to become what we want ourselves to be. But this can be tricky, too because you have to want to be whatever it is for yourself and not just to please that other person or be what you think he/she wants you to be like.

We have those skills the trick is to release the Ego from the game.

We Need to learn from watching other healthy relationships…

We can learn by imitation. I don’t mean be fake, but try to watch how successful people around you interact with each other. You can even try asking them how they would handle situations to give you a basis. Sincerity and humor are two of the best social skills that I know.

Learn from watching a couple that has been married for more than 30 years. Perhaps our grandparents hold the true knowledge on this one.

Simply observe. By observing our mate, we can get ideas about what they really like. And by doing so, we can decide whether it’s worth to provide what they like.

One of the ways I try to develop my own social skills is by treating others as I want to be treated. That means, for me, respect, courtesy, thoughtfulness, a smile, a sense of humor, not always trying to be dominant in a conversation, listening, speaking openly but tactfully, and following through with promises made. It’s not about being Miss Nice or being a doormat, either, but simply treating people well. If you are practicing good social skills in your everyday life, you hone these skills and they can help you advance at work, do better in school, be a better neighbor and become a an active part in your community.

Live life. Learn who “YOU” are and learn to love yourself and be comfortable with who you are. Read Scott Peck’s “A Road Less Traveled” and listen to a lot of John Grey’s stuff. Create a genuine interest in learning the skills and caring about your mate.

Volunteer, volunteer, volunteer. Be a part of the phone bank or watch polls at election time. Become a docent at the local museum. Help kids with a scouting project. Donate your technical skills to schools. Everybody has a special talent they can share with others. Hmmmm…sharing…isn’t that a big part of most relationships?
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pheromone Q&A

Q: Are there any ways to raise the pheromone level with out using the cologne?

A: Yes, there are many, but simply maintaining good general health is probably the most advisable.
Bodybuilding and other safe/natural testosterone raising techniques should also raise output of the sex pheromones. I read an article saying that celery would increase androsterone levels, and I imagine there must be a great many other dietary factors that affect pheromone production. You also might want to give some thought to preserving the pheromones you are already producing by avoiding anti-bacterial soaps and deodorants.
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Q: When I read information on another pheromone product (Athena), they stated that their product has to be mixed with an alcohol based after shave and has to have contact with your skin in order for the product to combine with your body chemistry in order to work. What I have read about Primal (the pheromone product, “Primal Instinct”) is that it doesn’t even have to be on your skin. I do not know which to believe. What is your expert opinion? Also if I apply Primal behind my ears and I go workout and sweat a lot, does it wear out? Would it be better to place some on my clothes?

A: Personally, I wouldn’t worry about mixing with cologne unless you want to go that route. I don’t think it is necessary and may even increase the chance of loss through destruction of the active ingredient and/or precipitation. The other question is not so easy to answer. There are pluses and minuses to both skin and clothing application. When you skin-apply a product like Realm and (probably) Athena’s, which contain other steroidal material in addition to the usual andro pheromones, there is always the chance of some entering the blood-stream and causing mood elevation. This also may be possible with some of the strong pheromone products like Primal too. But mostly whether or not to skin apply is a matter of finances, and how “ripe” you want to get for the situation at hand. pheromones applied to clothing last a LONG time. I once had a sweater worn by an old girlfriend of mine, and I got such a warm feeling inhaling the fumes off of that thing. It lasted for months I think. When you go to the gym and put a couple dabs behind your ears, it is gone in an hour or two. You are giving off a lot of the scent quickly at those times, and don’t need to apply much. Experiment and see what works best for you. It can take weeks to find a winning approach.

Bruce Boyd
Pheromone News
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Legal Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and therefore none of the information contained in this newsletter should be construed as medical advice. It is only my personal opinion based on research papers and books I have read on pheromones, my own personal experiences and those of others who have written to me.
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Female Sex Hormones and Related pheromones
Bruce Boyd

NOTE: The following article is the second of a two part series reprinted from the August and September, 1999 issues of the pheromone Research News.
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In last month’s Pheromone News I wrote about some interesting research done by Astrid Jutte on the effects of sexual stimuli in the form of porn movies on the testosterone levels of both male and female subjects. Although testosterone is known primarily as a male sex hormone it is, in fact, the controlling factor of the sex drive of both men and women. When we are exposed to sexual stimuli of any kind, our testosterone level increases and with it we experience the feeling of sexual desire. Conversely, as we get older and produce smaller amounts of testosterone we experience the well-known general diminishment of the sex drive. There are a number of things we can do to prevent that from happening, but that is a story for another day, because one alert reader who is also a nurse would like to know what is up with the female sex hormones and their corresponding pheromones.

While the testosterone-linked “andro” pheromones are produced by both sexes and effectively give others olfactory (smell) information about our testosterone level and therefore our probable interest in sex, the primarily female sex hormones (estrogen and progesterone) are producing pheromone-like substances that give information to others not about the owners interest in sex, but in the likelihood of producing offspring, which biologically is the “reason” we have sex (by the way). As everyone knows, when female animals are at the optimal point in their menstrual cycle for producing offspring (point of ovulation), there occur changes in their vaginal secretions that have a dramatic effect on the sex drive of males of their species that are in the immediate area. These changes are controlled by the normal cyclic changes in female sex hormones (estrogen and progesterone) within the body and work their romantic magic on nearby males, at least in part, by increasing male testosterone levels dramatically, merely by giving them a whiff of the pheromones contained in their vaginal secretions! This phenomenon has obviously been of very big interest to scientists in the fragrance industry and has resulted in the discovery and isolation of the exclusively female human sex pheromone known as “copulins”, which occurs naturally in the vaginal secretions of women. It has been shown in scientific studies (Jutte) to drive male testosterone levels through the roof (150% of baseline), and almost undoubtably has major potential as a part of the romantic arsenal of any woman interested in getting a rise out of her romantic partner. I have also heard from reliable sources that copulins is being evaluated for its potential use by body builders, who are always interested in the anabolic (muscle increasing) effects of high testosterone levels.

Other research (Michael et al, 1975) has demonstrated that the composition of the female human pheromone, copulins, varies in close coordination with the varying levels of estrogen and progesterone in the female body, which in animals produce such an obvious behavioral effect in dogs and cats. (ie: the female goes into heat and every male in the neighbor is willing to dodge rush-hour traffic to get near her)

CONCLUSION:
The Jutte study shows us two things about humans:

#1 When males sniff the female pheromone copulins their testosterone level jumps to a towering 150%, which scientists agree increases the sex drive.
#2 Males will rate photos of females higher if they are secretly given a whiff of copulins.

THEREFORE, all other things being equal, we can guess that men will like women who emit the scent of copulins better than they will like women who don’t *and* they will be rendered “horny” by that whiff of copulins.

ALSO, the Michael study tells us that the composition of a woman’s copulins changes according to the phase of her monthly cycle, and this we know is part of the biology that is driving male dogs and cats completely insane to get at ovulating females.

UNFORTUNATELY though, the Jutte study was unable to show any relation between the type of copulins (ie, which phase of menstruation it came from) and the amount of attraction it stimulated in male subjects. In other words, males find women wearing all types of copulins equally attractive. What researchers are looking for, of course, is human males being more attracted to ovulating females than to non-ovulating females as is the case with our pets, but were unable to find it. That doesn’t mean that the effect doesn’t exist, but they were unable to detect it with this type of test. There is some evidence from another study (name escapes me at the moment) that pheromones produced by females with high progesterone levels (commonly found during menstruation and pregnancy) have the effect of *reducing* testosterone levels in nearby males, which would of course reduce their sex drive.

So, we’re getting thumbs up on copulins as a sex pheromone, but the jury is still out on the effects of ovulation on its attractive powers. (see survey below)

But just in case, don’t forget to smile!
Bruce Boyd
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THE DECEMBER SURVEY:
Well, it’s “bankrupt for ideas” time again at the Pheromone News, but rather than waste the opportunity to collect some useful info and deny you readers the chance to win something, please have a go at the following two quick questions. I will draw entries at random for prizes as usual.

Thanks,
Bruce
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1. What’s your favorite feature of the Pheromone News?

2. What issues/questions would you like to see explored by future surveys?

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