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tigereyes
03-08-2004, 04:26 AM
Hi
everyone.
I just want to ask a few questions so this can finally be cleared once and for all out of my
mind.
Can a woman go off a guy because he does too much for her and treats her like a princess in every
way?
Even if he is considered beautiful and perfect? \'male barbie doll\' etc and who is a model?
Reason
why im asking this is, this is whats happened to me and its constantly playing on my mind and i cant rest until i
get answers. Now this woman isnt stunning but has many probs and says she doesnt want a relationship etc. I think
she is lying cos i saw her the other night with some 54 yr old guy who is ugly!
People say i can do better but
just need to get this cleared up.
Thanks babes
x
EXIT63
03-08-2004, 04:46 AM
abso-freakin-lutely
Treat that ho like the bitch that she is....She\'ll love you for it.
It\'s possible
that the 54 yo ugly guy does pushups without usung his hands. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif
forgive me if
you only want advice from the ladies...
i\'m not a lady, but giving them whatever they ask for is not
sexy.
Women see this as weak and needy.
Confidence, and knowing what you want sparks up the attraction in
women.
again you probably want to listen more to the ladies here then myself, but this is just my 2cents.
good
luck tigereyes
Gossamer_2701
03-08-2004, 06:00 AM
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Now this woman isnt stunning but has many probs and
says she doesnt want a relationship etc. I think she is lying cos i saw her the other night with some 54 yr old guy
who is ugly!
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People tend to be insecure about themselves....
\'male Barbi dolls\' included.... and if the woman is less attractive, and has many problems, she may just be
\'protecting\' herself with a \'preemptive strike\'.
She probably views you as \'out of her league\'
and figures that you\'ll come to your senses and find someone just as attractive as yourself... sooner or later...
and she just doesn\'t want to get hurt. That would probably explain the 54yo ugly guy.... she\'s the \'pretty
one\' in the relationship.
And NO... women don\'t like to date a doormat.... you can be kind and giving, but
have a backbone and treat her like a real person.
Elana
03-08-2004, 06:09 AM
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People tend to be insecure about themselves....
\'male Barbi dolls\' included.... and if the woman is less attractive, and has many problems, she may just be
\'protecting\' herself with a \'preemptive strike\'.
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This could be true and it is also true on your end. You are insecure, so you are going for a women that is
less attractive and has a lot of problems because you really don\'t think that you can do much
better.
Treating a woman with respect is mandatory, but without confidence you will get no where.
You
need to work on yourself. You are lucky that you already have a head start in the looks department, but what else
have you got to offer? An insecure, gorgeous man will get his foot in the door and then the door will slam right on
his face.
Why are you so insecure? What can you do to make yourself feel like the man that you really
are?
Holmes
03-08-2004, 07:14 AM
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Can a woman go off a guy because he does too much
for her and treats her like a princess in every way?
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Does the Pope
sh*t in the woods?
Holmes
Elana
03-08-2004, 07:22 AM
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Can a woman go off a guy because he does too much for her and treats her like
a princess in every way?
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\">
Does the Pope sh*t in the
woods?
Holmes
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tigereyes
03-08-2004, 08:05 AM
Thanks
for the replys you lot.
Gossamer you have a very good point, i think your right, she has only ever been with
average or ugly looking men.
Its a real pain because lots of women i date always get scared and say \' why are
you with me? you can do better\' etc.
Elana:
You Have some valid points there and ones that a lot of people
have been telling me. I did come across as being very insecure because i would always be complaining about the way i
look that i was unhappy etc. Its funny because all of my relationships have been with average looking woman. Ones
that i wasnt initially attracted to.
This is how i treated her: weekend breaks staying in best hotels.
Tiffany
jewellery, designer handbags, cooked for her, romantic dinners. The works.
Now i know what i did wrong. I told
her everything about me my secrets, everything. Treated her too well, was too nice ( a doormat ) and did come across
as being too needy etc.
I got bullied at school and never had a girlfriend so i became very insecure. I thought
it was because of my looks. I used to be the fat kid.
People dont even recognise me now!
After this weekend i
have started to realise what other people see in me. Because so many people keep telling me. It must be the
truth.
Thanks for the advice! I get my TE this week. I cant wait!
Dunno if this extreme 99 stuff is working
though.
Will keep you lot updated on my progress as i have 3 dates this week and then more next week so im hoping
the edge will help me out!
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I think she is lying cos i saw her the other night
with some 54 yr old guy who is ugly!
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> A certain indication that she´s
bonking him!
Another thing, just because someone is interested in a person who isn´t as `good looking´ is not
necessarily a result of being insecure, it can also mean that you´re simply not too shallow.
You say that she
isn´t stunning, so are you really interested in her or is it that you´re ego is slightly dazed and confused because
you´re a bit selfconcious yourself? Or do you really care about her?
The possibility of self protection is there
too as already mentioned. Good looking guy who can get laid when he wants to, will probably cheat
anyway......???
Best not to worry too much though, maybe she really does not want a relationship, the reasons can
be pretty simple. Maybe it was too much of a good thing and she felt too crowded
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Hi everyone.
I just want to ask a few questions
so this can finally be cleared once and for all out of my mind.
Can a woman go off a guy because he does too much
for her and treats her like a princess in every way?
Even if he is considered beautiful and perfect? \'male
barbie doll\' etc and who is a model?
Reason why im asking this is, this is whats happened to me and its
constantly playing on my mind and i cant rest until i get answers. Now this woman isnt stunning but has many probs
and says she doesnt want a relationship etc. I think she is lying cos i saw her the other night with some 54 yr old
guy who is ugly!
People say i can do better but just need to get this cleared up.
Thanks babes
x
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Could be a lot of things. For one thing, women tend to be a little less
visually \"hard-wired\" than men. Women like a great looking guy. But, if the emotional and intellectual
connection isn\'t there, she\'ll go find a man who may not be as classically good looking, but is more on her
\"wave length.\" Maybe she feels that you two just aren\'t right for eachother? Mabe you can \"do better,\" or
at least find someone who might be better for you.
Secondly, if you are drop dead handsome, she might be
intimidated. It\'s hard to see your man being sized up by other babes, all the time.
Third-- are you trying
TOO hard? You CAN\'T treat a woman \"too well.\" But, you CAN come off as clingy or needy-- or posessive.
That\'s scary. I remember a guy who would call every two hours, on the day I was due home from a trip.........
BRRRRHHHHH! On evenings when I said I wanted time alone, he would say, \"Great! I\'ll come over and bring
Chinese.\" YIKES!
Also-- the guy with whom you saw her could be just a friend, or a business associate. I go
out with platonic friends, all the time, in addition to men for romantic purposes. A lover, or potential lover, who
expresses jealousy of my male friends is quickly excluded form my life. Maybe she really ISN\'T interested in a
romantic relationship, right now, but wants male companionship.
Pretty much what
I think too /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif
exept for this: </font><blockquote><font
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For one thing, women tend to be a little less visually \"hard-wired\"
than men.
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> don´t say things like that
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DrSmellThis
03-08-2004, 12:19 PM
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Can a woman go off a guy because he does too much for her and treats her like
a princess in every way?
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\">
Does the Pope sh*t in the
woods?
Holmes
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Is a bear Catholic?
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Rakesh
03-08-2004, 12:27 PM
Actually the
\"will do anything for ye, my princess\" approach is probably the least effective of all, I would say on par with
\"yo, su*k me biatch\".
Been there. Done that. Got dumped. Learned from my mistakes.
Every woman IS insecure to
some degree. Don\'t use male logic here either. First she will think \"oh he\'s a real sweetie\", then
depending on whether she\'s more of the insecure or the way too secure sort, she will either go \"lo, exploitable
loser\" or \"only a really desperate junk of a man can be this nice to the heap of human waste I am\".
There are
dark and dangerous bends in the female brain you will want to avoid. Because once you cross a certain line, you
cannot win. There are only different losses, then.
The approach which was reccomended to you by just about
everybody throughout the thread is a way to stay in the favorable and sunlit parts of her.
tigereyes
03-08-2004, 01:47 PM
Thanks
for all of the replys.
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The approach which was
reccomended to you by just about everybody throughout the thread is a way to stay in the favorable and sunlit parts
of her. [/quote
So final conclusion is: which approach is that? i think i know but just wanna make sure.
Rakesh
03-08-2004, 01:49 PM
Don\'t be
a doormat. I wouldn\'t reccomend abusive jerk either.
Be good, be nice, but sensibly. Have a backbone. Don\'t
fulfill her every wish, let her struggle a little.
IE let her know that your gentleness is your good will
rather than a necessity out of lack of other things to offer
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Thanks for all of the
replys.
Quote:
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The
approach which was reccomended to you by just about everybody throughout the thread is a way to stay in the
favorable and sunlit parts of her. [/quote
So final conclusion is: which approach is that? i think i know but
just wanna make sure.
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> be your lovely self
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Thanks for all of the
replys.
Quote:
Precisely!
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n
The approach which was reccomended to you by just about everybody throughout the thread is a way to stay in the
favorable and sunlit parts of her. [/quote
So final conclusion is: which approach is that? i think i know but
just wanna make sure.
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> be your lovely self
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Thanks for
all of the
replys.
Quote:
Precisely!
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n
The approach which was reccomended to you by just about everybody throughout the thread is a way to stay in the
favorable and sunlit parts of her. [/quote
So final conclusion is: which approach is that? i think i know but
just wanna make sure.
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> be your lovely self
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Just leave out the insecure part
Icarus
03-08-2004, 03:26 PM
ho ho ho,
hee hee hee
I\'m the laughing gnome and you can\'t catch me.
Steve
Gossamer_2701
03-08-2004, 03:30 PM
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ho ho ho, hee hee hee
I\'m the laughing
gnome and you can\'t catch me.
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Did you just get
bubbles up your whoopsie daisy /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif
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(Being from the UK, you might not get this joke
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Sacogoo
03-08-2004, 09:12 PM
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Now i know what i did wrong. I told her everything
about me my secrets, everything. Treated her too well, was too nice ( a doormat ) and did come across as being too
needy etc.
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Don\'t hate me because I\'m beautiful.
Sniff.
Just to let you know, looks don\'t mean jack squat once a person is in a relationship for any length of
time. Love is blind, beauty is only skin deep, blah, blah, blah. Anyhow, quit being a doofus, which is basically
anybody that proclaims themselves as a \"male Barbie doll.\" I mean, please. Maybe it came down the fact that
she just didn\'t feel anything for you deep in her soul. (And maybe she will, but just needs to figure that out
for herself, which I myself have to deal with now in trying to keep the soon to be ex from calling me six times a
day bawling her ass off while I\'m having my bookkeeper set me up with her 23 year old friend who happens to be an
aerobics instructor and massage therapist. Working out better than I anticipated, and sooner too.
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Now i know what i did wrong. I told her everything about me my secrets,
everything. Treated her too well, was too nice ( a doormat ) and did come across as being too needy etc.
<hr
/></blockquote><font class=\"post\">
Don\'t hate me because I\'m beautiful. Sniff.
Just to let you
know, looks don\'t mean jack squat once a person is in a relationship for any length of time. Love is blind,
beauty is only skin deep, blah, blah, blah. Anyhow, quit being a doofus, which is basically anybody that proclaims
themselves as a \"male Barbie doll.\" I mean, please. Maybe it came down the fact that she just didn\'t feel
anything for you deep in her soul. (And maybe she will, but just needs to figure that out for herself, which I
myself have to deal with now in trying to keep the soon to be ex from calling me six times a day bawling her ass off
while I\'m having my bookkeeper set me up with her 23 year old friend who happens to be an aerobics instructor and
massage therapist. Working out better than I anticipated, and sooner too.
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif )
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Harden your
heart and swollow your tears...\"f\" the biatch and move on to better things.
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Rakesh
03-09-2004, 02:42 AM
Yeah,
cause...you know what?
You CAN do better /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif
tigereyes
03-09-2004, 04:28 AM
Dont get
the gnome joke! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif
I didnt proclaim myself as a \'male
barbie doll\' other people have. So im not into myself.
Hope it goes well with the aerobics instuctor sacogoo!
u gonna be using mones?
Thanks too rakesh.
And everyone that has posted you lot have been wicked!
Got on
really well with this very attractive girl yesterday she has a fantastic body! well she texts me this morning and
says that she had an exam and she messed it up cos all she could think about was me and she cant wait to see me
thursday! could be the mones helping? i hope my TE comes before then so i can have a good evening!
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