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Pheromone News September, 2000
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September, 2000 Hello Readers, Wow! We have been getting one typhoon after another here in Japan. Our old wooden house leaks, and everyone is getting a little soggy. I feel like I’m on a camping trip. Anyway.. onwards and upwards! Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. With this issue readers Linda, Elizabeth, and Hal won something. Be sure to read the survey results this month, and don’t forget to smile at someone today! Send articles and personal stories to: ***SALE ENDS THIS WEEK*** *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS: Now have a look at the…. Selected highlights! Several years before my introduction into the world of dating, I subscribed to the Dating Tip of the Day and the Kissing Tip of the Day at http://www.thekiss.com/tips, “just in case.” Reading the countless messages archived in my Eudora e-mail box increased my repertoire of relationship plans and whatnot. Although many of the reader-suggested ideas are a bit kitschy, there are also a few choice morsels of information. In addition to this website, other romance resources such as http://www.rom101.com and http://www.lovingyou.com exist. These seem much more helpful in determining strategies in current and future relationships. Well, I’ve heard a lot of people say “Dianetics” by L Ron Hubbard has helped them. As far as I’m concerned, The Bible is a good reference source. Just having Faith and Trust in a Supreme Power enables one to have faith and trust in themselves. It has been my belief that it is extremely difficult to love someone else, if you cannot love yourself. A book that I would recommend is “A Man’s Guide: What Women Want”. This is written by Laurence Roy Stains and Stefan Bechtel. This is a basic no-nonsense guide of what we clearly see what a woman wants but usually are too ignorant as men to notice. It helped me to understand women not only in dating situations but also create stronger friendships with the women I already know…. I HIGHLY recommend a book called “The Five Languages of Love”. If I had read this before I probably would not be divorced today. It talks about how people speak different “languages” and if the partners do not know which language to speak, the other partner will not feel validated and fulfilled. The languages are: “Words of Affirmation”, “Quality Time”, “Acts of Service”, “Physical Touch”, and “Gifts”. My spouse “spoke” the “Acts of Service” language, he was always DOING things (working outside, working on the car, lawn, etc). Unfortunately, my “receiving language” was “Quality Time”. So he thought he was doing everything he could to please me and I thought he spent too much time puttering around which was stealing time that we could have spent doing things together. PROBLEM!!! Try reading “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. You have to learn how to understand each other before anything will work in a relationship. Honesty helps also and so does reading the Bible! This may sound a little odd but I think reading the Dalai Lama book The Art of Happiness and using it in conjunction with parts of The Rules book is a good way to form relationships. The Dalai Lama book for relationships in general and the Rules for love relationships. Make a commitment and start standing for someone or for a cause. Read the New Testament. It will read like your own life story. And you will realize we all start off as babies, self-centred , self-opinionated and selfish. Being part of a Christian family of caring and accepting people can do wonders for your spiritual and emotional growth. The thing that has helped the most is a change in “my” attitude. Thats right ladies I have found the secret to a GOOD relationship sexually and otherwise. We have been married 17 years and we have a 5yr. old and a 19 mo. old and let me tell you since our first baby was born the fiz turned flat in our relationship and I blamed it all on my husband I accused him of giving me no attention and that he was always grouchy and tired and after fighting about this for a few years and feeling like our relationship would never be good again I remembered something I had been hearing for years in church “Do unto others as you would have others to do unto you” and “you reep what you sow” hmm.. what was I sowing? I was giving him no attention and I was grouchy and tired all the time!!!! I soon realized if I want this relationship to work out and I do I had to put some effort in it and let me tell you it works!!!!! Sue Johanson, the radio show sex therapist and Registered Nurse, is an excellent resource for all kinds of questions regarding relationships between men and women. – The Secret Language of Relationships : Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship With Anyone — Gary Goldschneider, Joost Elffers; Hardcover $27.96 at Amazon.com Well one of the best books i can say on the market today…is Women on Top by Nancy Friday….For Each Other bye Lonnie Barbach, PhD……and New joy of Sex by Alex Comfort PhD…these books really have helped me and my relationships… This is really a very difficult answer. If it were not so hard people would be married forever. After 3 failed marriages and numerous relationships I have finally come to realize that the problem is within myself. Everyday millions of us are found in the ‘self-help’ — ‘relationship-guide” aisles more than ever before. WHY? When it comes down to the basics of what we know is true, good and right, don’t we really know the basic answers deep down inside? Why do so many feel so compelled for the need for reinforcement and guidance? I am a ardent viewer of OPRAH whenever Dr. Phil is on. His no-nonense approach to honesty in the relationship is awe-inspiring.He really helps you get past your own preconceived notions of yourself and down to the reality of what reaction your actions produce. I personally like all of the John Gray books. He seems to really have a handle on how both men and women think and act. I think many people (myself included) tend to rush into a relationship without really getting to know the person first. That’s OK as long as our expectations are reasonable for the stage that we’re in at the time. And…..sometimes we go in and out of the different stages a number of times with the same person. Attend singles seminars around your city. Go to various sources to get varied viewpoints such as a local community college, a church and possibly a local counseling center If you want more success, personally, in your relationships you have to talk to people who have seen you with the people you date, seen how you interact and treat the other person. Family, friends, people that can view from the outside can help out a lot and point some things out to you that will help you improve the way you treat and let yourself be treated by your girl/boyfriend or date. Don’t be afraid to want to improve and when somebody compliments you on something you do well, grab on to that and run with it!! A favorite book of mine that helped me through the last few years of a 28 year marriage (which ended in divorce) was: “Women Who Run With The Wolves” by ‘Clarice Pinkola Estes’ This book is EXCELLENT for both men and women, and can be found at almost any book store. While his aim is more towards the business aspect, Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People highlights many attributes for improving relationships. I know this comes in book form, as well as seminars and whatnot. He has a whole line of stuff out there to improve your life in an organized way. Basically his theory is that if you acknowledge that you are your own responsibility and that your choices affect your future, and make a conscious effort to BE PROACTIVE (he really digs that word)… one thing I really took to heart was his theory of “Seek First to Understand, THEN to be Understood” that is the background of many relationships. When I was having trouble with my boyfriend, I read several books by Barbara DeAngelis that were very interesting. One was called “The Passion Paradox”. I’m not sure if they were ultimately helpful, but they did make me think. I believe that the way to fully enjoy your personal relationships is to enrich your own life through self discovery. The more you know about yourself, the more you have to offer someone special. I would recommend any self enlightenment book, such as “Seat of Your Soul” by Gary Zukov. It will fill you with a sense of purpose which gives you an undeniable feeling of self worth. When you’re sure of yourself, you become much more attractive. Personally, I’ve found that if you work on yourself, the rest falls into place. Go to the gym, quit the bad habits, clean up your act. People notice a person who cares about themselves and respect themselves. Become someone that others WANT to be around. That’s what I did, and it worked for me. I’d recommend “Are You the One for Me?” by Barbara DeAngelis. She’s very practical and straightforward and offers lots of useful ways to think about love and the reasons behind attraction. I personally like the Dale Carnegie series of books such as “How to stop worrying and start living” I find them very helpful in putting a positive twist on life. The audio tapes by John Gray, “How to find your Soulmate”, was the most intriquing of any tapes or books I’ve encountered in regards to finding that “perfect mate”. They were given to me by a very special man at a time when I felt my self-worth as a woman was nil. The advice given was real and down to earth. Mr. Gray also has a sense of humor ,so there was never a boring moment. Much of what Mr Gray had to say was a bit raw, and “stimulating”, but I made myself sit through every word—-even those things that I didn’t quite agree with—-those were some of the things that hit “home.” The tapes weren’t expensive, but even if they had been, it was worth the priceless advice given. There is a book that i think all men should read, that would help them and the women they come in contact with. I wish i had read this when i was 18. The name of the book is “Everything Your Father Should Have Told You About Women, Love,Romance and Love-making” by: Ben Sterling; Volcano Books, po box 439, 2 Sydenham road, Cheltenham, UK GL526wj I think anything by Dr. “Tell it like it is” Phil McGraw would be beneficial, whether one is in a relationship or single. Absolutely the best book in helping one to have a lasting and fulfilling love is “Keeping the Love You Find…A Personal Guide” by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. In it, Dr. Hendrix points out that all of us – even so-called ‘well-adjusted normal people’ (in my opinion an oxymoron these days!) – have unresolved conflicts that unknowingly make them seek out incompatible partners, sabotage current relationships and/or simply run from commitments without knowing why. The book that I found most useful in getting to know myself, seeing my reactions to others, and affecting change is: ” When I say no, I feel guilty” , by Manuel J. Smith, PhD. I’m new to this site but have attended Barbara DeAngelis seminar and have read her books. Ask Barbara-The 100 most-asked questions about Love, Sex, and Relationships is really a great paperback book for everyone. It’s very informative and straight forward. …another book that may help those who want to be helped, is: “I love you, talk to me” by Donald R. Harvey, I truly believe communication between a man and a woman is the key to a successful relationship and this book is a good start in that direction. The “Marriage Builder” by Lawrence J. Crabb Jr. is also a informative book , sometimes we forget to keep our personal relationship with our spouse, as exciting as the first date or gratifying as the “first time”. …books I recommend: 1001 Ways to Be Romantic by Gregory Godek, 2002 Romantic Ideas : Special Moments You Can Share With the One You Love by Cyndi Haynes, Dale Edwards A friend of mine highly recommends a book called “Men and Women Starting Over” by John Gray. I have learned proper communication skills from a book/workbook (the book has practice sections with example conversations) called “Expressing Your Feelings, The Key To Intimate Relationships” by Roger T. Crenshaw, M.D. I can’t tell you how much this book has helped me in all type of relationships. If you learn the basic skills you will find that there will be less arguing and more deep personal feelings being expressed in any conversation. I highly recommend this book for enhancing all relationships. I think the best book on relationship is the Chicken Soup for the Couple’s Soul: 101 Inspirational Stories About Love and Relationships. Also, books by one of the author of Chicken soup, DeAngelis Barbara are also very good in enriching current and future relationship. I.E. How to make love all the time by DeAngelis Barbara, Phd. In her book, Barbara did mention John Gray’s books (I think she mentioned that she worked with him on some research). One of the famous book on relationship Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: by John Gray. As far as seminar is concerned try Well, file this under the “for what it’s worth department”, but my recommendation for an excellent “improving your success in future relationships” teaching is Barbara DeAngelis’ “Making Love Work” seminar series. This series is comprised of two video tapes: one is the seminar video which covers the following topics: 1) The real reason couples fight & how to prevent it; 2) The wrong & right way to communicate your feelings; 3) The secret ingredient for making love last a lifetime; 4) How to resolve negative feelings in minutes; 5) Live demonstrations of Barbara’s love techniques. The second video tape is entitled “Secrets about men every woman should know” (Hmmmmm…….OK guys, the gig is up; you are fully exposed!). Also included are 5 cassette tapes which talk about: 1) Making love first; 2) Discovering the hidden source of your love problems; 3) Breaking through your emotional walls: secrets for love that lasts; 4) The secret ingredients for making relationships work; 5) Keeping the magic of love alive year after year. There is a lot of useful stuff offered in this seminar, of particular interest to me was how to avoid getting into toxic relationships. We all know people who go from one bad relationship to another bad relationship, because their mind is subconsciously programmed to seek out the wrong people and exclude those who would truly make them happy. ========================================== Q: I would like to ask you a few more questions about Primal (name of product). When I read information on another pheromone product (Athena), they stated that their product has to be mixed with an alcohol based after shave and has to have contact with your skin in order for the product to combine with your body chemistry in order to work. What I have read about Primal is that is doesn’t even have to be on your skin. I do not know which on to believe. What is your opinion? Also if I apply Primal behind my ears and I go workout and sweat a lot, does it wear out? How long does the effect of Primal stay with me if I place it behind my ears? would it be better to place some on my clothes? How many times a day should I put more Primal on? A: Don’t worry about mixing with cologne/aftershave. It is not necessary and will always increase the chance of loss through destruction of the active ingredient and/or precipitation. The other question is not so easy to answer. There are pluses and minuses to both skin and clothing application. When you skin-apply a product like Realm and (probably) Athena’s, which contain other steroidal material in addition to pheromones, there is always the chance of some entering the blood-stream and causing some mood elevation, and I have a feeling this medical-type effect is why Athena says you must apply their products directly to the skin. This may also be possible with some of the strong pheromone products like Primal too. I am not an MD and really don’t known. But mostly whether or not to skin apply is a matter of finances, and how “ripe” you want to get for the situation at hand. pheromones both natural and synthetic applied or otherwise adhering to clothing stay there a LONG time. I once was loaned a sweater worn by an old girlfriend of mine and always got a very warm feeling inhaling the fumes off of that thing. The effect lasted for months I think. On the other hand, you’d have to bury your nose in the material to get the full treatment. When you go to the gym and put a couple dabs or Primal behind your ears, it is gone in an hour or two, but where do you think it went! To a large extent, off into the atmosphere. You are giving off a lot of the scent at those times, and don’t need to apply much. I am a big fan of DateMate and almost always apply it to my shirt collars, but I apply quite a bit. Once the alcohol has evaporated the pheromone scent is coming off into the room very slowly, and thusly lasts for quite a while, even through a couple of clothes washings. Moral of the story? Experiment, experiment, experiment, and try new ideas! Bruce Boyd Probably the most interesting thing about the relatively new science of pheromones, is that its existence represents the possibility of an entirely new or “sixth” sense. For centuries man has been aware that his connection with the world was limited to a mere five avenues of perception: sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. And now suddenly scientists are telling us: “Hey, we have a sixth sense.” That is big news. But, if the perception of pheromones represents a sixth sense, then it must utilize a clearly unique apparatus; something different than those through which we see, hear, taste, touch and smell. And indeed, the idea that we may be on to a new “sense,” is related to the discovery in both man and other mammals of just such a unique sensory organ in the nose known as the Vomeronasal Organ or VNO. Admittedly the VNO is much closer in function and location to our normal sense of smell, than it is to the organs with which we see, hear etc. but it is a separate system none the less, and even connects to a different part of the brain than does our normal smell sensing system. The VNO was discovered in animals as far back as the 1800s, and there has been enough credible research done on animals since then, that there is now little doubt that the perception of pheromones is an important factor in animal behavior and in most cases crucial for courtship and mating to occur. The discovery of the VNO in humans came much later however, and there has been quite a bit of controversy as to whether the organ actually functions in human beings or not. At present, though, I would hazard a guess that few among knowledgable scientists would deny the existence of the VNO in humans and that it at least has the capability to receive and transmit stimuli to the brain. How and to what extent those stimuli affect our behavior is still the subject of much arguing. In the June, 2000 issue of the Pheromone News an article appeared which examined the results of some interesting research concerning the operation of the human VNO. The original study, Perfumery and the Sixth Sense, was performed by Clive Jennings-White at the University of Utah Department of Psychiatry, and was funded by the enormous pheromone cologne manufacturer, Erox Corp. (maker of the Realm colognes) The study used sophisticated electronic equipment attached directly to the VNO organ in human subjects, and was able to actually detect to what degree the organ was sending out signals toward the brain and thereby theoretically giving us a very handy instrument for measuring to what degree various fragrances and “pheromones” stimulate the VNO and in turn presumably affect our feelings and behavior. Myself, I have always been of the mind that the very definition of the word “pheromone” decreed that a substance must be able to stimulate the VNO in order to be considered a true pheromone. Certainly the researchers involved with the Jennings/White study mentioned above feel this way, but recently I received a copy of a very interesting study from the great pheromone scholar and author James Kohl, that begs to differ. The title of the study is: Sensitivity and behavioral responses to the pheromone androstenone are *not* mediated by the vomeronasal organ in domestic pigs. (Whew! What a mouthful) It was conducted by Drs. Dorries KM, Adkins-Regan E, and Halpern BP at the Department of Psychology at Cornell University. Notice the emphasis I have applied to the word “not” in the above title. Probably one of the most dramatic (from a perfumers point of view anyway) demonstrations of the power of pheromones is in its effects on the mating behavior of domestic pigs. When an adult female pig gets a good whif of the male pheromone androstenone (also present in human sweat in great amounts by the way), she will adopt a certain “stance” shall we say and… well, let’s just say, it makes good ad text for pheromone marketers. Anyway, until I read this study however, I was under the distinct impression that this pheromone reaction was mediated entirely by the female pigs VNO, but these researchers are saying NOT mediated by the VNO. What gives, and how can they say that? The experiment consisted of blocking off the VNO entirely using surgical glue and then measuring the behavior of these surgically altered pigs versus the normal, untreated or “control” pigs. In the words of the researchers here is what they found: “Vomeronasal organ-blocked animals did not differ from untreated controls in either androstenone-mediated receptive standing behavior or attraction to the odor of androstenone. We conclude that in the domestic pig, the vomeronasal organ is not necessary for androstenone detection or androstenone-mediated sexual behavior in estrous females.” So there you have it. pheromones are obviously having a very powerful effect on animal mating behavior. pheromones do in fact stimulate the VNO organ, but apparently they can take care of business through other chanels, presumably the nose, as well if the VNO is rendered useless. Hmmm…. Just in case, though, don’t forget to smile! THE SEPTEMBER SURVEY QUESTION: *************** 1. How important to you are the following qualities in a potential mate? Sense of humor 2. Write a couple sentences about what is important to you in a mate: 3. If you don’t mind, please include your sex, age and marital status. (optional) *************** Send completed surveys to: This day i got the pheromone additive it came with a free excite wipe. I used more of the wipe and a few drops of PA mixed with cologne. I had on a white tanktop since it was so hot, so i used the excite wipe on my arms. That day i had a class to go to, I got there and sat in my usual spot, I am a handsome guy, ladies are no problem but i say these sites and decided to see if it takes me farther, anyway I am sitting and this young lady who always flirted with me sat right next to me. then through the whole day she would just look up into my eyes and she couldn’t stop talking, I mean not in a way that she was tongue tied but she wanted to keep speaking just to interact with me in some way, now remember i said she flirted before but never like this! she was like a fan seeing Nsync or something! She kept touching my arms etc…and the whole time I am thinking “this stuff works!” |
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Pheromone News August, 2000
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August, 2000 Hello Readers, Hope you are all well. We are starting to see some red dragonflies here in Japan, the traditional sign that Fall is on the way, and I, for one, am glad to see the steam and heat of our Japanese summer clear off and make way for the deep blue skies and cool weather we will soon be getting. Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. Summer response has been VERY low, so your chances of winning are VERY high! With this issue readers Ric and Bill both won something. Please have a good read, and don’t forget to smile at someone today! Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS: Now have a look at the…. Selected highlights! Being a novice in the dating field, I found the very best approach was simply to wait. About 3 or 4 years ago I developed an interest in Wicca because I thought casting love spells would assist me in discovering a mate; however, after many months of trying and having no success, I decided it was not the proper path. I have been told countless times by countless people that I have to like myself before others will like me. This approach didn’t quite work either – I’m no longer single but I’m still down on myself. After many years of unsuccessful attempts at getting a date, I more or less just gave up, until one day I saw a man and said to myself ‘I’m going to ask him out.’ It worked. So I would simply say just be yourself and don’t rely on gimmicks or prayers or anything of the sort, they don’t work.. and ladies, look for a date in the middle of the month, if you know what I mean. ========================================== Q: I’m kind of worried that these pheromones are similar to drugs. You need to use them always to get girls. What happens when you stop using them? Will your girlfriend stop loving you? A: Good question! I like to compare them more to vitamins than to drugs, but pheromones do seem to create a “high” of some sort, and not only on the target but on the person wearing them. In fact, one very famous pioneer in the commercial pheromone industry emphatically claims that the magic of pheromones is 100% due to their effect on the wearer NOT the person you are trying to attract. I can personally testify to this effect of “getting off on your own pheromones.” I often apply unscented androstenone pheromone to my shirt collars and in idle moments press my nose to the fragrant spot and inhale deeply. There is definitely an energizing effect there, no question about it. If you want to see a VERY funny movie bit on this, check out the hysterical film “A Fish Named Wanda” with Kevin Cline. Very funny! There is quite a bit of research that shows that pheromones and hormones are linked; that is when one goes up the other goes up as well. They play off of each other. Now whether it is a good idea to add to the fire with store-bought pheromones, I can not say. I am not a doctor. If I were a teenager, I probably wouldn’t bother with them. The average person’s hormones and pheromones are running wild at this time already, but from the 20s onward pheromone levels are dropping off like crazy, and you can see the effects on your sex life. As far as “will your girlfriend stop loving you”, anyone that has been married can tell you that “love” and chemical attraction are two very different things. Keeping the fire in your romance is an ongoing effort. Again, maybe it is better to just let nature take its course and get old gracefully, I don’t know. It is a personal decision, but there is no reason to think that pheromones are addictive in the sense that you develop a tolerance to them or that using artificial pheromones will shut off your own production of them. Personally, I think there is evidence that pheromones are “good for you” and set off a healthy spiral of increased confidence and romantic activity and thus a generally more healthy lifestyle. One last thought on this subject….. Almost anything can become obsessive if you let it. One example is make-up. The use of make-up is a personal thing for women, and it can be a lot of fun and can also be very effective in attracting men, BUT it can also become a terrible weight if a woman feels that she can’t be seen without it. Being romantically “involved” with someone implies that you know what they look like without their make-up, and what they smell like without their cologne (or even a bath for that matter). Hopefully once you find Mr. or Miss “Right” you can settle into a comfortable agreement on the use of these little romantic aids, and that goes for everything doesn’t it…. candles, sexy underwear, incense, soft lights and on and on. You can get stuck on any of them, can’t you? Bruce Boyd This article was inspired by an interesting experiment conducted in Switzerland by the zoologist, Claus Wedekind. It brings up an important point about pheromones that is usually overlooked by the public. On the fragrance market today there are only a handful of specific pheromone ingredients used, while in the laboratory several hundred human pheromones have been isolated so far. It also stands to reason that countless thousands more will be discovered in the future. What does this mean? It means that pheromones are not just something that a particular person has a lot of, and which therefore makes him/her more popular with everybody. Each and every individual has his/her own unique pheromone blueprint or “signature” as the scientist, James Kohl (pheromones.com) calls it. This personal pheromone collage in all probability gives those around us an accurate and complete picture of who and what we are without even opening their eyes, perhaps a more accurate impression than is available via the sense of sight. I wouldn’t be surprised if at sometime in the future, law enforcement authorities were able to identify criminals on the basis of “pheromoone-prints” left at the scene of a crime. In a horrifying scene in the movie “Leon”, a super-villain drug lord is able to “smell” that one of his dealers is lying to him, and there is little doubt left in the viewers mind that his ability is accurate. But if these pheromone signals are real, and we are really broadcasting all our deepest secrets for all the world to see, how are they being picked up? Is it really via the sense of smell? Well, until recently, the overwhelming feeling among pheromone researchers was that pheromone signals are picked up by an entirely separate apparatus from those used to pick up smells. It is called the VNO, and all indications are that the VNO/pheromone system is worthy of being referred to as a new sense, perhaps the long sought after “sixth sense”. Even though I sincerely believe in the therapeutic and social value of the pheromone products that are available on the market today, it is clear that they represent a paltry offering compared to what is on the horizon for pheromone technology in the future. The Wedekind study is interesting because it specifically deals with this pheromone blueprint, the relationship it has with an individual’s immune system type, and the ability of the human VNO to give us reliable information about others around us. The experiment: The results: From an evolutionary point of view, this phenomenon needs little explanation. It has long been noted that breeding within a large gene pool, where the chance of dissimilar gene-types mating increases, results in superior offspring, while the opposite conditions, often referred to as “inbreeding” has been shown to bring unfortunate results. The Windekind experiment seems to indicate that without knowing why, women prefer to mate with men with dissimilar immune systems, thereby increasing the chance of producing healthy offspring and can make this decision entirely on the basis of sensing the potential mate’s pheromone blueprint. Just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE AUGUST SURVEY QUESTION: *************** Send completed surveys to: “It’s my third day so far on wearing PI…and this female co-worker seems to have an insatiable urge to sit close to me and rub my hands :)) This never happened before!!!…..I already had a date last night with this new waitress at the bar I used to hang out.” Male, South Africa “Believe it or not – I have gotten more positive results with that group of products (Realm for Women and Inner Realm) then all the other products. Believe it or not Realm for Men actually puts other men in a good mood around you. That is really good to know for business meetings.” Male, USA Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News July, 2000
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July, 2000 Hello Readers, Well, I’m still in Japan. Please enjoy! Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products ONLY FOUR MORE DAYS! *June’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: ~*Congratulations!*~ Natural pheromones and personal hygiene THE RESULTS: Now have a look at the…. Selected highlights! In my eyes the natural clean scent of a woman is sexy….. Most women put on way to much scent. Personally, I love the smell of a lightly perfumed freshly bathed woman. Clean smells great! Even the smell of a nicely scented soap on a woman. Woman’s hair is a great smell as is a nice perfume on the neck and arms! Natural pheromones versus personal Hygiene, that is a great topic. Where should we draw the line? Well, I think there is a big difference between smelling natural and being unhygienic. We all know pheromone are in our sweat and urine, but that does not necessary mean putting sweat and urine on our selves would make us attractive to the opposite sex. I used to have a girl friend that sleeps over at my place once or twice a week, she usually takes a shower before she goes to bed. I find that she smell really nice at around two to three O’clock in the morning, it’s about four hours after she have showered. I prefer the smell of natural aroma over perfume sometimes, especially during love making. It sure beats the smell of strong fragrance, somehow making love with a person wearing perfume just doesn’t feel very natural. I personally shower twice a day with soaps and shampoo that have light scents. Advice to the ladies, the sexiest smell is a five to six hour old natural aroma. It is good to wear perfume during a date but before love making you should take a warm shower and build up that sexy natural aroma of yours. Smell of strong fragrance is often a turn off during sex, while a natural or light scent is a turn on. I feel that natural is good but how do you control it? How do you get just the right blend. My partner is a the squeaky type. I feel that we as a group are becoming more visual and less olfactory and that the giant machine that tells us what to think is very busy selling the idea that to smell is a bad thing. Constant bathing though exciting isn’t that good for the largest organ of the body. (The Skin) I find that if a girl doesn’t take a shower and hasn’t done anything strenuous, it’s fine. Haven’t really noticed an overtly sexual undertone about it, but it’s not all that big a deal either. OF course, to me, a freshly bathed woman is more attractive. However, I have heard of the fact that some cultures forbid their women from taking baths for this very reason. Because men are so visual, I think it doesn’t really matter what a woman wears. Certainly doesn’t with me… Women need to smell clean to me. If I’ve been dating a women and know her well I don’t mind if she has fresh sweat. That is also a turn on, but she needed to shower that day and start fresh. Then a workout, with sweat is good. Perfume is also great of coarse. An attractive women walking passed me leaving her smell in the air for me to inhale excites me. I think the natural scent of a person can both be good or awful; this depends on many causes: emotional states (it’s common to hear that animals smell fear); what someone has just eaten (onion smell reaches the skin) Besides this, bacteria transform sweat producing awful tastes. So it’s better a shower, not to risk too much I have always found to women to be more attractive and certainly appealing with only a hint of ‘perfume’ — provided its a good quality perfume . It takes a certain type of women who knows how to pick perfume that suits there style body type , skin tone , etc. Now the clincher is ,when a woman’s perfume is gone from sweat and body odor begins to emerge I in turn get really excited with the body odor . I could literally taste the odor . Being of Asian decent and my girlfriend is Cuban ( Latina ) she prefers little make up and very little cologne ( she actually uses my Cologne by Aramis Tuscany ). I still cannot understand about Cuban women , they love daily sex — whether you have taken shower or not they want sex . I feel as long as they brush their teeth , fresh breath , — clean ‘beaver’ , bathe or unbathed — I still consider it a turn on , I function in most primitive level. I like a woman when she’s squeaky clean. But I also like the look and smell of a woman with a light glisten of sweat. Besides, taking a shower together to wash off the sweat is very arousing as well! Napoleon’s request was a little over the top. While a woman’s scent can be spell-binding, too much of anything can become a quick turn-off. This is especially true for women that wear perfume. Natural pheromones are more pleasing than artificial perfumes, but should only be noticeable in very close proximity; such as hugging. The scent of a person at close proximity is intriguing, but if I know a woman’s personal aroma from across the room, I become overwhelmed and don’t want to get any closer. There’s no mystery to discover at that point. Of course a woman’s scent isn’t nearly as appealing if it’s not accompanied by a good attitude and friendly hospitality. Like Bruce has stated, natural pheromones vs. personal hygiene has more to do with culture than with personal preference. In some cultures, natural pheromones are considered a turn-on, where in some cultures, not showering everyday is considered disgusting. I am in the second list. I do not prefer the scent of women who have not bathed in more than 24 hours or have just finished playing a game of basketball. I prefer that just-showered, clean-clothes, and a-spray-or-two-of-nice-perfume smell. This is not surprising, because I live in America, and have for my entire life. So have my parents. I also act the same way. If I go out in public, I feel that I have be clean and smell good. I like to smell a soft sweet aroma emulating from my lovers body with just a touch of natural body scent. The mixture of the two create the perfect balance between erotic and primal in the atmosphere. I am male, and I’ve noticed that when women shower more after I tend to think about sex less when I am around them. Even if one has more natural pheromones if they don’t bathe for a few days, I don’t think that the pheromones would be strong enough to cover up the scent of dirt, oil, and sweat. I think that the pheromones found in products such as Primal Instinct and pheromone Additive are a great solution because you get the best of both worlds: a clean, fresh smell, and the seductive power of pheromones. I think [on the subject of Natural vs Hygiene] there should be [and for me there is] a happy medium. Do you like your partner’s “natural aroma?” Yes, sure, I love my partners “natural aroma”, but, like most things, there has to be some common sense added to this equation. When is enough enough? Enough is enough would be, say, if she just spent a hard day [all day] putting up fences in the north forty, [in 95 degree heat] comes home, doesn’t shower or freshen up, and wants to wrestle. I’m here to tell ya, “it ain’t gonna happen!” Gotta be squeaky clean? No, absolutely not, but not sweatin’ like a pig either. Everyone is different, I dated one girl who used to shower, put on baby oil and then talc, she still smelled good. [I could readily detect her natural odor beneath] And it wasn’t a “stanky” one either. On the other hand I’ve dated women who I wouldn’t consider bedding unless the had bathed recently. Ultimately, it’s a matter of personal taste and preference, a really strong odor can be a turnoff, but there has to be at least a suggestion of ‘natural’ odor or you might not get turned on. ———————————- Personal hygiene is a must in my book; who wants to be close to someone who appears and or smells “dirty”…if you showered in the morning and just came home from a grueling day, and want to get romantic, shower again, and then get close. And if you use any cologne or after shave, be careful how much you use, too much of a good thing isn’t good. I like my partner’s natural aroma if he is clean, but if he has been through heavy physical activity, I would prefer that he showered before we get close. When is enough enough? Enough is when an unpleasant body odor over rides any other aroma. Gotta be squeaky clean? Clean is good…showering together can make it even better. I think a person should be clean. However, when in the throes of passion, sweating and releasing one’s personal “scent” can be very exciting. I was married to a man who bathed less frequently than I thought he should. It turned me off. Now I am with a man who can come home from the gym and I get instantly turned on by his scent. I suppose it is all a matter of chemistry. If I had to choose, I would prefer exceptional personal hygiene over natural pheromones any day. But, in retrospect, there is some degree of tolerance when speaking about natural pheromones and their affect on my mood and environment. What I mean is that sometimes natural pheromones being emitted from my male partner is acceptable and even enjoyable–e.g. during times of sexual activity, play time, or even right after work–before the personal hygiene regimen. Leave the natural sweat and odors after a work-out in the gym/locker room shower, guys– those natural pheromones may just be too overwhelming for any one! It is alright on occasion to skip the weekend shower and go “au natural” as long as the unpleasant sensations do not overshadow the pleasure! In my female opinion, I have always noticed a man who had a terrific smell, usually his cologne. Of course, as you mentioned, that could just be a “Pavlov” response. Furthermore, I agree that folks in the US probably do more harm than good with the obsession with personal hygiene. Being clean is good; being extremely clean is not. Our bodies do lose their unique scents when too clean and that lessens others’ attraction to us. Which country is known for its romance? It’s France. Which country is known for stringent hygiene? It’s France, again. The correlation between the two should be obvious to anyone! Do you like your partner’s “natural aroma?” Not really. As odd as it may seem, I am very revolted by his “natural aroma” – he reminds me of a wet dog that’s been left to its own for several weeks. No cologne is ok sometimes, especially if the guy is wearing clean clothes fresh out of the laundry. But too much cologne is sickening; it makes me want to scream “If you’d bathe once in a while, you wouldn’t have to drench yourself with that synthetic fetor!” (but I am guessing very few of the people I am acquainted with would know what the word “fetor” means) Gotta be squeaky clean? Bathe. My partner smells fantastic to me. I actually prefer him to be somewhat less than squeaky clean – *he’s* sexy, not soap. I happily sniff him as often as I can and find myself reacting in “that way” when I come across his scent on the pillow or on clothing he’s worn. I like my partner’s natural aroma, prefer not freshly bathed, although I wouldn’t turn him down in any case. Not filthy either, but then, he’s never that. My advice? Unless you’re a construction or dairy worker, keep bathing down to every other day at most. Don’t marinate in cologne. Yes, i like his personal, natural aroma, because it is so distinctly “him”… Gotta be squeaky clean? I prefer squeaky clean, but if he isn’t, it doesn’t stop me…. Personally I think hygiene is important to everyone, but not something someone needs to get all crazy about. A person who doesn’t take care of themselves one bit will deff’nly be less appealing than the person who is well groomed, but I have known a few people who were so anal about how they looked,smelled,ect.. that it seemed to have the same effect. A good balance is what I like, as long as someone showers once a day and you don’t get a gag reflex when around said person then it’s perfectly fine, sadly my sense of smell is pretty damn bad and I cant comment on the partners aroma to much, if I can smell it clearly then its pro’lly way to much,whatever it is! Oh, and the not bathing for three days? nuh-uh! I don’t care for the smell of perfumes and colognes at all. However, a very subtle scent of an essential oil makes me want to go up and sniff the person more closely. I enjoy a person’s natural aroma, but not if it has turned to rank B.O. Heavy meat eaters usually smell too ‘gamey’ and pungent for me. A day after a shower is a good ripening time, unless the person is unhealthy and eliminating toxins through their skin. I think that a clean smell is the best smell. I can’t imagine a worse smell than sweat and dirt on a guy’s body. I know that they say that washing gets rid of your natural pheromones, but I don’t really believe that anything that smells that bad could be attractive. If they aren’t really dirty, then it would be fine. For some reason I get more frisky when my man gets out of the shower and then puts on some type of cologne versus his after workout smell. I feel that a guy who smells nice is more attractive. Hi, I think cleanliness is next to Godliness!! If he doesn’t smell clean to me he is definitely not getting in my bed for any reason!! I don’t particularly like him to smell of soap but I do want him to smell fresh not sweaty. I’ll make him sweaty if he gets in my bed. but then that is a whole different type of sweaty smell. I just want him clean and fresh starting off. Nothing is more of a turn off to me than a nasty smelling man or one who is dirty especially around his private parts, in other words no head cheese please!!!! ========================================== Q: Are there times when pheromones are stronger or more obvious than others? Could a woman being aroused have an effect on the pheromones being stronger, or the scent being more detected? Dear Machel, So, a big yes. During sex a pheromone tornado is created feeding greater levels of excitement which in turn feed greater pheromone production. Like a nuclear reaction! A: You have definitely been hit by an illegal site. The e-mail address you mention “xciteusa@aol.com” is the address of a real-estate agent in Sarasota FL (USA), who wrote me some months ago pretending to be the representative of a UK company, selling Xcite pheromone Wipes. He swindled me out of over $4,000. and copied the entire Love Scent pheromone Store website and made the bootleg site that you were hit by. This is against both US and international copyright laws and recent US “Cybersquatting” legislation, as well as criminal fraud for taking your money and refusing to send you the product you ordered. If you paid via credit card, it is very easy to get your money back, though. Just telephone your bank and tell them you got hit by an internet scam artist. They will reverse the charge for you. Bruce Boyd Review of “Whose pheromone are You?” by Tom Clark originally published in World Medicine magazine in July of 1978. Every now and then I find a reference to a study done in a public theater, demonstrating that women will unconsciously prefer seats that have been sprayed with male sex pheromones, and apparently I have finally found the source. The experiments featured here were conducted by Clark, who had already done similar tests on unsuspecting patients in a hospital waiting room, Matthew Guiness, an actor with the Royal Shakespeare Company who had produced a late night “pheromone happening” experiment at the famous RSC, and Robin Klassnic, an artist who had experimented with the effects of pheromone sprays on visitor traffic at art exhibitions. The trio booked the Gulbenkian Studio Theater in Newcastle, UK for their experiment on the attractive power of pheromones. First they observed the usual flow of traffic in the theater to see which seats would normally fill up first, and then sprayed certain seats with pheromones to see if they could alter the standard flight pattern. They also sprayed a portion of the programs to see if that might affect their being selected for purchase. The results were interesting. In Clark’s words: “It had worked much better than we dared hope.” The seats on the side balconies which had remained empty during the control (no spray) performances, were now filled and mainly with women, after having been sprayed with pheromones. The researchers were initially disappointed that all the programs both sprayed and unsprayed had sold out before the concert, as that upset the other variable that they had hoped to measure (which programs were selected for purchase), but on a hunch, after the performance was over, the many programs left behind in the theater were examined, and not a single sprayed program could be found. They had all been taken home by their owners, while the unsprayed ones had largely been abandoned. Rock Concert Mania? Clark goes on to speculate about some even more “exciting” pheromone phenomena: “If you observe the crowds at rock concerts you can see pheromones at work.” He claims that the level of hysteria at a rock concert is controlled by the type of ventilation in the concert hall! “If the air currents in a concert hall move from the stage to the audience, the excitement is literally carried from performers to fans. That is why a concert at the Hammersmith Odeon works up the crowds more than one at the Festival Hall, where extractors move the air the other way. Most of the big successful closed theaters have air conditioning circulating air from the front to back and make ideal pop venues.” “The new National Theater, like the Royal Festival Hall, has all round ducted air conditioning. Actors there are said to feel a sense of isolation from the audiences — a sense they never felt at the Old Vic. The cool unemotional atmosphere of these places is OK for classical music or Ibsen, but deadens emotion.” But that’s not all! Clark says that researchers have carefully examined the theater seats occupied by young girls following rock concerts and found that they had been dampened with vaginal secretions by these “girls in orgasm” as he calls them. AND…(I am not making this up!)…he says that from examining these secretions scientists can speculate that a large percentage of the young women had synchronized their menstrual cycles during the weeks of anticipation of the event, stimulated by TV and newspaper ads and were ovulating on the night of the concert! He further supports this with the fact that the evidence for a statistically normal percentage of menstruating women, which can usually be found in the women’s restrooms is completely absent at rock concerts. Other studies apparently support this theory: “It has been noticed that after pop concerts girls often show menstrual disruption, and their periods become irregular.” says Clark. The system which controls menstruation (pituitary gonadotrophins) appears to be “upset by rock concerts as well as leaving home or changing jobs, and is possibly triggered by the presence of new, or strange *male smells.*” Clark also points out that five of the girls that worked in the theater where the pheromone experiment was carried out had had their menstrual cycles disrupted. In the words of Tom Clark himself: “But it did work. It worked in public. It doesn’t amount to a scientific paper but a few hundred people witnessed it. Human pheromones, we maintain, do exist. If you don’t believe it, ask the Royal Shakespeare Company to show you sometime.” Just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE JULY SURVEY QUESTION: The Mental Game of Dating Some months back we conducted a survey on “breaking the ice.” Let’s take it a step further. Where can we learn what to say “after you say ‘hello.'” ****Survey Question**** Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems Sandalwood DateMate (men’s formula only) available online at: Bruce, Results: We are in the off season. My server who uses this product is making more tips, larger tips than he, did during the winter season. This is a money maker for restaurant service personal. Jay ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News June, 2000
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June, 2000 Hello Again Readers, FINALLY! Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *April’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: ~*Congratulations!*~ THE RESULTS: Selected highlights! Women’s advice to men: W- It is always so nice to see men in clothes which seem comfortable on them, clothes that they don’t have to tug on or pull on. Clothes that just seem to hang well on their bodies–whether they be loose or snug. A man dressed in jeans or a pair of khaki pants and a long sleeved white shirt has always been one of my favorites–just a simple combination–clean clothes on a clean body–nothing too fancy–I just like it…and I don’t mean clean as in always smelling like you just got out of the shower—That is nice,too, but clean as in just smelling good,like yourself… W- I would say that the most important thing to me is that the guy is well groomed. Don’t have dirty fingernails, soiled clothing, or scuffed up shoes. More specifically, if the man is dressed in a comfortable manner, or looks like he feels confident, that goes a long way. I don’t care for really baggy pants, it’s nice to see what’s underneath those clothes. Speaking of underneath, no ripped underwear. As far as style, that depends on who is wearing it. Again, what the guy is comfortable in is far more important that the style…if he thinks he’ll look “sexy” in bikini underwear, but feels self-conscious about it, it doesn’t work. W- I think that when a guy has a nice body and wears a skin tight shirt, that is what turns me on. Also, if a guy wears a nice suit that flows, fits him nice and makes him look great, that turns me on too. W- My advice for men, is very neat, well fitting, clean clothing. If in a business suit or blue jeans, fit and condition of the clothes are of the most important. Save the baggy, ripped, old sweats and T-shirts for the gym. W- For me, I like someone who is dressed neatly, and puts some thought into coordinating what they are wearing. I despise the baggy look, because you cant tell if they are fat, sloppy or both! So guys, take note, you can be fashionable WITHOUT your pants looking like they are falling off! W- I like clean-cut guys in dark sweaters (with or without a collared shirt beneath) and light blue jeans.. in the summer, guys who are more modest about their attire are most appealing to me, since it tells me they don’t want to advertise their bodies to the world and leaves something up to the imagination. W- I am attracted to a guy who cares about his appearance. It doesn’t matter if he wears dress pants or jeans as long as they are neat and clean, without holes and wrinkle free and fit well. A real turn off is a guy whose pants are to tight and his love handles are running over. I also like guys who have clean fingernails and who wear some type of cologne. If a guy looks like he has taken time with his appearance before a date then I know he cares about the impression he makes on me. W- I’ve been married to the same man for the past 19 years and what really turns me on is when he’s wearing a suit. He looks so polished, handsome, and sure of himself in a suit. To me, a suit is a very finished look; nothing else is needed to finish this look. W- For me, I think what turns me on the most is when a guy wears reasonably baggy pants, not high on the waist, sometimes with a bit of their boxers showing if they have a good stomach, and I love it when guys wear Doc Martens! They look so cute when they look classy, but in a hip sort of way. Tight pants are the worst, so guys, please don’t wear them! I think the most important thing that attracts me is how confident the guy seems while he’s wearing his clothes. If he likes what he’s wearing, you will be able to tell. That’s what I like the most. W- Really anything goes……as long as it’s clean. But I think, colors can play a big part. If a person pays attention to the colors that look well on them and make good choices, it can only enhance their physical appearance. W- I am attracted to men who dress neatly and are comfortable that way. I have been out with several men who feel t-shirts & jeans are the only thing they need to wear anywhere…it is not so in my thinking. A collared shirt with a nice tight pair of chinos looks good and can go out to dinner and feel comfortable…it would make the woman more comfortable dressing also… she can wear a dress and not feel “over-dressed” next to the man. M- I am a sucker for a preppy dressed woman. The knees start a knockin’ and I can forgive other imperfections when that is the case. However, a nice body dress with some kind of a short heel gets me going too. Hubba Hubba Hubba! There is something about a woman that can make it work. Keep the workout look in the gym, it is a great change of pace and leads to some stimulating of my imagination, but it belongs in the gym. A good sense of humor is just as vital as looking good! M- Well, probably what I can tell all the women out there, is that beauty is in the sight of the beholder. It doesn’t really matter much whether you’re all wrapped up like a mummy reincarnate, or you’re dressed so skimpy that a little breeze is all it takes to take it all off.. I believe that dressing right for the right occasion should be applied here. Colors really set the mood, so choose wisely when it comes to colors.. i.e. red or black for that romantic evening, white or vibrant colors for fun in the sun, even nature colors for strolling in the woods (nope, don’t wear camouflage pls.) like green or beige. I believe that other than pheromones, colors also sets and matches the moods, and the occasion. M- Women should wear makeup, but not too much, or you come out looking fake. Painted fingers and toes are a turn-on. Skirts are great, but not too skimpy. High heels are also nice. Don’t show too much skin, as it leaves some to the imagination. M- A little bit of skin is more of a turn on than a lot. I think it has to do with the theory that more is less. M- Things that women wear that turn me on: tight jeans, boots, bikinis, short shorts, “baby” t-shirts, and short skirts/dresses. M- I believe that it is in every man’s genes to like women who dress sexily. Low cut tops, exposed belly buttons and short skirts are common tricks and they are effective as ever. One may have a great body but it does not do what nature intends it to do (ie. attract) if it is covered up. Unlike men, women have the fortunate ability to greatly vary their attractiveness by the way they dress. I think if harnessed properly, this can give women a headstart in success. M- I think that women are so attractive in tight dresses and semi-short skirts. Not that they should look like street walkers, but when they have it on in good taste, it looks nice. M- What advice can I give to women in the “dress for success” department? I’ve always been the type of person who liked skirts. They don’t have to be up to the butt, just something that brings about the natural curves of their bodies. As far as tops are concerned, the same applies, a nice blouse that accents their figures always worked for me. For that added touch, a nice lace bra or panties managed to attract even more of my attention. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that they should wear see-through clothing. Just any skirt or blouse can be alluring, just as long as it allows enough of the outline of the lacy undergarment to make me wonder “What’s under there?” M- I don’t think it’s a matter of dress, but of coherence between the dress, the girl and her behavior. Beside this, a nice girl, with a beautiful bottom and tight trousers, wearing a t-shirt that lets you see a bare navel, would be wonderful!! M- The old adage that “Less is More” is most true here. Whereas the popular stereotypes seem to indicate that this would mean that the less a woman wears the more attractive she is, I have found that the opposite it true. This means that the less there is to see, the more there is to imagine and it is what a man imagines that makes a woman attractive to him. For instance, the classic picture of Audrey Hepburn standing in front of Tiffany’s in the classic movie “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” is a pose that is exceptionally attractive to most men that I know. She is wearing a black sheath that hides far more than it reveals. This is also one of the reasons why the oriental Choengsam (sp?) dress with the slit up one side is far sexier than a thong bikini. With that outfit a man gets a flash of thigh and the rest is left to his imagination. In all my years (I am in my 50’s – and have lived in many more countries than most men), I have had many women friends. I have found that the ones who seem to attract the most men are the ones who dress to hide (and thus leave it up to the men to imagine what is there) than the ones who dress to reveal. As for myself, I would rather wonder “what the h*** she has got (and later find out in private)” than know, along with everyone else, up front. M- Nothing is more attractive to me than a woman with a well proportioned body wearing a tight fitting top, be it a sweater, blouse, or even a nice t-shirt. Anything that really accentuates the breasts really turns me on. In the dress for success department I can only suggest that a woman choose a wardrobe that is appropriate for her body type, and that it is neat and clean and well put together. None of this skirt and Nike tennis shoes! M- I think colors are very important. Size your clothing to your own size for real and not what you dream you are. Have a nice day. M- I like to see women in those long skirts that fit kinda low on the waist. I also, like our great friend Sisco, love thongs. Either of these things is enough to get all of my interest. Of course, only wear the thong “if you can.” Not that women “who can’t” are unattractive, it’s just that certain clothes fit certain body types and those clothes can make the situation unattractive. However, those “who can’t” would, of course, be attractive in other things. But the above works for me. M- For sex: Low cut blouse and VERY SHORT skirt (no panties, easier access) or just wear your b-day suit. For romance: Solid colored blouse. Medium cut (enough to show that you have cleavage but not too much to make it look like your after him). High heals. Tight black skirt. M- Well I’m a man who is particularly attracted to the female behind, so I like clothes that show that part to good advantage…could be well-fitting jeans, tight fitting skirt or dress…in any case clothes should fit well, or look as if they are comfortable and natural. I’m not a fan of the excessively “baggy” look! Expensive glamorous clothes are not necessary, but I do like soft and sometimes shiny materials. Velvet is a real turn on. M- Here is the greatest fashion advice I’ve ever received: “Dress your personality”. Dress the way you are. When a woman is comfortable with what she’s wearing, she has more confidence in herself. ========================================== pheromone Q and A: Q: I just received a bottle of Primal Instinct and was a little surprised that I can’t smell anything from it, no matter how hard I try. I understand this is not unusual but would like to find out what proportion of guys out there can smell it. Perhaps any guys who have bought a bottle could say if they can detect any smell. A: The only active ingredient in Primal Instinct is androstenone, which to most people has a very strong musky smell. To those who are familiar with the smell of a concentrated androstenone product like Primal Instinct, it is hard to imagine that anyone is unable to smell it, but the percentage is actually quite high. According to a study run by the National Geographic, in the United States, 33% of all men and 29% of all women tested were unable to detect androstenone. Below is an excerpt from an article on the subject that appeared in the December ’99 issue of the Pheromone News. If you can not smell androstenone, please don’t take the “sexiness and pheromone detection ability” correlation too seriously. For the most part it is meant in fun. Also, keep in mind that the ability to detect the smell can be learned, and that it may not be necessary to detect the smell consciously to be affected by it anyway. Full article in 12/99 Pheromone News at: One thing I have to say in defense of the sexuality of my native USA, in regards to these results, is that as a nation we must be the most paranoid about body smell, (with the probable exception of Japan, the country I live in now), due undoubtably to the marketing efforts of antibacterial soap and deodorant companies. I have on a number of occasions gotten angry letters from the US complaining that pheromone products containing nothing more than synthetic androstenone and androstenol smell like “BO.” A number of readers have asked me about some interesting research funded by the Erox Corp, makers of the popular pheromone cologne, Realm. This research, detailed in a paper entitled: “Perfumery and the Sixth Sense” by Clive Jennings-White, from the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Utah, poses some very interesting questions about pheromones? Specifically: “How do they really work?” and “What substances may be called ‘true pheromones?'” Since the very beginning of the rush to put pheromones on the market, Erox has taken a quite unique and sometimes even aggressive stance on the issue of the proper use of pheromones. For starters, Erox Corp. openly states that the goal of their products is the effect that they have on the person *wearing* them NOT on others who happened to be in the area, and that the effects they are looking for are not directly attraction, but a sense of confidence or well-being that then in turn may add to one’s attractiveness. So, unlike virtually every other pheromone product on the market, Erox’s popular Realm Men, designed to be worn by men contains only pheromones that have been shown to stimulate the pheromone sensing system of *men* themselves, and Realm for Women contains only pheromones that stimulate women. And, in a further effort to distance themselves from the rest of the pack, Erox repeatedly refers to the popular pheromone ingredients of the competing products as “pig pheromones,” and claims to have proven that they do not operate as pheromones in humans at all, though they have clearly been shown to be present in human sweat and to affect human behavior as an attractant. How can Erox make these claims then? On the basis of Erox funded studies like “Perfumery and the Sixth Sense.” One thing to keep in mind when considering this research is that according to Erox, and I think most pheromone scientists would agree, in order to be considered a true pheromone a substance must stimulate the vomeronasal organ (VNO). Though physically located in the nose, the VNO is an entirely separate sensing apparatus from our sense of smell and many feel that it deserves to be thought of as a sixth sense. So, in that same way that sights and sounds are different, so are smells and the sensation of pheromones different, and though at present, it would seem that our perception of pheromones is entirely subconscious, it is entirely possible that over time, we will come more and more in touch with this “sixth sense,” and be able to consciously notice the effects of pheromones, in the same way we enjoy the smell of honeysuckle blossoms (which happen to be in bloom in my area at the moment by the way). In the mean time, though, we have to depend on electronic equipment if we are to clearly isolate the effects of pheromones, and Dr. Jennings-White has apparently done that with his “multifunctional miniprobe” which he places in the VNO of his human laboratory subjects to find out which components of human sweat are *really* stimulating the VNO. The results are very interesting. According to this study, neither of the two pheromones most commonly found in popular pheromone colognes today (androstenone and androstenol) were found to have a high impact on the human VNO. In fact, the only components of human sweat, which really rang the bell on the electronic VNO tester were estratetraenol (affects only the male VNO) and androstadienone (affects only females), the active ingredients in Realm Men and Realm Women, respectively. The popular women’s pheromone, copulins (attracts men), was unfortunately, not mentioned in the study. So, if androstenone and androstenol aren’t true pheromones, how do they work? There have been numerous studies demonstrating that these two substances work as attractants. How can that be if they don’t stimulate the VNO? Well, if we are to believe that the Jennings-White experiment is accurate than we have to assume that androstenone and androstenol work via our normal olfactory (smell) system and not through the VNO, and since androstenone has a definite fragrance, it is possible that the attraction is a “learned response,” meaning that we have *learned* to feel good around the smell of the sweat of the opposite sex, through repeated presumably pleasurable exposures, and therefore are attracted to the smell. Similarly to Pavlov’s famous dogs, if every time I smell androstenone, I end up having sex, then it won’t be long until the smell of androstenone works as an attractant for me (provided I like sex of course), and it also need not be a conscious perception or even a very strong one. So, androstenone and androstenol most likely still qualify as sexual attractants or stimulants, giving them the status of “semiochemicals” but not true pheromones in the world of biochemistry, but if the VNO system is really hot-wired to the sex stimulation center of the brain, requiring no prior sexual experience, as many scientists believe, than this Erox study is something important to consider. In the words of Dr. Jennings-White himself: “I have shown that estratetraenol and androstadienone may be used as components in perfumes and can enhance such products. We are approaching a radical shift in the concept of perfumery. Henceforth, the design of a perfume should take into account stimulation of the long neglected sixth sense, the vomeronasal system.” **Important practical point on the use of Realm cologne** Remember that the chemicals discussed here as effective in stimulating the female VNO are found in the *female formula!* NOT the men’s formula as with all other pheromone products. Likewise, the chemicals shown to be effective in stimulating men are found in the *MEN’S* formula. EG: if you are a man and you want to use Realm to attract women, you must wear the *women’s* formula. This might sound strange, and maybe it is, but the women’s version smells like a man’s cologne to me and the men’s formula smells like a woman’s cologne! If you are using or have ever tested either of these products, I would be interested in hearing from you on this point and/or on the effectiveness of the product(s) in general. Just in case, don’t forget to smile! THE JUNE SURVEY QUESTION: Natural pheromones and personal hygiene You may have heard the famous pheromone quote attributed to Napoleon, in a letter to his beloved: “My dear, I will be home in three days. Do not bathe.” Nowadays a thought like this is beyond kinky, especially here in Japan where it is quite common to bathe more than once a day, and entire family holidays are often centered entirely around bathing, but then again.. Japan is not exactly known for romance and passion now is it, and as I remember from my stay in France, my girlfriend was more likely to blast on a little perfume than jump into the shower on date night? Weird? Sexy? Low class? What do you think? Send completed surveys to: Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems One of the advantages of this job is I get samples of lots of new products to try out. Lately I have been playing with a sandalwood scented version of DateMate and a completely new product called “Score,” an androstenone-only spray cologne that has a noticeably patchouli-like fragrance. At the moment though, I have only one new product to announce that is really “on the market” to my knowledge and that is: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone Additive The mixture is about three times as concentrated as DateMate though, since it is made to be blended into your own cologne. Men’s version only, at the moment. “I just got Primal Instinct today, and I decided to put some on even though I was not planning on meeting any women (mainly wanted to see what it smelled like). Anyway, a friend and I were having diner, and I noticed the waitress was…let’s just say more friendly than your average waitress. During the course of our meal, I noticed a few instances where I would look over at her and sure enough she was looking at me. Anyway, when she dropped off the bill, we struck up a conversation that literally lasted around 20 or so minutes (her section was not very busy), and she was making 90% of her eye contact with me, only glancing at my friend occasionally to be polite. Now this may have been a coincidence, but I assure you that this kind of thing just NEVER NEVER NEVER happens to me. While I am not yet convinced that pheromones played a part, you must admit that it is INCREDIBLE that the day this happened, just happened to be the first day I have ever worn pheromones. I’ll keep you posted….damn, this is NUTS!!” Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: You can also join this list by sending a blank e-mail message to: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News April, 2000
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April, 2000 Hello Again Readers, I just received word from ListBot (the company that takes care of the Pheromone News mailings) that their system is jammed up, so only God knows when this “issue” is really going to reach you. I wrote it late enough as it is. Sorry for the delay. Hope you like it! The long awaited cherry blossom season is sweeping northward over the Japanese archipelago. We had the peak here in Sendai last Sunday, and I managed to get to an old Shinto Shrine early that morning for a picnic with the family. I took my digital camera and got a few photos. If you are curious what all the fuss is in Japan with the cherry trees blossoming, have a look at: http://jokes-weekly/album.html ****SCAM ALERT**** Furthermore, If you think you have been victimized by this scam or any site selling bootleg products, please contact me for information on getting your money back. The law is clearly on your side. Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *March’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: THE RESULTS: “1.) A product-to-product comparison, and how they stack up against each other. “I would also like to see more stories of the effects real people have encounter using pheromones.” “I would like to know if anyone has compared the effects of wearing a pheromone to the effects of spraying the pheromone in the room (where you plan to have a date or a meeting). This would ‘depersonalize’ the effects. “I have a friend who writes an e-mail newsletter on romance. Perhaps you can have your readers list such newsletters that they receive?” “Maybe how pheromones and sexuality work together.” “I would like to see a survey on the success of pheromone usage on a long term relationship. Any proposals or marriages accredited to the use of pheromones?” “You could ask personal interest questions, but due to the topic of the newsletter, they can be things that people would want to know about the opposite sex but don’t go around asking. For example: “what kind of underwear do you prefer on (the opposite sex)” Or do guys prefer girls wearing nail polish or just natural?” “In future surveys, I would like to see more personal accounts and experiences. These are very interesting to read, and they also provide great insight on which products work the best.” “How about asking people if they’ve had experience with using pheromone products in a non-romantic or sexual setting? In particular, have they used them to help make a sale, ensure that a presentation was well-received, give a speech?” “I think you should do a survey about what surveys you should do. hahaha Just kidding. Really, you should do more surveys for single people, since it appears that the majority of your readers are single. Also, I’d like to hear stories from people who have used pheromones and experienced successful results.” “1. How have you used pheromones in business, such as have you noticed increased sales while using pheromones? “Why not do a survey on ones sexual exploits by age. For example……When you are in your 20″s , you are very sexual and your libido is up there…….30s are good but not like the 20s. Forties things slow down but libido and sexuality, are they still there? 50s…….well……you would not know yet, but trust me something does happen to change all that. Hormone imbalance I suppose. Would pheromones help?” “Question: What is the most unusual experience you have had using one of the products? Have you ever needed to make an impression (in a non-date situation) and used a pheromone-related product and had good results? Have you ever used a product and got unexpected results?” “The other thing I was thinking: describe the difference you feel when you have used a product before something important (again, either in a date-related situation or a non-date related one)—-and when you have not. Describe the reaction you have had from someone after you used a product—how you felt their manner changed toward you—-their body language maybe—their eyes—their voice–The WAY they pay attention to you.” “I have done a lot of hands on research with pheromone products and have found that they instill hostility in the same sex. Statements like: “I don’t know why but i just cant stand that guy, leads me to believe that when using a pheromone based product, other nearby dominant males feel angry and want to fight over territory. I use power play by intimate research, primal instinct, and beaches, i have found that the combination of these three are very enticing, so please formulate some questions on behalf of violence within the same sex due to pheromones.” “Does using pheromones make your partner more wild in bed?” pheromone Q and A: Q: I would like to know the difference between androstenone and androstenol and does putting a cologne along with a pheromone, reduces its effect!! A: Both androstenone and androstenol are testosterone-linked pheromones that are produced naturally by both men and women, though probably in different amounts and ratios. Since testosterone in both men and women regulates sex drive, these two pheromones may serve us by giving others a subconscious reading on our sexual availability at any given moment. On a more mundane level, androstenone has a very strong musky smell that has been described to me as everything from “BO” to “horse piss.” Amazingly enough, though, quite a large percentage of the population can not detect the smell of androstenone at all. Androstenol on the other hand even in great concentration is hard to detect. I myself, can not detect any smell, and I got an e-mail message from a lab researcher a while back who works with the substance and says he has never found anyone who noticed any smell at all coming from it. On the practical side, there is some talk about the effects of these two “andro” pheromones being different. I don’t think any research has been done to support this, but the usual story is that androstenone is more powerful an attractant or more male/macho somehow. It is easy to get this impression from the relative smells of the two, but I can’t say if it is true or not. All the products on the market that contain androstenol also contain androstenone, so there is no way for the consumer to compare the two. Two of the most potent men’s pheromone products on the market, Primal Instinct and Androstenone pheromone Concentrate, contain only androstenone. RE cologne use with pheromones: I have found that using a cologne at the same time as pheromones is good not bad for the effects. Especially with a strong unscented androstenone product like Primal or DateMate, you need cologne to cover the heavy smell of the androstenone. On the other hand, some informed sources feel there is a risk of losing some potency by physically mixing pheromones in with a cologne, so the safest route might be to apply them separately rather than mixing them together, but again I can not personally verify this caution. Judging from the results of last month’s survey, “What readers want to see in future surveys”, it seems that, more than anything, everyone wants to know the inside story on the growing number of pheromone products. In addition to simply asking readers what products they have tried and what results they have gotten, I thought it might be a good idea to list the products that I am familiar with, and give you what information I have on hand at the moment. I have been answering questions along these lines on an almost daily basis for quite a while now, but I think this is the first time I have ever put the information together in one spot. Keep in mind that there are new products appearing on the market all the time, many that I have never even heard of. Some of them may have value, but in general, unless they can provide some hard proof of their pheromone content, there is not much to go on. All the pheromone products that I would recommend fall into one of the following three groups: Group 1. [Products that have been designed and tested by known expert(s) in the field of pheromone research.] *The Athena Products (Athena 10X) *Erox Corp. Products (Realm, men’s and women’s) *Kiotech Products (Pheromol Factor, Xcite pheromone Wipes) Group 2. [Products that have been tested and found to have a substantial amount of active pheromone in them and/or openly display their pheromone content.] Primal Instinct: (men’s formula; contains androstenone only) Clearly the most highly concentrated product on the market, Primal Instinct proudly displays a “guaranteed” androstenone content of 5 mg on the label of every 10 ml bottle they sell, and I can tell you, that is enough! There is no reason on earth to look for a product with more androstenone in it. It is difficult enough as it is to avoid applying too much. $69.95 a bottle, but will last a LONG time! DateMate (men’s and women’s) Androstenone pheromone Concentrate Group 3. [Products that have been around for a while and seem to have a lot of loyal customers] Yes pheromone Cologne Any product that doesn’t fall into one of these 3 groups, and/or has been tested for pheromone content and found wanting should be approached with a great deal of caution. Some other points you might want to consider went buying a pheromone product: Just in case, don’t forget to smile! The Questions: First the original suggestion by Audrey: THE SURVEY QUESTION: Send completed surveys to: Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems I’ve run out of “pheromones in the Cinema” stories! If you can think of any candidates, please send them along. bruce@love-scent.com “I also wanted to tell you that DM really works! Not particularly in romance area : ) but I’m having wonderful relationships with my bosses and customers (I’m a corporate banker…stress!!). They seem to be more cooperative, gentle and most of all, I am more confident of myself. Another surprise (a bit personal, though)… My menstrual cycle was so irregular that it required a serious hormonal treatment. But I could not continue the treatment since the medication damaged my liver and raised blood pressure to a dangerous level. Guess what, my cycle became regular for the first time in years after I started the DM ‘treatment.'” –name withheld In the mood for some laughs? ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: You can also join this list by sending a blank e-mail message to: |
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Pheromone News March, 2000
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March, 2000 Hello Again Readers, This marks the 12th consecutive monthly issue of the Pheromone News, so next issue will be the e-zine’s official one year birthday issue. Don’t miss it! JAPANESE pheromone FESTIVAL ****SCAM ALERT**** Furthermore, If you think you have been victimized by this scam or any site reputedly selling pheromone products, please contact me for information on getting your money back. The law is clearly on your side. Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *Februay’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: Synthetic pheromone products on the Market –#1. Have you ever used a pheromone product? –#2. Did it have any effect? –#3. If yes, what effect did it have? “I went to a club and was being approached constantly by mostly females but it seemed like I was being talked to a lot.” “Girls seem to pay more attention to you. You also seem to get hit on more than usual.” “It helped increase my self esteem and made me feel more confident.” “Females are more open with their feelings. That is, I get told outright that they want to get with me. I get flirted with a lot more.” “I have only been using it for a couple of weeks, but I believe that I am already seeing a positive change in the number of girls that initiate conversations with me.” “More girls talk to me, and I get more smiles and ‘hellos’ in passing.” “I was approached more often by the opposite sex.” — #4. Do you think that pheromones have uses other than romantic ones? “They could be used in relationships of any sorts. They seem to make people more friendly.” “They may have some form of emotional/mental use.. for the fact that maybe they make people feel better about themselves.” “Yes. I think sales increase because people seem to be more at ease around you.” “I am convinced pheromones can be used in business very well. People just perceive you as more powerful and confident. With this in unconscious, it’s easier to make a buying decision (that doesn’t interfere with application of detectable odors to ease people’s mood or project an air of seriousness, like scenting a car showroom with the smell of leather etc.)” “I think that pheromones would have a positive effect on the person who would be wearing them, maybe make them feel a little more attractive.” “Yes, I do. I believe that when other guys see that many girls are attracted to you, they want to hang out with you. They respect you, which ultimately makes you more popular with your own sex. Most importantly, I believe that pheromones give you a self-confidence that many people lack. They help people feel good about themselves, which is the first step in attracting others. Also, I have read about people using pheromones to give them an edge in the working world. I have never had the opportunity to experience this, but it seems to make sense.” “Yes, help with self esteem.” –#5. What products have you tried? “Date Mate 2000 Harem Knights Realm Androstenone pheromone Concentrate The Scent.” “I have a bottle of APC. I have tried Realm at the department store.” “I have used Contact18 and DateMate2000.” “Contact18 and DM 2000, but I’m currently testing Realm and another one called Sphinx.” “Beaches, Realm, Magnet.” –#6. Which ones do you like best? “Currently DateMate 2000.” “They all seem to work fairly well, but so far I think Beaches has had more of a noticeable effect.” “DateMate 2000. It’s odorless and stronger than Contact 18 (which is its predecessor)” “Date Mate 2000 when I don’t feel like a scent. Realm when i want Cologne.” –#7. Why? “Although, I have only used APC, I believe that it works quite well. However, Realm smells VERY good. I would imagine that it smells better than any other pheromone product because it is the only one that is made by a major fragrance company. I have also read that APC and Realm contain about the same number of active pheromones, so I would guess that one could expect similar results.” “Date Mate 2000 gives me the self esteem I want without scent. Realm smells nice and some women love it.” –#8. Where did you first find out about pheromones? “Through a friend asking me about them so I did an internet investigation.” “I happened to stumble across a featured auction on ebay that was selling pheromones. The idea of a scent that was guaranteed to attract the opposite sex intrigued me, so I researched the subject on the internet. That is when I came across the Love Scent pheromone Store site, which is by far the best fountain of information about pheromones on the web.” “I got a chance to smell some once at the bon marche in WA, i really liked the smell of it.” “In a science class.” “From school (pre-med/chemistry)” –#9. Have you noticed anything interesting about natural pheromones (personal hygiene etc.) and their effect on others? “Being clean and smelling clean helps you boost your feelings about yourself.. hygiene is probably the most important part of feeling good about yourself.” “Just the basic, poor hygiene is usually a big turn off, although I do know someone who loves the smell of sweaty body odor. Gross, as far as I’m concerned.” “As far as the fact that not using scented soaps, etc. (because they cover our natural pheromones), I haven’t tried this so I don’t really know. As far as personal hygiene, the opposite sex is much more attracted to a clean looking and fresh smelling person than the opposite. But this goes without saying so, I really haven’t noticed anything major.” “pheromones trigger a sort of ‘animal magnetism’ in humans.” “It’s always useful to shower in the evenings for the strongest natural pheromone concentration is 24 hours after shower. That means, after that time you’ll begin to smell bad. But it’s good to always have a little natural odor around you because it transmits your MHC’s properties to women instinctively searching for a different immune system for healthy kids…” “Always get comments on how good I smell when I come to work freshly showered. It’s my conditioner (Pantene). I have long hair so my conditioner’s scent gets noticed a lot.” “Not really. I have heard women say that they like the scent of a man’s sweat though. Otherwise, not really.” “From what I have “read” I believe that they have a extra charm factory on others. I even heard about a female that felt a hardly controllable urge to hug any man wearing ‘Beaches.” “Yes, well I didn’t know they were pheromones, but I can tell when I am feeling sexual that men really respond to that but when I am not they pretty much leave me alone. I am single and at times get asked out several times a week but, when I am not feeling like I’d like a man then there is not a lot of interest from others. I live in a house full of women and we joke about being in heat and how the men come out of the woodwork at times.” “You can tell just by smell whether or not someone takes care of themself. If they smell like B.O., you will know to stay away, but other times just the natural clean scent of someone will be the most attractive thing.” “Yes, they work, and they supersede even such factors as rational thinking and poor hygiene. There appears to be more pheromones present when a body has not been cleansed for a long time – as if they accumulate until a shower. The effect of pheromones is strongest when they have much time to be in one’s presence – ie. an entire night.” “Yes, this may seem disgusting, but it seems that when I am ovulating, more men are attracted to me. This starts about 2 days before and lasts until about 3 days after, and then suddenly I’ve very unattractive, it seems. I’ve noted these “effects” over several months and I have detected a pattern.” “I had a good friend who didn’t really have anything at all going for him, but he always got the best girls, so we said he had killer pheromones.” –#10. Comments? “I haven’t tried pheromones because I’ve heard such contrasting opinions on them. I don’t want to spend money on something that doesn’t work, but I do find the concept very intriguing. If I could win some so that I could try it out, I’m sure I would buy some if they worked. ” “Its hard for to say this, but in my 20 years of existence i have never been on a date!!!! I am not going to lie I had a few chances, but something always went wrong. Like a bird trying to fly, I can only hope that I will one day, be able to spread my wings.” “I must admit that I was very skeptical. And they basically did they exactly what they said. Pleasantly surprised.” “I have my doubts if they really work. I see some testimonials that say they work, but I’ve seen real trials on shows on tv and they didn’t work, and the product I used didn’t work.” “I want to thank him (Bruce) for his services to everyone interested in pheromones. I can imagine the time that he has put into this project, and I really admire what he has done for us.” “Here in my country kenya I have never come across any of the pheromones products but after reading many of your articles I would really like to try them out.” “As I told you, pheromones intrigued me so much, I’m currently writing on a book about them.” “The Realm that I uses smells oriental, I think it smells good but it does not have the effect that they advertise. It does not attract the opposite sex like it is supposed to.” “Hi, I’m a 24 year old female who is married with 3 young sons. I have never used a pheromone product but would be very interested in trying them. I first heard about pheromones on TV news reports…” “Synthetic pheromones are a wonderful addition to the population in that, hopefully, they will allow all of us to get along a lot better. Perhaps even decrease violence.” ========================================== pheromone Q and A: Q: I’m kind of worried that these “pheromones” are similar to drugs. You need to use them always to get girls. What happens when you stop using them? Will your girlfriend stop loving you? It takes the money out of your pocket especially every 3-6 months. A: Good question! I like to compare them more to vitamins than to drugs, but pheromones do create a definite “high”, there seems to be no question about that, and not only on the target but on the person wearing them him/herself. In fact, one very famous pioneer in the commercial pheromone industry emphatically claims that the magic of pheromones is 100% due to their effect on the wearer NOT the person you are trying to attract. I can personally testify to this effect of “getting off on your own pheromones.” I often spray Date Mate on my shirt collars and sometimes when I’m stuck in traffic or bored or feeling a little run-down, I’ll press my nose to the fragrant spot and inhale deeply. There is definitely an energizing effect there, no question about it. If you want to see a VERY funny movie bit on this, check out “A Fish Named Wanda” with Kevin Cline. Very funny! There is quite a bit of research that shows that pheromones and hormones are linked, that is when one goes up the other goes up as well. They play off of each other. Now whether it is a good idea to add to the fire with store-bought pheromones, I can not say. I am not a doctor. If I were a teenager, I would not use them. The average person’s hormones and pheromones are running wild at this time already, but from the 20s onward pheromone levels are dropping off like crazy, and well, you can see the effects on your sex life. As far as “will your girlfriend stop loving you”, anyone that has been married can tell you that “love” and pheromone-type attraction are two very different things. Keeping the fire in your romance is an ongoing effort. Again, maybe it is better to just let nature take its course and get old gracefully, I don’t know. It is a personal decision, but there is no reason to think that pheromones are addictive in the sense that you develop a tolerance to them or that using artificial pheromones will shut off your own production of them. Personally, I think that pheromones are “good for you” and set off a healthy spiral of more romantic activity and generally a more healthy lifestyle, but in any case, you only need to use them on “date night”. They also don’t cost as much to use as you might think as in most cases a few drops is all you need. One last thought on this subject….. Almost anything can become obsessive if you let it. One example is make-up. The use of make-up is a personal thing for women, and it can be a lot of fun and can also be very effective in attracting men, BUT it can also become a terrible weight if a woman feels that she can’t be seen without it. Being romantically “involved” with someone implies that you know what they look like without their make-up, and what they smell like without their cologne (or even a bath for that matter). Hopefully once you find Mr. or Miss “Right” you can settle into a comfortable agreement on the use of these little romantic aids, and that goes for everything doesn’t it…. candles, sexy underwear, incense, soft lights and on and on. You can get stuck on any of it, can’t you? All the Best, ========================================== THE WAY TO A MAN’S HEART The Hirsch study rated the effectiveness of various fragrances by measuring blood flow to the penis, which presumably gives us a good idea of the sexual arousal of the subject, not to mention the fact that all the subjects in this study were men. So rather than rating the attracting power of the tested fragrances, we are actually rating the ability of various fragrances to turn subjects on sexually and therefore are rating the fragrances as aphrodisiacs. The results were surprising. All types of fragrances were tested, not just popular colognes and perfumes, but kitchen spices and a host of other commonly occurring household odors. And which of the fragrances rules as a male aphrodisiac? Channel? Obsession? No, the number one aphrodisiac aroma was ….. cinnamon buns! Strange but true, food as a group outperformed perfume as a sexual turn on for men. Go figure. Here are some of the other romantic fire flamers: roast meat These changes were substantial too, with increased genital blood flow as much as 40%. What about pheromones? Not tested here to my knowledge, but you may remember a similar study reviewed here, and performed by the great pheromone researcher Astrid Jutte in Austria, in which male testosterone levels were increased 150% by the smell of the female pheromone copulins. Such jumps in testosterone level have also been shown to be closely tied to genital blood flow, which I assume is synonymous with sexual arousal or ..ahem.. being “horny.” So, ladies, in light of the scientific research available, if you want to turn on your man, here is my recommendation: Just in case, don’t forget to smile! The Questions: What kind of topics would you like to see explored by future surveys? That’s all! Just jot down an idea or two and send them to: Send completed surveys to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems A SMALL WORLD? Many moons ago I reported on some research demonstrating that women will indicate more romantic feelings stimulated by sniffing clothing worn by people with dissimilar DNA, than they will for people with similar genotypes. In other words, the pheromones of people biologically the furthest from us are more likely to illicit romantic attraction, than those of people more closely related (eg: members of our immediate family). This would make sense from an evolutionary standpoint as it naturally leads towards expanding gene pools and away from what is jokingly referred to these days as “in-breeding” or a career in politics. I guess I have out-bred about as far as is possible on the planet Earth. There is a standard joke among western men living here in the Orient that once you have fallen in love with an Asian woman, it is no longer possible for you to feel romantic interest in a Western woman. As an American married to a Japanese woman, I can honestly say there seems to be some truth behind the joke. It is often difficult in the beginning to break through the various racial and cultural barriers that separate us from those on the far side of the gene pond, but once those have been overcome, the pheromonal attraction seems to be very strong. It certainly had an effect. After walking around with it (pheromone product) on for some weeks now, I’ve noticed changes in the ways women (as well as men) acted towards me including some very odd but pleasurable “attacks”. A girl went in my direction after a party once, until we reached her house. We met again about three weeks later at the exact flat where she greeted me with “I knew we’d meet again”. I found out later she would have had to take an entirely different way to go home the last time. And countless other happenings. Additionally, I am much more confident about myself and my appearance to women. Oddly, the more attractive they are, the more they are attracted (It’s a confidence thing, I suppose) -name withheld In the mood for some laughs? ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: You can also join this list by sending a blank e-mail message to: Bruce Boyd |
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Pheromone News February, 2000
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February, 2000 Hello Again Readers, Well, I’ve really pushed it this time! It will be the middle of the day on the last day of February by the time the Pheromone News goes out this month (it’s already March 1st here in Japan). Excuses there are aplenty, but I won’t bore you with them. This issue will be a bit unusual, and we will be back to normal by mid March. Good news is we moved into a new home, smaller and cheaper, but very sunny with a nice view and garden. Yesterday morning I watched a spectacular sunrise from the ocean from my office window. Love Scent pheromone Store products have moved as well to a new home in Colorado. Some really fine folks will be taking, packing and shipping the orders from now on. ****SCAM ALERT****IS THERE A LAWYER IN THE HOUSE?*** Bruce Boyd Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products http://love-scent.com *January’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: #1. What do you think can be done to fuel and/or rekindle romantic feelings in a long-term relationship? #2. What are some of the pitfalls that couples fall into that destroy natural romantic feelings, and how can those pitfalls be avoided/repaired? M 41 S: Keep dating your spouse AFTER the wedding! F 53 M: Boredom in the bedroom…….too much stress from your job. 31, Female, Divorcing Be spontaneous. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Continue to be romantic even after the “honeymoon”. And the most important thing is COMMUNICATION! **Not communicating. Getting into a rut. Doing the same things day after day week after week. Same old routine. Don’t try or are not willing to try new things. M: I messed up a marriage of 37 years by leaving my wife three different times in 12 years to look for greener pastures. In the long run I found that the women I met during those absences from my wife did not like my many bad habits. i turned back to my wife and she accepted me back, but out relationship has suffered ever since. F 19, S: think it’s the little gestures that add up. Making time for little kisses and warm hugs every day. **Getting too comfortable, so comfortable that you don’t relish the moment they put their arms around you like you did the first time they held you. To just enjoy every moment and really feel it. 18 M S It would seem that communication is the best thing. I know that’s a cliche, but no one other than psychics can read another’s mind. If you at least let the other person know what you’re thinking, you may be able to jump-start a long-term relationship. Indifference would have to be the main one. If someone shows no interest in a relationship, then the spouse is going to start feeling unwanted. The only way to avoid it is by taking an active interest in your partner’s ideas and activities. If you succeed in doing so, your relationship has a chance. F 39 D: go out on a date…..go back to basics…..be spontaneous…use candles couples get into routines & they take each other for granted…..try to avoid the routines of day to day stuff, try to think of the other persons feelings & surprise each other once in awhile with something different F 40 M It’s the little things that can make all the difference in a long-term relationship. Slip your mate a love note in their lunch sack, do something extra nice and unexpected for your partner, such as picking up their dry cleaning, prepare their favorite dinner, draw a heart in their serving of mash potatoes, plant a flower and when it blooms, take your partner to it and show them “their” flower, hide a note in the lid of the antiperspirant, or their cologne/perfume bottle, or hat, etc. and when they open to use it, it will fall out with words of love, write “I love you” on the next sheet of toilet paper, call and leave a message of love on your own home answering machine for your mate, write “I love you” in the dust on the TV set!, take the batteries out of the TV/VCR remote and replace with a love note. There are so many things that one can do that are just reminders of the love that we have for our spouse/partner! I know that one major pitfall is not telling your partner that you love him or her! Many people feel that after having been together for a number of years, the other person automatically “knows” that they are loved and telling them is no longer necessary! How wrong! We all need affirmations and there is none other than I long to hear than my spouse telling me that he loves me. M 33 M 3. 49, male, divorced. 54 F, Separated I believe women as a whole….even younger women are so tied up in the tangle of sexual taboos and hangups that they do not and cannot enjoy sex. Sex is made for women…..most women believe it is made for men. I mean we are the ones that got the gift of multiple orgasm; all women have to do is learn to use it. 41 F D F 27 M F 19 S F 45 D M 18 S F 55 D F 37 M M 31 S M 38 S 16 F “recently and unhappily single 27 M S 32 F M 42 F D Try to find something you enjoy to do together emphasis on TRY We’ve asked the question a hundred times and I can’t come up with an answer The kids are in college and we’ve drifted out of site of each other We sleep in separate rooms even 46 yrs, male, married one time 26yrs in April 00 20 F Engaged I am 58 years old and divorced. And I hate being alone. 49, wife of 31 years. 33 F S M 55 D 42 F Separated Q: Bruce, A: The research you mention does on the surface look bad for marketeers of pheromone products, and they don’t tend to publicize it, but it doesn’t bother me. I think there is adequate evidence that both the andro pheromones (androstenone and androstenol) attract females. What this study was looking for was a change in the AMOUNT that they are attracted depending on the stage of the subjects menstrual cycle. Ovulation being the prime moment for conception, we would expect to see the attraction the strongest at that point, and weak or absent during other times. The change they were looking for was found but as you pointed out researchers were unable to find any attraction during ovulation, just the absence of repulsion. Considering that this is the only experiment out of dozens of both controlled and anecdotal studies that fails to show significant attraction to androstenone, I think we can rest assured that there is some confounding factor present in these results. I am happy to see that they found a change over menstrual cycle phase, but don’t believe it proves that androstenone is ineffective as an attractant. Thanks for the great question! Keep in touch. **Hey Readers** Want to put your 2 cents in on this one? See this month’s survey below! It’s 5:30 am on the East coast of Japan as I write this, and the horizon is just starting to turn red and orange. I’m looking forward to another beautiful ocean sunrise. I spent some time in Key West Florida many years ago, and I can still remember clearly how folks would gather on a certain pier down there and watch the sun set into the ocean every evening. If I ever get back from the land of the rising sun, I guess I will literally have come “full circle”. As I mentioned, I was quite moved by the marriage first-aid survey results I read. They made me think a lot about my own marriage and the things that have helped keep it going. Not the least of these being living in Japan where the divorce rate is extremely low, and having two young children hasn’t hurt either. To be completely honest I would have to say that without these two external pressures, our chances of success would have been far lower. Furthermore, I think I owe a lot of my marriage stability to blind luck, or God’s grace, depending on your religious orientation, in that I have somehow stumbled into one of the embarrassingly few people in the world that I could live with day in and day out, without fighting endlessly. I’m not saying my wife is easy to get along with, because she is not. She is often negative, and depressive. At the worst of times it seems like it is an ongoing task to keep her mood elevated, but she is 100% honest and 100% dedicated to the welfare of our family (which includes me in there too), and that is more than enough for me. If I were to walk away from this marriage, looking for laughs and excitement, I’m quite sure it would rank as one of the most iladvised moves of my life. On the one hand, reading the survey results made me feel absolutely convinced that the sanctity of marriage must be upheld at all costs, and although my own marriage is going quite strong at the moment, it came into my mind that it might be a good idea to brainstorm about ways to further strengthen the health of our family rather than take the chance of growing lazy with a marriage that is perhaps only “comfortable.” In my situation that is the clear road to take, absolute determination to honor the marriage vows. In other marriages that decision is not so easy to make, I realize. I can still remember the fights my mother and father used to get into late at night. The terrible things that marriage partners will say to each other in anger staggers the imagination. If kids are not involved, it makes you wonder what the point of remaining together is. My younger sister, living in California, is about to get married for the seventh time, and why not? What does she have to lose? In a lot of ways I’m not too keen on living in Japanese society, but the divorce rate here is extremely low and for good reason. Legally it is a piece of cake to get divorced. The outcome is very clear and can be processed very quickly. The man gets all the money, the woman gets all the kids, and they never see each other ever again. The woman is flat broke with kids to support, and returns to her parents house where she will spend the rest of her life. The chance of remarriage is so close to zero it can’t be measured accurately. If you read the survey results, you may have noticed that I made no attempt to compile them into any type of chart of average or prevalent moods on the subject. To do so would have resulted in something like the following: So what does this have to do with pheromones? Nothing. pheromones get you into the mess, but they can’t get you out. They help you fall into love with your kids as well, but when those kids hit high school and want to dye their hair purple, there you are again. I often tell people that pheromones and/or an understanding of how they work are like a tool or a weapon, they can be used for good or bad purposes. As human beings we are driven by our passions, and that is for the most part great fun, but if we are to save the institution of marriage, it will take more than pheromones, it will take individual determination. It will take each and every one of us consciously deciding to “stop the buck” of insults and selfishness, and returning in its place understanding and generosity. Before I go, I’d like to quote one of this month’s surveys. It could stand to be said at least one more time: “One of the most profound truths is that once words are out of our mouths…they can never be taken back. When one partner hurts another…..a little love is destroyed.” Hopefully, the reverse is also true: “When one partner eases the paid of another…..a little love is created.” In any case, don’t forget to smile! Have you tried using pheromones (natural or bottled) for social purposes??? The Questions: Send completed surveys to: PRIMAL INSTINCT http://love-scent.com/primal-instinct ========================================== MatchMasters Online Dating Systems http://love-scent.com/ –From the British TV sitcom, The Thin Blue Line Angered by a conversation regarding the use of cologne by men, Frank, a British police officer from Trinidad slams his fist down on his desk and bellows: In the mood for some laughs? ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! 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Pheromone News January, 2000
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January, 2000 Hello Again Readers, A Happy Year 2,000 to you all! FREE pheromones! Bruce Boyd I’m also interested in printing personal experiences with pheromones, so if you have something to enter in that area please send it in. I can leave your name off or print it as you like. Pheromone News may be distributed freely, if the sign-up information is included. Original material is copyright protected. Send articles and personal stories to: MatchMasters Online Dating Systems **FREE sample of popular pheromone product to the first 100 sign-ups!** ========================================== *December’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: #1. Where would you advise a single person to look for a mate? #2. Is it the responsibility of the man to make the first move? #3: Is it practical for women to approach men? #4: What can women do to let a man know that his advances would be welcome? #5: Are bars a viable option for finding a “meaningful relationship?” Question #1. Where would you advise a single person to look for a mate? M: I have found that most of my “mates” have come from either work or school (when I was there). Of course me not being the truly outgoing type, I haven’t found places like gyms or clubs to work very well for me. F: Get a job in retail. People love it when you help them shop. They associate your kindness and helpfulness as the perfect personality to hook up with anyone who’s not attached. Youth organizations are another great option, make a great impression on the kids and people think you’re great. One can find a mate just about anywhere, but it has been my experience that clubs are a good place to find someone. A majority of the people at a club are also looking for a mate, so your chances are pretty good. Also, in a club I feel okay going up to someone and initiating a conversation, where as in a place such as the supermarket, I would not approach a stranger. F: I think if you just go about doing things that you enjoy doing, if you happen to meet someone, then you will have something in common with them ….such as a walk on the beach, or at a park, F: There are many places to look for a mate. I have even found good men in chat rooms on the computer and even dated a couple. Now one turned out to be very special while the other i said goodbye to in less than an hour. Both times I met them at public places where other people were around. Question #2: Is it the responsibility of the man to make the first move? F: In some societies, women will never make the first move beyond returning a smile or glance. Generally, women WANT men to approach them. Not only do they feel womanly, but they will be assured that YOU are interested in them, instead of thinking you are humoring them by engaging in conversation which was initiated by the female. F: Since I am shy I always wait for the man to make the first move..but I do try to send signals if I’m interested in someone like eye contact and a big smile. F: YES! I think that is the best way. Unfortunately, in the US women think that because we must be “equal” that it includes making moves on men first. F: I don’t feel it is the “responsibility” of the man, I have approached many men over the years, but it does help a woman if the man says hello and begins a conversation. F: No, but if he doesn’t, he should make a return move back quickly if he is interested. Women need to feel that they are wanted and if a guy does not do his share of the moves, then she will not feel right about the relationship. Shyness and insecurity on a man’s part is not attractive even if the woman chooses to look beyond that and make the first move. Question #3: Is it practical for women to approach men? (when, where, how) F: It’s practical in almost every situation for a woman to go up and approach a man.. if you want something.. you should go for it. M: My experience is women can be very creative about approaching guys. Where? grocery store is good. When? You have to take advantage of the opportunity that presents itself. How? Walk up, Smile and ask a question as an ice breaker. F: You’re hanging out someplace, you notice this guy seems to be looking at you a lot. You think he’s nice, why not say Hi. Look up, smile, and say Hi. If he is interested, he’ll come right over. Question #4: What can women do to let a man know that his advances would be welcome? F: By talking and smile and showing that she is pleased that he is talking with her. Making small gestures, pretending that there is an eyelash on his cheek and gently removing it allows for them to get closer and to initiate some form of touch. F: Women can let men know that his advances are welcome very simply by making direct eye contact and a sweet smile. If you really want to get your message across slightly nod your head (just a little) while still making eye contact and to get even more sensual about it slowly lick your top lip, just your top lip slowly, followed by a crooked little grin. Body language is important so uncross your arms if they are crossed. M: Flirting has always worked with me. M: For me, the best thing someone can do is just come out and tell me. F: Body language is the biggest factor in deciding whether someone is approachable or not. Question #5: Are bars a viable option for finding a “meaningful relationship?” F: Bars are great if you’re just interested in a one night stand, or if you’re interested in meeting a married man or a traveler. Coffee shops seem to have replaced bars for a meeting place. M: No. Too many alcoholics, desperate people, or people who’ s lives are already a mess. They are searching for pleasure, not love. NO- not for a meaningful relationship. Usually people in bars are not in their right minds- especially if they’ve been drinking or smoking. They dress up and are not their “usual” selves, which is what you would want to see if you planned on being with someone forever. There are people who have met at bars and have developed meaningful relationships but I personally feel that bars are a high risk option. Unless there is a lot of dancing going on – most people who go to bars go to drink and your chances of meeting a person with problems is probably higher in a bar than at a single social function. F: Well i married the man i met at a bar and danced all night with……. and I didn’t think it would ever turn into a relationship….. just goes to show … you never can tell.. so don’t risk missing your chance #5. Other Comments: M: Get over your fear and talk to people, men and women. As a result of these conversations you will meet people, and some of those people will be date-able. I had a conversation once with a man at a bar and minutes later his very attractive female friend returned and I was successful in dating her, because we met by me being introduced by her friend. F: Always be yourself……. always be friendly….. you will impress them much more with who you are then who you want them to think you are….. M: My advise is: Just be yourself. Q: How does it [pheromone supplementation] work to add fire to a long term relationship? A: Based mainly on the many letters I get, this situation is one of the hardest areas in which to notice change, but I personally and many others have had some luck. Changes take longer than with folks you don’t know very well, so they don’t seem so dramatic. In my experience, people you know well tend to get you pegged and don’t rely on their nose so much. Also, if you saw my recent article in December’s Pheromone News (http://love-scent.com/zine/issues) you know that as people get older not only does their pheromone production go down, so does their ability to detect and react to pheromones. In my case, my wife is 20 years younger than I am so pheromones are perfect for me. I am nearly 50, so my natural pheromone levels are low, but my wife is only 30 and reacts rather strongly to the popular products I have tried. I don’t know how long your “long term” relationship is, but in any case, don’t let me discourage you if you want to give supplementation a try anyway. Virtually all products are guaranteed to get results these days. Give it a try. If you don’t see results, get your money back. Another thing to remember: As I’m sure you know, marriage is a very complex social experience. Keeping the fires going is a many many sided project. Good Luck, **Hey Readers** Want to put your 2 cents in on this one? See this month’s survey below! I came across a fascinating article on the internet some time ago entitled “Can Animals Really Smell Fear?” by Sharon Lynn. On rereading it again this morning however, it finally dawned on me how crucial this information is to a useful understanding of the role that pheromones play in our daily lives. To review for a moment, if you’ve been reading the Pheromone News, you may remember that pheromone production is closely tied to hormone production in the body. In fact, hormones are the building blocks from which pheromones are made as they (hormones) are secreted out of the body in our sweat and acted upon by the bacteria on our skin. Since most folks reading this e-zine are interested primarily in pheromones in their role as sexual attractant, we have focused mainly on the known sex-attractors, namely: copulins and the two andro pheromones (androstenone and androstenol). Quite naturally enough, these pheromones are strongly linked with the production of their corresponding sex hormones, but is that really all the information that is of interest to us as social creatures? Here is an illustration. In the world of commercial pheromones for men, we are looking at only two available active ingredients, androstenone and androstenol. As the “andro” would seem to imply, in nature the production of both of these pheromones is directly related to the well-known male sex hormone, testosterone. And from what I’ve read, it seems reasonable to assume for the time being, that if a certain male is high in testosterone, he will be high in the popular male andro pheromones as well. Now, as you may or may not know, when professional athletes take “steroid” drugs, what they are actually shooting for (literally) is a dramatic increase in testosterone levels, which in turn is well-known for dramatically increasing muscle mass, strength, and endurance, AND apparently pheromone levels. So, does taking steroids automatically turn one into the hotest stud-muffins in town? Well, as we say here in Japan, “so nani amakunai” (it ain’t that sweet). After reading the article about animals and fear I realized the innate weakness of testosterone boosting programs as a means of achieving pheromone dominance. High testosterone may well lead to high sex pheromones (of which we know of only two so far), but can just as easily break down into any of thousands of other pheromones that may have positive, neutral or even very negative effects on our social situation. Towering youthful or drug-induced sex hormone levels are also linked to higher levels of the cortico-steroid or “stress hormones” in the body, which I am now convinced break-down into their own particular stress pheromones on our skin and breath. The message “I am seriously stressed out here” may be of use if you are waving a gun around and trying to get a bank guard to open a safe for you, but is not likely to get you where you want to go if you’re looking for the love of your life at your local church social. “Stress pheromones?!?!” Smelling like fear? Don’t believe it? A writer and dog trainer for the “K-9 Academy, Law Enforcement Trainer’s Resource Center” says you can easily train a dog to “pick out people who are afraid” and continues: “a guilty person’s odor is coming out like a smoke bomb and smells of fear.” And another trainer, Morris R. Atwell, who works specifically with dogs that are being trained to find dead bodies, relates that although on occasion they have the opportunity to use “real live” dead bodies for training, when none are available, they must use dummies and a synthetic bottled scent (ie: commercial pheromone-like substance!). I swear I am not making this up…the fragrance goes by the name “Fear and Trauma.” Woman at the fragrance counter (in a soft breathy voice): “Would you like to try our latest men’s cologne? It’s veeeery sexy! It’s ‘Fear and Trauma’ by Calvin Kline. They say it brings out your ‘inner cadaver’. It drives me wild! Try a little.” But in any case, don’t forget to smile! Since last month’s survey was so heavily slanted towards singles, this month I’d like to focus on the needs of us married folk. As usual those of the opposite persuasion (ie singles) are invited to help out here. I’m sure there are plenty of you that have logged more successful “long-term relationship” miles than many of the officially hitched crowd. After the Honeymoon I never thought it would happen, but I’ve finally reached a point in my life where I watch a 90 minute romantic comedy like “Pretty Woman” (for example), and as the final credits roll across the screen I have to turn to my wife and say “Now the interesting part is about to begin….brooding New York millionaire marries screwball California prostitute after a one week courtship.” I mean really….if you wanted to bet on the success of that relationship, just think of the odds you could get with the median American marriage survival rate running around 50%. Well, saving the entire institution of marriage goes way beyond the scope of this zine, but if we put our heads together here, maybe we can come up with some ideas on putting a little romantic fire and fun back in our long-term relationships once that initial glow has worn off and we’ve been in and out of the trash a few times. 1. What do you think can be done to fuel and/or rekindle romantic feelings in a long-term relationship? 2. What are some of the pitfalls that couples fall into that destroy natural romantic feelings, and how can those pitfalls be avoided/repaired? 3. Your age, sex and marital (relationship) status Other comments: —————————————– Send completed surveys to: |
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Pheromone News December,1999
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December, 1999 Hello Again Readers, It’s getting close to Christmas. Lots of snow here in Sendai. This will be the first Christmas we didn’t run off to Thailand to escape the cold. Our four year old wanted to have a *real* Christmas this year. OK, real Christmas it is. I put 200 feet of Christmas lights on our house and garden and folks are coming from miles around to see the “weird foreigners’ house.” FREE pheromones! Merry Christmas, I’m also interested in printing personal experiences with pheromones, so if you have something to enter in that area please send it in. I can leave your name off or print it as you like. Pheromone News may be distributed freely, if the sign-up information is included. Original material is copyright protected. Send articles and personal stories to: |
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Pheromone News November,1999
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December, 1999 Hello Again Readers, It’s getting close to Christmas. Lots of snow here in Sendai. This will be the first Christmas we didn’t run off to Thailand to escape the cold. Our four year old wanted to have a *real* Christmas this year. OK, real Christmas it is. I put 200 feet of Christmas lights on our house and garden and folks are coming from miles around to see the “weird foreigners’ house.” FREE pheromones! Merry Christmas, I’m also interested in printing personal experiences with pheromones, so if you have something to enter in that area please send it in. I can leave your name off or print it as you like. Pheromone News may be distributed freely, if the sign-up information is included. Original material is copyright protected. Send articles and personal stories to: Love Scent pheromone Store pheromone products ========================================== *November’s Survey/Contest Results WINNERS: —————– RESULTS: (Name of cologne and number of readers reporting it as their favorite) –The following perfumes and colognes had one vote each:– Natural scents and essential oils: (type and number of users) -Many readers reported special application spots for “special occasions” (hmmm?): SELECTED QUOTES: “I use fragrance for different reasons, for work to keep myself smelling nice, for play, and to feel better about myself, and finally as a means of self expression, your choice of perfume is a reflection of yourself.” “I use scents because they make me feel a certain way . They add a certain kind of “boost” to my working day. They wake up my “spirits” so to speak . Others enjoy my scent that I put off when I am at work . I work in surgery , under hot lights. I have found that certain smells give off a “Valium like” effect for all of those in the room . And if you are the patient , you want your doctor to be relaxed !” “I usually use a fragrance because it somehow uplifts my spirits, so much so that I have a new air about me. Suddenly I am more confident and secure, mind you not all fragrances do this, but the one’s I pick do. This is an added benefit to me because I am in sales, so if I smell good, I am confident and thus my numbers (sales volume) are way up…” “Why do I use fragrance? I love the way I smell and the reaction I get when I have a particular fragrance on. When I wear Amber Romance by Victoria’s Secret I feel more sexy and more attractive. I have actually noticed the different reactions I get from men when I have that fragrance on compared to my other perfumes. They seem more attentive to me and I am more confident around them.” (re: vanilla scent) ========================================== Q: I have been using a pheromone supplement now for about 4 days. I haven’t had any luck yet. I have even been to a club with lots of women. Any suggestions? I do smile and all that other good stuff. I haven’t had this experience where women are just coming up to me. I have tried to notice the women around me, but none look over interested or anything. If there is more I can do or anyone has any ideas please let me know. A: Hello Robert, All that said though, the approaching part is traditionally the man’s job (fortunately or unfortunately) and by waiting for women to make the first move you are limiting your possibilities severely. You are on the right track looking around for some eye contact. I’ve found that a lot of women will go that far, and once you get a friendly smile from someone, it is a short step from there to come up with a “Hello” and see if you get a response. One step at a time. I think one of the great fallacies that shy guys hold on to is that being “not shy” means you have to walk up cold to a total stranger who is paying no attention to you whatsoever and entertain her for hours without getting any encouragement. Keep in mind that pheromones whether natural or out of a bottle only make you more “attractive” to others. That is a powerful thing of course, but doesn’t make people do irrational things. I see very attractive women on the street every day but I don’t approach any of them for a number of reasons. Putting some extra pheromones on such a woman and turning her from a 9.9 into a “10” isn’t going to change my behavior at all. Sometimes I even get close enough to get a good whiff of a women in a public place and think to myself: “God, what a great smell!” But still no attack, not even a word uttered. Bars were always a rough row to hoe for me. I would much rather try to find someone in a situation where I will likely see the same person again within a week or so. There is much less pressure then. This could mean at work, a sports club, church or anyplace where you see more or less the same people regularly. In such a situation you just present yourself as you really are (a decent helpful sort of a person???) smile and be friendly to everyone. If a woman catches your eye (or vice versa) all you have to do is come up with a little “Hi, how’s it going?” and see what happens. That is 90% of the battle in my mind, and not so hard to do. Maybe only a few words are exchanged, but that is often enough. Tomorrow or next week you can pick up from there. If you plant enough “friendly seeds” some will grow. Another thing about bars to keep in mind is that everyone is at least a little drunk and all types of sensory stimulation are at the max (loud music, over acting, smoke etc). You might need a lot more cologne of any type to get a reaction under such conditions, so experiment with that. Finally, 4 days is very short. Maybe Brad Pitt can come up with the woman of his dreams in 4 days, but I wouldn’t want to base my self worth on being able to do it. It takes time. “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find one prince (or princess)” as has been said. Keep the faith. It’s part of the success package. All the Best, **Hey Readers** Want to put your 2 cents in on this one? See this month’s survey below! When I started writing this article, I thought I had a pretty clear idea on the subject, but I am still in shock from what I found. Probably anyone reading this article is aware of and concerned about the effects on their love-life of the scent they give off, but what about the effects of your own ability to *perceive* smells? How does this affect romance? Those of you who have been following the Pheromone News for a while will remember the reader survey we had last October (results posted in the November issue) concerning the importance of scent on sexual arousal and “falling in love.” Readers rated their feelings about the importance of scent on sexual arousal, giving it an 8 out of 10, and the effects of smell on “falling in love” only a 6. Well, after posting those results, I received an e-mail from pheromone researcher, James Kohl who says science begs to differ. If fact, there is scientific evidence that it is virtually *impossible* to fall in love without a sense of smell. Shocking as it may seem, individuals born with the genetic defect known as Kallmann’s Syndrome are unable from birth to smell anything and apparently as a result show no interest in either sex or romantic love. In the animal world, experiments have been done in which the VNO (part of the smelling apparatus that perceives pheromones) is destroyed at birth in subjects who are otherwise completely healthy. When these animals reach adulthood, they quite simply do not mate. If the VNO is destroyed *after* sex has been experienced, the animal may continue to show interest in mating, but without that initial experience, romance, at least for a male pig, does not happen. At first it is difficult to believe that we are so entirely dependent on our sense of smell for sexual arousal and the experience of romantic love. Imagine that you are completely alone in your home, sit down in a comfortable chair and pop an x-rated film into your video machine. No pheromones, no smells, just naked bodies and well…sounds. For most of us, (and there is even research to back this up too) the reaction is powerful. How can this be, though, if sexual arousal depends on smell. Hold onto your chairs folks, but after reading research on the subject I am convinced that this arousal based on visual and auditory stimuli is 100% caused by conditioning. Just like Pavlov’s famous dogs, that salivate to the sound of a bell, porn movies turn us on because of earlier associations between visuals and the smell of sex pheromones. Individuals who are born blind or deaf can and do lead normal sex lives, but individuals born without a sense of smell (anosmia) do not. What does this mean to the vast majority of individuals who have a “normal” sense of smell? Quite a bit more than you would think. #1. More than 1% of those you run into on the street, in clubs or wherever you go, can not smell anything. This means that no matter how low-cut your dress or tight your pants, they don’t get it, or have to depend on their memory to understand the implications. #2. Our sense of smell is not just strong or weak, each individual has an entirely unique smelling ability grid. According to a survey conducted by National Geographic, individuals vary greatly as to what they can and can not smell. Normal healthy individuals may be able to detect certain smells accurately, and be completely unable to detect other smells. For example, half of all women surveyed were unable to identify the smell of a banana without visual cues. Men, what this means is that half of all the women you run into on the street are completely unable to tell whether you have a banana in your pocket or are just glad to see them! [ Sorry. I just had to say that] No, really that doesn’t mean anything, but what does mean something is that only 71% of the women surveyed and 67% of the men could detect the sex pheromone androstenone. So no matter how “ripe” you are scent-wise, 30% of the folks you run into aren’t “getting it”, at least not very loud and clear. Ready for another shocker? The ability to detect androstenone, which is already starting to look like an indicator of how heavily “sexed” we are, varies not only from individual to individual, but from country (culture) to country as well. For example 75% of Latin American men can smell androstenone loud and clear, compared to only 63% of the men living in the US. Surprised? No? OK, and who ranks number one world-wide in the ability to detect androstenone? (envelope please…) Africa, with a 78% detection rate for men and a whopping 85% for women! One more interesting point though. What 3 countries (cultures) do you think have the widest gap between men and women in the ability to detect pheromones? (ie: frustrated women living with guys who don’t “get it”) And the winner is…..Asia, the Caribbean and the UK!!!!! Hey, I’m not making this up, so no angry letters please. I’m just writing down the statistics. You draw your own conclusions. One thing I have to say in defense of the sexuality of my native USA, in regards to these results, is that as a nation we must be the most paranoid about body smell, (with the probable exception of Japan, the country I live in now), due undoubtably to the marketing efforts of antibacterial soap and deodorant companies. I have on a number of occasions gotten angry letters from the US complaining that pheromone products containing nothing more than synthetic androstenone and androstenol smell like “BO.” #3. Our sense of smell goes through a strength curve similar to that of our sex hormone levels, which peaks out around the age of 20 and fall very quickly as we hit old age. Science shows us that this loss of smell in and of itself, diminishes our interest in sex and romance! By the way, this gradual loss of smell is not completely unavoidable. A number of environmental factors are likely involved. At the forefront being tobacco smoke and prescription medications, but I would guess a whole host of air pollutants both indoor and outdoor are to blame. Some caution might be advisable. But just in case, don’t forget to smile! This month’s survey is for the benefit of all you single readers who are searching for that special other. I never rule anyone out of the surveys though, so all you attached folks, please share your expertise on…… “SAYING HELLO” 1. Where would you advise a single person to look for a mate? Comments: (please share a few sentences of advice on “meeting someone”) As usual, I will pick prize winners from the survey entries at the rate of at least 1 per 50 entries. Last month there were 148 entries (up from 125 the month before) and 3 winners, which gave entrants about a 1 in 50 chance of winning. Send completed surveys to: Date-Mate pheromone Spray http://love-scent.com/date-mate ========================================== JEWELRY SHOPPER ONLINE Superb sterling silver and 14K gold jewelry at ridiculously low prices. http://jewelry-shopper.com ================================================ –From “The Lonely Guy” starring Steve Martin– ================================================ “Last month I purchased your product and wore it to a party, the guys were falling all over themselves to be around me. I’ve never had trouble attracting men but I definitely noticed a difference in attitudes. It seemed to make them not only sexually attracted to me but also very protective of me. I guess it made them feel like real MEN.” Liz In the mood for some laughs? ================================================= Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming! Feel free to distribute this newsletter freely as long as you include the following sign-up information: You can also join this list by sending a blank e-mail message to: Bruce Boyd |
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