August, 2000

Hello Readers,

Hope you are all well. We are starting to see some red dragonflies here in Japan, the traditional sign that Fall is on the way, and I, for one, am glad to see the steam and heat of our Japanese summer clear off and make way for the deep blue skies and cool weather we will soon be getting.

Want a free bottle of pheromones? Remember to send in a survey this month! I always pick at least two respondents at random for a free bottle of their choice. Summer response has been VERY low, so your chances of winning are VERY high! With this issue readers Ric and Bill both won something.

Please have a good read, and don’t forget to smile at someone today!
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Know your websites! Scams, phony sites and bootleg products are popping up on the internet faster than weeds in my vegetable garden, which is pretty bad, I can tell you. I never thought the words and letters in my domain name could be rearranged in so many creative ways. 😉 I guess I should take it as a compliment, however….
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Bruce Boyd
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This Issue’s pheromone “News”:

*Last Month’s Survey/Contest Results
*pheromone Q and A
*The pheromone Blueprint and its Utility in Mate Selection
-Bruce Boyd
*This month’s “Free pheromones” Survey/Contest
*New Products
*User Corner; Reader pheromone Stories
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**LAST MONTH’S** SURVEY

WINNERS:
Our drawing winners are:
Erin and Bill
~*Congratulations!*~
They will both get a free bottle of a popular pheromone product of their choice.
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THE QUESTIONS (last month)
Please share what you know about any and all information systems and training programs that might be useful to readers in winning (in the larger sense) at the dating game.
NLP, self-hypnosis, subliminal tapes, positive thinking, meditation, prayer, magic spells… you name it, if it works for you, tell us about it. We want to know.

THE RESULTS:
Several folks wrote in to say that they felt all such approaches as mentioned in the survey question were either of no help or worse… heading in the wrong direction, and perhaps the very low survey response rate is an indication that many others of you feel the same way. On the other hand, some of the responses you will see below offer some hope that “self-help” programs can be of some assistance in finding and maintaining a healthy relationship.

Now have a look at the….

Selected highlights!

Being a novice in the dating field, I found the very best approach was simply to wait. About 3 or 4 years ago I developed an interest in Wicca because I thought casting love spells would assist me in discovering a mate; however, after many months of trying and having no success, I decided it was not the proper path. I have been told countless times by countless people that I have to like myself before others will like me. This approach didn’t quite work either – I’m no longer single but I’m still down on myself. After many years of unsuccessful attempts at getting a date, I more or less just gave up, until one day I saw a man and said to myself ‘I’m going to ask him out.’ It worked. So I would simply say just be yourself and don’t rely on gimmicks or prayers or anything of the sort, they don’t work.. and ladies, look for a date in the middle of the month, if you know what I mean.
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Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is primarily a communication technology, originally developed for use by psychologists and psychiatrists. Yes, NLP can certainly be handy for dating. But NLP primarily teaches HOW people communicate (which, of course, will enable a person to communicate better with their intended “object person”.) NLP is also (and primarily) used to change embedded behavioral patterns that aren’t working for an individual. It is a “personal growth technology”~and an excellent one. Any books by Bandler and Grinder or Virginia (can’t remember her last name, but she is mentioned in Bandler & Grinder’s books) would be excellent. There’s one called “Frogs into Princes” that should be invaluable to people who are serious about having relationships that work. Speaking of which, for people who ARE serious about having good relationships, I highly recommend the books and workshops of John Gray. I did my workshops with him in Carmel, CA but I’m sure information can be found online. And for the definitive workshops in having healthy relationships, I recommend those by Terry Gorski. He actually “chunks it down” for you: Healthy Relationship vs Unhealthy Relationship. Excellent. If you want to get out of the “cycle of pain” of addictive, codependent, and toxic relationships, do Gorski’s workshops. If you’re already IN a relationship, do the workshops WITH your significant other, so that you will both be “armed” with the “information to win”.
Good Luck!
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I see that you have heard of the NLP methods, you can go to www.seduction.com to learn more about it, it is a site by Ross Jeffries the leader in NLP for “bagging women!” This stuff works to when I can afford his expensive tapes I am going to use it in conjunction with the pheromones, cause I know those work too.
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I think that it’s just cheating you and your potential mate to use NLP, self-hypnosis, subliminal tapes, positive thinking, meditation, prayer, magic spells… If the other person falls for you based upon someone that you aren’t, eventually your true demeanor will appear and then where will you be? In DIVORCE court. Just be yourself
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In response to the survey, I have found that just being down to earth and natural is the real way to go. No books, tapes etc. If one is right within their self (with God), and project that feeling towards another human being, that should be the first area of communication between people. “Keep it Real”.
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When trying to get a date or even attend one I always find it a plus if I plan the whole evening in my head. Even if plans get interrupted your basic outlines for the evenings happenings make you seem cool and laid back. But be careful, still try and appear spontaneous at some moments. Always keep your cool. When you approach a girl just think to yourself all she can say is now. This confidence really helps, but watch out for being cocky.
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I’m not exactly a Romeo, so I’m not sure what this is worth, but: what has always worked best for me is openness and sincerity. You think she’s a knockout? Say so! You want to make love with her? Smile into her eyes and tell her so! Of course, getting close enough to say *anything* to her is always problematic; the “How To…” books definitely have some useful tips there. I’ve never tried the Ross Jeffries seduction techniques, though; they seem to me to be dehumanizing…
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Surely the ultimate win in the dating game is a happy lifelong marriage. Is there a way to predict whether it will last? My 20-year marriage was recently destroyed by my (now ex-) wife, so again I’m not sure I’m the best source of advice here, but: look at her (or his) parents and siblings. No, brothers and sisters don’t all turn out the same, but they all grew up in roughly the same environment, and were formed by the same influences. If the other siblings all had broken marriages, or if a parent was alcoholic, that tells you something about the likely fate of *your* relationship. Ignore it (as I did) at your peril…
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I read somewhere that if you wanted to cast a love spell, all you had to do was get two candles, preferably red, and write your wish (such as “I wish to meet my soulmate”) and put them on a little table and every night you light the candles and say the wish. Who knows, maybe it works!
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I’ve found that when I was trying to get this certain guy he didn’t want to be with me. Then I stopped trying and became his friend. Then he started to like me more. He fell in love with me and he said he wanted to marry me. I also use my eyes. The eyes are a very important thing. Don’t stare or glare. Just look at them like you are looking through them. I’ve been able to get alot of people with my eyes.
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I have tried subliminal messages in tapes on women and the results have been mixed. Some women don’t do anything, but most others get excited. One woman even asked for the tape after listening to it for a while. One thing I noticed though, the messages are covered by jazz music. All the women who got the message enjoy jazz. So maybe it depends on if they like whats playing.
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Prayer often works for me as I am a follower of the ancient Trycrathian God of sex, Hortidias. I pray every Thurs. night during the 15 rotation of the “Zorphias” period of the moon at 6:42 PM (2nd waning period). The reason it’s at 6:42 PM and not at 6:00 PM is due to the difference and calendar and length of days compared to the Trycrathians. I find that after about two weeks of prayer for a specific female I will usually find her starting to notice me. But the difficult part is I have to have a lock of hair of the particular woman in question. Which can prove difficult, lol. I don’t know if you will believe me, as even my close friends don’t, but since you asked about anything that works for me, there you go. You will have a lot of trouble trying to research this, because it is an old secret society of ancient Assyria. I myself, would have never began the practice if it wasn’t for my family’s own library.
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I get weekly messages from Lifeminders, however, I have found that the only dating tip that works for me, is to just be yourself. Typically, just being yourself is what draws women to you. They usually like the honesty of character and No Bullshit situations better than having to figure out if a guy is just another scalawag. However, since I am currently VERY single, who should listen to me?
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I believe the most useful resource we have when it comes to one on one communication is honesty. If we are honest with ourselves, then we project a more positive self image, which gives us the the confidence we need to be honest with others. When we feel good about ourselves, others are drawn to us. Trust me, I spent years with low self esteem, doubting my self and my intentions. After lots of self analysis, and many unhappy times, I started thinking more positive thoughts, appreciating the beauty in all things, and SMILING. You would be amazed at the difference it has made in my life and the others around me. Never underestimate the power of a smile, it’s the most contagious thing we have ever encountered.
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I personally have never used any of these methods. I’ve always found that just being natural and yourself without any mumbo-jumbo is the best route to winning “the dating game.”
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I think the biggest thing people need to do to improve their dating game is love themselves. I would try to find “the right person” and nothing was working. I took on a new attitude and everything changed. I found myself and realized that I have to love myself before someone else will love me back. I was living for me when I found my now husband. I am a true believer that you should love yourself and love will then come to you. Happiness is contagious, if you are happy it will make others happy. If you love yourself it will make others love you more. You can’t promote a product you don’t love. Think about it!

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pheromone Q&A

Q: I’m kind of worried that these pheromones are similar to drugs. You need to use them always to get girls. What happens when you stop using them? Will your girlfriend stop loving you?

A: Good question! I like to compare them more to vitamins than to drugs, but pheromones do seem to create a “high” of some sort, and not only on the target but on the person wearing them. In fact, one very famous pioneer in the commercial pheromone industry emphatically claims that the magic of pheromones is 100% due to their effect on the wearer NOT the person you are trying to attract. I can personally testify to this effect of “getting off on your own pheromones.” I often apply unscented androstenone pheromone to my shirt collars and in idle moments press my nose to the fragrant spot and inhale deeply. There is definitely an energizing effect there, no question about it. If you want to see a VERY funny movie bit on this, check out the hysterical film “A Fish Named Wanda” with Kevin Cline. Very funny!

There is quite a bit of research that shows that pheromones and hormones are linked; that is when one goes up the other goes up as well. They play off of each other. Now whether it is a good idea to add to the fire with store-bought pheromones, I can not say. I am not a doctor. If I were a teenager, I probably wouldn’t bother with them. The average person’s hormones and pheromones are running wild at this time already, but from the 20s onward pheromone levels are dropping off like crazy, and you can see the effects on your sex life. As far as “will your girlfriend stop loving you”, anyone that has been married can tell you that “love” and chemical attraction are two very different things. Keeping the fire in your romance is an ongoing effort. Again, maybe it is better to just let nature take its course and get old gracefully, I don’t know. It is a personal decision, but there is no reason to think that pheromones are addictive in the sense that you develop a tolerance to them or that using artificial pheromones will shut off your own production of them. Personally, I think there is evidence that pheromones are “good for you” and set off a healthy spiral of increased confidence and romantic activity and thus a generally more healthy lifestyle.

One last thought on this subject….. Almost anything can become obsessive if you let it. One example is make-up. The use of make-up is a personal thing for women, and it can be a lot of fun and can also be very effective in attracting men, BUT it can also become a terrible weight if a woman feels that she can’t be seen without it. Being romantically “involved” with someone implies that you know what they look like without their make-up, and what they smell like without their cologne (or even a bath for that matter). Hopefully once you find Mr. or Miss “Right” you can settle into a comfortable agreement on the use of these little romantic aids, and that goes for everything doesn’t it…. candles, sexy underwear, incense, soft lights and on and on. You can get stuck on any of them, can’t you?

Bruce Boyd
Pheromone News
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Legal Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and therefore none of the information contained in this newsletter should be construed as medical advice. It is only my personal opinion based on research papers and books I have read on pheromones, my own personal experiences and those of others who have written to me.
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The pheromone Blueprint and its Utility in Mate Selection
Bruce Boyd

This article was inspired by an interesting experiment conducted in Switzerland by the zoologist, Claus Wedekind. It brings up an important point about pheromones that is usually overlooked by the public. On the fragrance market today there are only a handful of specific pheromone ingredients used, while in the laboratory several hundred human pheromones have been isolated so far. It also stands to reason that countless thousands more will be discovered in the future. What does this mean? It means that pheromones are not just something that a particular person has a lot of, and which therefore makes him/her more popular with everybody. Each and every individual has his/her own unique pheromone blueprint or “signature” as the scientist, James Kohl (pheromones.com) calls it. This personal pheromone collage in all probability gives those around us an accurate and complete picture of who and what we are without even opening their eyes, perhaps a more accurate impression than is available via the sense of sight. I wouldn’t be surprised if at sometime in the future, law enforcement authorities were able to identify criminals on the basis of “pheromoone-prints” left at the scene of a crime. In a horrifying scene in the movie “Leon”, a super-villain drug lord is able to “smell” that one of his dealers is lying to him, and there is little doubt left in the viewers mind that his ability is accurate.

But if these pheromone signals are real, and we are really broadcasting all our deepest secrets for all the world to see, how are they being picked up? Is it really via the sense of smell? Well, until recently, the overwhelming feeling among pheromone researchers was that pheromone signals are picked up by an entirely separate apparatus from those used to pick up smells. It is called the VNO, and all indications are that the VNO/pheromone system is worthy of being referred to as a new sense, perhaps the long sought after “sixth sense”. Even though I sincerely believe in the therapeutic and social value of the pheromone products that are available on the market today, it is clear that they represent a paltry offering compared to what is on the horizon for pheromone technology in the future.

The Wedekind study is interesting because it specifically deals with this pheromone blueprint, the relationship it has with an individual’s immune system type, and the ability of the human VNO to give us reliable information about others around us.

The experiment:
Male subjects were given a t-shirt and instructed to wear it to bed on two consecutive nights. The subjects were also given scentless soap and other toilet articles and told to use them only. At the end of this period all the t-shirts were put into boxes and rated by female subjects on the basis of smell alone. Some boxes were filled with new t-shirts to act as controls.

The results:
Female subjects preferred the boxes containing t-shirts that had been worn by males with dissimilar immune systems as rated by an MHC test. Many women said that the smells reminded them of old boy-friends, while shirts worn by men with similar immune systems reminded them of male family members.

From an evolutionary point of view, this phenomenon needs little explanation. It has long been noted that breeding within a large gene pool, where the chance of dissimilar gene-types mating increases, results in superior offspring, while the opposite conditions, often referred to as “inbreeding” has been shown to bring unfortunate results. The Windekind experiment seems to indicate that without knowing why, women prefer to mate with men with dissimilar immune systems, thereby increasing the chance of producing healthy offspring and can make this decision entirely on the basis of sensing the potential mate’s pheromone blueprint.

Just in case, don’t forget to smile!
Bruce
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Survey/Contest time!

THE AUGUST SURVEY QUESTION:
Well, I got a record low response to last month’s survey, but I am going to push my luck and continue in a somewhat similar vein anyway. I think most folks felt that last month’s survey was geared to tricks for helping “hook” a partner. While that was not exactly what I had in mind anyway, the best of what did come in last month offered some very good references to books and workshops that might be useful to folks looking to make their relationships (present and future) more “healthy”, so to say, so if you have any such useful references, here is your chance!

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THE QUESTION: What books, seminars, and/or other resources can you recommend to readers that might help them enrich their current relationships or modify their approach to dating in such a way as to increase their success in future relationships?
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Send completed surveys to:
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Please don’t mail this entire newsletter back to me. (for many reasons) Thanks!
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As usual, I will pick prize winners *at random* from the survey entries at the rate of at least 1 per 50 entries with a minimum of 2 winners each month. Last month there were only 17 entries (down from 28 the month before) and 2 winners (the minimum), which gave entrants a 1 in 9 chance of winning! You can’t beat that, so enter this time!

Send completed surveys to:
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Thank you all, and keep those articles and experiences coming!
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