I guess that the only thing i see
possible is to do something unhealthy so you become no longer aroused. Im also guessing that there are other
ways...unless yourstill going through puberty than it will nautraly stop.
Ok, this
post is probably crazy and off-the-wall given the nature of this forum, but I ask in all seriouness.
I happen to
be a woman who is, putting it politely, VERY sexually sensitive. Simply being next to a man makes me aware of his
maleness, regardless of his attributes. I get aroused very easily around a man I genuinely like and even just
sitting next to one can get me wet. And I'm not even trying to be crass here....it's not like I'm a nympho (far
from it!). It's just that my body is very responsive.
I can give a vivid illustration of my problem: a couple of
years back I worked as a cashier in between jobs. I was ringing up a customer and for some reason was very
flustered. Don't know why, he was very short and not THAT attractive. And he wasn't interested in me either.... I
barely registered on his radar. But I'm not one of those flirty people so I ignored him for the most part. I
refused to act all silly and flustered.
When giving him his change I briefly met his eyes in passing, barely a
second. But for some reason that brief eye contact shocked me so much that I orgasmed on the spot. Nothing big,
maybe four or five seconds. I acted all busy with the bags so nobody would know anything happened. Talk about
keeping composure. But that incident greatly shocked me, and still bothers me to this day. I can't figure out what
happened, and it made me extremely uneasy to know I could lose control like that. Looking back I realize he may have
had pheremones.
Nothing that dramatic has ever happened again, but I've had plenty of uncomfortable moments. I
don't like being out of control with my reactions and it absolutely bothers me. Especially when I'm trying to keep
a non-sexual and disinterested air about me. Most of these guys don't even know I exist, and in most instances I'm
not really interested in them either, even if I find them attractive. But it's like my body has a mind of it's
own.
I don't know if such a thing is feasible, but is there some way to shut down these responses? What is going
on here...chemistry, high sex hormones, or an overactive imagination? As a woman who likes being in control it's
very unnerving to not be able to tone down my reactions. Especially worse is when it's all one sided. Guys wonder
why I'm so nervous around them, but I guess they attribute it to shyness since I'm a naturally reserved
person.
ANYWAY, making a long post short, any suggestions? Perhaps there's a pheremone that deactivates my
sexual impulses, without repelling the other people around me? Because like I mentioned in a previous post, I need
pheremone help with making friends. It seems like my two problems are at cross purposes. Or do they cancel each
other out leaving me back at square one?
Oh, I don't even know anything anymore. Why the hell is everything
always so complicated?
I guess that the only thing i see
possible is to do something unhealthy so you become no longer aroused. Im also guessing that there are other
ways...unless yourstill going through puberty than it will nautraly stop.
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-Rub her feet?
No, I'm way past puberty.
Maybe I just have out-of-whack hormones.
Unhealthy things as in? Drugs? I'd rather just give in to my hormones
and have copious amounts of sex.
Or maybe it's my nose. Yeah, that's probably it. I think it could be
scent-associated since I find male scents very sexy. I'm probably picking up every single pheremone emitted by men.
I should just plug up my nose and go about my day. Wonder how people would react to that .....
You're just NAUGHTY BY NATURE, GND!Originally Posted by girlnextdoor
Never argue with ignorant people! They pull you down to THEIR level, and then they BEAT YOU with experience. Who said that!? I don't know, but tis gold I tell'ya!!
I think rather than shutting
down ANY part of you, it might be lots more productive - and way more fun - to learn how to relax and play. You seem
to feel that having these feelings is dangerous, but the fact that you have responses to people simply means you're
got a pulse - you're alive and human like the rest of us. MOBLEYC57 is right, you are naughty by nature! Flirt a
little ... it makes life sweeter for everyone.
Oh, and have more sex. If there's no partner in your life at
the moment, have it with yourself! You'll be more relaxed and have less of a hair trigger.
In your other
thread about friends, you asked about using pheromones to make yourself appear more receptive. 'Nol (like SOE) is
the best thing I've found for that, and I'll tell you it not only makes you appear that way, it makes you FEEL
that way, too. You are not impervious to your own pheromone signature ;-) SOE and other 'nol products make me
relaxed, social and chatty. Like you I've tend to be focused, task-oriented, practical ... SOE helps balance that
out and put the juice back in.
Depending on your own morals,
what's wrong with giving in to your hormones and having copious sex? Not suggesting with just anybody who comes
along but with somebody you like and respect and find attractive. Do you need a long term committed relationship?
One thing I think we all tend to forget is that we are animals first and foremost. Our bodies and our emotions
have needs that should be fulfilled to keep us healthy and stable. Silk is right that if you can't find a partner
go it alone. You'll feel better, have less of a hair trigger and be more able to relax around men. There is
absolutely nothing bad or sinful about it.
To compel a man to subsidize with his taxes the propagation of ideas which he disbelieves and abhors is sinful and tyrannical.
Thomas Jefferson
pent up sexuality + great nose +
very responsive body + inhibited mind = girlnextdoor
silksand and belg both make a good point. She sees it as a
disadvantage. Most girls (and probably guys) would kill for your phisical responsiveness. Use it to your
advantage.
Your reactions, while probably
untypical for women, are standard fare for young men. I used to get a woody at the mere sight, smell or thought of a
half way attractive female. I hated it because I had absolutely no control of over it and it happened at inopportune
times. Luckily no spontanous orgasms at work but they sometimes happened while making out, even if she wasn't
touching me. Usually the sound of her voice set me off. One moan and I was done for. I eventually learned to hammer
my rod before a date. It takes the edge off of sexual urgency and puts things back under control.
"I'm just a dirty hornytoad" -Gegogi
Eye contact!! Powerful stuff,
right? I don't think it's that bad GND. Eye contact is a powerful thing. It triggers a fight or flight response in
your body. This happens to ALL guys and girls. Guys do not have control over their sexual responses also but they
learn to live with it. Guys get turned on just by the smell of a woman, by looking at a woman or by a simple touch.
You are over examining yourself. It's ok to be turned on, there's nothing wrong with it.
Out of all my friends,
I'm probably the one that is not normal. I go to love-scent, read speed seduction books, read self improving books,
overactive, silent and distant. I'm probably the only guy in my college that read "Men are from mars and women are
from venus". My friends think I'm a little weird also but I get a lot of attention from women. I know I'm weird
but I also know it's ok. It's fun not being normal or not being ordinary. So enjoy. Enjoy your life and stop
worrying and putting yourself down.
Good news.Originally Posted by Gegogi
I thought I was the only one.
Actually I don't think it's that odd
for women. Just that some cultures tend to keep it under wraps. I have many male friends that think Russian girls
are irresistable, but most don't look much different from American girls. They do tend to be more open about their
sexuality. And it seems to kind of radiate from their every gesture.
Give truth a chance.
Do us all aOriginally Posted by Bkflip
favour and don't post something so irresponsible again. You have a resonsibility in this world - one day somebody
might listen to you.
Actually, I do it a lot. I'm rather embarassed to say this, but for example, I already did it threeOriginally Posted by silksand
times today. And yet I still have the same reactions. It's not that I have sex on the brain 24 hrs, but when I get
near a man I find remotely attractive I start feeling sensual for lack of a better term. I'm convinced it's
a pheremone thing since it's almost an instinctual reaction. The guy can be unattractive and yet I still want to
throw him down.
But I guess you're right. Maybe I need to find a long-term partner to shower all my sexual
energy on. It's hard enough to find a good guy, but now I gotta find one who doesn't think I want too much sex
Thanks for your help, it's always nice to get a girl's perspective on things.
To a.k.a and Geogi, welcome to the club!Originally Posted by a.k.a.
No, I don't have a
problem with being sexually aroused. I don't think it's a bad thing.
My problem is that it happens at
inopportune moments, the male equivalent of getting a woody in public. Not that people can really tell in females,
but it's extremely uncomfortable for me.
But I guess it could be worse. This is one of the few times I thank god
for not having a penis!
Thanks everyone for your
input.
It's not that I'm uptight about it or think it's dangerous or something. I enjoy sex and being sexual,
but I also think there's a time and place for it. Maybe it would be different if I were a hot model, but in real
life I'm a staid career person who just happens to be a little wild behind closed doors. The thing is I'd like it
to stay behind closed doors. It's not very appropriate to roll around on a conference table in front of
clients because I'm feeling a little hot.
As for having copious sex (thank you for that helpful suggestion
Belgareth ) I just can't. Much as I try I can't do the casual sex roll. And it's hard to get into long-term
relationships.
Good god, I'm thinking of turning lesbian. All my problems would be solved. I only wish there was
some easy pheremone solution instead.
There might be.
You
could try using some men's products to desensitise yourself.
Could be worth a try, maybe with some TE gels or
a bottle of TE as they aren't that expensive. In fact, getting the free men's samples might be a plan.
I work in a corporate environment where appearances are taken wayOriginally Posted by girlnextdoor
too seriously for my liking. For example, I know a very competent PR director that got fired a few months ago. I
asked my CEO what happened and, of course, he wouldn’t tell me any specifics. He said, “She just didn’t take her job
seriously enough. You could tell by the way she dresses. All those low cut blouses and spiked heels...”
I
manage a department where most of the staff is female, and some of them are very cute.
I’ve noticed many
people that play around with harmless flirtation, but I never do. I dress ultra-conservative (even though I’m
ultra-liberal in real life), I look everybody in the eye (which is hard enough, since I’m a sucker for big dark
eyes), I never make sexual jokes, and I never ever talk about my love life. (Last year I took my girlfriend to a
company party and people were shocked that I even had a love life.)
Also, the only pheromone I wear to work is
Chikara. That’s because it’s a great power pheromone with my body chemistry and I get very few sexual reactions from
it.
But here’s my biggest secret. I play a little mind game with myself so that I view, and treat, all
the women I work with as daughters or sisters. It took a while before I started noticing results, but now it’s
second nature. And a couple of weeks ago I was happy to overhear one of my employees say that I was like a big
brother to her.
Give truth a chance.
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