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Bigdog, I hope I\'m wrong, but I see red flags

all over the place here...seriously. Fortunately, you abstained the first time. Until you know a lot more,

don\'t escalate the intimacy...maybe she\'s different, but most people save the serious skeletons in their

closets until after things get closer...if she has even more to share than she\'s told you so far, then that\'s

a hell of a lot of baggage...

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Set expectataions, let her know up

front that u are sympathetic but hold off a little on the intamacy (your post is a few months old so it may be too

late).
Honesty is important so make your feelings clear.


DCW