Mones to Heat Up My Sex Life

[DrSmellThis]

Here's

the situation: I'm 32, and I live with my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years. For the past 2 years, I've

been on the Pill. It completely killed my sex drive over time. I just stopped taking it, and we have agreed to use

condoms for a while so I can get my sex drive back. What does everybody recommend for getting my bf's and my motors

running again? I want hot sex again!! We need serious help. The less you have sex, the less you want it. Since I

haven't wanted it, he's barely wanted it. I want us to have great sex like we used to before my sex drive took a

nosedive.

Please help

Good question. You are correct that the pill can kill attraction and intimacy

betweeen people. It did the only time a girlfriend of mine ever tried it. The pill is shown in research to change

your attraction to almost the opposite kind of people you normally should be attracted to in some respects. So it

will distort your true chemistry with a person; and with all others. Don't blame yourselves when it could just be a

temporary biological cause.

As far as products, you might try anything with copulins and -nol, and then mix that

with Edge for women, which has things in it that will affect you as well as your boyfriend. But pheromones won't

cure everything by themselves, even if they can help significantly.

You both need to accept each others'

sexualities, which might not be exactly as you would dial it up in your shiny knight fantasies.

It ain't going

to happen because both of you sort of wish it would. You want to really hold the intention of improving your sex

life, without forcing anything. Forcing sexual vibes on a guy can shut down his plumbing and confidence, which

depend on being relaxed.

Go easy on the alcohol and drugs, because these inhibit sexual response even if they

help with inhibitions. Your liver plays a role with sex hormones.

Create situations where both of you can be very

relaxed and stress free. This state of being is the foundation for sexual arousal, especially for people with sexual

issues and problems. Trust me, because I don't want to explain all the biology here.

Examine your attitudes

about sexuality and your boyfriend's sexuality. If you aren't "sex positive", and sex positive toward your

boyfriend, you have an issue.

What is your personal stumbling block toward letting yourself go and letting

yourself experience intimacy? Do you have trust issues, for example, or commitment issues, etc? You need to be to an

extent master of these issues, to really wrap yourself around them and negotiate it so it's not trashing your sex

life.

For a woman, testosterone is a major hormonal reason for horniness. Anything that gets the kick ass macho

hormones flowing in you will likely also make you horny; perhaps some kind of physical activity or a roller derby

show. You get the drift. You could also boost testosterone nutritionally, with supplements or whatever. Sasparilla

is an herb that does this, although there are other ones. Make some natural root beer, as both those herbs boost

testosterone. But again, there is much to research here.

If it doesn't repulse you too much, you can try some

porn of different "genres". You can go into it with the idea that you are just going to be open minded and expand

the kind of things and situations you can be aroused by, or expand your level of arousal for known arousing

situations. I also suggest porn because it is directly related to a part of typical male sexuality that it is

helpful for a woman to understand/accept. So it can sometimes be a bridge builder.

Most guys want acceptance and

love. Trust is essential as well. Foster these things in yourself and you will foster conditions necesssary for

intimacy.

Where you have the conditions necessary for intimacy in an emotional sense, you will have conditions

necessary for sex.

Hopefully your boyfriend is also willing to work on having a better sex life. But we can't

really advise him when he's not here.

If it doesn't work, which I really hope it does, I'll be happy to come

over and screw you silly.

[sexycat]

Thanks for all the great

responses

We have a great relationship, and I know he is willing to work on a healthy sex life. I'm

trying to get my sexy back, but it's hard I think it may take a while for my body to get used to being off the

pills. I really want to plan a night where I can put on some sexy lingerie, put a couple dabs of mones on and

seduce my man I also want to buy some pornos to watch in the privacy of our bedroom. I want to make sex fun

again. I will look into some testosterone supplements too. I used to be horny all the time before the pill. I've

always been a very sexual person, and to lose that you just feel like a shell of yourself. I've been so depressed

because I don't feel sexy or even think about sex. I hope my libido comes back soon.

[Rbt]

I've seen in similar discussions in

women's subforums here and elsewhere that The Pill can have a negative effect on the production of what are known

as copulins (you might want to do some searches on that term here and say on Google or Wikipedia for more info).



A product like Essence of Woman is pretty much straight cops, can stink to high heaven, but can get some guy's

motors *really* running. Usually needs to be mixed or blended in something and often be highly diluted. A pre-mixed

product with copulins in it may be the safest way to start.

My thoughts.

[sexycat]

I've never worn cops before.

I know they are very powerful. I would only be wearing them in the privacy of my own home with my guy Is this

something I can dab on my neck and then cover with some fragrance or do you have to actually dilute it with the

perfume and then apply??

Great board. You peeps have been so nice and helpful

[Rbt]

Hopefully one of the other women

with experience with EoW can answer your specific questions. I've heard it can be pretty stinky stuff and hard to

cover. Very very little goes a long way.

[Whitehall]

Apply the copulins to your twat

(public hairs). That the natural source anyway.

A close lady friend just got on the pill and it is already

going downhill sexually after only two weeks. Before, she was desparate, Now, merely tolerant.

Going for a

trip together will often re-ignite a sexual relationship.

[Tester123]

I had a girlfriend that was on

the pill and we had great sex then. She felt like it was not good for her to be taking estrogens all the time and

got off of it. Our sex life diminished after that. Part of it could have been moving to condoms, which definitely

affected my sensitivity. However, her own sex drive seemed higher on the pill than off. I know that is contrary to

what is generally reported, and that's why I think it's interesting. I wonder if her body actually produced some

testosterone from the added estrogen.