My thoughts on Ross Jeffries techniques
Thanks to the bro who ripped the mp3\'s & posted for us to download, you da man. I thought the tape was pretty good, definitely worth the listen, I took notes as I went along & thought I\'d share in case anyone just wanted to read my \"cliff notes.\" Below covers about 75% of his material.
I listened to all of them & I\'ll be doing my \"homework\" over the next 2-3 weeks to see if I can boost my self-esteem.
It really opened my eyes to how important creating your own internal frame is compared with trying to trick the girl into liking you through suggestive verbal & non-verbal communication.
Just wanted to post a few of the gems I got from the tapes:
<ul type=\"square\">[*]If I want a frame of mind I must rehearse it.[*]Being with me is the best possible choice a woman could make.[*]You don’t over come someone’s uncertainty by being uncertain about yourself.[*]I never get rejected I only discover if a woman has good taste.[*]What I resist persists
What I accept I gain power to utilize[*]You never know what physical type a woman will go for.[*]Never attach excess meaning by being accepted or rejected.[*]I was wrong more often then I was right, but I was wrong tiny & I was right tremendous.[*]You know that feeling you get when you see a crisp $100 bill on the floor & you feel a breeze coming & out of fear that it might get away you get that feeling inside that tells you to quickly bend over to pick it up? You should train your mind to react like that when you see beautiful women, don\'t think just react in the same manner - go for it![/list]
Think to yourself: <Let these commands be fulfilled>
Repeat these daily outloud in a confident powerful tone of voice 3 times each:
Affirmations<ul type=\"square\">[*]1. You are aggressive direct & powerful with the women you desire, you radiate a confidence, self control & charm that women find irresistibly attractive.[*]2. Your mind is focused on what you desire you go for what you want congruently & powerfully.[*]3. You never know what physical type a woman will go for, so you always go for it congruently & powerfully.[*]4. You take immediate advantage of your opportunities with women you swiftly establish incredible rapport, gather the information that you need & then close with aggression power & finesse.[*]5. You radiate a natural, easy self-acceptance that women find irresistibly attractive.[*]6. You safe guard your moral & self-esteen at all times, you swiftly size up a woman’s potential & eliminate those that are wasting your time.[*]7. You are mastering the responses, attitudes, behaviors, insights & timing that are bringing you irresistible power with the women that you desire.[/list]
Building Film Strips
Pick a location or context (perform this exercise once for each location, i.e. bar, grocery store, club).
First slide, see in your mind the very 1st thing that would let you know that you are in that location. Narrate yourself walking into a room & see the girl that you would like to
go meet. ONLY STILLS not moving images.
Next slide, see the next STILL IMAGE in the progression, maybe a picture of you two chatting & smiling.
Next picture, you & her sitting over a table eating dinner.
Next picture, making out on the couch like crazy.
Next picture, the two of us getting it on in your favorite position. Be sure to see both faces & see the expressions on the faces.
Next picture, the two of us getting it on in another position.
Now take the film (think of the negatives you get back with film you get developed), & have it form a circle so you can see the 1st image right next to the last image as it loops around. Picture this circle so all you can see is the thin side, put it over your head & imagine it quickly going down into your head.
Review mistakes, usually 3 different ones
1.Think of a recent flub up or mistake
2.Watch the 40 ft tall me sitting in a movie theater watching a SMALL Black & White short film & how he can notice the flub up & point out how he would have done it differently
3.Watch how the 40 ft me would have gone through & done it differently
4.Go back to an hour before the first time I made the flub up, turn & look towards the present & see the most recent time I did it correctly because you corrected it.
5.From an hour before the 1st time you ever did it watch the 40 ft me going through it doing it right with it turning out the way you wanted it to.
6.Repeat steps 4 & 5 from an experience it happened more recently.
7.Move out into the future & visualize yourself doing it right seeing it coming out the way you wanted it to.
Picture a gear shift to know what speed to use when you approach a woman, so you can be more laid back & slow compared to coming across too fast & needy.
[some lines, not too bad, not great]
Excuse me can I ask you a question? Would you ever go out with a guy that you met in a place like this, when she starts to say well it depends, then you interrupt her & say, “Great. My name is…”
“Have you ever felt totally comfortable talking to someone you just met?” to which they reply, “Well of course I have.” To which you reply, “Great. As you are thinking about that, I’d like to introduce myself, my name is.”
See a woman in a skimpy dress. <very soft voice> “You know that is a great dress you are almost wearing.”
A woman dressed really hot, “Have you ever heard of a body that won’t quit?” Yeah, “Yours doesn’t even take a coffee break.”
First gear – laughter, getting them laughing
Second gear – get them talking in a comfortable way about themself
Third gear – getting them really turned on
Fourth gear – close the deal
“Has anyone ever told you, you are a shining projection of genetic perfection?” while laughing.
80% No world. 80% of business comes from 20% of your clients.
90% of your pleasure will come from 10% of the women you meet.
<IN THE APPROPRIATE PLACE IN THE CONVERSATION>
“When you think about how wonderful it feels to be loved by someone you truly care for, doesn’t it really make you want to be with someone special again?”
Watch her eyes light up & her state change.
CLOSING THE DEAL
Look, I think you are a really great girl I think you deserve a chance to go out with me & discover how much fun you can have. Can you be ready Monday night at 8 o’clock?
Questions to ask yourself
How can I enjoy the challenges that living this adventure will bring me?
1.Get yourself into a relaxed state (before going to bed)
2.Begin to think of the values you’d like to share with this special person, qualities to the relations: adventure, a sense that you see the world in the same way, mutual enjoyment of each others personality, admiration, passion – any qualities you are looking to share – qualities of the relationship. Spend some time thinking of this.
3.Qualities she will have to have in order to make the relationship work, start by saying, “She is..” Go into great detail. Including physically attractive, what she will look like, what attributes she’ll have.
4.Focus on feeling their presence. As if they were already in your life, focus on that feeling of being connected with that special person. You may feel it in your solar plexus area.
5.As you feel that connection, imagine that there is a quart of light going from your body onto her body, you will even feel a click sometimes that there is a connection. Visualize this same connection in all three locations: Heart, Head, & Groin in all three places, this will give you a very strong sense of connection.
6.Feel a sense of real gratitude, you might even feel yourself saying “thank you”
7.Visualize sending out more energy from your solar plexus, doubles the feeling.
8.Visualize her body looking out at you through her eyes & hear her say the qualities that she admires & respects about you & feel the love that she has for you.
9.Finally come back into your body & feel that connection of solar plexus, head & groin & thank her in advance for coming into your life. ONLY ONCE A WEEK.
10.You should get urges to go to places that you normally would not go to, follow these urges & you will be shocked that this woman will be at that place that your body told you to do.
11.If this person is not exactly what you wanted it is okay, go back & revise your list of qualities. Forgot to mention the quality that she HAS TO BE AVAILABLE.
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