im getting sick of unwanted attention.

[CAtriathlete]

i

think that is what is bringing the guys to your door.

I have to say that nbnbtc may have a point

here. As we've all read here over-and-over, pheromones by themselves don't bring women into your lap-- attitude,

affect, and manner play a very important role. It follows then that if you are attracting dudes who keep getting in

your face, then you are doing something to encourage it. So rather than getting annoyed with the mones and angry

with the guys, perhaps slickracer it would be more helpful to look at the ways you are bringing men to you.

Just

a thought...

-CAt

[gaf]

As we've

all read here over-and-over, pheromones by themselves don't bring women into your lap-- attitude, affect, and

manner play a very important role.

Very True.
The attitude on the inside makes me the man that I

am.
well, thats enough words of wisdom.
cue yoda voice.

[terry0400-40]

It seems to me that slickracer is most probably a charismatic sort of guy, he probably gives off a

success sort of vibe in a fun and adventurous sort of carefree and spontaneous manner.

It may be that less charismatic personalities or i should say gentlemen could gravitate

towards him so as to hopefully share in some of the excitemant of his dynamic lifestyle and

prescence.

Maby slick is just a born leader, and i would say he

is verging on the cusp of becoming a great councilor and or leader of men.

HAHA the funny thing about this is that he may be unaware and completly oblivious to these great

natural qualities that he posesses.

He may perceive these

admirers or at least some of them as being attracted to him a a sexual manner which can very easily cause any

straight man to grimace as i would perceive.

Even so the

attractions may have physiological sexual aspects or i should say components thereof on subliminal levels but not

necessarilly manifesting on the physical level of awareness.

So

i would in his position not be overly worried, even so the following could at his age be perceived as a bit of a

drag, true.

But with some understanding he could possably take

advantage of his natural gifts and build upon them to create a future that may be suited to his advantage as far as

a career is concerned.

It seems like the possabilities for this

unasuming and charasmatic young man are limited only by his lack of the understanding of these qualities that are

undoubtedly in his posession.

[nbnbtc]

this thread is making a lot less

sense as it goes on...

[slickracer]

nbn and catri, you guys may

be right its because i am allowing them to continue with thier behaivor that im still haveing these issues. how did

i not see this before you guys said this.

"I ultimatly control the amount of choas that is in my life"

i

got that quote from my classes i got to take because of probation. and also, another good one is "if nothing

changes..... nothing changes" man i learn so much from those classes about bettering my life.

hey terry that was

awsome thanks. i work with this older lady ( she's40 and im only 20) that said pretty much the same thing as you

did, to summarise she said, they are attracted to your leadership qualities, they are not trying to get in your

pants" she's awsome cause i can share everything with her and she tells me alot of stuff, im learing alot of stuff

from her. espetially in the sparitiual aspect.

oh and terry when i was 8 years old i did promise myself i was

going to rule the world. but now realize it may not not happen. so i think i migh have to settle with a country. but

i need to get out of USA first if i want to do that cause USA is going to be out of my leage.

i do need to

focous more on my future tho, cause i realize im kind of a moment by monet person and have tendensy to dwell on the

past. i just need to go back to school but i just keep procrastanating.

[CAtriathlete]

[quote=slickracer;201670]



"I ultimatly control the amount of choas that is in my life"

[quote]

Good attitude, Slick! You can own

this!

"If you always do what you've always done. You will always have what you've already got"



-CAt

[gaf]

"If you always do what you've always done. You will always have what you've already got"

Thats one of my fav quotes too!
Err, sorry for some of the odd replies. It seemed funny at

the time...

[WorkingMann]

I've always said what I

think and didn't let people do stuff I didn't want..
A thing that have worked wonders for me are discipline and

consequence for the girls I'm dating..
Fx. If I try to kiss her and I know she won't kiss me just to tease it

gets a consequence! Then I won't kiss her when she tries and lets her come chasing me.. Always turn this around so

you're the one who's in control and in demand.. Then she always has to follow you and please you and she will

never come to the point where she begins to say I want things this way and that way..

I have a friend who have

been with a girl for two years and suddenly she wouldn't let him smoke so he did it secretly.. I thought he was a

puss and she a stupid bitch.. I would NEVER let a girl control me in that way.. I would say I'm gonna do what I

wanna and if you don't like it then find someone else to be around because this is the way I am.. And keep telling

yourself "you're worth much much better" because then she will never decide over you because you can find someone

else who cares more if she doesn't like something about you.. Because there will be someone out there who will love

every detail about you and let you be you.. And it's the same with my work and my friends.. I always tell them

straight what I think about them and what they say.. And if they cross the line I can find someone else to be around

till they come and say they're wrong.. And if not - then they're not true friends and not worth it or you

time..
But you also have to be able to see when you're wrong yourself but still.. You have things you know.. This

is what I WANT and will not compromise about it.. And these things (like I can't take people lie to me - then

they're like thin air to me) you have to know what you want and always stick to them.. And then there's other

things you would like but you can bend if they don't always go that way (fx. I appreciate when people show up to

the scheduled time when we have an appointment but I can live with it if they come a little to late)..
But alway

remember just to be yourself and be true to yourself.. Then you will always have people around you that will treat

you with respect and care because you have chosen these people to be in your life..

[idesign]

[quote=CAtriathlete;201677]

"If you always do what you've always done. You

will always have what you've already got"

-CAt

I like that one too, kind of like

"doing what you've always done and expecting different results".

[idesign]

nbn and

catri, you guys may be right its because i am allowing them to continue with thier behaivor that im still haveing

these issues. how did i not see this before you guys said this.

"I ultimatly control the amount of choas that

is in my life"

i got that quote from my classes i got to take because of probation. and also, another good one

is "if nothing changes..... nothing changes" man i learn so much from those classes about bettering my life.

hey

terry that was awsome thanks. i work with this older lady ( she's40 and im only 20) that said pretty much the same

thing as you did, to summarise she said, they are attracted to your leadership qualities, they are not trying to get

in your pants" she's awsome cause i can share everything with her and she tells me alot of stuff, im learing alot

of stuff from her. espetially in the sparitiual aspect.

oh and terry when i was 8 years old i did promise

myself i was going to rule the world. but now realize it may not not happen. so i think i migh have to settle with a

country. but i need to get out of USA first if i want to do that cause USA is going to be out of my leage.

i do

need to focous more on my future tho, cause i realize im kind of a moment by monet person and have tendensy to dwell

on the past. i just need to go back to school but i just keep procrastanating.

/yoda on/
thinking you

are, and good it is to train yourself. much responsibility is in the path of a leader, and better it is to give

kindness to all. shows strength it does. reward you it will.
/yoda off/

[gaf]

Oi! I said cue yoda voice

Terry!...

Big mouth, shut it I will.
Pheros, mention or I will headbutt you, F**ker.

Oh god, it's just

starting,
just wait for the lightsaber jokes to start flowing.

[terry0400-40]

Oi! I

said cue yoda voice Terry!...

Big mouth, shut it I will.
Pheros, mention or I will headbutt you, F**ker.

Oh

god, it's just starting,
just wait for the lightsaber jokes to start flowing.

Thank you for putting a sense of equilibrium back into the equation GAF.

So i suppose the more serious aspect of

helping our good friend Slickracer with his man attraction problem and pheromones may be concentrated upon until a

reasonable solvent may be uncovered with a combined contribution of his friends here.

I think he is a good man yes if i was

him i would say " And i am worth it"