Quote Originally Posted by JustPeachy
I wouldn't suggest

self-medicating for this without investigating first. There can be lots of reasons for painful intercourse -

endometriosis, cysts, PID, STD's, prolapsed uterus, badly executed hystorectomies and otherwise-screwed-up ligament

tissue, and intestinal gas, as well as hormone imbalances and other stuff. And then, there's the problem of highly

undesirable side-effects from the wrong type of estrogen, if that's what's needed. Seeing an OB-GYN royally sucks

IMHO, and you really have to take a lot of management initiative and being prepared to do your own research when

working with them, but most of this stuff is very treatable.

All of what you wrote above is TRUE

Peachy and great info! Self treating is difficult to do for men but almost impossible for women. Wayyy tooooo much

going on with women's hormone issues and it takes a real good Dr. to get to the heart of the problem. The point I

was trying to make was that all the ROMANCE in the world isn't going to do much good if there is an underlying

hormone/libido problem. It might even make things worse from a guilt trip point of view. If you get my meaning.



Here's the way I see things and please take into account that I'm a guy and a Pig! If everything is in balance

for a women hormonally, than sexual desire is going to be there, especially if she's involved in a loving,

committed relationship. All relationships have problems from time to time but if the women is healthy sexually then

sexual desire is going to be as big a part of her life as it is for a sexually healthy man. She's going to want to

have sex with her mate just as much if not more than her guy does. For some reason Elana comes to mind here again.

OTOH, most women are totally different then men when it comes to what turns them on and serious romance is the way

to most women's libido's. Holding hands, hugs, soft music, candle light, slow dances, great conversation with the

men doing all the listening and making the appropriate affirmative comment at just the right time. These are the

things that make for the big O for most women. Those and the ability of the man to "Lick the Box" properly.



That's the way I see things now that I'm older and wiser and almost ready to die but keep in mind that I'm a

man and I'm a Pig!