MM, you sit down next to a woman who can see that you would likely speak English and she lets you see that she is reading the personals, and you can\'t think of anything to say to her? Good lord, son! I\'m gonna talk to you like a dutch uncle, now, so don\'t be offended, ok? You\'ve got to get some balls up under you. It is your job to initiate. You have to understand this and I don\'t think you\'re getting it. It\'s your job, that\'s your role. So. If you see a woman you want to talk to, TALK TO HER. Whether she\'s paying you any attention or not. Whether you think she looks happy, friendly, content, jesus - you know, chances are, she\'s not thinking about you or men at all. She could be tired and have concerns of her own. She could be shy, or she could be a contemplative sort by nature. We have to walk around with a big loopy grin all the time for y\'all to understand we want you to talk to us, we like to be admired? Maybe she\'s not a bit content and maybe she doesn\'t even know you\'re alive -- so why don\'t you make it your business to get her attention and cheer her up? It\'s your job to make her think about you. Speak up! Whatcha reading? Hi, how are you? Man, this train\'s crowded, is it always like this? What\'s that you\'re eating, it looks really good --what do you recommend on the menu? Wow, long day, huh? Where\'s a good place to go for happy hour? Why don\'t you come with me, can I buy you a drink? I\'m testing a new cologne for a small company - would you give me your opinion? how do you like it? Wanna mess around? (Ok, maybe that last one\'s a little forward, but honey, you could do with a little more forward. A lot more forward.)If you sit around waiting for a woman to give some mysterious high sign that she\'s attracted to you, you\'re gonna be sitting around a very long time. You\'re the man. It\'s YOUR GAME, so play it. Don\'t wait for permission. Own your status.Ok, a woman you\'re admiring looks you dead in the eye for 1 second. SAY SOMETHING. Smile, nod, say \"how are you?\" It really doesn\'t matter what, honest to god, it doesn\'t have to be clever, it can even be stupid. If she\'s interested, she\'ll help you move the conversation along. Now. A woman you\'re admiring looks you dead in the eye for one second and you just sit there with your teeth in your mouth. I\'ll tell you what she\'s thinking. She\'s thinking, dammit, what do I have to do? if he\'s going to keep looking at me, I wish he\'d say something... You think something\'s going on between you and some woman on a train, but she doesn\'t give any sign and you sit there giving off vibes but all anxiety and saying nothing. Why does she run off like the devil\'s after her without a backward glance? Because she\'s embarassed to tears that she had to ride all that way with you and you never said a word to her, and she thinks she must be crazy because she could have sworn there was something going on between you.Why should she stick around and wait for you when you\'re showing you can\'t do your job to begin with? I don\'t mean to be nasty, but if you\'re gonna show wuss from the git-go, why would she want anything to do with you? There are various ways you can interpret glances, seeming indifference, body language, etc., and if you are accurate at your interpretations, they might give you some indication of whether or not a woman might be interested in chatting with you. HOWEVER. You will never really know until you take the initiative and open your mouth. You\'re putting way to big a burden on the women. We\'re not trained to act encouraging to strange men, do you see what I\'m saying? You\'re like a door-to-door salesman who stands on the sidewalk, looking wistfully at the house, waiting for the housewife to notice him, and feeling rejected because she doesn\'t fling the door wide open and invite him right on in for coffee. That sh*t ain\'t happenin\', do you see what I mean? March up to the door, knock, get her attention, and show what you have to offer.
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