I'm a regular SOE & Chikara user

and find that if I make the first move and start chatting people will behave positivly.
Try mixing both together

and see how that works for you , I don't have gel packs but often 10 inches of SOE and one spray of Chikara work

wonders for me. I'm one of these guys that looks a bit standoffish so am a convert to SOE as it seem to have a

positive effect on me as well!

later:
Forgot to mention that SOE and TE mixed have fantastic results too, very

sexual responses in bar or club settings!
(10 inches SOE & 1/3 gel pack TE)