Steve:

I don\'t agree with the nothing to lose thing because some people will inevitably end up \"feeling

bad.\" Those who can avoid this have adequete confidence to do so or have learned not to take rejection

personally.

The other thing that one has to lose is their fantasy of them and that person. By not

asking someone out and getting a definitive answer, that fantasy gets to stay alive. Ask them out and you risk

erasing that fantasy. You can\'t dream about something you know can\'t come true. This is one of the big

reasons why people may not take chances or even feel bad after rejection - because the fantasy is gone.

I\'m

not advocating nor judging any of this stuff. Just highlighting on some very real things that happen to people.

Some people have something to lose. In my opinion, the loses don\'t outway the gains.