Ladies: when you like the look of a guy

[tigereyes]

Hey babes!

Hope you are all well.

Right ive got a question for you.

If you are out in a club or bar and

you quite like the look of a guy, do you look away when he looks at you? or do you make eye contact?

When would

you expect him to come over and talk to you?

What signals would you give off to let him know that you fancy

him?

Reason why im asking is, i would like to go and chat to women more but i want to know im not gonna get the

cold shoulder!

If you think a guy looks too confident or too \'good\' will you bother anyway or think he

loves himself and im not going to talk to him!

Answers please! im off out tonight and would like to know the

signs so i can get things going!

[CptKipling]

Quick tip (I\'m about to go out aswell [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

)

Don\'t worry about it so much, just go and talk to them. If she sees you hesitating then you will end up

looking like a pussy. Try smiling when she looks over, but there is nothing wrong with starting a conversation

without any prior eye contact - you see her, you go and talk.

p.s alcohol helps

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[CJ01]

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If you think a guy looks too confident or too

\'good\' will you bother anyway or think he loves himself and im not going to talk to him!


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But if he does indeed love himself too much and is over confident

I find it a turn off.
My tip is go out and enjoy yourself and take the opportunity to meet people rather than

actual pulling. It comes across as more friendly and approachable and your chance of meeting someone special are

much higher too. And don´t think that just because a girl chats or wants to hang out with you she also fancies you

[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/crazy.gif[/img] Girls also just like to hang out with guys just for fun

[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img] Nothing worse than a guy who gets the wrong end of the stick

either way.

Just go out and have a good time basically and be friendly to everyone and maybe you´ll hook up even

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[CJ01]

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If she sees you hesitating then you will end up

looking like a pussy.

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p.s alcohol helps

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class=\"post\"> yeah buy her a drink. Stingy guys are unsexy

[Sacogoo]

CJ writes:
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yeah buy her a drink.

Stingy guys are unsexy

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So are stingy chicks. Buy me a drink.

[thingscouldwork]

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yeah buy her a drink. Stingy guys are

unsexy

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I\'m not at all convinced by buying girls drinks, just

to get their attention...

Don\'t get me wrong, I DO buy drinks for girls, I just think it\'s wrong to try to

buy your FIRST impression...

If I was a girl, my thinking would probably be: \"Hey, does he do this to every

girl, because he needs to bribe his way in??\" So, ESPECIALLY the hotter the chick is, the less success I would

expect by buying her drinks!!

[Sexyredhead]

Tigereyes, get a good book on body language. It will help you a lot in the long run, in more ways that

you can imagine. There are several that have been listed on this forum in the past. A search on \'body

language\' either here, or even on google, will give you lots of good sources.

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[CJ01]

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If I was a girl, my thinking would probably be:

\"Hey, does he do this to every girl, because he needs to bribe his way in??

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class=\"post\"> but you´re not a girl [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img] It´s not bribing,

especially not when she´s thirsty [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

When the guy wants

something from me, why should I buy him one first? Sorry I´m a bit old fashioned this way

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Well Sac, I don´t want you to think I´m bribing you, so I

won´t buy you one [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[CJ01]

BTW I´m not stingy!

[Bottle]

Buying a drink can also be seen as an acceptable approach, a no mans land if you like, an unthreatening

communication and a friendly gesture.

We all know that buying a drink wont get the women\'s pants off, but what

it will do is give a window of opportunity for some light hearted conversation.

any intelligent women would not

judge a man on him buying her a drink, its what he says next that will matter.

However I would add, that before

buying a drink for a stranger, I would make sure you\'ve read the body language right

My method last Wed was to

just spill my drink on the girl, rather than ask if she would like her own.

[CJ01]

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Buying a drink can also be seen as an acceptable

approach, a no mans land if you like, an unthreatening communication and a friendly gesture.

We all know that

buying a drink wont get the women\'s pants off, but what it will do is give a window of opportunity for some light

hearted conversation.

any intelligent women would not judge a man on him buying her a drink, its what he says

next that will matter.

<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> exactly!

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My method last Wed was to just spill my drink on the girl, rather than ask

if she would like her own.

<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> that´s not an approach I´d recommend tho.

[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img] Just like `accidently bumping´ into a girl. Not nice

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[Elana]

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My method last Wed was to just spill my drink on

the girl, rather than ask if she would like her own.

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[Sexyredhead]

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My method last Wed was to just spill

my drink on the girl, rather than ask if she would like her own.

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That\'s way down on the list right before throwing up on her.

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[Bottle]

hey i was drunk...it wasnt a tactic that I pre..er.pre...trying to think of a clever word here...



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[Bottle]

I should of followed with

\"shall we go back to my place and get out of these wet

clothes\"

huh...


rather than joke arround and have a little fun




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[Mrt89]

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We all know that buying a drink wont get the

women\'s pants off, but

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You need to buy them a lot of drinks for

that to work.

[xvs]

In my experience, if a girl looks at me and smiles, that\'s a very good sign.

If she looks away without

looking down, she\'s probably not interested.

If she looks down, she\'s shy but probably interested.

If

she looks away and down, she\'s shy and may or may not be interested.

[CJ01]

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If she looks down, she\'s shy but probably

interested.


<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> or she´s checking her shoes

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Actually the first thing you do when you like the look of a guy

these days is try to figure out if he´s gay or not and pray that he isn´t

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[CptKipling]

The only time I have ever bought a girl a drink is when she gave me the money.

Fow shizzle

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[bundyburger]

I don\'t buy drinks unless I\'m getting along with them really well. i.e. Been talking 10 or more

minutes and we are both interested in what each other has to say. This isn\'t a rule. It\'s just the natural

thing for me to do when I\'m getting along with someone now.

BTW, seems to come over well too when you ask if

they are drinking Alcohol? ...water? ...soda? without assuming alcohol.

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[egomaniac]

<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> yeah buy her a drink. Stingy guys are unsexy

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Screw that, I buy some girls drinks. I can tell you a majority of them go

out and expect to get wasted on the guys then go home with 10 of her other friends who did the same thing too. If

she dosent want to talk to you first without you buying her a drink, kick her to the curb. I hate mooches!

[OCP]

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<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> yeah

buy her a drink. Stingy guys are unsexy

<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\">

Screw that, I buy some

girls drinks. I can tell you a majority of them go out and expect to get wasted on the guys then go home with 10 of

her other friends who did the same thing too. If she dosent want to talk to you first without you buying her a

drink, kick her to the curb. I hate mooches!

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I agree

[thingscouldwork]

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yeah buy her a drink. Stingy guys are

unsexy


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Screw that, I

buy some girls drinks. I can tell you a majority of them go out and expect to get wasted on the guys then go home

with 10 of her other friends who did the same thing too. If she dosent want to talk to you first without you buying

her a drink, kick her to the curb. I hate mooches!

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Jep, that was

exactly what I was getting at!!

Actually, if one carefully re-reads this thread, he knows everything there is to

know about buying girls drinks nowadays.

- When to do it
- What to look for before you do it
- different

tactics
- and finally: that it isn\'t a good idea to throw up on girls...

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PS: VERY Good

solution (IMHO): Just alternate the drink-buying between you and her. I actually think that is almost bonding...

After the third round you\'re sure to be in anybodys pants, that hasn\'t ran off before...

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[CJ01]

I

wasn´t suggesting that [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img] stop misinterpreting everything.
and stop

being so bitter [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/crazy.gif[/img]

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I can tell you a majority of them go out and expect to get wasted on the

guys then go home with 10 of her other friends who did the same thing too

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class=\"post\"> not the majority [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] Some do though yes. But then

if you let them do that to you it´s your own fault.

But I don´t like stingy people fullstop

[Holmes]

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Screw that, I buy some girls drinks. I

can tell you a majority of them go out and expect to get wasted on the guys then go home with 10 of her other

friends who did the same thing too. If she dosent want to talk to you first without you buying her a drink, kick her

to the curb. I hate mooches!

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Well said.


Holmes

[Icarus]

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Reason why im asking is, i would like

to go and chat to women more but i want to know im not gonna get the cold shoulder!

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class=\"post\">

Come on man. You\'re 20 years old.

You\'ve never chatted to girls before? (don\'t

worry. It\'s a rhetorical question)

What\'s 20 cold shoulders vs one warm one?

Get stuck

in.

Steve

ie - What\'s the worst that can possibly happen?

[CptKipling]

Exactly, the only person who can make it happen is you, so get up of your arse and work it b*tch!

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[tigereyes]

I know! i used (kind of still am) to be really really self conscious, and i was so scared of getting

turned down because then i would feel crap about myself again, so i just wouldnt bother.

I am going to start

really hard to chat to women, now my confidence has risen i will take the \'plunge!\'