"The Sexual Life of Catherine M."

[Whitehall]

This is a very strange book! A bestseller in France and now in English, it\'s the autobiography of a leading French art critic (female) who lives a very daring sex life.

Any of you women read it or heard of it?

[**DONOTDELETE**]

http://www.metrotimes.com/editorial/review.asp?id=66213

Did you read it? Like it?

[Whitehall]

I\'m about 75% through it. She\'s so dispassionate about passion! Empty-hearted maybe.

It\'s not really tittilating although graphic at times as a philosophic veterinarian might be if it was happening to him/her.

Then it will spin into some sort of French cinematography magazine-speak about the metaphysics....

Frankly, if I ever met her, I wouldn\'t touch her, much less do the wild thing.

[MaxiMog]

Sure, I\'ve heard of it (not read it though). It\'s the type of book people think of as bad just because of the \"unusual\"/shocking content, but still secretly read. I mean, no one want to admit they bought or read it but the best-seller charts clearly show that the opposite is true. Honestly, I don\'t care, and if you\'re interested in what she has to say, read it.

It\'s always the same where I live (dunno about other places of the world): there\'s a book about sex that seems really exciting because of it\'s content (not just a stupid dull description or so) and everyone seems to condemn it. Still they all secretly read it. I really hate that kind of attitude. Another book released here was a book on all sexual toys and techniques and whatnot to improve your sex life. It\'s still somewhere in the non-fiction top five after more than a year. I\'m sure that 95% of the people will lie when asked wheteher or not they read it. And what for?

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http://www.thestranger.com/2002-09-19/books.html

It doesn\'t sound like my kind of book.

Have you ever read \"Silk\" by Alessandro Baricco (sp?) ? more sort of Anais Nin-ish, lyrical, very nice, very subtle.



More on \"The Sexual Life...\"

\"Her prose is lovely and surprising. More startling, however, is her claim that she\'d never analyzed her behavior until writing this book, and didn\'t understand the mechanisms of orgasms until late in life. That\'s a pretty strange admission for an intellectual who must\'ve been aware of American feminist writing on the subject and of French theorists who celebrated female sexuality as a basis for l\'écriture feminine.\"

http://www.villagevoice.com/issues/0222/press.php

Yeah, but it\'s not at all surprising if you know anything about nymphos, who are mostly frigid.

[Elana]

A lot of reviews on Amazon.com
many people did not seem to care for it

[Blackwidow_Woman]

>(Yeah, but it\'s not at all surprising if you know anything about nymphos, who are mostly frigid)
Im fridgid... hey i dont thinks so.. and ya im a nymphomaniac.....so we need and crave more sex than others whats wrong with that... NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! our sex drives are just in over drive.. [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Black Widow Woman, you seem to take offense at everything I say. I was not talking about you. I was not even remotely thinking about you. And I had no idea you identified yourself as a nymphomaniac. I\'m sorry you were offended by my post.

[Blackwidow_Woman]

FTR,, im not taking offense with you im just saying you said nymphos are mostly frigid, well im not, thats all and i didnt say you were talking about me..as far as being offended im not im just stating the facts.. i have no probs with you ... [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Yes, I remember you saying you\'re multi-orgasmic and extremely sensitive. I didn\'t realize you had problems with sex addiction. Hope it gets better.

[Blackwidow_Woman]

FTR, hehehehe!!! it dont get any better than it already is... its when ya dont get it then your bummin till ya fix the prob your self... [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]

[**DONOTDELETE**]

I\'m sure you know best. [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]

[Blackwidow_Woman]

That i do,, That i do... hehehe!! now take for instance the man that says geez hun im beat from work and to tierd,, well ok no biggie pass out dont matter,, lol!! il just sneak off into another room and for some unknown reason wow hey hes not tierd no more and manages to make it into the same room im in and look hes even particapating ,.. [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] hehe!!! funny the way guys are... [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] but then ya get the ones who really do pass out very cold and cant even get them up with ice on the balls.... [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] well thats ok still have a way of fixin things . sometimes its better than that guy...LOL!!!!!!!

[Whitehall]

I finished the book and have a somewhat better opinion of it now. The most valuable to me was that here\'s one woman, representative or not, who writes honestly and deeply about her sexual experiences. Sometimes the lines got pretty mangled and twisted - maybe it read better in French - but she still could get the idea across about, say, why she enjoys gang bangs or why she thinks she gives such great blow jobs.

For a French intellectual, she does seem to be in touch with her inner animal.

Still, it is not a book for everyone.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

So why does she enjoy gang bangs and what makes her blow job so great? Does she write it as a first person narrative via a character, or does she use her own persona, or is it in the third person. Are these things presented as revelatons to her or does she figure them out afterwards. Do you think her revelations about her own sexuality are meant to be representative of female sexuality as well.Now you\'ve got me interested in the book ...

[Whitehall]

It is written in first personal singular, as an autobiography.

As to your other questions, you\'ll have to read the book but I think you\'ll be empathic.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Nah, I\'m sure she made all that stuff up. She probably works for Love-Scent. [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/wink.gif[/img]

[Lucky]

Whitehall.
What\'s your personal definition of a great blow job?

[Whitehall]

My definition of a great blow job is close to the authoress\' - she becomes an extension of her man\'s nervous system. She senses the pleasures she is giving and enjoys the man\'s pleasure vacariously. Her mouth is connected to her own vagina and clit. She\'s no longer \"doing\" him as an object.

That loss of self by the woman and gain of connection can make up for a lot of technique. Women are always at their best and happiest when they are giving. I see the man\'s role as supporting and protecting them so that they feel free to give unselfishly.

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Marry me.

[Lucky]

I knew I would love his answer.

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I love it when they talk pretty.

[Whitehall]

Shucks, thanks for the compliments.

What I\'d like to say is \"You owe me one...\"

[franki]

I remember Whitehall saying he was not very fond of blowjobs ... [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/tongue.gif[/img]

Franki

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That\'s the response I was anticipating, too, but ... actually that was a misunderstanding. He said he didn\'t like oral to completion. He likes to ejaculate where he feels it belongs (not mouth). He never said he didn\'t like oral.

[Lucky]

<oral to completion>
That\'s an idea for a new thread! I\'m taking it to the Women\'s Forum so I won\'t get in trouble....Hope to see you there.

[Elana]

We are in the women\'s forum. [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/tongue.gif[/img] Lucky....are you drunk again? [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/laugh.gif[/img]

[bivonic]

I don\'t like bad hummers - I once had this girlfriend who thought it was my fault that I couldn\'t cum when she tried to give me a BJ, she was so bad I had to make her stop - she wouldn\'t use her tongue, just her lips & she did it very mechanically too - I should have gotten her a good video to teach her, considering she was always willing to service me.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

She got distracted by the topic, I think. [img]/ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]

Let\'s see what she\'s up to. I bet I know ... the ultimate question ....

[Elana]

Didn\'t you try to instruct her?