I think it\'s invaluable experience. People raise an eyebrow at phone sex, instantly comparing it to physical sex, to its detriment. But fantasy and creativity is the point of phone sex. You can create scenarios in your mind, be places you\'ve never been or that don\'t even exist in real life, have a cast of characters -- you can be endlessly inventive, there\'s no limit on your imagination for once in your life. You can talk about things you\'d never do in real life, and you can learn A LOT about what the opposite sex fantasizes about. I started doing phone sex about 4 years ago and went though a period of about two years when it was almost nightly -- the guys fascinated me and I heard stuff I\'d never even contemplated --and was reassured to hear that some of my more way-out fantasies were not so strange after all. It expanded my horizons incredibly - - I found it very freeing, and very useful for making me able to talk about sex with an actual partner. I was in a relationship for two years with a guy I met on a phone sex line -- we\'d see each other once or twice a week, talked on the phone nightly, had phone sex at least once a week. The phone sex enriched our physical sex life. The only caution I would give is that sometimes with phone sex with someone you have physical sex with, it\'s important to make clear that you\'re sharing a fantasy, and you don\'t expect your partner to act it out. And if you\'re on a chat line to do phone sex, make it clear that you\'re on the line for phone sex, not to meet. If you find people you enjoy phone sex with who you will not meet, it can be fun to have a \"dream lover\" who makes no demands and fulfills every desire. I have memories of things I\'ve done and places I\'ve been in my mind with a phone sex partner that are as vivid as if they actually happened. It is very real it its own way.I find it a very useful outlet and good for keeping my imagination alive.
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