The first thing to be aware of regarding body language is eye contact. It\'s true that exposing her underarms is a positive sign, but only if she\'s doing it while aware of your presence, like, making eye contact, or she just made eye contact, looks away, and the raises her arms to do something to her hair while she knows you\'re looking at her. Ditto the foot thing. Otherwise, I don\'t think fooling with hair means anything -- I do it all the time, and mostly it means, dammit, I\'d give anything for an elastic, my hair\'s driving me nuts falling in my face, or it\'s too hot on the back of my neck so I keep picking it up and letting it fall back down again because I don\'t have anything to pin it up with on me...running her fingers through her hair is often a closure gesture, like, ok, now that\'s settled, and you finger comb your hair as if to symbolically put things into place. Some women do hair getures as nervous tics, like putting your hair behind your ears over and over again...I twirl my hair in my fingers when I\'m thinking sometimes ... Up dos of any kind (ponytail, french twist, etc) become uncomfortable after long and you have to take them down, scratch your head, and shake your hair out to give your scalp relief -- so if she does things with her hair when she knows you\'re looking, that\'s meaningful. If not, it probably means one of the above. I often slip my foot in and out of a shoe, especially, like, standing in line, and all that means is that my feet hurt and I\'m cursing the man who invented heels or I\'m wishing the flats I have on had more cushion in the sole...letting it dangle from your toes could just mean you\'re getting a blister on your heel...in the absence of eye contact, those things just indicate some degree of unselfconsciousness, such that if she saw you looking at her at that moment, she might suddenly become self-conscious and stop fidgeting. If she meant it and saw you looking, she might do it again or elaborate on the first gesture. So I think it depends on the degree of eye contact. Touching I would say means something more than just friendly - I think touching means wanting to be touched back.
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