In large part people are going
to mirror you and how you act. We all do that subconciously as a means of making others feel more comfortable. So
when others are friendly you might consider how you are acting, are they being friendly because that is what they
see from you?
Self confidence is something that you can learn to have and when you have it, it shows. In my own
case, depending on my mood and what I want somebody to see I have been called self confident, amusing, gregarious,
aloof, kind and arrogant, to name a few of the more polite ones. Every one of them is true and to some degree it is
true of everybody else. The most shy person can become a prima donna when you enter into their field of expertise
while the aloof and confident one can become a nervous clod in an area where they have no experience and feel
overwhelmed. The trick is in what you show to others and there are a plethora of books on the subject.
The first
thing to learn is to understand who and what you are and to like yourself. The next is to watch others reactions and
act on those reactions. Things like eye contact and an erect body posture are very important.
It may not be my
business and feel free to say so but, are you also undergoing counseling for your disorder or is it strictly
medication? An experienced counselor could advise and guide you far better than most of us here.
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