Good question. You are correct that the pill can kill attraction and intimacy
betweeen people. It did the only time a girlfriend of mine ever tried it. The pill is shown in research to change
your attraction to almost the opposite kind of people you normally should be attracted to in some respects. So it
will distort your true chemistry with a person; and with all others. Don't blame yourselves when it could just be a
temporary biological cause.
As far as products, you might try anything with copulins and -nol, and then mix that
with Edge for women, which has things in it that will affect you as well as your boyfriend. But pheromones won't
cure everything by themselves, even if they can help significantly.
You both need to accept each others'
sexualities, which might not be exactly as you would dial it up in your shiny knight fantasies.
It ain't going
to happen because both of you sort of wish it would. You want to really hold the intention of improving your sex
life, without forcing anything. Forcing sexual vibes on a guy can shut down his plumbing and confidence, which
depend on being relaxed.
Go easy on the alcohol and drugs, because these inhibit sexual response even if they
help with inhibitions. Your liver plays a role with sex hormones.
Create situations where both of you can be very
relaxed and stress free. This state of being is the foundation for sexual arousal, especially for people with sexual
issues and problems. Trust me, because I don't want to explain all the biology here.
Examine your attitudes
about sexuality and your boyfriend's sexuality. If you aren't "sex positive", and sex positive toward your
boyfriend, you have an issue.
What is your personal stumbling block toward letting yourself go and letting
yourself experience intimacy? Do you have trust issues, for example, or commitment issues, etc? You need to be to an
extent master of these issues, to really wrap yourself around them and negotiate it so it's not trashing your sex
life.
For a woman, testosterone is a major hormonal reason for horniness. Anything that gets the kick ass macho
hormones flowing in you will likely also make you horny; perhaps some kind of physical activity or a roller derby
show. You get the drift. You could also boost testosterone nutritionally, with supplements or whatever. Sasparilla
is an herb that does this, although there are other ones. Make some natural root beer, as both those herbs boost
testosterone. But again, there is much to research here.
If it doesn't repulse you too much, you can try some
porn of different "genres". You can go into it with the idea that you are just going to be open minded and expand
the kind of things and situations you can be aroused by, or expand your level of arousal for known arousing
situations. I also suggest porn because it is directly related to a part of typical male sexuality that it is
helpful for a woman to understand/accept. So it can sometimes be a bridge builder.
Most guys want acceptance and
love. Trust is essential as well. Foster these things in yourself and you will foster conditions necesssary for
intimacy.
Where you have the conditions necessary for intimacy in an emotional sense, you will have conditions
necessary for sex.
Hopefully your boyfriend is also willing to work on having a better sex life. But we can't
really advise him when he's not here.
If it doesn't work, which I really hope it does, I'll be happy to come
over and screw you silly.
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