Ever see Henry Kissinger's
wife? Blonde, taller and much better looking than he.
A guy's looks don't count for much - self-confidence
and accomplishment are more important.
Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men
Jeanna
Bryner
LiveScience Staff
Writer
LiveScience.comThu Apr 10,
2008
Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks
category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and
supportive than other match-ups.
The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty,
whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.
Researchers admit that looks are subjective,
but studies show there are some universal standards, including large eyes, "baby face" features, symmetric faces,
so-called average faces, and specific waist-hip ratios in men versus women.
Past research has shown that
individuals with comparable stunning looks are attracted to each other and once they hook up they report greater
relationship satisfaction. These studies, however, are mainly based on new couples, showing that absolute beauty is
important in the earliest stages of couple-hood, said lead researcher James McNulty of the University of Tennessee.
But the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a
mystery.
The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks
continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.
Supportive spouses
McNulty's
team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years
prior to tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.
Researchers videotaped as each
spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners
were supportive of spouses' issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more
often.
"A negative husband would've said, 'This is your problem, you deal with it,'" McNulty said, "versus
'Hey, I'm here for you; what do you want me to do?; how can I help you?'"
A group of trained "coders" rated
the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate
babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining
partners showed matching looks.
Trophy wives
Overall, wives and husbands behaved more positively when the
woman was better looking.
The finding "seems very reasonable," said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral
economics at MIT's Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management. "Men are very sensitive to
women's attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men's height and salary," said Ariely, who was not involved
in the recent study.
In couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one
another. McNulty suggests wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands.
"The husband
who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get," McNulty
told LiveScience. "He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to
maintain that relationship."
Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to
partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, McNulty said. The "grass could be greener" mentality
could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage.
Physical attractiveness of
husbands is not as important to women, the researchers suggest. Rather, wives are looking for supportive husbands,
they say.
So it seems the mismatch in looks is actually a perfect match. "Equitable is unlikely to mean the same
on every dimension," Ariely said during a telephone interview. "It just means that overall two people make sense
together."
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Ever see Henry Kissinger's
wife? Blonde, taller and much better looking than he.
A guy's looks don't count for much - self-confidence
and accomplishment are more important.
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