From what I've read, I
would think A314 would be perfectly suited to your situation.
Even more important though, is for you to become
outcome-indepent regarding getting into this fraternity. Take the position that you are screening them to see if you
have any reason to WANT to join the fraternity.
Personally, I am not a huge fan of the fraternity system. I
don't trust that a group of people who decide to consider me a friend only because I've made a lifetime,
irreversible commitment to them and the Greek letters they are represented by actually care about me as an
individual. In fact the fraternity system is designed to give all members a very strong sense of being part of a
group, which is more important than that person as an individual.
Interestingly enough, I rushed just for the
heck of it, not really trying to impress anyone, and not really caring whether I got invited to join. Truth be told,
I knew that while going through the rush process, the fraternities would be giving all the rushees free food and
drinks, and I would probably get invited to some parties. This was the only reason I even went through rush in the
first place. I guess you could say I was an attention whore.
As it happened, I was offered bids from every
fraternity that I didn't cut (except one which cut me). Members of these fraternities went out of their way
to accomodate me, and try to get me to select them. When the time came, I chose to associate with one of them. Over
time though (before I had been fully initiated, thank god) I realized how much I was not enjoying myself hanging out
with these guys, because I knew they pretty much viewed me just as a member of the hive. So after about 3 months of
hanging out with these guys nonstop, I decided not to join, and haven't heard from a one of them since (not that it
bugs me).
It is human nature to chase what seems unattainable. That is why we put astronauts on the moon. At the
same time, once we have something, we quickly grow tired of it. Case in point: the first moon landing was in 1969;
the last one as of right now was in 1972.
At this moment you seem to be consumed by the notion that you NEED to
join this fraternity (your own words). Believe me, you can have plenty of fun without it. If you take my words to
heart, you will go through the rush process screening them to see if YOU want to consider joining THEM. This will
make you seem challenging to them and you will have fraternity members trying to impress YOU.
Similarly, A314
appears to increase the perceived value of the wearer, without causing aggression responses in males. If you have
more value, it makes you seem more unattainable, and therefore more desirable.
Take it for what it's worth.
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