The problem is that the male
body language that attracts women is below the radar.
Most women could not even tell you what it is about
certain men that they attracted to.
whats up ladies, how's everything going for ya'll?... pretty slow from what i can see.
i know
that body language gets deeper then what alot of guys think, so i was wondering what are some body languages that
guys uses that makes the women go : hmmm he caugh my attention. to put it in smilies tearm :
ya'll get it?
The problem is that the male
body language that attracts women is below the radar.
Most women could not even tell you what it is about
certain men that they attracted to.
Hmm, I hear women talk about male
traits that turn them on all the time. One that I hear over and over from women of all ages is "he has beautiful
eyes." I looked at some of the guys they were talking about and they didn't look beautiful to me, but I think it
has more to do with how he used his eyes on her.
How you look at them and hold their glaze is very important
to women. Look at their tits and glance sideways too much and they figure you for a perv or criminal. My last 2 GFs
loved to stare into my eyes endlessly. They hated it when I wore sun glasses as they didn't have access. I found it
odd and boring after a few minutes but it pays off in the sack later, so I played the part to the hilt.
"I'm just a dirty hornytoad" -Gegogi
I'm a guy but there are a lot of
good research resources on this subject. From the top of my head things that I've been trying to improve and pay
more attention to--
Main things that I can think of are:
Body language that portrays confidence. Stomach tucked
in (the chest will automatically come up when you do this), back straight, don't look down, don't move too fast
(or slow). Don't be too stiff. Walk with a purpose, like you're comfortable in your own space/like you own the
place.
When dealing with women don't lean toward them to show them you're too interested. Don't smile too
much or laugh at everything--it makes it seem like you're a loser.
Other ways such as looking like a 'sexual
threat' can work in the right context (a term DD uses). Basically 'bad boy' body language. For example: putting
your hand in your pocket with your thumb sticking out and having your fingers point to your family jewels.
I'm not tooputting your hand in your
pocket with your thumb sticking out and having your fingers point to your family jewels.
sure that's an attractive quality. If you gotta point at it makes you appear insecure about who you are.
"I'm just a dirty hornytoad" -Gegogi
IOriginally Posted by Gegogi
think I misinterpreted to sticking your hands in your pocket, more like sticking your thumb into your waist.
But
what I was mainly talking about is talking about a man who's not afraid to be a man. Below is an excerpt of some
material I've covered and I *think* it was written by a woman. This might be a long read but it might be
interesting to others...
here goes:
Basically it goes on to say how it creates an aura thatWatch Mike in action, watch him make contact and signal his
availability. We all know at least one Mike, and we all envy him in his ability. What is the body language he uses?
Well Mike's appeal, his non-verbal clarity is compounded of many things, his appearance is part of it. Not the
appearance he was born with, that's rather ordinary, but the way Mike has rearranged his appearance to transmit his
message. There is, when you look at Mike carefully, a definite sexuality about him.
In part, it's the way Mike
dresses, the type of pants he chooses, his shirts, his jackets, his ties, the way he combs his hair, the length of
his sideburns, these all contribute to the immediate picture. But even more important than this is the way Mike
stands and walks. One woman described it as an 'easy grace'. A man who knew Mike was not so kind..."He's greasy".
What came through as pleasing to the woman was transmitted as disturbing or challenging and therefore distasteful
to the man, and he reacted by characterizing the quality contemptuously. Yet Mike does move with grace, an easy,
arrogant sort of grace that could well arouse a man's envy and a woman's excitement.
A few actors have had the
same movement (pardon the typos here); Paul Newman, Marlon brandow, Rick Torn, and with it they can transmit an
obvious sexual message. The message can be broken down into the way they hold themselves, their stance or posture,
the easy confidence of their motion. The man who has that walk, needs little else to turn a woman's head.
But
Mike has more, he has dozens of little gestures, perhaps unconscious ones, that send out elaborations of his sexual
message. When Mike leans up against a mantle in a room to look at the women, his hips are thrust forward slightly as
if they are cantileavered(sp?), and his legs are usually apart.
....
...
Watch Mike as he stands like this, he
will lock his hands above his belt right above his pocket and his fingers will point down toward his genitals.
You've surely seen this stance a hundred times in western movies, usually not taken by the hero, but by the bad guy
as he lounges a corral fence. The picture of the threatening sexuality--the villain that the men hate and the women,
well, what they feel is a lot more complex than hate, or desire, or fear. And yet it's a mixture of all these
things. With his blatent body language, his leather chaps, his cantileavered groin, and pointing fingers, he is
sending out a crude, obvious, but effective signal. "I am a sexual threat, I am a dangerous man for a woman to be
alone with. I am all man and I want you."
excites available women or even irritates the non-available women.
So basically a body language that attracts
available women, irritates non-available women, and annoys men. The 'sexual threat'. I'm not saying that this is
a guideline to follow, but its interested to read on the subconscious impact body language has on women and others
around you.
Info like this has been a definite eye-opener for me--I used to slouch, look down all the time,
shoulders in--looking very insecure.
Any women here that could give us their perspective?
Research indicates that the longer twoOriginally Posted by Gegogi
people stare into each other's eyes, the more attracted they become to each other. Boys, of course, have staring
contests, where they try to intimidate each other, and professional fighters do the same thing, so there are subtle
differences between "bedroom eyes" and "hostile eyes".
My ex-girlfriend used to say I had sexy eyes. She and I
would spend long periods of time looking into each other's eyes. Maybe if I had continued to give her quality eye
time, she'd still be my girlfriend, but I got to the point where I was arguing with her every time we were
together.
I couldn't even look her in the eye the last time I spoke with her.
Women tell me I have a sexy
butt, especially when I dance. I've spent a lot of time (and money) in dance lessons where I learn how to roll my
hips. It's the hip rolling movement that women like. It implies that a man will be a good lover. A lot of women
believe that if a man can dance well he'll be a good lover.
I've had women come up and grab my butt while I am
dancing. Especially drunk women.
So one thing a man can do is develop a strong but graceful walk. Think of
Legolas in the "Lord of the Rings" movies. Women just melt for him.
That excerpt is, I think, from Julius
Fast' Body Language book, which is pretty old. It's still valid research, but a lot more has been done and
published since then. His book goes back to about 1970 or thereabouts.
Actually, leaning in to show her youOriginally Posted by drid
may be interested, and then leaning back to give her an opportunity to express her interest is a good, quick, subtle
test.
Don't smile too much or laugh at everything--it makes it seem like you're a loser.
Depends on how you smile. In fact, women respond overwhelmingly to men with good, strong smiles where they show
their teeth. It's the weak, wimply, close-lipped smiles that women tend to reject.
Laughter, if it's not
toxic and abusive, is infectious and can help the people you're with relax and enjoy your company more.
Putting your hands in your pockets makes youOther ways such as looking like a 'sexual threat' can work in the right context (a term DD uses).
Basically 'bad boy' body language. For example: putting your hand in your pocket with your thumb sticking out and
having your fingers point to your family jewels.
look secretive and insecure. What you want to do is hook your thumbs into your pocket or belt (or at the waistline
of your pants if you don't have a belt or pockets).
A more casual "bad boy" pose is one hand in the pocket and
the other hand free, where you gesture moderately (but not expansively) with the free hand. You project an image of
confidence and leadership when you do that. It's very alpha male.
Yep...I can appreciate a man
with a nice butt. Have been known to cop a feel a time or two. *sigh*
Oh yeah....the nice eyes thing....i go
for that too.
lyric820
Eye contact seems to be very
important to women.I have dated many women who appreciate the fact that I make eye contact alot and use my eyes to
engage them...not just as sensory devices for gathering visual data.Communicate with your eyes.Women can sense what
you are thinking by the way you look at them.There are facial expressions that go along with certain thoughts,but
the eyes are the big one.On of my favorite actors,Peter Sellers when he played in the Pink Panther movies did most
of his real acting with his eyes."The eyes are the windows to the soul." "When Irish eyes are smiling,thier up to
something naughty."All that kind of stuff.I get more smiles from women from a look than anything else.And if a short
fat bald guy can do that then anybody can.
"The wages of sin is death.But after taxes it's just sort of a tired feeling realy." -Ellen DeGeneres
That's why there is a huge market for Botox... docs inject it around the eye
socket so the face looks open and childlike... too much makes you look like a plastic doll and creepily
expressionless...
There is something about the way a man looks at a woman when heOriginally Posted by tim929
really wants her. Its lustful, hopeful, wolfish and childlike -all at the same time. I find that so completely
disarming and achingly sexy!
Yum!
lyric820
I often get woman commenting on the
unusual colouring. My last last GF only saw me with sunglasses on the first few times and went all gaga when i took
them off one day , shes polynesian so it was something new to her to see blue eyes with black hair. Most of my gf's
have been of poly descent and usually they love to stare into my eyes while "making love" (i'm being polite!)
I
suppose I'm trying to say that if you have a feature that turns the ladies on , make the most of it!
As for Botox,
I work in the media so have seen my fair share of "botox barbies" , don't get me started on "unnatural D cups".
early 40's white male or or
What a great description!Originally Posted by lyric820
This very look has been described by evolutionary
psychologists in almost the same words.
It's a strong, confident look that doesn't try to hide sexual
interest (without being creepy!). It also must convey playfulness and a touch of vulnerability.
If you have
this look down, it makes up for almost any perceived physcical shortcomming you think you have!
I'm not sure that this is
exactly body language. It's another study that proves that women are attracted to certain types of men for long
term relationships and certain types of men for flings.
Women looking for a long-term relationship
like men who like children — and they can tell which guys might be interested in becoming fathers just by looking at
their faces.
Those are among the findings of a study of college students published Wednesday in a British
scientific journal.
“This study suggests that women are picking up on facial cues that are perhaps related to
paternal qualities,” said James Roney, a University of California at Santa Barbara psychologist and lead author of
the study. “The more they perceived the men as liking kids, the more likely they could see having a longer-term
relationship.”
Experts said evolution has apparently programmed women to recognize men who might be
interested in propagating the species by raising a family.
The study wasn’t all bad news for men not
interested in settling down. It found found that women can look at men’s faces and figure out which of them have the
highest testosterone levels. Those men — rated the most masculine by the women — turn out to be just the kind of
guys they would want for a fling.
“Women make very good use of any information they get from a man’s face,”
said co-author Dario Maestripieri, an associate professor of comparative human development at the University of
Chicago. “Depending on what they want and where they are in their lives, they use this information
differently.”
In the study, published in Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, researchers
looked at a group of 39 men, ages 18 to 33, at the University of Chicago. Each man was shown 10 pairs of photographs
and silhouettes, one of an adult and the other of an infant, and asked to rate their preferences. Meanwhile, their
saliva was tested to determine testosterone levels.
Photographs of the men’s faces were then shown to 29
women, ages 18 to 20, at the University of California at Santa Barbara.
The women were asked to rate the men
on four qualities: “likes children,” “masculine,” “physically attractive” and “kind.” Then they were asked to rate
how attractive they found each man for short-term and long-term romance.
The study found women did well at
rating men on their interest in babies, and those they rated masculine generally had higher testosterone levels than
the others.
For example, the men who indicated they liked children the most were rated as above average in
liking children by 20 of the 29 women. The men who showed no interest in children were correctly rated as below
average in that category by 19 of the women.
The higher the women rated the men for masculinity, the higher
they were rated as a potential short-term romantic partner. The higher they rated men for their interest in
children, the higher they were rated for long-term romance.
The features that research has suggested denote
high testosterone levels include a prominent jaw and a heavy beard.
The findings came as no surprise to those
in the business of studying human behavior — and love.
“What this study illustrates is that there are genetic
programs that increase survival of the species because there are hormones in women that are cuing their reactions to
the hormones of the men,” said Dr. Daniel Alkon, scientific director of the Blanchette Rockefeller Neurosciences
Institute in Morgantown, W.Va., and Washington.
Or as Kristin Kelly, a spokeswoman for the online dating
service Match.com, put it: “They call it ‘love at first sight’ for a reason. They don’t say ‘love at first
sentence,’ ‘love at first word.”’
It is unclear just what about the men’s faces tipped the women off about
their interest in children. While Maestripieri guessed it might have something to do with “a more rounded face, a
gentler face,” Roney said the answer might be found in the expressions on the men’s faces.
He explained that
after the study was completed, five graduate students were asked to rate on a scale of 1 to 7 whether the men looked
angry or happy. Though the men were instructed to have a neutral look on their faces when photographed, some
apparently looked happier than others.
“It seemed that the men who picked more infants in that test had a
happier or more content look on their face,” he said.
It indicates a very subtle body
language is at work. Quite an interesting article, actually. It gives me something to think about.
Well, I have a rather round head
and, many women say, kind gentle eyes. Maybe that accounts for my last 2 GFs immediately fantasizing about having
children with me (plus their pets loved me). Sort of weirded me out.
"I'm just a dirty hornytoad" -Gegogi
if there pets aprove its a good thingOriginally Posted by Gegogi
YeahOriginally Posted by lyric820
you women can be animals!
Sometimes I wonder which sex should hold the sexual deviant crown...
As far as body language that attracts attention goes, it depends on the environment. If you are sitting or
otherwise stationary taking up a lot of space makes you look very comfortable, which is the essence of confidence.
None sexual kino to EVERYONE will help to imply status. For good posture lift up your breast bone and drop your
shoulders down and very slightly back (to avoid being hunched over).
"Yep...I can appreciate a
man with a nice butt. Have been known to cop a feel a time or two. *sigh*
lyric820"
So, how does one go
about getting a nice butt (really helps with the ladies to have one!!!). This works for women as well, even better
if you want to lose an inch or two off of it.
When you brush your teeth in the morning (this has to be done
every single day, dramatic results in one month - guaranteed, hence do it when you do your teeth and put a sign on
your mirror to remind yourself).
Tense your butt muscles as hard as you can and count to sixty, untense.
That's it, very easy and quite effective. Do this for a month and you'll have a butt that looks like a basketball
player's butt. Then, and it seems to be acceptable -I've never had a problem, if any woman says you have a nice
butt, tell her to feel it (make sure you tense again at this time), she'll love it and she'll love you when you
tell her you know how she can get one too!!!
There is a cure for electile dysfuntion!!!!
true for both mens and womens .... nuttin' as sexxual as a smooth, unconcerned rolling gait.... like
watching slow liberating deep thang on wheels ... beyond butt... you can just tell when some smoldering
creature is fully conscious of their own ass when she walks... it ain't just back there stuck to her torso...
Yeah...funny littleOriginally Posted by surfs_up
steps will get attention, too - in a bad way.
If a guy's a cocksucker in his life, when he dies, he don't become a saint. - Morris Levy, Hitmen
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