There's a big
difference.
A seduction moves through very defined steps, although there are many different techniques to
acomplish them,
1. build attraction - you have to build attracation first before moving to the next
step
2. create comfort - if you try to create comfort before buildiong attraction, you will put yourself in
the LJBF zone!
3. build raport - finding similar interests, friends, philosophy, etc, if you do this too soon
you come off as being needy and trying to impress. "wow, you like movies! I like movies too! We have so much in
comon"
4. only now can you take it to a physical level
Once you get good at these steps, you can see
exactly the time she becomes attracted to you, when she starts to feel a connection to you and exactly when it's
time to go in for a kiss! Since I've gotten good at this, I've never been turned down for a kiss.
These
steps have been verified by scientists spending hours studying men and women interacting.
"Hitting on a
chick" has a conotation (at tleast to me) of just randomly sayng and doing things that may or may not have any
positive effects on attracting the woman. If she happens to find you attractive, or you're lucky enough not to do
anything dumb, you may get a date or a number. This is called "fool's mate" or "getting lucky". Then you have to
not do anything dumb on the intitial phone call and/or date (again, there's ways to increase the attraction on
dates so as not to get LJBF'd).
At first I had to think about these steps and what was working and what
wasn't all the time. Now that I've integrated it into my being, I can freeflow and move in and out of the various
steps at will, so it's not so rigid.
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