Here's my advice:
Never,
ever wait to do what you can do RIGHT NOW.
I learned this one when I became a photographer. See a great shot?
Stop what you're doing and get it NOW. It might never be available again. Same is true for a lot of other things
in life.
Don't wait to educate yourself. Just go to the bookstore, find a book on it, and read. You don't
need to buy it. And you can even use it to strike up conversations. "Hey, according to this book, you want me!"
Said the right way, it's hilarious.
Another idea: Walk over to an attractive woman and say, "Excuse me, but I
need a woman's point of view on something, would you mind? I have a friend who always does this one particular
thing when we get together, and I was wondering what it means when she does it? Is she interested? Is she
nervous?" This has the added bonus that you're now talking to a woman, and can practice on her.
Spend time
watching others interact, too. Great stuff. And fun!
You know what to do. The success is already in you. What
you need to do is change some of your responses. You can do that by deciding what you need to change and then
writing down, in a short, positively phrased manner, what it is youneed to become. (Example: I am cool and
confident with women I find attractive.) Then, make a recording of yourself saying it in a confident, assured way.
Spend some time listening to it every day, and repeat after it, as so:
Tape: "I am cool and confident with women
I find attractive."
You: (Out loud) "Yes, I am cool and confident with women I find attractive."
Also play it at
low volume in the background while you do other things, especially as you sleep. Eventually, this becomes your new
belief and it manifests as your new reality. Try it; it works. If you need help with the phrasing, just ask. Make
sure there are no negatives in any statement, though!
Finally, remember that no matter what assails you, where
there is a will, there is a way. Sometimes you have to reconsider your beliefs to find the way. Sometimes
you'll need to increase your knowledge. But there's always some way. Always. Don't let yourself be limited by
thinking inside the box... and don't let self limiting beliefs stop you either. Or other people's negativity.
Positive thinking. Just decide you will achieve your goal, and act. As Picard would say, "Make it so,
Number One."
My favorite thing to remind myself is that as long as I do what it takes to succeed, success is
inevitable. More often than not, the only thing it takes is perseverance.
And for goodness sakes... have
fun. That's what it's all about.
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