Honestly, no, I don't. Guys aren't that sophisticated. We cannotOriginally Posted by silksand
emotionally accept two divergent concepts like "compliment" and "rejection" at the same time. We can no more
deliver this to someone else, than we can accept it. If a guy is romantically interested in a girl, and it's
obvious, then, to a man's mind, at least, to MY mind, (I can't speak for all men), there are two possible options.
Either she:
a. Feels also romantically for him.
b. Does not feel romantically for him.
I cannot tell you
how many times in my life I was told "I don't want to ruin our special friendship." But guess what? You just did.
By rejecting the romantic overtures. Rejection hurts, right? Yet, I'm supposed to overlook the hurt, and just
focus on "but, she really likes me as a FRIEND, though.... YAYYYY!!!".
I'm sorry, that' just not realistic.
In EVERY case this happened, it promptly "ruined the friendship". It's selfish to ask a guy to be a friend, when
clearly he wants something more. If you don't feel the same way, that's fine, but it's unrealistic to expect the
other party to just overlook their feelings. So no, whether you truly care for them as a friend is not relevant -
except that, a real friend doesn't want to see the other in pain. It's better to just go separate ways.
Originally Posted by silksand
No....
she SHOULD see him based as a "potential partner", based on what she said. In the above fictitious (yet all too
often realistic) scenario, the following conditions exist:
a: chick unhappy with boyfriend
b: chick states she
wants "nice guy"
c: "nice guy" shows up
What happens next should be obvious, right? Based on her own
statements about what she wants, she should feel attraction towards the nice guy, especially if he makes his
interest known. Yet she doesn't feel the attraction, because she doesn't "see him as a potential partner". Why?
She stated criteria. He met (the stated) criteria. Yet the attraction doesn't exist. This actually proves my
above point - what women SAY they want, and WHAT THEY RESPOND to, are two separate things. That's why the "bad
seduction advice" teaches men:
"It doesn't matter what she says she wants. It only matters what she responds
to."
Not sure how I can state it any clearer than that.
You don't seem boring to me, at least not yet.Originally Posted by silksand
Copout. You know what I'm asking. Let me rephrase it: Are *most* womenOriginally Posted by silksand
likely to engage in, or have *most* women ever engaged in, the above described "leading on" behavior? Others please
feel free to chime in on that.
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