If you're going toOriginally Posted by Traggard
generalize men in such fashion, then the correct way to generalize women on similar grounds is to say that they are
attracted to the ability to provide, protect, and support. Men desire visual traits because they're good signs of a
potential mate for the sake of healthy offspring. Women look for the ability to provide, protect, and support. Back
in the day, physical strength was big...now, it's money. High social standing has always been a big factor because
early it meant you were recognized by your peers as a good hunter, strong warrior, or a successful leader. Now,
social standing comes with power, money, and success. All of these things allow a man to provide, protect, and
support a woman and the couple's offspring. Therefore, they're desirable traits (remember, we're talking about
evolution here).
"Women are more attracted to personality traits" is a fallacy. Men look at personality traits
just as much as women do...just different ones. Women look for personality traits that align with the provide,
protect, and support factors (confidence, assertiveness, dominance, etc.). Men look for personality traits,
too...whether it be femininity, nurturing, and caring or seductive, confident, and strong-willed.
It's not that
the process is different, it's just that since men use visual cues and women use socioeconomical, personality
traits are much more indicative of the latter's potential. Men's instinctual jobs are just easier, that's all.
"She looks attractive. She must be capable of having healthy offspring."
vs.
"He looks and smells
attractive. Now that I have determined his potential to reproduce, I have to determine whether he's capable of
being able to protect, support, and provide for a family. After my initial look to see if he has the socioeconomic
potential, I have to speak with him and see if his personality fits my initial analysis."
That's the cost of
not being the one responsible for having the child...you have to go through a much more complex selection process.
Again, my disclaimer is that this is at the base of human instinctual mating habits. Personality and
feelings are much more involved in the selection process on both sides.
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