Quote Originally Posted by Pancho1188
You're

looking at the definition of the "nice guy" from a female's (or your own if you don't want to generalize)

perspective when she says she wants a "nice guy". However, I'm using the definition of the "nice guy" from a male

perspective, using the definition in the book I reference every five seconds when speaking on the topic. I'm not

saying you're wrong; I'm saying that my spectrum is correct when using my definition because you can be on one

side, the other, or in the middle where you combine the beneficial qualities of both while limiting the negative

ones.

Using my definition, I do not see how a triangle would work because that would imply that they have three

distinct qualities when one combines the best of both of the others.


You can argue for your definition of a

"nice guy" and be correct because there's no set definition for it.
Pancho:

You use the definition of a

nice guy from a book written by one man. You are smart and intelligent. Did they not teach you to think for yourself

instead of relying on another's opinion? Of a certainty, this writer's definition is valid. Equally valid is

yours, Belgareth's and the guy you saw walking down the street. It is up to the person to decide what is the most

right to the situation.

I used a triangle for cause. There is no difference between the wimp and the jackass

other than method. They are both insecure and phony in how they cope with life, they seek reward for how they act

and what they do. Silksand is right to say that it also can be used to describe women. At the apex are those few men

and women who take the best of both and discard as much of the useless as they can. They are not equal to either of

the others but are superior.

You are right too that I use my own definition here. If you carefully consider it

you may find you do the same many times daily. Here for your reasons you have choosen to use another's.