Reply With QuoteBut one way (one of the best
ways) of getting inner game is to "fake it until you make it".
The only problem is you have to have thick
skin so you can deal with the rejection over and over again.
Actually hanging out with
'naturals' is the way to go.
I've spent some time in a house of 5 cool 20 something year old naturals.
Its fun to see the dynamics, because one was the gorgeous model-looks with a rapport-approach.
Another was a
less attractive assholish type.
A third was a big buff dominant type.
Etc..
Thing is , they all got
laid alot and could hold alot of relationships, charm women.
Problem is , when youre out with 3 other guys
in the calvin-klein-underwear-model-caliber you need to DROP THE EGO(not act jealous or insecure, shy etc) kick
back, observe how they behave and try to be as cool of a guy as them(but NOT in a tryhard way, people DO notice
that). Then if you can figure out WHERE theyre coming from then you will get the 'inner-game' down. One big aspect
is the fact of how validated you feel.
People who look good naturally feel validated pretty much all the
time, not being insecure, not being jealous, not being shy, not hiding their sexuality, etc.
But one way (one of the best
ways) of getting inner game is to "fake it until you make it".
The only problem is you have to have thick
skin so you can deal with the rejection over and over again.
Well competence is NEEDED for
confidence in a situation.
Competence equals knowledge and experience.
Faking it is all about gaining
experience, surely you'll seek knowledge aswell as draw your own conclusions from the results and reactions from
experience, thus gaining competence and ultimately confidence. Confidence, something all naturals have when
interacting sexually.
yeah that's veryOriginally Posted by seduceme
important, having cool friends and naturals. afcs carry too much negative energy. my roommate is an afc, he's like
a drain on my positive energy. if i'm stuck in the house with him for 1 day, i feel like my social skills
deteriate.
He lacks validation, its all
about validation.
If you are massively validated, as a person, internally you WILL be percieved as
attractive.
Is he aware that he's an afc and that he's giving off too much negative energy?
And does he know about Ross and DeAngelo?
If a guy's a cocksucker in his life, when he dies, he don't become a saint. - Morris Levy, Hitmen
Holmes' Theme Song
yeah he's aware. he sees me and
my friends bascally own girls when we want. if you lived with him you know what i mean, atleast he pays the rent. i
try to tell him what he's doing wrong but he actually argues with me that he has game.
That's funny!
He isn't able to see that you and your freinds get laid a whole bunch
more than he does?
You'd think that reality would slap him numerous times (getting progressivly harder on
each successive slap) accross the face!
Damn. Trapped in his own gameless paradigm. Is he happy with that? Comfortable in his misery?
Hey, at least you've tried to help the poor guy...
If a guy's a cocksucker in his life, when he dies, he don't become a saint. - Morris Levy, Hitmen
Holmes' Theme Song
So by faking it until you make it,
basicly is working on your outergame, until that, in it's self becomes your inner game.
Maybe this will throw some light
on "inner game" for you.
What is the
Inner Game?
Just dumb luck, I ran a google search and found this.
Not bad, good
find!
The outer game is played on an external arena to overcome external obstacles to reach an
external goal. The inner game takes place within the mind of the player and is played against such obstacles as
fear, self-doubt, lapses in focus, and limiting concepts or assumptions. The inner game is played to overcome the
self-imposed obstacles that prevent an individual or team from accessing their full potential.
LOL - I know what you mean.
I live in the North Bay, which is North of San
Francisco.
I would ride into SF with my AFC wing to go clubbing, and by the time we got to the Golden Gate
Bridge, I felt like telling him to drop me off at mid-span so I could jump off.
That's how draining his
negative AFC-ness was on me.
Not to mention how he would find something wrong with every set I suggested we
open.
After going thru a period of that, I dumped all the negative, woe-is-me, it's not my fault type people
in my life and my success went up by about 50% at least.
People like that will drain you and bring you down
to their level.
I have mixed feelings about Ross Jeffries, but the most valuable piece of information I
gained from him is to "shitcan" the negative people in your life.
Innergame is you, your
personality, your beliefs, your traits. Your character.
Being that the sum of all your thoughts are
your character thus innergame = your thoughts.
Besides, youre hurting your roommates PRIDE by trying to
show him. He has an image of himself, which may differ alot from reality. Thus to protect his ego he thinks he has
game, and when someone tries to show him it implies he doesnt, or that youre above him, something he doesnt think to
protect his ego. THIS IS WHERE YOU NEED TO SEEK RAPPORT! Get rapport, misery loves misery. Get down on his level and
then slowly start to change, lead him in the teacher/student direction. Feel his misery, his anxiousness, then
subtly out of the blue and slowly show him something small, then let him ponder it, then show him some more etc
etc.. Theres something to the truth behind The teacher will appear, when the student is ready.
Hell of a lot
better than coming in in a SS uniforum with a whip screaming at the top of your lungs to vivid explainatory pictures
on how to do it.
that's true but i'm not really
in the mood to do that. i'm just gonna let him wallow in his own misery. if he wants help he's gonna get it on my
terms. i really just want him to shut up with his limiting beliefs and not talk about them around me.
So you want to keep the cake,
and eat it at the same time?
Aint gonna work mr diplomat..
Can you lease the cake with an
option to buy?
This guy sounds like the type who will never do anything about it unless someone is on his
ass.
If a guy's a cocksucker in his life, when he dies, he don't become a saint. - Morris Levy, Hitmen
Holmes' Theme Song
The problem with these type of
people is that they really don't want to change - they're so used to being miserable and depressed that they
somehow perversely like it, and want to draw others down into that reality.
I've tried to help my AFC,
woe-is-me friend for several years in several ways, but finally had to cut ties with him because he not only seemed
to enjoy wallowing in his misery, but he absolutley refused to even consider the possibility that he is the problem
and not the hundreds of women that have rejected him over the years and continue to do so.
Ever see the scene
in "Swingers" where Mikey calls Nikki like 6 times in a row at 2:30 AM the same night he got her number?
This
guy does shit like that. All the time. And he's 44 years old. He just doesn't get it.
eeesh. I know some guys like that
in school, I tell 'em that's rediculous but they just don't seem to get it.
OK today in DD newsletter, he
states himself:
Thanks guys for theBy "inner game", I mean things like your emotions,
your outlook on life, your
"mental map" of how things
work between men and women, etc.
clarification.
I'm getting good on my inner game, and being less of a wussy. When I get to college, I'm
going to be soo freaking prepared for relationships with, heh, women. A lot of the dating teqnuiqes don't work well
for highschool situations because most of the people are really imature.
nobody cares for your success
or failure with women except for yourself....well except for maybe your parents. last i check i wasn't his mommy or
daddy. so i don't feel the need to sugar coat my advice. i offer him advice he can take it or leave it.
You forgot therapists, but then
again they do it for the money and they eventually do help, the way I bluntly described it.
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