Body language part 2

[Fatal]

About clothing.. Apperently I

dress so good, girls ask me if I'm gay because of it. Knowing a little fashion goes along way with the ladies, and

they are supprised when I say I'm not. It's a huge advantage over about 90% of the guys in my school who don't.

Just watch yourself. It sais so many things about you to a girl. And I don't dress with the trend or the hollister

abercrombie craze. That's not what I'm talking about, you have to go above that. I just dress how I like and what

I think is cool. Even if it's not the "cool" thing, if I like it, I do it. And most of the time people thing it's

cool and I standout and other people start following MY trend.

[Marlboro_man]

Well, if she's

hot I'll talk to her

But are you sure, it's not just a response to the fact that I am looking at them in

their eyes?

First off normal eye's on an interested girl go lock this. They meet your gaze, then look

down, then away, and finally they look back usually within 10 secs.
Uninterested girls don't meet your eyes, but

if they do they will look to the side instead of down and not look back in a few secs (unless they are paranoid of

you like your a stalker or something).

Now take that into account and see what happens next time you have

prolonged eye contact. I wouldn't hold their eyes for any more than 3 secs, but watch out of the corner of your

eye to see if they look right back. If they do your definitely in. Also watch for the rest of the cluster of BL

such as pointing, hair flipping (pruning), stroking etc... Put it all together and only you will know the answer to

each case by case scenario.

[Friendly1]

The fact

that it was multiple times was left out of the first post, now it's obvious she was doing it intentionally.

Details.

What if it happens only once. For example if they pass by you in a crowded place.

How do you know if it's intentional? Can you know unless you are facing her and can make eye contact of

course?

When in doubt, move. Do something different. Or do the same thing again. Give her an

opportunity to confirm your first instinct.

I have noticed that when I am in a bar women do this alot

when going through the crowd. (yeah I know you can mention lack of space) If it's real crowded they have to turn

one way or the other and over 90% of the time they choose to rub on me vs the guy or girl on the other side.

There's just no way you can know from one incident, unless they are looking you straight in the eye with that

"Come hither and EARN it" expression.

[TRock]

Well, if she's hot

I'll talk to her

But are you sure, it's not just a response to the fact that I am looking at them in their

eyes?

if they're not interested in you they'll look away.

i get girls refusing to break eye contact

all the time. i asked friendly the same question some time ago. she wants your sausage.

[bjf]

hmmm.... I don't know Trock.

Maybe. I guess it is just the fact that I am the one starting the eye contact that has me not sure what the deal

is. I am not an intimidating guy and I do tend to look them deep into their eyes. I figure they are just kind of

investigating me or my intentions.

They don't look down or down and to the right, btw MM. Actually they

just tend to turn their head and we break EC around the same time.

[TRock]

it's fairly simple man, no need

to overanalyze it for more that it is. you're a sexy guy that they can't keep their eyes off of.

if you were a

girl would you maintain eye contact with a guy that you are not interested in?

[Friendly1]

Some girls know how to flirt

better than others. The ones who don't look down and away first, but who are interested, can be a little clumsier

or a little more blatant. But they will still do certain things subconsciously: they'll look at you, they'll face

you with their bodies, they'll try to be near you, they'll give you opportunities to speak to them.

If she

doesn't want to be near you, she'll do whatever she can to avoid you.

If she is just feeling uncomfortable,

all you need to do (usually) is back off, leave her alone, ignore her, and she may decide to come back. Sometimes,

they have to build up their courage and confidence as much as or more than we do. And that doesn't necessarily

mean they have unusually low self-esteem or anything like that.

Men are expected to be more forward and

aggressive in expressing their interest than women. The women most likely to be forward and aggressive are the ones

with sexual experience. They feel their power.