Originally Posted by
Silver
Let me define a
few terms for the uninitiated. You guys keep throwing the words cocky, confident, arrogant and self-absorbed as if
they all mean the same thing. They don't.
Confident is thinking you're the shit.
Cocky is acting like
you're the shit.
Arrogant is acting like you're shit's hotter than everyone else's shit, and that you're so
much better than everyone else.
Self-absorbed is talking about nothing but how you're the shit.
All
women love confident men, hands down. Some women like there men a little cocky as well. I for one, like men who
are very confident and a little to a lot cocky, depending of if they've actually earned the right to be cocky by
actually BEING the shit. Very few women enjoy arrogant men, because they just make us feel worse about ourselves.
Similarly, very few women like self-absorbed men, and usually these are just the quite ones who are relieved someone
will keep talking.
However, demo, you called her ugly, and that makes you, in her eyes and now in the eyes
of all her friends, a bonafide jerk. And no one, and I mean NO ONE likes a jerk. You can be a jerk to other
people, sometimes, but if you're a jerk to her you are history.
And as a response to Trock and Pherosurf,
wow you guys sound just a tad bitter. You're partially right, but you just don't recognize what's really going
on. Women know what they want, almost always, but sometimes they have a hard time recognizing it in people. These
girls dating jerks are usually searching for confident, slightly cocky guys, and mistook the jerkish arrogance of
some guys for it. If all they want are jerks, they why do they dump these guys? Why do they get mad when they act
like jerks? It's because they've realized that they were mistaken. They might stay with a guy to try to change
him, but they're not staying because they want a jerk. Yes, we don't like pussies, and yes, sometimes we snub the
"sweet sensitive guys", but it's usually because they lack confidence. Show them a guy who's confident and sweet
at the same time and they'll take that over an arrogant SOB any day.
My call for maturity doesn't just
apply to guys. There are many girls today that just need to grow up as well and recognize the difference between
confidence and arrogance. But a real woman knows the difference. Maybe acting like a bastard will get you more
dates. Maybe itwill get you more one-night -stands. But if you're looking for a lasting connection with someone
special, then you better shape up and grow up.
Oh and pherosurf? If the thing you're most concerned about
is not that you h aven't found a nice woman as a companion and girlfriend, but rather that you haven't gotten laid
enough, then it's no wonder that you end up with dates with your hand. We women HATE that.
Hope this
helps,
~Silver
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