signs of love

[tiberius]

Questions about the past are

okay and beneficial, but they can be taken too far. Its one thing for a woman to ask me about how long my last

relationship lasted, but its an entirely different matter if she starts asking for very detailed information about

past relationships.

I am only talking about right after meeting someone or on a first or second date...now if

its someone I've been with for a while then feel free to ask away. From my experience, if she starts trying to

learn everything about you on the first date, your entire dating history, and the names numbers addresses of all

your ex's, then she probably has a tendency to be overly possessive and gets jealous easily.

[Yoel]

I am only talking

about right after meeting someone or on a first or second date...now if its someone I've been with for a while then

feel free to ask away. From my experience, if she starts trying to learn everything about you on the first date,

your entire dating history, and the names numbers addresses of all your ex's, then she probably has a tendency to

be overly possessive and gets jealous easily.

Another good point.

Yoel

[belgareth]

One of the best deflectors of

unwanted questions is to reverse them.

She: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: Not right now, how about you?

No

matter what she answers follow up with another question. No matter what her adenda is, she'll talk about herself if

you show the slightest interest. If you keep deflecting unwanted questions that way she'll eventually learn not to

pry so much. Some women will take offense at it but most seem to get more curious about you. It adds some flavor to

the initial getting to know each other phase. One lady saw what I was doing and made a game of it. We ended up

having a lot of fun because she was sharp and willing to make fun of herself and me.

[Friendly1]

And what might

those questions be?

That probably varies from region to region. When I was that age, living in

Georgia (in the USA, not the former Soviet republic), the girls wanted to know where I went to school, where I went

to church, who my friends were, where my kinfolk (cousins, aunts, and uncles) lived, whether I had a car, whether I

was under curfew, did I do drugs, drink, etc.

They wanted to know if I was local, related to them, somehow

associated with their circle of friends or relatives, good, bad, safe, dangerous, fun, boring, and a whole lot

more.

At that age, the girls seem to be desperate to get a boyfriend. It's a social vindication to have one.

And, naturally, he has to be a QUALITY boyfriend if they can catch one.

The boyfriend is mostly arm-dressing (at

first). If they really like him, or are easily manipulated, things can become more intimate.

[private]

i would not dig with friends of

her ... too much mouth probaganda here ...
how fast my relations start, how fast the also end ... mostly from my

side. guess i am not ready for a real relation yet.

[Felstorm]

One of the best

deflectors of unwanted questions is to reverse them.

She: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: Not right now,

how about you?

I've actually had a conversation like this.

Her: Do you have a girlfriend?

Me:

Do you?

Her: No! *incredulous*

You: Why not?

Her: I'm not lesbian... *peeved*

You: Coulda

fooled me. *big smile*

Her: *punches me in the arm*

That one was fun. Nothing came of it though. I wasn't

awed by the fact she had boobies, and couldn't get me drop to my knees to worship her. I think she hooked up with

some barfly from work that caved in to her.