WHAT SELF-CONFIDENCE REALLY MEANS TO WOMEN
Most women
will say that they are attracted to men who exude what they call self-confidence, but what my follow-up research has
shown is that what they are talking about is more akin to arrogance.
In testing in singles bars on New York's
Upper East Side, I used two men who had tested equally sexy in the eyes of most women. When I asked the men to act
in a self-confident or assured manner, the relationship between their demeanor and the way any women were attracted
to them was practically
zero. Yet when I told the men to act arrogantly, they were far more successful in
being judged sexy and attractive. I do not know the meaning of this, and am not sure I want to find out, but take
it for what it is worth.
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