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    Default How to reverse the "I like you" mistake, guys make

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    Recently this girl that i've liked for a long time, I told her I liked her and obviously

    she turned me down saying "im glad you will always be a good FRIEND to me". I read some articles by david and sloan

    and now I know why. So just for fun I thought hrmm ill try something new. So since I come in contact with her a lot

    everyday, I started just ignoring her like just not starting conversations with her, if she would say my name I

    would act like I didn't hear it, if she asked a question I would keep it short leaving her question unanswered but

    in a smooth way. After I started doing this I noticed she tries to get my attention now by calling my name etc. Am I

    right in doing this? Is there anything else I can do to turn my mistake around and give me the upper hand?

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    I don't think you made a

    mistake, you were being honest and that's a good quality. At least now, you know how she feels and she knows how

    you feel.

    From what I've read in this forum by others, I take it people want what they can't have. Do you

    have any girl that you can be seen with while this girl is around? Although that's playing games, something I

    despise, but it seems to work in some situations.

    I always start off my relationships as friends. What gets

    my attention when it comes to men is a great sense of humor. And I have to have something in common with the guy.



    And one final note... Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by culturalblonde
    I don't

    think you made a mistake, you were being honest and that's a good quality. At least now, you know how she feels and

    she knows how you feel.

    From what I've read in this forum by others, I take it people want what they can't

    have. Do you have any girl that you can be seen with while this girl is around? Although that's playing games,

    something I despise, but it seems to work in some situations.

    I always start off my relationships as friends.

    What gets my attention when it comes to men is a great sense of humor. And I have to have something in common with

    the guy.

    And one final note... Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.

    Indeed your right about the hanging with another girl thing, I hang out with a lot of girls just as friends and I

    had a girl shout I love you (name) (playfully, not serious) behind me and she heard it then later on she kept trying

    to get my attention;-) but I wouldn't let her muahaha

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    What can I do to make her

    attracted to me? Has anyone else read any of the archer sloan, david deangelo products, and had any success with

    them? If so what did you do to make it work?

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    Sheesh, I recently told a female

    friend I liked her and she jumped my bones. On the other hand, I've confessed love to women I had a sexual

    relationship with and they a) ran away as fast as they could or b) took advantage of my new found weakness. So,

    there are no hard 'n fast rules in love 'n relationships. You gotta learn how to improvise for the moment at

    hand.
    "I'm just a dirty hornytoad" -Gegogi

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    Well this isn't a rare

    example, she told me she is glad I will always be a good friend to her. What do I do to change "friend" into

    boyfriend?

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    Quote Originally Posted by culturalblonde
    I don't

    think you made a mistake, you were being honest and that's a good quality. At least now, you know how she feels

    and she knows how you feel.

    From what I've read in this forum by others, I take it people want what they

    can't have. Do you have any girl that you can be seen with while this girl is around? Although that's playing

    games, something I despise, but it seems to work in some situations.

    I always start off my relationships as

    friends. What gets my attention when it comes to men is a great sense of humor. And I have to have something in

    common with the guy.

    And one final note... Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your

    smile.




    Blondie, you have made some great points. One of the best posts a women has

    made around here. Short and to the point.


    Too many of these youngsters are looking for magic answers.

    They have been given much insight from many people that post here. It's up to them to discern the truth from the

    BS, and put it into practice.

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    "Well this isn't a rare

    example, she told me she is glad I will always be a good friend to her. What do I do to change "friend" into

    boyfriend?"
    I'm not sure what you mean by "rare" example, but I've told many women I really liked them,

    had a great friendship and later that friendship blossomed into something more. Not everyone is looking for true

    love or going "steady." Lots of women, especially younger women, just want to have a good time, hang out and hop in

    the sack from time to time. Being friends is one of the best ways to start. If you're meant to be together it will

    happen. If not, you still have a friend and good times to remember. You can't do anything to force the situation.
    "I'm just a dirty hornytoad" -Gegogi

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    Quote Originally Posted by DeMoKiLL
    Well this

    isn't a rare example, she told me she is glad I will always be a good friend to her. What do I do to change

    "friend" into boyfriend?
    You cannot "make" anyone feel anything. You can only give them reasons to feel

    one way or another and then let them decide.

    If you want to be viewed as boyfriend material, you have to act

    like boyfriend material without seeming like you are only interested in that one person.

    Ignoring her may help,

    but you don't want to seem rude or petulant. Just be a calm, confident man who lives his own life.

    She'll

    either get the message and change her tune, or she won't. Your life shouldn't be ruined if she doesn't change

    her mind.

    Learn from this experience.

    Friends can and do fall in love. It happens all the time. But the

    more you try to make it happen, the less likely it will.

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    Just be yourself around her, but

    at the same time try and figure out which -mone combo works best on her. Girls dont like it when the only life you

    have is chasing after them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Friendly1
    You

    cannot "make" anyone feel anything. You can only give them reasons to feel one way or another and then let them

    decide.

    If you want to be viewed as boyfriend material, you have to act like boyfriend material without seeming

    like you are only interested in that one person.

    Ignoring her may help, but you don't want to seem rude or

    petulant. Just be a calm, confident man who lives his own life.

    She'll either get the message and change her

    tune, or she won't. Your life shouldn't be ruined if she doesn't change her mind.

    Learn from this

    experience.

    Friends can and do fall in love. It happens all the time. But the more you try to make it happen,

    the less likely it will.
    AMEN- ive had many good relationships with women who

    started as friends. in fact the best loves of my life were friends. however keep in mind Sex does ruin

    friendships.
    maybe next time instead of saying "i like you" maybe give her a flower or something

    like that. Actions speak louder than words sometimes. it could have been the way you said it.
    if it

    doesnt work out than oh well. its her loss

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    Im going to completely ignore

    her for a week, she is like begging for my attention now I can feel the power! I was in class one day and she was

    like don't forget to bring in food for the can food drive (name) all you need is 15 bla bla and I was like yea..

    and I turned away and talked to someone else then shes like whats wrong? and then someone turns and shes like he

    hates me now:-) Ill keep this going and maybe if I keep it up long enough she will want me so bad she will beg and

    plead. muahaha the power! oh and by the way David DeAngelo RULES! He's funny and he boosts your level of confidence

    that you never thought was possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DeMoKiLL
    Im going to

    completely ignore her for a week, she is like begging for my attention now I can feel the power! I was in class one

    day and she was like don't forget to bring in food for the can food drive (name) all you need is 15 bla bla and I

    was like yea.. and I turned away and talked to someone else then shes like whats wrong? and then someone turns and

    shes like he hates me now:-) Ill keep this going and maybe if I keep it up long enough she will want me so bad she

    will beg and plead. muahaha the power! oh and by the way David DeAngelo RULES! He's funny and he boosts your level

    of confidence that you never thought was possible.
    Just be careful that your plan doesn't backfire on

    you. Given that situation, I'm not sure if I would completely ignore her... I would certainly avoid initiating any

    conversations with her, but if she decides to talk to you, by all means try not to be a jerk! You should be in a

    great mood, be overly happy, but don't drag the conversation on. End it sooner than she'd expect. Make her want to

    become part of your life, not the other way around. Try not to have many moments with her, but the ones you DO have

    with her, blow her out of her mind. Every time she thinks of you from then on, she will think only good things, THEN

    she will be under your control.

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    ok ill tune it down a little

    bit and pay a little bit more attention to her, see if the 4 days so far did anything:-D. Ill keep conversations to

    a minimum and the ones that we do have will be strictly cut to relationship stuff, as stated in DYD, don't ever

    have an intelligent conversation

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    huh? Your not supposed to have an

    intelligent conversations? And isn't talking about relationships bad in his book?

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    no you can have intelligent

    conversation but not in demokill's current situation. but honestly demokill this is one-itis. you're best strategy

    is to pick up other chicks preferably better looking than her and rub it in her face. or you might decide this new

    chick is a better option for you.

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    I agree with the one-itis. Just

    keep her in the back of your mind and go on with the rest of your life... if something happens, it will happen, if

    not, then that's why you've been looking for other targets!

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    not intelligent, intellectual,

    I ran out of time to make that correction.

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    so what should I do, should I

    talk to her and try to act like ill listen but not really interested or should I just like ignore her until she does

    something?

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    Quote Originally Posted by DeMoKiLL
    so what should I

    do, should I talk to her and try to act like ill listen but not really interested or should I just like ignore her

    until she does something?
    Ignore her until she does something, kill her with charm, and once the

    conversation breaks, go back to ignoring her again. As with everything else, there are exceptions to just about

    everything. Like jealousy, people get so caught up in making someone jealous that they overlook/block out the other

    result ... it either brings them back, ORRRRRR it pushes them away forever. Is she worth the risk of

    losing?
    If the answer is yes, have fun, and continue playing. And always remember, the next one that

    walks onto your most desired list, maybe somewhere near, watching you, while you're being a jerk to this girl (or

    her friends), so, be a good jerk, and understand that if she's not laughing while you're at it, you're not doing

    too well.
    Never argue with ignorant people! They pull you down to THEIR level, and then they BEAT YOU with experience. Who said that!? I don't know, but tis gold I tell'ya!!

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    wow. mobley, that was like the

    TIP OF THE MONTH! im sirius mon.


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    Deangelo says once you're in

    LJBF land to move on. You can turn the situation around, but it takes a lot of work. There are many more women out

    there.

    It sounds like you're putting too much importance on a particular outcome with women. That

    immediately puts her in the position of power because she is the one doing the chosing.

    Don't ignore her,

    bust her balls in a funny way, demonstrate that you could care less if she's interested in you or not. Date other

    women. If she sees that you have a life and are in demand, her opinion might change and she might move you from the

    LJBF part of her brain into the "possible mate" part. But if you're dating other women, you may not care if this

    particular one goes out with you or not.

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    One-itis, as others already said.

    Go on with your life, she'll notice and eventually miss your attentions, or maybe not, so who cares, you'll be

    going out with other women by that time won't you?

    Yoel
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    it is a one-itis, ill be

    willing to put in the work to turn it around but like today she didn't say anything she just whispered to a guy and

    told him that I was mad at her then he like asked me, I just played it off and said ill tell you some other time, he

    asked me again I said it doesn't matter, forget about it, and he didn't ask me again.

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    What should I do, should I keep

    ignoring her until she tries to get my attention in a drastic way and then all the meantime hang out with other

    girls? Or should I start talking to her again forgetting about her making a move?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MOBLEYC57
    Ignore

    her until she does something, kill her with charm, and once the conversation breaks, go back to ignoring her again.

    As with everything else, there are exceptions to just about everything. Like jealousy, people get so caught up in

    making someone jealous that they overlook/block out the other result ... it either brings them back, ORRRRRR

    it pushes them away forever. Is she worth the risk of losing? If the answer is yes, have fun, and

    continue playing. And always remember, the next one that walks onto your most desired list, maybe somewhere

    near, watching you, while you're being a jerk to this girl (or her friends), so, be a good jerk, and understand

    that if she's not laughing while you're at it, you're not doing too well.
    No not worth losing,

    first girl i've actually seen that was worth my time in a long while. But, despite the fact that shes probably one

    of the best i've seen so far, ill just forget about it, ill keep playing and just see what happens for fun.

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    How should I answer why im

    "mad" at her?

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    What a lackey that guy
    You

    should have delivered a quick line at him, nothing comes to my mind now, the opportunity is gone anyway.

    I

    don't think you should ignore her, you should be more on the lines of "being aloof". I'm in a rush now but if you

    post her behaviour, how she is responding to your last actions, we could sure help.

    Yoel
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    dunn worry he wasn't with the

    girl she was gone when she asked but he has respect for me so its all good

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    how should I turn from

    completely ignoring to being aloof?

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