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Are You With Him? Why Yes, Want to Date Him?


Segev for The New York Times
Allison Frenkel, center, a paid "wingwoman," introduces her client Evan Rock to

newfound friends at the Cabanas.


Published: October 10, 2004


Segev for The New York Times
Allison Frenkel, top right, confers with her client Daniel Blumberg before rounding

up a prospective date.

DANIEL BLUMBERG, a 38-year-old filmmaker, arrived at a party on the

roof of the Gansevoort hotel on a Thursday night with a young woman named Allison Frenkel. The two had met just a

few minutes before, in front of the hotel in the meatpacking district, but after a peck on the cheek and a few

pleasantries they were already familiar. So much so that halfway through their first drink they were circling the

roof deck and discussing which women caught Mr. Blumberg's eye.

Ms. Frenkel discreetly tilted her chin

toward a blonde in a white dress and asked, "Do you like her?"

Mr. Blumberg shook his head no. "Well, let's

keep circulating," Ms. Frenkel said.

When he expressed no interest in the next woman she pointed to, a

brunette in a preppy sweater, Ms. Frenkel shrugged. "He's the man, whatever he wants," she said. "It is not about

me." Then Mr. Blumberg gestured toward the bar area. "What about that Kylie Minogue look-alike over there?" A moment

later the couple headed over.

Ms. Frenkel was not on a date with Mr. Blumberg, in pursuit of a kinky

threesome; she was on the clock. A 29-year-old graduate student, she is one of a dozen women who work for a New

York-based Web site called Wingwomen.com, earning up to $30 an hour to accompany single men to bars and help them

chat up other women. The Web site's founder, Shane Forbes, a computer programmer, started it in December after

realizing he had more success with women when he went to clubs with female friends. "Every time I was with them, I

would meet women," he said.

The wingwoman is the latest twist on the wingman, that devoted male sidekick who

helps a buddy pick up women at bars and clubs. Originally a "Top Gun" kind of term that referred to a pilot flying

protectively behind his squadron leader, its more recent meaning entered popular culture around 1996 through the

movie "Swingers," about two men road-tripping to Las Vegas, serving as each other's wingmen in attempted conquests.

More recently a commercial for Coors Light helped popularize the wingman, with its portrayal of a guy who is

left talking to a dull female investment banker while his grinning pal grinds up against her beautiful friend on the

dance floor. A male voice sings: "So buy her a beer. It's the reason you're here, mighty wingman. You're taking

one for the team, so your buddy can live the dream."

Wingmen are typically close friends of the men they

help, and — whether they accept their support role at the outset or have it thrust upon them — they are expected to

suffer in the job. "You have to give up some happiness or comfort for the vision of your friend," said Jordan

Carlos, a 25-year-old advertising copywriter who recently optioned a screenplay about an advertising executive

turned professional wingman. "You always get roped into a conversation with the hot girl's annoying friends, which

they always seem to have."

To be sure, not every wingman's duties weigh so heavily. At an East Village

rooftop party on a recent Saturday night, Jeff O'Neill, 25, seemed pleased by the role. "I have had a golden

wingman experience tonight," he said. "We were at a bar, and this girl accidentally spilled her beer on my shirt. I

made a joke about it and introduced her and her friend to my two guy friends, and now all five of us are here."

Standing alone, surveying the two couples, he said: "I won't be happy till the job is done and they go home

together. I want to be the best man."

But Mr. Forbes of Wingwomen.com says the traditional wingman's

effectiveness is in decline. "Women are used to guys and their wingmen hitting on them," he said. On his Web site,

he argues that women "have developed reactive strategies to counteract the wingman's pickup mission." In response

he sends women — hired on the basis of photographs, essays and interviews, and with no special training — to do what

has long been a man's job. He said that he has had more than 200 customers, and that his wingwomen have a

"conversion rate" of 65 percent, meaning clients end up with phone numbers.

Brian Patterson, 28, an

investment banker, tried Wingwomen.com twice, paying the $50-an-hour fee, and said he was pleased with the results.

On his second night out he collected several phone numbers and ended up dating one woman for six weeks.


the Gansevoort rooftop party, Ms. Frenkel proved her skills, tirelessly approaching one woman after another on Mr.

Blumberg's behalf. Her method was to strike up a conversation without identifying her true role, and she never used

the same line twice. "Wow, is that an Armani dress?" she asked one woman. "I saw that in the store window and love

it. It looks great." To a woman in finance, who said she was interested in focusing on fashion design, Ms. Frenkel

said: "Oh, you're interested in switching careers? You should talk to Danny, he made the switch from business to


Within 45 minutes, Mr. Blumberg and Ms. Frenkel had spoken with three different women. Mr. Blumberg,

who had been skeptical from the start — he agreed to accompany Ms. Frenkel at a reporter's request and was not a

paying customer — took his successes in stride. When asked about the women he had met, he shrugged. "They are all

nice and cute, but two were in insurance, and the other one is from New Jersey."

An hour later, as his

evening with Ms. Frenkel was ending, he had spoken with a handful of other prospects and had been invited by a leggy

Ukrainian model to join her gaggle of friends for drinks at Spice Market (which he regretfully declined in the

interest of continuing his research). He was a convert. "There is emphatically no way I would have met so many women

so quickly without Allie," he said.

Ms. Frenkel's success seemed due to factors beyond her gregariousness.

Mr. Forbes said women like to compete and are "more attracted to men who have other women surrounding them because

they want what they can't have."

More fundamentally, a wingwoman serves as an icebreaker, because, as Mr.

Forbes put it, women see men with women as "having a seal of approval and being less hostile." Ms. Frenkel agreed,

saying, "Women are so used to men hitting on them, they just turn the other way, but they will give me a chance."

Is Ms. Frenkel troubled by setting up her sisters, whom she never informs of her role?

"I'm purely

an introduction tool," she said. "I am a service to help guys who have difficulty in approaching people, who don't

want to shoot out another pickup line. I don't vouch for people, but people sometimes jump to that


Mr. Patterson, the banker, said he never told the woman he dated for six weeks that they had met

through a paid wingwoman. "It didn't really come up," he said. "Why would it? She never asked and I definitely

didn't offer to explain."

After saying good night to Mr. Blumberg, Ms. Frenkel caught up with Bachelor No.

2, Evan Rock, a 25-year-old law school student who had also agreed to go out with a wingwoman for this article.

Their evening began around 11:30 at the Cabanas, the open-air bar at the Maritime Hotel, where things did not start

auspiciously. There were few prospects and Mr. Rock seemed uncertain. Twenty minutes ticked by as they reminisced

about summer camps.

Then they decided to penetrate a tight clique of women decked out in gauzy tops,

miniskirts and stilettos. Ms. Frenkel jumped into the middle of the conversation with a flimsy excuse about looking

for acquaintances from work. The women, who work in fashion, opened their circle, and soon Mr. Rock was at its

center, being peppered with questions.

In a corner of the Cabanas, Ms. Frenkel spotted the ultimate prize:

Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen. She and Mr. Rock decided to go for it. But when Ms. Frenkel charged in their direction,

the twins got up to leave. Flustered for the first time that evening, Ms. Frenkel trailed after them, asking lamely,

"So, which one of you is Mary-Kate?" The twins barely broke stride.

Mr. Rock and his wingwoman moved on to

Max Fish on the Lower East Side, a hipster-packed bar that is grimier than the upscale spots where Ms. Frenkel

normally works. They pushed their way into the crowd. Mr. Rock wondered if Ms. Frenkel would be too clean-cut to

work here. Tight clutches of people stood around nursing beers and playing pool. With whispers and pantomime, Mr.

Rock indicated the one woman he was interested in, an auburn-haired beauty who stood six feet tall in turquoise

heels. She was leaning on the bar chatting with three men. Ms. Frenkel squared her shoulders and inched toward her

quarry. "Is your drink as strong as mine?" she asked. The woman nodded. The two started talking.


minutes later Ms. Frenkel, exhausted, left the bar and folded herself into a cab. As the door closed behind her, Mr.

Rock and his new auburn-haired friend stood with heads bent close together, clutching drinks that would not be

drained until 3 a.m.