Ladies I need your help

[Ash]

sorry but I´ve been

watching 2 football matches at the same time tonight,never mind

Why the duck CJ? Just when it gets

interesting you always cut and run. So, out with it. What gets CJ's boat floating?

[JustPeachy]

I'm thinking about

a long term solution not some seduction technique to get some pum pum.
What I'm saying is that here might be

something under the surface that needs to be brought to the surface and get resolved.



DCW

You

could even be right. In the long term. However - going out and bringing a "disinterested" third party into one's

sex life can be a major joykiller, right there. (Unless you are KoolKing, in which case you STILL wouldn't want a

"disinterested" 3rd party. Or maybe they like that, too. )

I thought bel made a good point earlier, too.

You don't want to come on all subbie unless that's something you're both into. The idea is to come on all strong,

stable, alpha male provider - but stay on target as far as finding out what SHE really wants. Strong, stable Alpha

guys are tough enough and cool enough to do that. Even strong women dig being pampered, and the notion that strong

women want weak men is possibly the biggest urban myth in existence. (If anything, strong women want an even

stronger man than most. And you can totally trust me on that point, because I KNOW. Find one who doesn't, and

I'll show you an Academy Award in the making.)

[a.k.a.]

I bought TA and PPA.

Tried to use both separately and in combination

Do you mean TE? How much did you use? A tinny dab of this

stuff, rubbed between my wrists, does wonders for rousing my gf out of a peaceful slumber.

the

only thing that I got was that she snugged too comfortably close to me and had a very deep sleep.

Maybe

I'm reading too much into the symbolism of this gesture. (Man sends out strong signal of his virility. Woman

cuddles up and drifts into a deep sleep.) Is your wife under some kind of stress? Does she have reason to feel

insecure?
(Also, what does "too comfortably close" mean? Is your wife still in pretty good shape or has she let

herself go?)

[CJ01]

I'm thinking about a long term

solution not some seduction technique to get some pum pum.

same here but you have to start somewhere.

[CJ01]

Quote:
Originally Posted

by CJ01
sorry but I´ve been watching 2 football matches at the same time tonight,never mind


Why

the duck CJ? Just when it gets interesting you always cut and run. So, out with it. What gets CJ's boat

floating?

not ducking just tired of repeating myself the whole time on this board about certain issues

[Ash]

Quack, quack, quack!!!

[LadyWithQuestions]

My

experience is that even after years of being together a woman wants to be romanced. You described laying in bed

watching TV for a couple hours then asking her if she wants to fool around; not very romantic.

Everybody

here had some good points, you need to mix and match to come up with something that works. My own suggestions are to

start paying attention to her feelings in general and make her feel special. Seduce her! There are hundreds of

little things to do. For no good reason, walk up behind her and rub her shoulders for a minute then walk away. Or

kiss the back of her neck. Bring her flowers, or better yet, send them to her while she's at work. Call her during

the day and take her out to a nice lunch without the kids. Go home early, arrange for a neighbor or friend to take

the kids for the evening. Buy or prepare a simple dinner with candlelight and wine. Don't let her do any of the

clean up either, give her the whole evening off without pressure. Be friendly, funny, considerate and loving. Not

just when you want to get laid, but as a daily part of your life.

A couple I know take a weekend every other

month and run away (That's what they call it) They leave the kids with a sitter for the weekend and go to a B&B,

preferably one with a hot tub, for a couple days. They also have a couple dates every month where they simply go to

dinner and a movie or something similar, without the kids.

The idea is to bring the romance and fun back

into your relationship. It's hard with kids and jobs and such but if you want to stay happily married, you need to

be not just a husband but a lover. And that doesn't mean just getting sex, it means being that guy she married way

back before all the responsibility got dumped on your shoulders.

I'm not saying it's all your fault, it

usually is both people contributing to the problem. Fixing it isn't going to be easy or quick but with time and

effort, it will probably be well worth it. On last word, just because you are doing things for her, don't let it

lead you into becoming subservient to her. There's a fine balance between being good and becoming a

slave.

How do I give points to the writer of this wonderful advice? It's the best-written advice

I've ever read and so perfectly-put. How do we give points to the poster?

THANK YOU for the wonderful

advice. =)
LWQ

[belgareth]

How do

I give points to the writer of this wonderful advice? It's the best-written advice I've ever read and so

perfectly-put. How do we give points to the poster?

THANK YOU for the wonderful advice. =)
LWQ

You're welcome M' Lady.