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I have been using mones for years and what i noticed is have received ALOT more eye contact
with them sometimes too much , even to the point where i have to look away or it seems like we are staring at each
other. And I don't want to seem like a weirdo.
Does anyone have any comebacks/jokes or anything they say when a
girl keeps staring into your eyes for a while?
Thanks,
Angel
Uhmmm! Have you tried
"Hi!"??:blink:
I used to have the same problem, big
time. Terminal shyness. Now I'm married with 3 kids and don't worry about it. I just smile, sometimes say "hi"
and keep moving, but probably if I were single and on the prowl again, I would freeze up again. I have some
incredible stories about the 'fish who tried to jump in the bucket, but I couldn't hold it still enough'
OK,
the advice.... Yeah, just bite the bullet, smile and say "hi". Maybe it will develop, maybe it won't, but there is
only one way to find out.
Sorry I guess I should
have emphasized a little bit more:frustrate. I was talking more about when i'm already in a conversation talking
with a girl, for example this girl I know always seems to look straight into my eyes when im talking and when I stop
talking. I dont want to make her uncomfortable by staring at her when im talking with her, so I usually look into
her eyes when talking then look down or to the side.
But when i look back at her she is there still staring
straight into my eyes and is still doing it even after I finish what I was saying which sometimes is very awkward
and we end up in uncomfortable silences.
Is this normal maybe she likes me, but yet she already has a boyfriend
sooo.....
I just wanted something funny/witty to say so we wont have those awkward moments.
Thanks,
Angel
So this is one particular person
you already know, not a bunch of random people??
yes, I have known her forQuote:
Originally Posted by Mtnjim
about a full school semester now. i noticed most people do the same thing I do (look to the side/down) when in
conversations to not make me or other people uncomfortable, but she doesn't do that much. I guess maybe thats how
she is?
Sounds like it.Quote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
As an experiment, you might try holdng eye contact--no
matter what---until she breaks it, just to see what happens.
Maybe find some other activity going
on nearby that you can direct the attention/conversation to. Like "hey look at that going on over there. What's
with that?" Or watch and comment about some other person's, animal's, or raindrop's behavior. Get her to
watch/look at something else and engage her in conversation about that. Like watching a move and making running
commentary type thing.
Or bring a prop of some sort to look at. Pictures in a magazine, on your MP3 "digital
media player" thing, etc. Learn a few magic tricks, whatever. Get her looking somewhere else but tie it into the
conversation you are having.
Just some thoughts.
Holding eye contact can be very
sexy if you have a smile in your eyes. Its touchy, don't be threatening. Make her comfortable. Acknowledge the
stare, and make it a welcome thing.
which mones u using?
Well I was just using AFA for awhile, but I just recentlyQuote:
Originally Posted by sgcliques
bought AE and some TE gel packs and I will try those out next week after Christmas break.
First bold section:Quote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
Characteristics of a DOMINANT woman.
Second bold section: Characteristics of a SUBMISSIVE man.
I reserve all rights to be wrong! \o/ :run:
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Originally Posted by MOBLEYC57
I guess
she might be, how do dominant types act?
First of all its fine, and very
useful, to think about this kind of stuff now. Just make sure that when your actually interacting with people you
are much less "in your head" and are instead just flowing. If you start trying to micromanage your self like that
the chances are that she'll think you're uncomfortable (which you are, right?).
Even here:
You are thinking too much.Quote:
I dont
want to make her uncomfortable by staring at her when im talking with her, so I usually look into her eyes when
talking then look down or to the side.
HOWEVER, a general rule is that you
should try to be the last person to break eye contact. Your probably worried that you're going to come across as
creepy or something, but again you're thinking too much. Subconsciously you already know when you've gone too far,
so just let things flow. It's GREAT that she makes a lot of eye contact because this is awesome for building and
manipulating sexual tension. Also, as Mobes points out to look down is *supposedly* an act of submission (NEVER good
if your a man in your average conversation, 99% of the time women want a dominant man to sleep with). After
reading that years ago I found myself breaking eye contact by looking up and too the side when remembering some
something or whatever. Does this make a big difference? No idea! But it feels right and I know that generally I'm
the dominant one in my interactions.
wow - you'd have to wonder
why she does that. Maybe she's trying to make you fall in love with her, would that be to your liking? If so,
I'd go for it.
Sue and I went out to eat at a new diner here in town last week, won't go back as the food
was dismal. At any rate, a family of three came in and sat at a table behind us. The woman was younger, attractive
and a bit curvy. Our eyes locked for a bit and she wasn't about to let go but I did have to turn away as I was
afraid that Sue might have caught on and I sure don't want to annoy her. I didn't look down but more to the side.
I wonder what kind of body language that is??? BTW, no mones on. I tend not to wear them when it's 2 degrees F
outside.
My bet would be that either
she's dominant or already in love. You looking back into her eyes is not a bad thing ... as long as you can produce
a tad bit of a smile instead of looking like you're about to kill her or yourself. :sick:
Like the Capitano
said, hi Cap! ... you're thinking too much, and that mostly leads to bad/wrong decisions/answers. For some reason,
when humans filter things, they tend to go with the negative answer instead of the positive. Wonder why that is?
:drunk:
I actually thought i was
the dominant one, since she is always asking me for advice (she always makes it seem like she needs help). Really I
never thought too much about the eye contact thing until when one day I think I looked at her a little too long and
she said "why am I giving her the look" of course she said it with a smile. She kept saying that all
period long even when I looked at her for about 2 seconds! i think she was just flirting with me though.
Now back
to me being the dominant one, some of my friends have told me they were intimidated by me when they first saw me or
met me, as well as other people I barley know(Too much mones I guess, i barely found out about ODs on this Site!).
Anyway I think she sees me as person she looks up to, she always tells me her problems then just waits for me to
come up with a solution.
go for it or
not?
She already has a boyfriend, and I actually convinced her toQuote:
Originally Posted by koolking1
break up with her old one to go out with her new one.
Not meaning to rain on the
parade.
Although (from experience...) being that involved with a woman's life and not dating her. You may hear
something along the lines of "your such a nice guy. why ruin our special friendship" or simiilar impression that
your considered more her brother than a dating prospect.
I'm guessing thats it, maybe she looks up to me like a big brother? Though she has told me sheQuote:
Originally Posted by Pendragon
wishes her boyfriend was more like me.
I don't mean it to discourage
you. Stick in there. Either she'll remain a real good friend ro it may turn into something more later on.
Having close lady friends is always good for honest advice and setting you up with their friends.
Could not agree more. Building also on the other responses I think that you should just play itQuote:
Originally Posted by CptKipling
naturally and let the dynamics play themselves out. I'm one that figures a good female friend is a nice thing to
have, it isn't always about sex.
I think a woman will stare if she's attracted to you, or she's a control
drone. Its easy enough to tell the difference. I think this girl likes you.
Yep, me tooQuote:
Originally Posted by idesign
What do you want with this
girl? Sorry if I've missed that in the thread...but even if she has a boyfriend and you and her are friends there
is nothing wrong with being honest about what you want. I'm going to assume that you like her because, well, it's
much more fun that way :D
Seems to me as though sheQuote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
isn't domineering and even necessarily dominant here, but rather she wants a man that leads strongly. Btw the
reason why good eye contact is a sign of dominance is that to lock eyes with someone creates a lot of tension (even
as part of an apparently neutral conversation there are subtle interplays of tension), and your ability to deal with
that tension and then to manipulate it are indicators of your social experience and
status.
I'd say she was flirting too. You should have definitely said something about the way she wasQuote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
looking at you! "This look?! No this is me wondering why your looking at me like I'm the tastiest chocolate cake
you've ever seen!" ...or whatever, consider something actually funny ;)
Do you like this girl? If so that was silly :)Quote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
Quote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
As Pendragon mentioned this isQuote:
Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989
dodgy territory. It's possible that she sees you as the typical shoulder-to-cry-on nice guy.
However, as I
mentioned, eye contact builds tension and she is clearly comfortable with this happening with you. Also, what I
highlighted in red is a clear response to your eye contact
triggering sexual tension/attraction. Think about it! Even if she couldn't allow herself to escalate she would have
had to feel the emotion to describe it like that, as "THE look".
Btw none of this is advice as such, because I
don't know either of you or your particular relationship.
Having said that, I think you like her and if I were
you I'd go for it :hammer: :D
Hi Mobes!
I agree about the eye contact
thing. Holding eye contact longer is a sign of being alpha, so it's almost always better to hold it longer. Just
make sure you don't have a Wes-Bentley-in-American-Beauty creepy look while you're doing it. A playful smile is
probably best.
I'd be careful since she's already in a relationship. I would probably say something to the
effect of "if your feelings aren't in a relationship, it's unfair to you and the other person" since she seems to
be suggesting that she'd rather be with you ("I wish my BF was more like you") and it's not a big brother thing.
If you'd like to have a chance with her, try to be abstract about the relationship so she can be the one who
decides to end it (if she even so decides) instead of thinking it was you. I'd advise against being honest about
what you want if she's in a relationship. The odds of you wrecking things are greater than if you play esoteric
relationship advice guy.
Good luck with this one, I can see many ways in which it could end badly.
She's hoping you'll kiss her.
It's as simple as that.
Seriously.
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Originally Posted by angelgarcia1989