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How to charm your catch
Ok
guys,
With the mones we get an instant attraction that creates a spark. But we need some gasoline to keep it
going... so my query is what do you do to carry on a conversation with a woman, how do you seduce her, how do you
charm her?
The mones just get the door open for you, but don\'t make the sale -- you have to know how to act
and how to talk.
Pickup lines are lousy. Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction is for child molesters. Anyone know any
good references for charming a woman from meeting her to bedding her?
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Re: How to charm your catch
Your
best \"charm\" may come when you aren\'t talking. Most guys (especially myself) end up talking too much and in
particular about themselves too much. Ask open-ended questions and then follow-up to her responses.
This is
something I\'ve improved on a lot over the past of couple years. Many guys get nervous and just start
talking.
Kind of reminds me of the BBC Show \"Coupling\" and the \"Man with two legs\" episode. If you
haven\'t seen this show it is a must see. One of the main characters sits with a beautiful woman on a train and is
so flustered by her beauty he says he has a wooden leg. This leads to all sorts of problems as she turns out to be
the girl of his dreams etc. Good stuff.
JDM
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Hire a
prostitute if you\'re just looking for sex. You\'ll get relief much faster and it will cost you less over
time.
Otherwise, try just listening. I agree with everything jamesdeanmartin says.
The best way to meet a
girl is to just say, \"Hi, what\'s your name?\" They know you\'re interested. If she doesn\'t answer, move
on. If she doesn\'t ask your name in return, ask a couple more questions and see if she opens up. If she
doesn\'t, move on.
Act like you don\'t care. Some of them come back if they see you behaving yourself and
start the conversation for you.
Don\'t be negative. Don\'t be overbearing. Don\'t be rude.
Don\'t
try to impress anyone.
Learn from your mistakes without agonizing over them. You\'ll make a lot of them.
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Learn from your mistakes without agonizing over
them. You\'ll make a lot of them.
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i thinks thats a great
advice for you. if you look at it like this you will always be positive and free when talking to a girl, cos
you\'ll know you win anyhow. you either hit it or you\'ve learned something.
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Great
response guys. Any suggestions for questions to ask in particular?
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Hire a prostitute if you\'re just looking for
sex. You\'ll get relief much faster and it will cost you less over time.
Otherwise, try just listening. I
agree with everything jamesdeanmartin says.
The best way to meet a girl is to just say, \"Hi, what\'s your
name?\" They know you\'re interested. If she doesn\'t answer, move on. If she doesn\'t ask your name in
return, ask a couple more questions and see if she opens up. If she doesn\'t, move on.
Act like you don\'t
care. Some of them come back if they see you behaving yourself and start the conversation for you.
Don\'t be
negative. Don\'t be overbearing. Don\'t be rude.
Don\'t try to impress anyone.
Learn from your
mistakes without agonizing over them. You\'ll make a lot of them.
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This is excellent advice. The goal is to develop a relationship. Asking open ended questions
enables you to find out if you have something in common and helps to create a bond.
Women enjoy sex as much as
men, but unlike men they do not want to have sex with any old dog that comes along. The like to feel the
connection, this is not bad, but it is the way it is. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]
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Great response guys. Any suggestions for questions
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Being interested in the girl and there life is more important than particular questions.
Get past the usual surface questions like where are you from, what do you do, where do you live and ask
questions that are a little deeper. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
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Great response guys. Any suggestions for questions
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In a way thats a silly question, you should be trying to teach yourself to respond in any
situation. There\'s no point in giving you lines, girls won\'t be reading from the same script.
But to
generalise, try to think of things that they would find interesting (or that you would find interesting to talk
about), and make sure you can actually turn it into a conversation, so no dead end one liner\'s. You have to give
her a reason to be interested, so be funny, be confident, be comfortable.
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Pursue your
life. Do not pursue women.
Live.
Guess what\'ll happen? You\'ll become interesting.
Then
you\'ll look at the guy standing at the bar all desperate and pensive with nothing but sympathy.
\"That
could have been me, had I made my main hobby trying to get laid. (let me emphasise TRYING) Poor
Schmuk.\"
Hope you\'ve been paying attention, because this\'ll all be in the exam.
Steve
Edit: After you get interesting, you\'ll find a good women. Didn\'t want to suggest that you would be
standing there as an asexual. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
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Icarus:
Great words of wisdom.
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Pursue your life. Do not pursue
women.
Live.
Guess what\'ll happen? You\'ll become interesting.
Then you\'ll look at the guy
standing at the bar all desperate and pensive with nothing but sympathy.
\"That could have been me, had I
made my main hobby trying to get laid. (let me emphasise TRYING) Poor Schmuk.\"
Hope you\'ve been
paying attention, because this\'ll all be in the exam.
Steve
Edit: After you get interesting,
you\'ll find a good women. Didn\'t want to suggest that you be standing there as an asexual.
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That\'s
it.
And don\'t forget the sunscreen.
Holmes
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Ham, beard,
spacesuit....
have I left anything out?
Expose a breast at the superbowl, too.
Steve
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How to charm
your catch? Club them over the head and drag \'em back to the cave.
That\'s pretty effective.
Holmes
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The like to feel the connection, this is not bad,
but it is the way it is.
<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\"> YES! Size matters
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How to charm your catch? Club them over the head
and drag \'em back to the cave.
That\'s pretty effective.
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CHARM not harm [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
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I find \'how
was your day?\' to be a great conversation opener, although obviously this only works in the bar environment at
the end of the day ( I can\'t imagine meeting women anywhere else, so that\'s my focus atm ), as it\'s a very
open question, and even if she responds with \'not good\' you can follow up, \'oh, why was that?\', likewise
with \'it was good\'.
In the resulting reply you\'ll learn something about her occupation and/or
interests, then you can leapfrog your questions from there.
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Anyone know any good references for charming a
woman from meeting her to bedding her?
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My favorite is \"How
to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You\" by Leil Lowndes
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/08
09229897
My method is to do basically what it says in that book, and also to sort of tease the girl too. A
combination of talking with them and paying a lot of attention, while occasionally teasing them or gently making fun
of them.
This seems to work well especially if the girl is really pretty because pretty girls are used to guys
falling all over themselves to flatter them and find it interesting if you prove you aren\'t intimidated by
treating them that way.
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true true, never
be intimidated by them, hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones, Why?
1) guys are intimidated and don\'t make a
move. hence they are more willing, if you play your cards right.
2) Ugly chicks say yes alot because they will
never know if they will have sex again.
you got to be confident, and what i tell alot of young fellows, when they
talk to the girl talk to her as just another person, not something you lust for, if they can get over that, its alot
easier.
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hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones, Why?
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Don\'t tell me you actually believe this?
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hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones, Why?
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Don\'t tell me you actually believe this?
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i dont know if thats true, but when i was 10 years younger i used to think evrytime i saw a hot
chick, shes sooo hot she obviously has a bf, and didnt approach.
probably i was also intimidated and thought,
this hot girl will never go with me.
today i always go hit with the cutest girl around
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today i always go hit with the cutest girl around
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nice! [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img] Oh wait, you meant that you always go hit on the cutest girl
around. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img] For a second I thought you were beating them up or
something. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]
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today i always go hit with the cutest girl around
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<hr /></blockquote><font class=\"post\">That\'s not very
nice! [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img] Oh wait, you meant that you always go hit on the cutest girl
around. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img] For a second I thought you were beating them up or
something. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]
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ok, make fun of
my english [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif[/img]
[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] wanna speak some german
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There\'s a
good quote from Red Dwarf. Something along the lines of \"don\'t treat the girl like something from a different
planet you have to subdue by tricks, treat her like a normal human being\"
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There\'s a good quote from Red Dwarf. Something
along the lines of \"don\'t treat the girl like something from a different planet you have to subdue by tricks,
treat her like a normal human being\"
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a normal human being????
now thats news to me [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif[/img]
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today i
always go hit with the cutest girl around [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img]
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wait, you meant that you always go hit on the cutest girl around. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]
For a second I thought you were beating them up or something. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img]
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ok, make fun of my english
[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif[/img]
[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] wanna speak some german
[img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img] [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img]
<hr
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own language bad enough as it is. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
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a normal human being???? now thats news to me
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There\'s a good quote from Red Dwarf.
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I miss that show. [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] I
used to stay up till 2:00 AM to watch it on PBS.
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hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones
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Pffffff.
Holmes
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If so,
it\'s by choice. I know a few hot girls that are so sick of guys trying to pick them up purely based on their
looks that they\'re turned off of sex. Mix that with the fact that less attractive girls may be more insecure and
may be more easily pushed into having sex sooner, therefore having more sex than a woman who is confident enough to
wait for the \"right time\".
Those are a lot of \'if\'s, though...notice the underlying tone that if you
have confidence in yourself all of this crap becomes meaningless.
Overall, there are a lot of ins and outs, a lot
of \'what have you\'s... The Dude does not stand for this!!! [img]/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]
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The Dude!
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If so, it\'s by choice.
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Exactly.
Holmes