OK. I need some expert advice here. What is the best way to approach this? I know there are some
guys in here that can do this in their sleep. :)
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OK. I need some expert advice here. What is the best way to approach this? I know there are some
guys in here that can do this in their sleep. :)
First you wil need to
establish good eye contact. After that it depends on circumstances. Try to see what they are studying and
hopefully you can add some insightful about the topic or the professor who is teaching it (beginning of semester).
If you see them looking for books look in the same area to show you are interested in the same subject. Keep the
contact brief, get their info, and go do your own studying.
When I was a student I worked in
the graduate library at UW. Nearly daily we got complaints from women some guy was bothering them, following them
around and hitting on them. We actually had to bring in campus security a few times! The student center or campus
coffee house is probably a better place to troll for nookie.
Gegogi is right, IMO. You see
it pretty often, some guy hitting on a girl trying to study and her getting pissed instead of being receptive.
Can't really blame her. I have met a few women in the school library but it was by coincidence rather than intent.
A situation where the only available seat is next to or across from me and you greet her then go back to your work.
If she's interested, she'll let you know.
Both of Gegogi and
Belgareth's points go back to my point of MAKE IT BRIEF that I previously posted for ya college student.
In my experience, the best way
to meet someone in the library was to sit myself at an open table and leave space for someone else to join me. If a
guy sat down, and there was another open table, I would move. Eventually, a girl would ask if she could join me. I
then had a brief opportunity to get to know a little about her. From that point forward, if I saw her again on
campus, I would say "Hi".
If I knew then what I know now, I would have done things a little differently. I
probably wouldn't have tried to talk to them so quickly. Patience gives you time to remind yourself that you have
options. It also makes you seem more mysterious.
College and University libraries are about the worstQuote:
Originally Posted by CollegeStudent
places to meet women. Grocery stores, department stores and even malls are much better places. The produce section
in grocery stores is a particularly good place. You can ask them about a particular fruit or vegetable they are
buying and strike up a conversation about it. Then maybe ask her out to lunch or to grab coffee.
Public
libraries on the other hand are pretty good places to meet women. If you see a single woman browsing the shelves,
you can carefully introduce yourself. If you're not interested in what they are reading, don't pretend to be. If
you hit it off well and are able to strike up a good conversation you can ask her to grab something to eat or go to
the coffee shop.
Folloe Friendly's advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by CollegeStudent
If anything, ask her advice about something
(preferably something relevant like about the subject she is working on); people generally respond well to that. You
could even try helping her out in return, and then you've got yourself a "study" partner ;)
A Library is not the best place to
bag a broad. If your doing it because you want a sophisticated broad with brains, chances are she isn't going to
respond very well to someones game if they are focused on hittin the books. Dining halls, coffee shops, and Student
Centers are the best place. I personally have great success in a regular class setting.
One thing that works
the best for me is to act like I don't need a broad or act like I'm not attracted to a certain broad. I use this
in the clubs, at lunch, even in class and it makes them look at you more and they become more intrigued by your
attitude.
A lot of broads tend to be attracted to the guy who shows little or no attraction to them or
anyone else; it makes them feel like they have a chance to catch your eye and get you before some other broad does.
Its hard to explain but believe it works. And this is without throwing Pheromones. This may or may not work for you
but it wouldn't be the end of the world if it failed.
To sum things up: Know when to hunt and when not to
hunt.
i play a fools mate's game in the
library. i walk throughout the library and look for girls looking at me. if i see one i maintain eye contact and
come up and use the opener "i see you looking at me, you could atleast talk to me". after that i either get blown
out or i keep vibing with the girl. make it quick get the number and go. i actually never call library girls back
because they're not the type of girls i'm into so i'm not sure how many flakes you will get. i do it mainly for
sport and to feed my enormous ego.
don't worry about disturbing anybody because you are the prize, she is lucky
you decided to talk to her because she was too scared to talk to you. keep that mind frame and you'll be good.
I really don't understand what
it is with guys and scoring phone numbers. A friend of mine asked me one night why I don't ask for phone numbers.
I said, "What would I do with them? If I want to do something with a girl, I set it up. She is either in or
out."
Some girls can't wait to give you their phone numbers, but if you call them, all they want to do is talk.
Like, I talk face-to-face, not phone-to-phone.
Generally not a good idea to refer to girls as "broads". That
shows disrespect and they don't appreciate. But, yes, they find a guy more challenging and interesting if he
doesn't seem blown away by them right away.
Haha, IQuote:
Originally Posted by Friendly1
don't call them that in their face. Its just slang from back home that we used amongst the fellas. Of course its
disrespectful.
I meant that it is a sign to me
(and others) that you don't really respect them. And if you don't really respect them when they are not around,
how sincere do you feel you will seem when you are with them? Live the attitude and you don't have to fake it.
Some guys, of course, are very good at faking it. We've all known jerks who have scored with girls, trampled their
feelings, and moved on. I'm not saying you are like that, but it does leave me with the impresssion that your
attitude could use a little seasoning.
Women of all ages appreciate respect (as long as it doesn't turn into
brown-nosing, also called butt-kissing -- hope it's okay to post that in the forum). They don't respect kissups,
but they do respect gentlemen.
The term "broad" is listed as an
offensive slang for a woman or girl in my American Hertitage Dictionary. Honestly I haven't heard the term used
outside of WWII vintage movies and my long dead grandpa! So you're dating yourself with such a term. Interestingly,
"chick" is simply listed as slang for woman or girl and is not described as offensive.
When younger and dumber
I used give my number to women I met in bars. I had a terrible weakness for strippers. I usually forgot about it
until I figured out they were the ones giving me crank and obscene phone calls! One even called my wife a bitch!
Well I couldn't care less about theQuote:
Originally Posted by Friendly1
impression you have of me. I treat women with respect whenever I'm in their presence and I know when to hide my
tounge. I don't fake anything. My personality and attitude does not change even when I'm talking to a woman. Just
because I use the word "broad" in private or when I'm talkin to my boys, you attempt to label me as a "jerk" who
puts on a different face around women?
I never thought I would see profiling on a site like this. Don't try
to judge people based on a single term that they use on an internet message board playboy. You don't know me so
don't try to suggest that I "season" my attitude.
But I guess this is where our cultures and backgrounds
collide. A dictionary may label "broad" as a hurtful term, but where I'm from and where I grew up it was something
that was used on a daily basis. I hate to say "hood" or "ghetto" but you can say that it is where I earned my
stripes. If you compared my attitude and speech to my boys who still live back home you would see that I'm as
polished as a diamond.
We all have things that we would NEVER say in front of a lady. Showing that kind of
restraint is a sign of respect if you didn't already know.
No, just because you use the word "broad" in thatQuote:
Originally Posted by sito
way with me, a total stranger, projects to me that you don't feel much respect for women in your heart.
This
isn't profiling. I am just telling you what sort of impression you made on me. There are no guarantees that
impressions are accurate.
You talk about the boys and the way they talk when the girls aren't around. That indicates a disconnectQuote:
But I guess this is where our cultures and backgrounds collide. A dictionary
may label "broad" as a hurtful term, but where I'm from and where I grew up it was something that was used on a
daily basis. I hate to say "hood" or "ghetto" but you can say that it is where I earned my stripes. If you compared
my attitude and speech to my boys who still live back home you would see that I'm as polished as a diamond.
between what the boys think and what the girls think.
But you are right about cultural differences between you
and me. There is also a disconnect between you and me.
No harm need come of it between us, but you may want to
keep in mind that when you are interacting with people from different backgrounds than yours in ANY capacity (not
simply online), simply being yourself may not be enough.
And that is equally true for all of us, regardless of
our backgrounds.