bivonic
02-27-2004, 12:14 PM
Ok, I posted a link
to a site and got lambasted, maybe deservedly so. Now most of the articles were just elaborate sales pitches to
signup for a free newsletter or something, but I thought this was interesting:
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Why Very Intelligent Men Fail With Women
I\'ve been teaching men how to
become more successful with women and dating for a several years now... and one \"problem scenario\" just keeps
coming up OVER AND OVER... and OVER and OVER and OVER again...
...and it\'s really amazes me.
I\'m going
to refer to it as \"The Genius Failure Paradox\".
\"The Genius Failure Paradox\" is the tendency for
UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOW levels of success with women and dating.
After contemplating this
particular paradox, discussing it, and working on it for an awesome amount of time, I\'d like to share my thoughts
about it with you.
I assume that if you\'ve read this far, then you see probably yourself as smarter than the
average guy.
You know that you\'re a little different than other guys.
You probably realized at a young age
that you saw things differently, and thought differently than others in school...
And you\'ve probably realized
that your smart mind gives you an advantage over others in many areas of life...
Your smart mind gives you a
particular type of advantage that can be very, very powerful in life: YOU\'RE USUALLY RIGHT.
Smart people get
used to being \"right\", because they usually ARE right.
And when you\'re RIGHT more often than others, you
can get ahead in many situations.
But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can actually be WORSE than USELESS
when it comes to a key area of life:
WOMEN AND DATING.
By the way, I did say WORSE than useless.
It can
actually be like having a hammer when you need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool you have for the job,
you\'ll most likely make the situation WORSE.
Of course, it\'s hard for a smart guy to even IMAGINE a
situation where his smart mind could HURT his chances for success...
But trust me, this is one of those
situations.
So relax, open your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail with
women... and what to do about it.
REASON #1: THEY\'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN\'T
OR WON\'T SEE IT OR ADMIT
IT
I mentioned that smart guys are used to being RIGHT in most situations.
And what do most smart guys do when
they come across a situation where they\'re WRONG ?
They find a new situation... one that fits their strength.
They know they\'ll be right next time, so they just walk away... knowing that it won\'t be long before
they\'re right again.
(OR they let the \"problem situation\" destroy them... more on that later.)
Well,
the BITCH about being wrong when it comes to women and dating is THERE\'S NOWHERE TO RUN AND HIDE.
There\'s
no quick \"I\'m right\" around the next corner to make you feel better.
It only takes \"failing\" with a
few women in a row for a smart guy to see the pattern... and realize that something isn\'t working.
Solution?
Think harder.
A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be good... so he just keeps thinking harder.
But
when no success comes, it really starts to become mentally difficult.
Accepting that you\'re wrong is a VERY
hard thing for a \"smart guy\".
Accepting that you\'re not only wrong, but you have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN
START is even more difficult.
Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the following logical conclusion:
I AM
A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN\'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN THE PROBLEM MUST
NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING.
Try that on for a self-defeating idea.
REASON #2: THEY\'RE BLIND AND
ARROGANT
In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that a good, solid, workable answer could come from someone
\"dumber\" than them, so they discount any idea that comes from an \"obviously less intelligent person\" before
trying it.
Let me ask you a question:
If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather
have your guide be the guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had
an I.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his
life?
It\'s an interesting question.
Now, hopefully you\'d like to have the guide who isn\'t the
smartest guy around... but who has escaped from many, many dangerous situations with deadly animals...
But now
let me ask you:
If you\'d like to learn how to be more successful with women and dating, would you take advice
from a guy who isn\'t very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women ?
There\'s something about being
smart that makes some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or instruction from anyone who isn\'t either as smart
or smarter than them.
Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this particular approach... once it\'s examined
closely.
If you\'ve been making this mistake, then you need to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard, and
open your eyes.
Look around.
Learn from some \"dumb\" guys... and let them teach you how to get what you
REALLY want.
REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS
It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet that just don\'t GET
IT when it comes to basic social skills.
It\'s as if they have logically reasoned that social skills are for
lower beings who need to play games... and not worth the time it would take to learn them.
In fact, I believe
that there are a lot of smart guys running around this planet who don\'t even have \"social skills\" and \"be a
cool guy that people like\" in their \"MENTAL MODEL\" of what it could possibly take to be successful with women
and dating.
Social skills are just that... SKILLS.
They\'re not social INFORMATION.
They\'re not social
THEORIES.
They\'re social SKILLS.
And you don\'t get them by THINKING about them. You get them by GETTING
them.
Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans... and if you don\'t
have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women.
REASON #4: THEY PSYCH
THEMSELVES OUT
Smart guys do something that fascinates the hell out of me...
They come up with all the reasons
why everything WON\'T WORK when it comes to women and dating.
They actually figure out why what they would like
to do will probably fail...
They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible
pictures and scenes... and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions... which ultimately
stop them from having success with women and dating.
THEY DON\'T EVEN TRY.
Now, if you\'ve thought
something through and come up with a good reason why it would fail, it makes sense to not do it, right?
I mean,
why would you want to do things that are going to fail?
It\'s sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking when it comes
to the REAL WORLD... and success with women.
Because smart guys don\'t UNDERSTAND women, and they don\'t
UNDERSTAND what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures. They\'re wrong before
they even start figuring!
Using your mind to come up with all the reasons why things won\'t work in this area
of your life leads to ULTIMATE FAILURE.
You must learn to overcome this habit if you have it.
REASON #5: THEY
SEEK ONLY \"INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS\"
What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem... or he needs to
figure something out?
He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the problem.
MORE INFORMATION is always the
answer.
Information is the friend of a smart guy.
Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the
internet and search for how to eliminate it.
Don\'t know how to change the alternator on your car? No prob.
Just buy the manual and turn to page 147.
Don\'t know the definition of a word? Open up your
dictionary.
MORE INFORMATION solves the problem.
So what do smart guys do when it comes to overcoming a
problem with women?
They want MORE INFORMATION.
They think the answer lies in learning just ONE MORE
TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept.
Well what if there were a situation in life where the \"get more
information\" strategy actually made things WORSE?
How would you even know that it was making things
worse?
Now, I don\'t want to suggest that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing.
It\'s not.
But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million
theories on it probably isn\'t going to help you very much.
You need to get out in the real world and try some
stuff!
You need to look at the REAL problem... the ROOT of the problem.
When it comes to women and dating,
there\'s a very good chance that you have MORE than enough \"information\".
Smart guys often use \"more
information\" to distract them from TAKING ACTION.
I\'ve heard this referred to as \"Creative
Avoidance\".
Nod silently if you\'ve ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something in your
life.
Good, thank you.
REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION
NEWS JUST IN: Women don\'t feel
ATTRACTION for men who make them THINK.
Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make them FEEL.
So what do most
smart guys do when they first meet a woman?
EXACTLY!
They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION.
I\'m shaking
my head right now...
Smart men try to engage women in LOGICAL conversations and interactions because that\'s
where THEY feel comfortable... not knowing that they\'re SHOOTING THELSEVES IN THE FOOT by doing it!
Get this:
A monkey sitting at a typewriter will type the collected works of Shakespeare before you will make a woman feel
ATTRACTION for you by engaging her in logical conversation.
When you start a logical conversation with a woman
you\'ve just met, you are basically taking out a NEON SIGN that says \"I don\'t get it when it comes to
women\" and putting it on your head.
Typical \"logical\" conversations include talking about work, family,
school, and jobs... discussing politics, religion, weather... and anything that has to do with math, science, or
INTELLIGENCE.
On the other hand, if you start talking to a woman and you say \"OK, so tell me something... Why
is it that all women say that they want sweet, nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish bad boys?\" (and then
make fun of any answer she gives) you\'re having an EMOTIONAL conversation.
If you don\'t know what I\'m
talking about, keep reading. You need more help than I thought.
REASON #7: THEY\'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE
OF THE MOMENT
Smart people usually have time to THINK about things.
If you\'re taking a test, you can sit
there and work out the answers.
If you have a math problem, you can work on it until you\'ve figured it
out.
If you\'re trying to fix something, you can keep working on it until it\'s fixed.
Smart guys are used
to being able to take at least a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show off their \"good sides\" in most
situations.
Not so with women...
If you don\'t know what to do at every step along the way, you\'ll be
shut down very quickly.
Women have an AMAZING \"He doesn\'t get it\" radar system.
Women have all kinds of
subtle and ingenious tests that they throw at men to separate the \"get its\" from the \"don\'t get
its\".
And if you don\'t get it, then you\'re going to fail one of these tests VERY quickly.
But the
worst part is that you won\'t ever KNOW that you were being tested... OR that you failed.
Smart guys aren\'t
used to dealing with complex EMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in the moment... and especially the \"women and
dating\" kind.
One of they keys to becoming more successful with women and dating is learning to handle all of
the tests that women throw at you effortlessly.
But before you can learn how to deal with the tests, you must
first learn how to communicate on an emotional level, how to demonstrate that you have fundamental social skills,
and how to keep your cool in the moment.
REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING \"NICE\" THINGS IS THE \"SMART
WAY\"
OK, let me ask you a trick question:
If I told you that you were going to have a date with the
supermodel of your choice, which of the following would you choose as a \"smart\" way of preparing:
Find out
what her favorite type of flowers are, and show up with a dozen of them so she would be \"wowed\".
Learn about
her favorite travel destination so you could discuss it with her.
Find out what her favorite type of food is so
you could take her to dinner... and she could see that you cared enough to choose something that she enjoyed.
OK,
time\'s up. Which did you choose?
Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICK question.
The answer is
NONE OF THE ABOVE.
But WHY?
These three options all seemed logical, right?
I mean, why WOULDN\'T you want
to show up with her favorite flowers?
Why WOULDN\'T you want to talk about her favorite places to
travel?
Why WOULDN\'T you want to take her to eat her favorite foods so she enjoyed herself?
Go with me
here...
Smart guys think that they\'re being CLEVER when they do things like buying a woman her favorite
flowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE.
Right?
In their minds, they\'re thinking \"I\'m going to
be the guy who is thinking ahead... and I\'m going to show up with the flowers that I KNOW she loves... and
she\'s going to see them and like me more because of it\".
Makes sense... good math, right?
Well the one
teensy-weensy mistake that these \"smart\" guys make is not realizing that it doesn\'t actually take a smart
person to think like this!
In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kiss a woman\'s ass.
And guess
what?
WOMEN KNOW THIS!
And guess what else?
EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF.
An intelligent guy, in his
proud arrogance, will think he\'s being such the charmer by using this \"thoughtful\" approach...
...and the
woman he is chasing will interpret it as just another Wussy who\'s trying to MANIPULATE her.
Ouch. Another blow
to intelligence.
MISTAKE #9: ALWAYS NEEDING TO BE THE EXPERT
Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed
to be \"right\"?
Have you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about something they knew nothing
about... and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn\'t shut their \"smart mouths\"?
Over the last
few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again...
Smart guys
don\'t like to be \"beginners\" at ANYTHING.
They don\'t like the idea of screwing up... especially if
others are watching.
They want to maintain this \"smart guy\" image of themselves... so they try to always be
\"The Expert\" at whatever they do.
Instead of saying \"Hey, you know what? I\'m a beginner at this... how
do I do it? What should I do first? What next?\"... and instead of being totally OK with screwing up, making
mistakes, and making a fool of themselves in front of others in order to LEARN...
...they won\'t risk
embarrassment, failure, or others thinking that they\'re beginners... so they wind up ultimately FAILING.
MORE
NEWS JUST IN: It\'s OK to be a beginner.
MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN\'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS
A
smart guy\'s STRENGTH is his MIND.
His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS.
Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by
FEAR.
Totally stopped.
FROZEN.
And since many smart guys aren\'t comfortable dealing with things
they\'re not good at, they just repress or RUN away from fear.
Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolation
than admit that they don\'t know how to deal with their emotions... or, GODFORBID, ask for help!
Hey, I went
for YEARS like this.
I know what it\'s like.
But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even
MASTER his emotions (even fear)... if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOW to do it.
If this is you,
then do yourself a big favor... take the time. Take the effort.
Don\'t worry about what anyone else thinks of
you... it doesn\'t matter.
What matters is you doing the things that YOU need to do FOR YOU.
...I think the
reason why I\'m so fascinated with \"The Genius Failure Paradox\" is because I have had to struggle with all of
these issues for a lot of years of my life.
Now, I\'m not saying that I\'m the smartest guy on the
planet...
But I don\'t think mamma raised no fool.
And it always bothered the hell out of me that even
though I was so good at figuring things out, I couldn\'t figure WOMEN out.
Something tells me that you know
what I\'m talking about.
Well, after beating my head against the wall for a few years... trying all kinds of
crazy \"logical\" stuff... I finally got the \"bright\" idea to start studying guys who were \"naturally\"
good with women.
Of course, I found out that you could be both NOT SMART, and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at the
same time.
I also learned that you can be SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too.
By carefully studying what
the \"naturals\" did with women... and learning how they \"thought\" about the topic, I began to realize that
success with women wasn\'t entirely LOGICAL.
Much of what I learned was very tough for me to accept... because
my logical brain just didn\'t want to buy into it.
One thing I saw was guys pushing women away from them... and
having the women then chase them in response.
Made no sense at all.
I saw guys tease beautiful women and make
jokes about them to their faces... and then watched those women become \"little girls\" in response... unable to
maintain their composure, and therefore unable to maintain their manipulative power...
It took me quite a long
time, but I continued to learn, test, and refine what I was learning until I personally figured out how to approach
women in any situation... get any woman\'s number I wanted anytime I wanted... date any type of woman I
wanted...
...and most importantly, GET RID of that \"empty\" feeling that I carried around my whole life
because I didn\'t know how to attract women.
And once I got this area of my own life together, I decided to
help other guys get this area of THEIR lives together.
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to a site and got lambasted, maybe deservedly so. Now most of the articles were just elaborate sales pitches to
signup for a free newsletter or something, but I thought this was interesting:
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Why Very Intelligent Men Fail With Women
I\'ve been teaching men how to
become more successful with women and dating for a several years now... and one \"problem scenario\" just keeps
coming up OVER AND OVER... and OVER and OVER and OVER again...
...and it\'s really amazes me.
I\'m going
to refer to it as \"The Genius Failure Paradox\".
\"The Genius Failure Paradox\" is the tendency for
UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOW levels of success with women and dating.
After contemplating this
particular paradox, discussing it, and working on it for an awesome amount of time, I\'d like to share my thoughts
about it with you.
I assume that if you\'ve read this far, then you see probably yourself as smarter than the
average guy.
You know that you\'re a little different than other guys.
You probably realized at a young age
that you saw things differently, and thought differently than others in school...
And you\'ve probably realized
that your smart mind gives you an advantage over others in many areas of life...
Your smart mind gives you a
particular type of advantage that can be very, very powerful in life: YOU\'RE USUALLY RIGHT.
Smart people get
used to being \"right\", because they usually ARE right.
And when you\'re RIGHT more often than others, you
can get ahead in many situations.
But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can actually be WORSE than USELESS
when it comes to a key area of life:
WOMEN AND DATING.
By the way, I did say WORSE than useless.
It can
actually be like having a hammer when you need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool you have for the job,
you\'ll most likely make the situation WORSE.
Of course, it\'s hard for a smart guy to even IMAGINE a
situation where his smart mind could HURT his chances for success...
But trust me, this is one of those
situations.
So relax, open your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail with
women... and what to do about it.
REASON #1: THEY\'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN\'T
OR WON\'T SEE IT OR ADMIT
IT
I mentioned that smart guys are used to being RIGHT in most situations.
And what do most smart guys do when
they come across a situation where they\'re WRONG ?
They find a new situation... one that fits their strength.
They know they\'ll be right next time, so they just walk away... knowing that it won\'t be long before
they\'re right again.
(OR they let the \"problem situation\" destroy them... more on that later.)
Well,
the BITCH about being wrong when it comes to women and dating is THERE\'S NOWHERE TO RUN AND HIDE.
There\'s
no quick \"I\'m right\" around the next corner to make you feel better.
It only takes \"failing\" with a
few women in a row for a smart guy to see the pattern... and realize that something isn\'t working.
Solution?
Think harder.
A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be good... so he just keeps thinking harder.
But
when no success comes, it really starts to become mentally difficult.
Accepting that you\'re wrong is a VERY
hard thing for a \"smart guy\".
Accepting that you\'re not only wrong, but you have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN
START is even more difficult.
Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the following logical conclusion:
I AM
A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN\'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN THE PROBLEM MUST
NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING.
Try that on for a self-defeating idea.
REASON #2: THEY\'RE BLIND AND
ARROGANT
In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that a good, solid, workable answer could come from someone
\"dumber\" than them, so they discount any idea that comes from an \"obviously less intelligent person\" before
trying it.
Let me ask you a question:
If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather
have your guide be the guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had
an I.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his
life?
It\'s an interesting question.
Now, hopefully you\'d like to have the guide who isn\'t the
smartest guy around... but who has escaped from many, many dangerous situations with deadly animals...
But now
let me ask you:
If you\'d like to learn how to be more successful with women and dating, would you take advice
from a guy who isn\'t very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women ?
There\'s something about being
smart that makes some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or instruction from anyone who isn\'t either as smart
or smarter than them.
Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this particular approach... once it\'s examined
closely.
If you\'ve been making this mistake, then you need to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard, and
open your eyes.
Look around.
Learn from some \"dumb\" guys... and let them teach you how to get what you
REALLY want.
REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS
It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet that just don\'t GET
IT when it comes to basic social skills.
It\'s as if they have logically reasoned that social skills are for
lower beings who need to play games... and not worth the time it would take to learn them.
In fact, I believe
that there are a lot of smart guys running around this planet who don\'t even have \"social skills\" and \"be a
cool guy that people like\" in their \"MENTAL MODEL\" of what it could possibly take to be successful with women
and dating.
Social skills are just that... SKILLS.
They\'re not social INFORMATION.
They\'re not social
THEORIES.
They\'re social SKILLS.
And you don\'t get them by THINKING about them. You get them by GETTING
them.
Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans... and if you don\'t
have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women.
REASON #4: THEY PSYCH
THEMSELVES OUT
Smart guys do something that fascinates the hell out of me...
They come up with all the reasons
why everything WON\'T WORK when it comes to women and dating.
They actually figure out why what they would like
to do will probably fail...
They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible
pictures and scenes... and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions... which ultimately
stop them from having success with women and dating.
THEY DON\'T EVEN TRY.
Now, if you\'ve thought
something through and come up with a good reason why it would fail, it makes sense to not do it, right?
I mean,
why would you want to do things that are going to fail?
It\'s sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking when it comes
to the REAL WORLD... and success with women.
Because smart guys don\'t UNDERSTAND women, and they don\'t
UNDERSTAND what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures. They\'re wrong before
they even start figuring!
Using your mind to come up with all the reasons why things won\'t work in this area
of your life leads to ULTIMATE FAILURE.
You must learn to overcome this habit if you have it.
REASON #5: THEY
SEEK ONLY \"INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS\"
What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem... or he needs to
figure something out?
He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the problem.
MORE INFORMATION is always the
answer.
Information is the friend of a smart guy.
Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the
internet and search for how to eliminate it.
Don\'t know how to change the alternator on your car? No prob.
Just buy the manual and turn to page 147.
Don\'t know the definition of a word? Open up your
dictionary.
MORE INFORMATION solves the problem.
So what do smart guys do when it comes to overcoming a
problem with women?
They want MORE INFORMATION.
They think the answer lies in learning just ONE MORE
TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept.
Well what if there were a situation in life where the \"get more
information\" strategy actually made things WORSE?
How would you even know that it was making things
worse?
Now, I don\'t want to suggest that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing.
It\'s not.
But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million
theories on it probably isn\'t going to help you very much.
You need to get out in the real world and try some
stuff!
You need to look at the REAL problem... the ROOT of the problem.
When it comes to women and dating,
there\'s a very good chance that you have MORE than enough \"information\".
Smart guys often use \"more
information\" to distract them from TAKING ACTION.
I\'ve heard this referred to as \"Creative
Avoidance\".
Nod silently if you\'ve ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something in your
life.
Good, thank you.
REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION
NEWS JUST IN: Women don\'t feel
ATTRACTION for men who make them THINK.
Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make them FEEL.
So what do most
smart guys do when they first meet a woman?
EXACTLY!
They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION.
I\'m shaking
my head right now...
Smart men try to engage women in LOGICAL conversations and interactions because that\'s
where THEY feel comfortable... not knowing that they\'re SHOOTING THELSEVES IN THE FOOT by doing it!
Get this:
A monkey sitting at a typewriter will type the collected works of Shakespeare before you will make a woman feel
ATTRACTION for you by engaging her in logical conversation.
When you start a logical conversation with a woman
you\'ve just met, you are basically taking out a NEON SIGN that says \"I don\'t get it when it comes to
women\" and putting it on your head.
Typical \"logical\" conversations include talking about work, family,
school, and jobs... discussing politics, religion, weather... and anything that has to do with math, science, or
INTELLIGENCE.
On the other hand, if you start talking to a woman and you say \"OK, so tell me something... Why
is it that all women say that they want sweet, nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish bad boys?\" (and then
make fun of any answer she gives) you\'re having an EMOTIONAL conversation.
If you don\'t know what I\'m
talking about, keep reading. You need more help than I thought.
REASON #7: THEY\'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE
OF THE MOMENT
Smart people usually have time to THINK about things.
If you\'re taking a test, you can sit
there and work out the answers.
If you have a math problem, you can work on it until you\'ve figured it
out.
If you\'re trying to fix something, you can keep working on it until it\'s fixed.
Smart guys are used
to being able to take at least a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show off their \"good sides\" in most
situations.
Not so with women...
If you don\'t know what to do at every step along the way, you\'ll be
shut down very quickly.
Women have an AMAZING \"He doesn\'t get it\" radar system.
Women have all kinds of
subtle and ingenious tests that they throw at men to separate the \"get its\" from the \"don\'t get
its\".
And if you don\'t get it, then you\'re going to fail one of these tests VERY quickly.
But the
worst part is that you won\'t ever KNOW that you were being tested... OR that you failed.
Smart guys aren\'t
used to dealing with complex EMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in the moment... and especially the \"women and
dating\" kind.
One of they keys to becoming more successful with women and dating is learning to handle all of
the tests that women throw at you effortlessly.
But before you can learn how to deal with the tests, you must
first learn how to communicate on an emotional level, how to demonstrate that you have fundamental social skills,
and how to keep your cool in the moment.
REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING \"NICE\" THINGS IS THE \"SMART
WAY\"
OK, let me ask you a trick question:
If I told you that you were going to have a date with the
supermodel of your choice, which of the following would you choose as a \"smart\" way of preparing:
Find out
what her favorite type of flowers are, and show up with a dozen of them so she would be \"wowed\".
Learn about
her favorite travel destination so you could discuss it with her.
Find out what her favorite type of food is so
you could take her to dinner... and she could see that you cared enough to choose something that she enjoyed.
OK,
time\'s up. Which did you choose?
Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICK question.
The answer is
NONE OF THE ABOVE.
But WHY?
These three options all seemed logical, right?
I mean, why WOULDN\'T you want
to show up with her favorite flowers?
Why WOULDN\'T you want to talk about her favorite places to
travel?
Why WOULDN\'T you want to take her to eat her favorite foods so she enjoyed herself?
Go with me
here...
Smart guys think that they\'re being CLEVER when they do things like buying a woman her favorite
flowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE.
Right?
In their minds, they\'re thinking \"I\'m going to
be the guy who is thinking ahead... and I\'m going to show up with the flowers that I KNOW she loves... and
she\'s going to see them and like me more because of it\".
Makes sense... good math, right?
Well the one
teensy-weensy mistake that these \"smart\" guys make is not realizing that it doesn\'t actually take a smart
person to think like this!
In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kiss a woman\'s ass.
And guess
what?
WOMEN KNOW THIS!
And guess what else?
EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF.
An intelligent guy, in his
proud arrogance, will think he\'s being such the charmer by using this \"thoughtful\" approach...
...and the
woman he is chasing will interpret it as just another Wussy who\'s trying to MANIPULATE her.
Ouch. Another blow
to intelligence.
MISTAKE #9: ALWAYS NEEDING TO BE THE EXPERT
Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed
to be \"right\"?
Have you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about something they knew nothing
about... and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn\'t shut their \"smart mouths\"?
Over the last
few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again...
Smart guys
don\'t like to be \"beginners\" at ANYTHING.
They don\'t like the idea of screwing up... especially if
others are watching.
They want to maintain this \"smart guy\" image of themselves... so they try to always be
\"The Expert\" at whatever they do.
Instead of saying \"Hey, you know what? I\'m a beginner at this... how
do I do it? What should I do first? What next?\"... and instead of being totally OK with screwing up, making
mistakes, and making a fool of themselves in front of others in order to LEARN...
...they won\'t risk
embarrassment, failure, or others thinking that they\'re beginners... so they wind up ultimately FAILING.
MORE
NEWS JUST IN: It\'s OK to be a beginner.
MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN\'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS
A
smart guy\'s STRENGTH is his MIND.
His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS.
Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by
FEAR.
Totally stopped.
FROZEN.
And since many smart guys aren\'t comfortable dealing with things
they\'re not good at, they just repress or RUN away from fear.
Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolation
than admit that they don\'t know how to deal with their emotions... or, GODFORBID, ask for help!
Hey, I went
for YEARS like this.
I know what it\'s like.
But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even
MASTER his emotions (even fear)... if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOW to do it.
If this is you,
then do yourself a big favor... take the time. Take the effort.
Don\'t worry about what anyone else thinks of
you... it doesn\'t matter.
What matters is you doing the things that YOU need to do FOR YOU.
...I think the
reason why I\'m so fascinated with \"The Genius Failure Paradox\" is because I have had to struggle with all of
these issues for a lot of years of my life.
Now, I\'m not saying that I\'m the smartest guy on the
planet...
But I don\'t think mamma raised no fool.
And it always bothered the hell out of me that even
though I was so good at figuring things out, I couldn\'t figure WOMEN out.
Something tells me that you know
what I\'m talking about.
Well, after beating my head against the wall for a few years... trying all kinds of
crazy \"logical\" stuff... I finally got the \"bright\" idea to start studying guys who were \"naturally\"
good with women.
Of course, I found out that you could be both NOT SMART, and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at the
same time.
I also learned that you can be SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too.
By carefully studying what
the \"naturals\" did with women... and learning how they \"thought\" about the topic, I began to realize that
success with women wasn\'t entirely LOGICAL.
Much of what I learned was very tough for me to accept... because
my logical brain just didn\'t want to buy into it.
One thing I saw was guys pushing women away from them... and
having the women then chase them in response.
Made no sense at all.
I saw guys tease beautiful women and make
jokes about them to their faces... and then watched those women become \"little girls\" in response... unable to
maintain their composure, and therefore unable to maintain their manipulative power...
It took me quite a long
time, but I continued to learn, test, and refine what I was learning until I personally figured out how to approach
women in any situation... get any woman\'s number I wanted anytime I wanted... date any type of woman I
wanted...
...and most importantly, GET RID of that \"empty\" feeling that I carried around my whole life
because I didn\'t know how to attract women.
And once I got this area of my own life together, I decided to
help other guys get this area of THEIR lives together.
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