How to charm your catch [Archive] - Love-Scent Pheromones Forum

HornyMan

02-05-2004, 07:54 PM

Ok

guys,

With the mones we get an instant attraction that creates a spark. But we need some gasoline to keep it

going... so my query is what do you do to carry on a conversation with a woman, how do you seduce her, how do you

charm her?

The mones just get the door open for you, but don\'t make the sale -- you have to know how to act

and how to talk.

Pickup lines are lousy. Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction is for child molesters. Anyone know any

good references for charming a woman from meeting her to bedding her?

jamesdeanmartin

02-05-2004, 07:59 PM

Your

best \"charm\" may come when you aren\'t talking. Most guys (especially myself) end up talking too much and in

particular about themselves too much. Ask open-ended questions and then follow-up to her responses.

This is

something I\'ve improved on a lot over the past of couple years. Many guys get nervous and just start

talking.

Kind of reminds me of the BBC Show \"Coupling\" and the \"Man with two legs\" episode. If you

haven\'t seen this show it is a must see. One of the main characters sits with a beautiful woman on a train and is

so flustered by her beauty he says he has a wooden leg. This leads to all sorts of problems as she turns out to be

the girl of his dreams etc. Good stuff.

JDM

Friendly1

02-05-2004, 08:10 PM

Hire a

prostitute if you\'re just looking for sex. You\'ll get relief much faster and it will cost you less over

time.

Otherwise, try just listening. I agree with everything jamesdeanmartin says.

The best way to meet a

girl is to just say, \"Hi, what\'s your name?\" They know you\'re interested. If she doesn\'t answer, move

on. If she doesn\'t ask your name in return, ask a couple more questions and see if she opens up. If she

doesn\'t, move on.

Act like you don\'t care. Some of them come back if they see you behaving yourself and

start the conversation for you.

Don\'t be negative. Don\'t be overbearing. Don\'t be rude.

Don\'t

try to impress anyone.

Learn from your mistakes without agonizing over them. You\'ll make a lot of them.

markus

02-06-2004, 03:49 AM

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Learn from your mistakes without agonizing over

them. You\'ll make a lot of them.

<hr /></blockquote>

i thinks thats a great

advice for you. if you look at it like this you will always be positive and free when talking to a girl, cos

you\'ll know you win anyhow. you either hit it or you\'ve learned something.

HornyMan

02-06-2004, 09:16 AM

Great

response guys. Any suggestions for questions to ask in particular?

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OCP

02-06-2004, 10:24 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Hire a prostitute if you\'re just looking for

sex. You\'ll get relief much faster and it will cost you less over time.

Otherwise, try just listening. I

agree with everything jamesdeanmartin says.

The best way to meet a girl is to just say, \"Hi, what\'s your

name?\" They know you\'re interested. If she doesn\'t answer, move on. If she doesn\'t ask your name in

return, ask a couple more questions and see if she opens up. If she doesn\'t, move on.

Act like you don\'t

care. Some of them come back if they see you behaving yourself and start the conversation for you.

Don\'t be

negative. Don\'t be overbearing. Don\'t be rude.

Don\'t try to impress anyone.

Learn from your

mistakes without agonizing over them. You\'ll make a lot of them.

<hr /></blockquote>

This is excellent advice. The goal is to develop a relationship. Asking open ended questions

enables you to find out if you have something in common and helps to create a bond.

Women enjoy sex as much as

men, but unlike men they do not want to have sex with any old dog that comes along. The like to feel the

connection, this is not bad, but it is the way it is. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif

OCP

02-06-2004, 10:27 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Great response guys. Any suggestions for questions

to ask in particular? /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif

<hr /></blockquote>

Being interested in the girl and there life is more important than particular questions.

Get past the usual surface questions like where are you from, what do you do, where do you live and ask

questions that are a little deeper. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

CptKipling

02-06-2004, 10:29 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Great response guys. Any suggestions for questions

to ask in particular? /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif

<hr /></blockquote>

In a way thats a silly question, you should be trying to teach yourself to respond in any

situation. There\'s no point in giving you lines, girls won\'t be reading from the same script.

But to

generalise, try to think of things that they would find interesting (or that you would find interesting to talk

about), and make sure you can actually turn it into a conversation, so no dead end one liner\'s. You have to give

her a reason to be interested, so be funny, be confident, be comfortable.

Icarus

02-06-2004, 11:30 AM

Pursue your

life. Do not pursue women.

Live.

Guess what\'ll happen? You\'ll become interesting.

Then

you\'ll look at the guy standing at the bar all desperate and pensive with nothing but sympathy.

\"That

could have been me, had I made my main hobby trying to get laid. (let me emphasise TRYING) Poor

Schmuk.\"

Hope you\'ve been paying attention, because this\'ll all be in the exam.

Steve

Edit: After you get interesting, you\'ll find a good women. Didn\'t want to suggest that you would be

standing there as an asexual. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

belgareth

02-06-2004, 11:36 AM

Icarus:

Great words of wisdom.

Holmes

02-06-2004, 11:36 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Pursue your life. Do not pursue

women.

Live.

Guess what\'ll happen? You\'ll become interesting.

Then you\'ll look at the guy

standing at the bar all desperate and pensive with nothing but sympathy.

\"That could have been me, had I

made my main hobby trying to get laid. (let me emphasise TRYING) Poor Schmuk.\"

Hope you\'ve been

paying attention, because this\'ll all be in the exam.

Steve

Edit: After you get interesting,

you\'ll find a good women. Didn\'t want to suggest that you be standing there as an asexual.

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<hr /></blockquote>

That\'s

it.

And don\'t forget the sunscreen.

Holmes

Icarus

02-06-2004, 11:42 AM

Ham, beard,

spacesuit....

have I left anything out?

Expose a breast at the superbowl, too.

Steve

Holmes

02-06-2004, 12:31 PM

How to charm

your catch? Club them over the head and drag \'em back to the cave.

That\'s pretty effective.

Holmes

CJ01

02-06-2004, 12:33 PM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
The like to feel the connection, this is not bad,

but it is the way it is.

<hr /></blockquote> YES! Size matters

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CJ01

02-06-2004, 12:35 PM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
How to charm your catch? Club them over the head

and drag \'em back to the cave.

That\'s pretty effective.

<hr /></blockquote>

CHARM not harm /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

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Ian_C

02-06-2004, 12:46 PM

I find \'how

was your day?\' to be a great conversation opener, although obviously this only works in the bar environment at

the end of the day ( I can\'t imagine meeting women anywhere else, so that\'s my focus atm ), as it\'s a very

open question, and even if she responds with \'not good\' you can follow up, \'oh, why was that?\', likewise

with \'it was good\'.

In the resulting reply you\'ll learn something about her occupation and/or

interests, then you can leapfrog your questions from there.

xvs

02-09-2004, 08:42 PM

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Anyone know any good references for charming a

woman from meeting her to bedding her?

<hr /></blockquote>

My favorite is \"How

to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You\" by Leil Lowndes

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/08

09229897 (\"http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0809229897\")

My method is to do basically what it says in that book, and also to sort of tease the girl too. A

combination of talking with them and paying a lot of attention, while occasionally teasing them or gently making fun

of them.

This seems to work well especially if the girl is really pretty because pretty girls are used to guys

falling all over themselves to flatter them and find it interesting if you prove you aren\'t intimidated by

treating them that way.

daz

02-09-2004, 10:38 PM

true true, never

be intimidated by them, hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones, Why?
1) guys are intimidated and don\'t make a

move. hence they are more willing, if you play your cards right.
2) Ugly chicks say yes alot because they will

never know if they will have sex again.

you got to be confident, and what i tell alot of young fellows, when they

talk to the girl talk to her as just another person, not something you lust for, if they can get over that, its alot

easier.

Icarus

02-09-2004, 11:46 PM

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hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones, Why?

<hr /></blockquote>

Don\'t tell me you actually believe this?

markus

02-10-2004, 06:26 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones, Why?

<hr /></blockquote>

Don\'t tell me you actually believe this?

<hr /></blockquote>

i dont know if thats true, but when i was 10 years younger i used to think evrytime i saw a hot

chick, shes sooo hot she obviously has a bf, and didnt approach.

probably i was also intimidated and thought,

this hot girl will never go with me.

today i always go hit with the cutest girl around

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Sagacious1420

02-10-2004, 06:35 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
today i always go hit with the cutest girl around

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

<hr /></blockquote>That\'s not very

nice! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif Oh wait, you meant that you always go hit on the cutest girl

around. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif For a second I thought you were beating them up or

something. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

markus

02-10-2004, 06:42 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
today i always go hit with the cutest girl around

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

<hr /></blockquote>That\'s not very

nice! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif Oh wait, you meant that you always go hit on the cutest girl

around. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif For a second I thought you were beating them up or

something. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

<hr /></blockquote>

ok, make fun of

my english /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif wanna speak some german

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

Rakesh

02-10-2004, 06:42 AM

There\'s a

good quote from Red Dwarf. Something along the lines of \"don\'t treat the girl like something from a different

planet you have to subdue by tricks, treat her like a normal human being\"

markus

02-10-2004, 06:44 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
There\'s a good quote from Red Dwarf. Something

along the lines of \"don\'t treat the girl like something from a different planet you have to subdue by tricks,

treat her like a normal human being\"

<hr /></blockquote>

a normal human being????

now thats news to me /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif

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Sagacious1420

02-10-2004, 06:47 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
today i

always go hit with the cutest girl around /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

<hr

/></blockquote>That\'s not very nice! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif Oh

wait, you meant that you always go hit on the cutest girl around. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif

For a second I thought you were beating them up or something. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

<hr

/></blockquote>
ok, make fun of my english

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif wanna speak some german

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

<hr

/></blockquote> 9! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif Besides, I slaughter my

own language bad enough as it is. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Sagacious1420

02-10-2004, 06:49 AM

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a normal human being???? now thats news to me

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shocked.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

<hr /></blockquote>

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Elana

02-10-2004, 07:46 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
There\'s a good quote from Red Dwarf.

<hr

/></blockquote>

I miss that show. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif I

used to stay up till 2:00 AM to watch it on PBS.

Holmes

02-10-2004, 09:49 AM

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hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones

<hr

/></blockquote>

Pffffff.

Holmes

Pancho1188

02-10-2004, 12:21 PM

If so,

it\'s by choice. I know a few hot girls that are so sick of guys trying to pick them up purely based on their

looks that they\'re turned off of sex. Mix that with the fact that less attractive girls may be more insecure and

may be more easily pushed into having sex sooner, therefore having more sex than a woman who is confident enough to

wait for the \"right time\".

Those are a lot of \'if\'s, though...notice the underlying tone that if you

have confidence in yourself all of this crap becomes meaningless.

Overall, there are a lot of ins and outs, a lot

of \'what have you\'s... The Dude does not stand for this!!! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif

Holmes

02-10-2004, 12:29 PM

The Dude!

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/>
If so, it\'s by choice.

<hr /></blockquote>

Exactly.

Holmes

Pancho1188

02-10-2004, 12:36 PM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
hot chicks get less sex than ugly ones

<hr /></blockquote>

Pffffff.

Holmes

<hr /></blockquote>

Holmes, you know

instead of \"Pffffff\" you\'d rather say, \"Shut the *(&# up, Donnie! You\'re out of your

element!\"

\"I\'m The Dude, man!\"

bjf

02-10-2004, 12:38 PM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
hot chicks

get less sex than ugly ones

<hr /></blockquote>

Pffffff.

Holmes

<hr

/></blockquote>

Holmes, you know instead of \"Pffffff\" you\'d rather say, \"Shut the

*(&# up, Donnie! You\'re out of your element!\"

\"I\'m The Dude, man!\"

<hr

/></blockquote>

You are tainting the PF search results!

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franki

02-10-2004, 12:52 PM

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BigBear

02-10-2004, 03:13 PM

Don\'t

worry about charmin your catch hun, justs be you!

Who is the Dude?

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------BigBadBear

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Elana

02-11-2004, 05:03 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Don\'t worry about charmin your catch hun, justs

be you!

Who is the Dude? /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif

------BigBadBear

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif

<hr /></blockquote>

Yeah, who is

the dude? /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Gossamer_2701

02-11-2004, 05:13 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Who is the Dude?

<hr /></blockquote>

Well it sure as he!! ain\'t Donnie /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif (Osmond?)

BigBear

02-11-2004, 07:38 AM

<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
<blockquote>Quote:<hr />
Who is the Dude?

<hr /></blockquote>

Well it

sure as he!! ain\'t Donnie /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif (Osmond?)

<hr /></blockquote>

Gossamer2701 you are to much darlin!! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif

/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif

But who\'s

is the dude, dang it?! <g>

------BigBadBear /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif

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