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manchorito
01-31-2004, 08:48 PM
Yep, it is another sappy post
by your favorite manchorito, me...
As you know, I am a young high school student, and thus, I am very
inexperienced in life. Most of you other posters are older, and have gone through this stupid phase I\'m in. So, I
need help on what kind of friends I should have. Right now, I am in the so called \"popular\" group in school, but
I\'m not real sure they are the friends for me. Because, in school I am cool with them, but when I need someone to
hang out with on the weekends, they never are there for me. Plus, I don\'t have a best friend out of all this
group. I mean, I thought this is what I wanted, because I didn\'t used to hang out with this group, and when I go
home every night, and I am less happy than I was at the start of the night, I guess that is a sign that this is not
for me. But the only reason I started to hang out with these people was to get with the girls, because they get the
most beautiful girls in the school, and yet, I have come up short multiple times in getting a girl of my own. Does
anybody have advice?
Bruce
02-01-2004, 02:26 AM
Mancho,
It is hard to say
without being there to see what is actually going on, but I do know that the so called \"cool guys\" will often
merely tolerate a quasi-member whom they don\'t really respect if he sucks up to them sufficiently. From my point
of view it seems a sad way of life. I would find other guys to hang out with. There are jerks and phonies at every
stratta of society. Up thru middle school I just fell in with my local crowd of goons, was always the low man on
the totem pole and hated it. I never realized life could be any different. Then one fine day, out of exhaustion I
drifted out of the pack and found a few good/real friends here and there.
Think quality not quantity and look for
folks who treat you with some respect. Just forget about the \"cool\" factor entirely and look for friends with
some sense of right and wrong. It might be a little tricky changing gears for a while, but I think you will find
there are plenty of nice women who are looking for a decent human being to hang out with. Remember, women tend to
mature faster than men, even if they don\'t always show it. They don\'t always fall for the jerk in the hair
gel. Be the decent human being who hangs with a couple of true friends and I bet you dollars to doughnuts
you\'ll get a great gf.
B
EXIT63
02-01-2004, 04:08 AM
Forget those stupid high
school girls.
Go find yourself an older woman.
She will rock your world like no teenybopper could ever dream
of.
Gossamer_2701
02-01-2004, 05:30 AM
Manchorito...
Take
it from someone who fit in with pretty much every clique in HS,and had a number of friends from each.... they will
all dissapear for one reason or another over the years ahead. You will meet the \'core\' group of people that
you are supposed to meet and remain close friends with. Just trust your gut.... it will never lie to you!! Teach
yourself to judge people on how they treat you, as well as others... just b/c they treat you well enough, doesn\'t
mean that they treat others the same way. Look for friends that are kind and generous with most people, and then
you\'ll KNOW that they have your back when you really need them.
I just turned 31, and have cleaned out all of
the \'dead wood\' over the last few years, and the small group that remain, are the ones that I would have
trusted my life with back in HS.
But it is HS, and you can play around with(and even use to your advantage
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif) the fake friends all you want, just throw away those not worthy of
your friendship... and keep those rare few that you can see truly have your back
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Goss
apple
02-01-2004, 09:46 AM
ok now from the geeks point of
view /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif I was a huge looser in school, the \"popular\" kids picked
on me all the time cause i was a too tall too skinny girl who likes video games, anime and computers
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif the teachers all liked me and the cheerleaders couldnt stand me.
But i had some CLOSE friends, we\'d always be there for eachother when it really mattered, and id always see the
popular ones picking on even eachother. Now that im out of highschool, its great! Im still close with my friends, i
can be my geeky game lovin self and men think thats hot lol! i can be too tall and find men taller
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point is be yourself! find people like you, people you can be
close with, have common interests and hang out with after school, weekends, whenever! Popular people tend to think
too much about themselves (yes there are always some who are genuinely nice true im talking generally) and they
probably wont stick around the second you dont go to that school anymore.
then again you could wait till
university/college. they\'re great for meeting TONS of amazing people with the same interests as you. but since
you\'re in highschool now, i think ya should take the advice from everyone you think will work best for you
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Elana
02-01-2004, 09:48 AM
Nice post, apple.
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belgareth
02-01-2004, 09:52 AM
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ok now from the geeks point of view
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif I was a huge looser in school, the \"popular\" kids picked on me
all the time cause i was a too tall too skinny girl who likes video games, anime and computers
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif the teachers all liked me and the cheerleaders couldnt stand me.
But i had some CLOSE friends, we\'d always be there for eachother when it really mattered, and id always see the
popular ones picking on even eachother. Now that im out of highschool, its great! Im still close with my friends, i
can be my geeky game lovin self and men think thats hot lol! i can be too tall and find men taller
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif
point is be yourself! find people like you, people you can be
close with, have common interests and hang out with after school, weekends, whenever! Popular people tend to think
too much about themselves (yes there are always some who are genuinely nice true im talking generally) and they
probably wont stick around the second you dont go to that school anymore.
then again you could wait till
university/college. they\'re great for meeting TONS of amazing people with the same interests as you. but since
you\'re in highschool now, i think ya should take the advice from everyone you think will work best for you
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As a fellow
geek, Great post!
Elana
02-01-2004, 09:53 AM
I am so tempted to put gum in
your hair. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif
Friendly1
02-01-2004, 10:55 AM
Manchorito, if you want
the girls to notice you more than the guys you hang with, then you have to hang with guys who don\'t run you down.
If you are average, then hang with average guys and learn how to be the above-average guy.
And don\'t waste
your time pining for the best-looking girls in school. They are getting so much attention from boys right now they
can pick and choose whomever they want. You need to spend your time with average girls who are as comfortable with
themselves as girls can be (and they are all insecure at your age, just like you).
The only way to rise to the
top is to lead. You cannot lead if you are following. Find your own friends and do your own thing. The girls will
notice you. They like confident guys who don\'t seem needy.
And as far as friendships go. You win some and
lose some. Two people I thought I was good friends with recently just pulled back from me. It happens. Some
friends stay around and some friends don\'t. You keep the ones worth keeping and move on from the rest.
Holmes
02-01-2004, 11:45 AM
Good advice one and all.
Apple- you were teased for being tall??! Funny how a \"liability\" in High School is often an asset in
the real world...
Holmes
franki
02-01-2004, 11:49 AM
God, I LOVE tall girls. My
\"gf\" in hs was 6\' and blonde (and a bit geeky as well)... :-)~
How tall are you Apple?
Holmes
02-01-2004, 11:52 AM
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Holmes
franki
02-01-2004, 11:53 AM
If I may add, in my experience
in HS it was easier to make (good) friends than in college (so far).
BigBear
02-01-2004, 12:00 PM
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BigBear
Elana
02-01-2004, 12:01 PM
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Really?!?
BTW, does anyone remember Freaks And Geeks? Great
show.
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Very good show. It was canceled too soon.
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apple
02-01-2004, 12:43 PM
i had gum put in my hair
once.... and i have long beautiful hair so that PISSED me off
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yeah i was so picked on for being tall, i was taller than
almost everyone in highschool... if i wore heels i was WAY taller than everyone :P dances were so weird o_O yeah
guys seem to like tall girls now tho, highschool is so backwards /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif
oh yeah im 5\'11 ish, some people say im taller some shorter, depends on if they want to pretend
they\'re taller or shorter heehee
Elana
02-01-2004, 12:45 PM
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i had gum put in my hair once
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apple
02-01-2004, 12:48 PM
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i had gum
put in my hair once
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dont worry
shes in jail now and ugly /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif in the end i got the better situation.
not in jail cause of the gum, but cause she was a voilent child who grew up a violent woman and did bad things
Elana
02-01-2004, 12:49 PM
It\'s just all around sad.
Parents need to teach their children how to respect other people.
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Yep, it is another sappy post by your favorite manchorito, me...
As you
know, I am a young high school student, and thus, I am very inexperienced in life. Most of you other posters are
older, and have gone through this stupid phase I\'m in. So, I need help on what kind of friends I should have.
Right now, I am in the so called \"popular\" group in school, but I\'m not real sure they are the friends for
me. Because, in school I am cool with them, but when I need someone to hang out with on the weekends, they never are
there for me. Plus, I don\'t have a best friend out of all this group. I mean, I thought this is what I wanted,
because I didn\'t used to hang out with this group, and when I go home every night, and I am less happy than I was
at the start of the night, I guess that is a sign that this is not for me. But the only reason I started to hang out
with these people was to get with the girls, because they get the most beautiful girls in the school, and yet, I
have come up short multiple times in getting a girl of my own. Does anybody have advice?
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Wrong group, sweetie. If they are only there for you SOMETIMES, they
aren\'t friends. Also, if you only befriended them to get the girls, you are with them for a very superfical
reason, anyway.
The relationship isn\'t based on affinity, and won\'t last.
BTW-- After you get out of
h.s., and either work or go to college, you will find you will naturally cut most of them loose, anyway.
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Manchorito, if you want the girls to notice you more than the guys you hang
with, then you have to hang with guys who don\'t run you down. If you are average, then hang with average guys
and learn how to be the above-average guy.
And don\'t waste your time pining for the best-looking girls in
school. They are getting so much attention from boys right now they can pick and choose whomever they want. You
need to spend your time with average girls who are as comfortable with themselves as girls can be (and they are all
insecure at your age, just like you).
The only way to rise to the top is to lead. You cannot lead if you are
following. Find your own friends and do your own thing. The girls will notice you. They like confident guys who
don\'t seem needy.
And as far as friendships go. You win some and lose some. Two people I thought I was good
friends with recently just pulled back from me. It happens. Some friends stay around and some friends don\'t.
You keep the ones worth keeping and move on from the rest.
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Also,
the best looking girls in h.s. often don\'t stay that way. There are exceptions. But, a lot of early beauties also
fade fast. At least, that\'s what happened in my group.
I wa also, as some have previously posted, a \"loser
geek\" in h.s. It wasn\'t til my last 20s that I was considered a \"babe.\"
If you want an attractive girl,
make sure that she\'s also fun, interesting, and enjoyable. If you hook up with her JUST for her looks, and her
looks fade......
apple
02-01-2004, 03:48 PM
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Also, the best looking girls in h.s. often don\'t stay that way. There are
exceptions. But, a lot of early beauties also fade fast. At least, that\'s what happened in my group.
I wa
also, as some have previously posted, a \"loser geek\" in h.s. It wasn\'t til my last 20s that I was considered
a \"babe.\"
If you want an attractive girl, make sure that she\'s also fun, interesting, and enjoyable. If
you hook up with her JUST for her looks, and her looks fade......
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oh so true!!! girls in hs i know that WERE hot are so not now :P and i was called ugly alot in
HS but now im not a duckling anymore /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif
Elana
02-01-2004, 04:14 PM
I don\'t think it is any
better bad mouthing popular people as it is popular people making fun of the so called geeks.
JMHO
Gossamer_2701
02-01-2004, 04:54 PM
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I don\'t think it is any better bad mouthing
popular people as it is popular people making fun of the so called geeks.
JMHO
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I take it the geeks made fun of you back in HS, huh Elana?
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif I\'m just
kidding, thats a good point you made. It truly cuts both ways.
I was lucky enough to grow up in a smaller town
(18,000) where everyone actually got along for the most part (every school has the resident A-holes) It was truly a
thing of beauty... stoners, geeks and jocks... oh my. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif
Goss
Elana
02-01-2004, 04:59 PM
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I take it the geeks made fun of you back in HS, huh Elana?
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I am still traumatized by those mean geeks making fun of me because I
didn\'t wear glasses with tape in the middle. j/k
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All I am
saying is....Just because someone is popular doesn\'t mean they are a bully. Bullies are bullies.
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manchorito
02-01-2004, 06:59 PM
I dunno, I guess I was
attracte to this group of people because of the girls, and the infamous parties. Some of them even used me for my
car, or were only friends when it is convinient for them. For example, they need a ride to a party, they never call
me once, but now they call me. Funny huh? I almost want to find some big strong guys at the mall and pay them to
have my back, and if someone pisses me off, they would beat them up, but that won\'t solve anything. I want to
stop \"kissing these guys\' asses\" just to be friends with them, but chances are, when I go back to school on
Monday, I will still be the little b*tch I always was.
P.S. - I am considering going to a military school for a
while, not a hardcore thug one, but somewhere I can get away from everything, maybe lift a lot of weights so I can
come back to school with a big bang. But then again, I come back to the part about me I hate, that I care so much
about what others think. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif
Friendly1
02-01-2004, 08:39 PM
You\'re a normal kid,
Manchorito. Don\'t let that get you down. Changing something about yourself is cool. You need to learn what
kind of person you want to be before you can be happy with yourself. Don\'t look for any shortcuts. You don\'t
need them.
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It\'s just all around sad. Parents need to teach their children how to
respect other people.
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I wish more people (especially parents)
thought like you. I am amazed how many parents let their children tell them what to do.
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belgareth
02-02-2004, 11:32 AM
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It\'s just
all around sad. Parents need to teach their children how to respect other people.
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I wish more people (especially parents) thought like you. I am amazed how many parents let
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What\'s amazing is that those parents who do teach their children and demand that they meet
reasonable guidelines are treated as if they are weird or something. Not allowing your daughters to roam the streets
all night or expecting the kids to help around the house or turning off the TV is almost abuse or neglect these
days.
TopDawg2050
02-06-2004, 08:24 PM
hey mancho, if you were
runnin, id be rite next to ya buddy :-)
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