View Full Version : I can't believe this crap.....
jimhoff
11-30-2003, 05:49 PM
I have
been dating this girl for about 2 months now. We have gone out about 7 times and have hit it off pretty well. She
is in law school and her finals are quickly approaching. School is over on December 20th.
Now that you know that,
here is my issue:
Today I took her to a NFL game and we had a blast. When I dropped her off, she said I will talk
to you after the 20th. I replied with \"yeah right,\" and she said \"no, I\'m really not kidding.\" She said
that she has so much school work and that she is going to be busy. She then kissed me and left.
WTF??? I told her
that she should call me when she is ready to talk. This really pisses me off. Should I take this as a hint and
move on? Should I call her in a week or so? I hate these damn mixed signals...
Josh
krtel
11-30-2003, 06:10 PM
I\'m not too sure what her feelings are towards you. I can tell you that law school deliberately gives students
more work than they can handle. A few friends of mine that are in law school have mentioned that the dating scene
isn\'t all that great because people are swamped with work and stress.
Krish
belgareth
11-30-2003, 06:12 PM
Take it at face value. She does have a lot of work ahead of her and might need the time to focus on it.
jimhoff
11-30-2003, 06:41 PM
ok... but I think that if someone really is interested in you, they would at least call from time to time. A
break for a phone call never hurt anyone. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif
Josh,
I would be hurt and pissed off too. Then again, I have been in situations where I couldn\'t see people
for as many as six weeks because I litterally had to work every waking minute, and maybe law school is like that.
It\'s not the type of thing anyone understands unless they have gone through being under the gun like that, and
most people have not had such experiences.
Straight up, she is not blowing you off, she wants to be all about
school in the most important three weeks (not so long) of her life.
If she was blowing you off, she would not
have been that specific, and she would not have agreed to be stuck sitting next to you for four hours today. I know
it must hurt that she can\'t even call you or email you, but like I said, I have been under the gun where even
that was not doable, and I bet there is a lot of anxiety on her end regarding her finals, so she it is hard for her
to worry about other people\'s feelings too much right now.
jimhoff
11-30-2003, 07:44 PM
You
have a good point. I will wait and see.... but until then, I am still dating around.
Thanks.
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Holmes
11-30-2003, 08:02 PM
Josh,
Definitely, just hang back and see what happens before making any snap judgements.
Holmes
Sexyredhead
11-30-2003, 08:36 PM
I dated a law student. She\'s not kidding about not having time to talk to you. She may call, but
she\'s probably gonna spend the next 2-3 weeks buried and focused. Any interruptions will throw off the whole
flow. They pace finals every 3-4 days, so you spend all your time studying, then take the test, sleep, study for the
next one... It sucks.
But they\'re very happy to see you when they come back to earth.
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif Too bad you can\'t be \'stress relief\' for her in the
meantime. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif
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Don\'t get mad and all
\'testosteroney-I\'m-gonna-date-other-girls\' on her. She needs some time to herself. Maybe she\'s cutting
you off completely because she likes you a lot and if she gives you a little time, she knows she won\'t want to
study at all. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif That\'s how I am with guys I like.
Icarus
12-01-2003, 01:15 AM
SRH is spot on...
I\'m snowed under with study (and I\'m not at law school) which wont ease
until around the 16th... Everyone that I know appreciates that I\'ll be a bit of a hermit until then...
SRH
nailed it when she said that if you spent some time with your g/friend or friends, that you just don\'t want to go
back in and study!
If you like her, give her a chance.
Steve
franki
12-01-2003, 01:17 AM
I always lock myself up for two weeks before tests...
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I have been dating this girl for about 2 months
now. We have gone out about 7 times and have hit it off pretty well. She is in law school and her finals are
quickly approaching. School is over on December 20th.
Now that you know that, here is my issue:
Today I took her
to a NFL game and we had a blast. When I dropped her off, she said I will talk to you after the 20th. I replied
with \"yeah right,\" and she said \"no, I\'m really not kidding.\" She said that she has so much school work
and that she is going to be busy. She then kissed me and left.
WTF??? I told her that she should call me when she
is ready to talk. This really pisses me off. Should I take this as a hint and move on? Should I call her in a
week or so? I hate these damn mixed signals...
Josh
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Most of
my relatives are lawyers. I can tell you that she really WILL be buried until after the semester ends.
Don\'t
take it personally.
CptKipling
12-01-2003, 10:49 AM
What SRH said.
Besides she may well call you anyway, so dont \"date around\". But don\'t get cut up if she
isnt contacting you...but then people have already said what I was going to say so there you go
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jamesdeanmartin
12-01-2003, 12:06 PM
She may have been kidding. Law school gives us all a very jaded sense of humor. She may have been
saying, \"I have so much work I probably won\'t see you until the 20th...ha ha.\"
I know a lot of us talk
like that, but that really isn\'t the case.
All I know right now is that my plan is to study for two days,
take a final, go drinking, have sex (and I have no regular partner right now, so this is the hard part, but damn I
need sex during finals) then start the cycle up again. Maybe I need a study buddy :-)
Also, dating a law
student would be hell unless you are student IMHO. So many little fights and mental permutations get tossed around
casually amongst students here that if I wasn\'t \"in the club\" I\'d hate everyone. Plus, compared to
undergrad were I had 4 - 5 hours of free time every night, I have 3 hours on Thurs, Fri, Sat, and that is about it.
JDM
jimhoff
12-01-2003, 02:03 PM
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All I know right now is that my plan is to study
for two days, take a final, go drinking, have sex (and I have no regular partner right now, so this is the hard
part, but damn I need sex during finals) then start the cycle up again. Maybe I need a study buddy :-)
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Perhaps you could call this girl and have a study partner....
:grin
J/k thanks for the advise though. It has helped me to calm down a bit.
Josh
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