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Pancho1188
11-03-2003, 05:21 PM
Sorry, everyone... Just a
little venting action going on here... I was going to put this in the open discussion but realized it was
pheromone-related.
I finally got over feeling like crap about being in love with my ex-gf and having her get
scared and run away because I\'m graduating. She still wants me to be one of her best friends because I\'m the
only one she can be herself around without feeling like she needs to be happy-go-lucky (even her new bf!!!) the
whole time. Anyway, she\'s been really depressed for the first time in her life recently (I think it\'s because
she misses me, but that\'s just my little fantasy world), and of course I come in to rescue her.
We hang out
today, and I had a few drops of AE on and maybe two drops of TE. The whole time we were walking from one place to
another, she was walking right up against me (arms rubbing together and always touching). Then, at the end of our
time hanging out (I had to get out of her room because it was getting awkward for me), she gives me this big hug.
Man, I should\'ve stuck it to her by holding that hug for a few seconds and letting her get a big whiff of those
-mones... Too bad I\'m such a nice guy... *rolls eyes* Oh, well. Okay, I\'m done venting now. I\'ve just
been wondering if that whole touching me thing was the -mones or not. It\'s hard to tell. Maybe next time
I\'ll go all out with my AE-TE-SoE mix and see if I can give her a little reminder of what she gave up out of
fear... /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif
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my ex-gf and having her get scared and run away because I\'m graduating.
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She broke up with you cause you\'re graduating?
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Pancho1188
11-03-2003, 06:12 PM
Yeah, I\'m going to
bounce and she still has 2 1/2 years left in college. That, of course, brought on feelings of outrageous commitment
by still being bf/gf while apart, and I would have done anything to stay close to the school and see her as much as
possible. I don\'t blame her because that\'d freak anyone out, but to just get scared and run away is pretty
sad. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif Oh, well.
WonderingThoughts
11-03-2003, 08:35 PM
Pancho1188, my
belief in true love is that if it really is true love she will return to you. If it is not true love then you are
better off without her so you can find the true love.
I suggest to let her go but make sure she knows that you
care. That way there will be no misunderstandings. A woman needs to hear from the man how he truly feels.
Otherwise she may think you don\'t care and that you are the one that wants to move on. She may feel so hurt by
you leaving that it is easier for her to break off the relationship before you do. My beliefs is that if the two of
you can communicate your feelings then do so before it is to late. Hope this helps.
proteus
11-03-2003, 09:13 PM
Hey Pancho, I can relate. I
broke up with my gf very recently. Her reason when we got down to it was she was afraid she was going to get hurt
(she has deep seated issues with \"trust\" and says she always runs when something sparks this fear). Our
relationship was semi-long-distance (she lives 2 hours from me) and she got very insecure wondering what I was doing
during the week when I was away from her or the weekends when we couldn\'t get together.
We got together a
week or so (first time after the breakup), but it\'s over. Sometimes you just got to suck it up and walk and while
it\'s good to \"try and be friends\", if you\'re not really over her, that won\'t work.
Get some space
from her, start dating again, and who knows maybe in the future she might come back. But trying to hold on may just
destroy any chances of that happening.
It\'s tough I know, but there are millions of other women out there so
just get out there and forget her for the time being. It\'s working for me, although I\'ll admit sometimes it
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Sacogoo
11-03-2003, 10:19 PM
Pancho writes:
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She still wants me to be one of her best friends
because I\'m the only one she can be herself around without feeling like she needs to be happy-go-lucky (even her
new bf!!!) the whole time.
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Sucker.
EXIT63
11-04-2003, 03:48 AM
She\'s depressed cause her
new b/f doesn\'t rock her world like Pancho did. He\'s too much like Speedy Gonzalez!
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Pancho1188
11-04-2003, 06:21 AM
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She still wants me to be one of her best friends because I\'m the only one she can be herself around without
feeling like she needs to be happy-go-lucky (even her new bf!!!) the whole time.
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Sucker.
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I am a sucker, but I have a stupid
class with her this semester. If I try to ignore her or avoid her, it\'ll just make things worse (I\'ve already
tried that). So I\'m just going to \'dance\' until I graduate and then never talk to her again. I just wish
someone saying, \'sucker\' and giving me a hard smack in the face would just make it easier to not give a
shizzzzzzzzzzzzznit... /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif
Elana
11-04-2003, 06:22 AM
I don\'t understand. She
broke up with you because of school and then she got a new boyfriend?
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif I have a feeling that there is more to the story than that.
Pancho1188
11-04-2003, 06:31 AM
Yeah, it\'s part of
the whole backlash of getting out of a serious relationship. I saw it happen with two friends of mine who were
going out. He was leaving and didn\'t want to hurt her, so he broke up MONTHS before he actually left. Then he
proceeded to get into much less serious relationships (AKA \'macking it\') for fun. Besides, I\'m graduating
and this new guy isn\'t. That and we were serious and this new one is just for \'fun\' but...somehow it moved
a lot faster than expected. Let me tell you what I told her. \'Friends with benefits\' is bullshit. Someone
always gets attached. Some people just don\'t get it. Oh, well. Rock and a hard place for me for another...46
days. Then I\'m outta here and will finally be free of this crap.
Icarus
11-04-2003, 08:54 AM
This may seem somewhat
alarmist, but you could roll her in a carpet and throw her off a bridge.
Sorry I can\'t be any more help, but
I have had some difficulties getting over relationships in the past. I liken it to being kicked sharply in the
gonads. Hurts like Hell at first (to the max, but it\'s not really yet sunk in) then it starts to ache and ache,
increasingly, until you can think of nothing else....
Then it\'s gone, and you wonder why you were so worked up
about *nothing*.
Just feel glad that you\'re capable of deep feelings for other people!
Hope it gets better
soon!
(so you can stop nursing your nuts /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif
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Steve
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Pancho
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She still wants me to be one of her best
friends because I\'m the only one she can be herself around without feeling like she needs to be happy-go-lucky
(even her new bf!!!) the whole time.
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Sucker.
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I am a sucker, but I have a stupid class with her this semester. If I try
to ignore her or avoid her, it\'ll just make things worse (I\'ve already tried that). So I\'m just going to
\'dance\' until I graduate and then never talk to her again. I just wish someone saying, \'sucker\' and
giving me a hard smack in the face would just make it easier to not give a shizzzzzzzzzzzzznit...
/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif
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HATE it that
you are going through that, honey. Nasty-- we\'ve all been there.
If it\'s any comfort-- on a couple of
occasions, I\'ve been dumped. I was sure I\'d NEVER get over it. I did.
THEN, months later, the guy came
back. Missed me, loved me. All I could think was... \"DAMN! What did I EVER see in him?\"
(BTW-- Got a proposal
of marriage from one of the \"dumpers.\" I said \"no!\")
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Yeah, it\'s part of the whole backlash of getting out of a serious
relationship. I saw it happen with two friends of mine who were going out. He was leaving and didn\'t want to
hurt her, so he broke up MONTHS before he actually left. Then he proceeded to get into much less serious
relationships (AKA \'macking it\') for fun. Besides, I\'m graduating and this new guy isn\'t. That and we
were serious and this new one is just for \'fun\' but...somehow it moved a lot faster than expected. Let me
tell you what I told her. \'Friends with benefits\' is bullshit. Someone always gets attached. Some people
just don\'t get it. Oh, well. Rock and a hard place for me for another...46 days. Then I\'m outta here and
will finally be free of this crap.
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If you read an excellent book
called, \"Mars and Venus on a Date,\" you\'ll see that she may be going through the third courtship stage-- the
\"Uncertainty Period.\" Advisement for that period is... hang back and let her miss you. BUT, if she contacts you,
don\'t let her see you have issues. Light and friendly, is the key.
Take care, kid. Love, K.
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