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trejoe
10-19-2003, 04:40 PM
Ok ladies I wrote a fourm that
apparantly u were not to thrilled about because I aint get one hit on it but
I came back with a new more less pig
question. I am going to meet a friend next week and me and her were kinda close but this summer she lied and I found
out about it therefore damn near kiling our friendship but we started talking at the end of the summer and now were
cool now she wants us to hang out next weekend and I want some advice on how to show her what she missed out on now
I came to the ladies cause I want a womens point of view thanks for the help ladies.
WonderingThoughts
10-19-2003, 04:59 PM
Always treat the
ladies with great respect. We like to be treated like we are special and that we are a human being as a whole.
When men concentrate more on the sexual it leaves the women feeling like noting more than a sexual object and not a
human as a whole. Respect and kindness will always make you a winner in the end.
Sexyredhead
10-19-2003, 07:01 PM
So you want her to fall for
you as a sort of revenge for her lying to you earlier this summer?
Or are you past that and you\'re trying to
get her because you want something with her?
trejoe
10-19-2003, 07:17 PM
Its more of me looking past the
summer dont get me wrong I aint forgot about it and nethier has she but I want to hang out with her
trejoe
10-19-2003, 07:19 PM
and plus I do want some type of
revenge but Ill wait and see what happens
Sexyredhead
10-19-2003, 07:32 PM
I think if she was
interested in you during the summer and then screwed it up by lying to you (was it a big lie or something
inconsequential?), then the best way to have revenge on her is to be yourself, but not start anything with her. If
she was interested before, she\'s probably still interested now, so just be yourself and let her know she can\'t
have you. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif
Make sense?
dogsbutt
10-19-2003, 07:33 PM
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I am going to meet a friend next week and me and her were kinda close but
this summer she lied and I found out about it therefore damn near kiling our friendship but we started talking at
the end of the summer and now were cool now she wants us to hang out next weekend and I want some advice on how to
show her what she missed out on now I came to the ladies cause I want a womens point of view thanks for the help
ladies.
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I ain\'t no lady (despite the rumours), and I
certainly don\'t know what the lie was. But, in my experience, when a human being (not man, not woman) shows
characteristics that you find unacceptable, they have a tendency to repeat them. Not all humans, but the tendency
is there. If the lie was big enough to damn near kill a friendship, I personally wouldn\'t worry about how to
convey what SHE missed out on, but what you THANKFULLY missed yourself.
Revenge is a very funny thing (I
personally identify this with an \"I\'ll show her!\" flavour). The best revenge can usually be NOT to pursue,
NOT to convince, NOT to care. And, sometimes going the opposite of the \"I\'ll show her\" tendency is what
makes the person realize what he/she was missing out on.
My advice, not knowing what actually happened, is to
forget about trying to convince her and convince yourself instead that the old \"plenty of fish\" cliche can hold
true. If you want to keep her as a friend, cool. I\'d personally do it without the agenda.
Sid
dogsbutt
10-19-2003, 07:38 PM
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the best way to have revenge on her is to be yourself, but not start anything
with her. If she was interested before, she\'s probably still interested now, so just be yourself and let her know
she can\'t have you. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif
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Did we just write the same exact thing at pretty much the same exact moment?!
I think we
did! Now, if one more person writes it, maybe he\'ll actually believe it.
Sid
Sexyredhead
10-19-2003, 07:39 PM
Yep, I think we did.
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There ya go, trejoe. Same thing from a guy and a girl. Must be
some truth to it then. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif
Holmes
10-19-2003, 07:40 PM
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The best revenge can usually be NOT to pursue, NOT to convince, NOT to care.
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That\'s it.
Holmes
belgareth
10-19-2003, 07:40 PM
I wont repeat what you two
have said so well, only say that you are both right in your advice.
trejoe
10-19-2003, 07:41 PM
who says I dont believe u thats y
I came here in the first place Im still listing
dogsbutt
10-19-2003, 07:50 PM
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who says I dont believe u thats y I came here in the first place Im still
listing
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Didn\'t mean to imply that you weren\'t listening.
It\'s just that I know MY tendencies are to solicit advice that I WANT to hear, and any advice that isn\'t
congruent with what I want (eg to be with the object of my affliction), I usually say to myself, \"well, they
don\'t know MY situation. That advice works well for THAT guy. But this girl and I, we REALLY have something
special. If she doesn\'t lie to me again, it\'ll be perfect, and we\'ll have a great relationship
together.\"
I\'m just speaking from where I\'ve been, the rationalizations that I\'ve come up with for
going after things that just aren\'t right for me. I\'ve also seen this tendency in MANY friends, MANY clients,
and even more strangers.
I\'m glad you\'re listening. The hard part is to actually NOT care. Pretty tough
course of action.
Sid
Holmes
10-19-2003, 07:51 PM
Who is Mamma Googamoo? Erykah
Badu\'s alter ego?
Holmes
Holmes
10-19-2003, 07:54 PM
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The hard part is to actually NOT care. Pretty tough course of action.
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Very true!
Holmes
trejoe
10-19-2003, 07:58 PM
no its like something I wou;d say
if I seen a hot female u know Oh mama goo-ga-moo
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