bivonic
03-31-2003, 02:43 AM
I\'ve been doing a lot of reading the past few weeks & I\'m learning heap loads. I will cut & paste a little on confidence, entertainment & mystery, from what I have read these are the three most desirable traits a man can have to attract a woman & I would bet to a certain degree it works in the opposite direction.
What are the other 3 traits? It\'s different for everyone, I do not have the PDF handy that I copied this from, but essentially find a list of traits & rank yourself from 1-10 trying to be as honest as possible. When you are done look at the 3 traits that you scored the highest on, those are your strengths that you should use in conjunction with the big 3 I will post below. I\'ll dig the PDF up at work & I\'ll try to remember to post those traits when I get home so you can take advantage of your personal 3 strengths. For point of reference, my personal 3 was intelligence, good listener & sensitive (go figure, humor/entertainment was a close 4th, I did not consider it in my top 3 since I did not think of myself as a standup comedien).
(snip)
The Big 3
• Confidence - If you have done any research at all into the
\"what women want\" information available then you have
undoubtedly heard a thing or two about the importance of
confidence to a woman. This is not a new concept. A lot of
people have known this for a long time. However, well known it
is though, it remains one of the most elusive and difficult
characteristics to implement (it\'s almost impossible to fake for
any substantial amount of time.) Included later are powerful,
proven techniques used by psychologists and therapists to
increase your self-esteem and, in turn, increase your
confidence. Ways to appear more confident to others, and
examples of how a confident person acts/reacts as opposed to
a cocky person (to eliminate confusion about where you cross
the line from confident to [bad word]) are also included in
upcoming pages.
• Mystery – Just the word conjures many different thoughts and
ideas. When I looked in a thesaurus I found these synonyms:
unknown
curiosity
enigma
puzzle
wonder
thriller
and even romance
Look at those words. Just like a good movie has to have a plot
that can\'t be figured out, an attractive person should not \"give
away the ending\" so to speak. No matter how much women
pretend to (and may even genuinely think they do) want to
know everything about you. THEY DON\'T.
• Entertainment- If a girl has fun every time she goes out with
you she will keep going out with you. If you can make her
laugh and feel good about herself when she is around you she
will love you. If when you are together she has the best time of
her life, she will never want to leave you. It\'s as simple as that.
Allow me to illustrate why these are the 3 most important qualities using
a short example…
Bob is considered by most to be a \"stud.\" He\'s quarterback of the
college football team. He looks like Brad Pitt\'s twin and he\'s got more
money than Donald Trump. In short, he has every quality on the above
list EXCEPT for the \"BIG 3.\"
Bob gets a blind date with a girl named Julie. They go to the movies.
(no entertainment)
On the way into the movie theater someone in a group of guys walking
behind them makes a comment about Julie’s butt. Both Bob and Julie
pretend they didn\'t hear it. Bob thinks it better to avoid confrontation
and plus he didn\'t think Julie heard.
(no confidence)
At the ticket counter Bob mumbles the name of the movie to the
cashier. He is obviously tense and nervous.
(no confidence)
While they are waiting for the movie to start he fills all silences in
conversation with facts about his life and early childhood.
(no entertainment and no mystery)
Bob spills the bag of popcorn on her and repeatedly apologizes for it
throughout the rest of the night.
(no confidence)
On the drive home Bob breaks down and tells Julie how in love with
her he is and how attractive he finds her.
(no mystery)
By this point in the date most guys wouldn’t have a chance in hell with
Julie. But since Bob has other assets that most women want or find very
attractive Julie will give him a chance and probably a couple more dates
even though she doesn\'t like him as a person.
Eventually she will get rid of him even though he is rich and good
looking.
What are the other 3 traits? It\'s different for everyone, I do not have the PDF handy that I copied this from, but essentially find a list of traits & rank yourself from 1-10 trying to be as honest as possible. When you are done look at the 3 traits that you scored the highest on, those are your strengths that you should use in conjunction with the big 3 I will post below. I\'ll dig the PDF up at work & I\'ll try to remember to post those traits when I get home so you can take advantage of your personal 3 strengths. For point of reference, my personal 3 was intelligence, good listener & sensitive (go figure, humor/entertainment was a close 4th, I did not consider it in my top 3 since I did not think of myself as a standup comedien).
(snip)
The Big 3
• Confidence - If you have done any research at all into the
\"what women want\" information available then you have
undoubtedly heard a thing or two about the importance of
confidence to a woman. This is not a new concept. A lot of
people have known this for a long time. However, well known it
is though, it remains one of the most elusive and difficult
characteristics to implement (it\'s almost impossible to fake for
any substantial amount of time.) Included later are powerful,
proven techniques used by psychologists and therapists to
increase your self-esteem and, in turn, increase your
confidence. Ways to appear more confident to others, and
examples of how a confident person acts/reacts as opposed to
a cocky person (to eliminate confusion about where you cross
the line from confident to [bad word]) are also included in
upcoming pages.
• Mystery – Just the word conjures many different thoughts and
ideas. When I looked in a thesaurus I found these synonyms:
unknown
curiosity
enigma
puzzle
wonder
thriller
and even romance
Look at those words. Just like a good movie has to have a plot
that can\'t be figured out, an attractive person should not \"give
away the ending\" so to speak. No matter how much women
pretend to (and may even genuinely think they do) want to
know everything about you. THEY DON\'T.
• Entertainment- If a girl has fun every time she goes out with
you she will keep going out with you. If you can make her
laugh and feel good about herself when she is around you she
will love you. If when you are together she has the best time of
her life, she will never want to leave you. It\'s as simple as that.
Allow me to illustrate why these are the 3 most important qualities using
a short example…
Bob is considered by most to be a \"stud.\" He\'s quarterback of the
college football team. He looks like Brad Pitt\'s twin and he\'s got more
money than Donald Trump. In short, he has every quality on the above
list EXCEPT for the \"BIG 3.\"
Bob gets a blind date with a girl named Julie. They go to the movies.
(no entertainment)
On the way into the movie theater someone in a group of guys walking
behind them makes a comment about Julie’s butt. Both Bob and Julie
pretend they didn\'t hear it. Bob thinks it better to avoid confrontation
and plus he didn\'t think Julie heard.
(no confidence)
At the ticket counter Bob mumbles the name of the movie to the
cashier. He is obviously tense and nervous.
(no confidence)
While they are waiting for the movie to start he fills all silences in
conversation with facts about his life and early childhood.
(no entertainment and no mystery)
Bob spills the bag of popcorn on her and repeatedly apologizes for it
throughout the rest of the night.
(no confidence)
On the drive home Bob breaks down and tells Julie how in love with
her he is and how attractive he finds her.
(no mystery)
By this point in the date most guys wouldn’t have a chance in hell with
Julie. But since Bob has other assets that most women want or find very
attractive Julie will give him a chance and probably a couple more dates
even though she doesn\'t like him as a person.
Eventually she will get rid of him even though he is rich and good
looking.