Sexyredhead
02-03-2003, 06:14 PM
Hey y\'all. Here\'s the story from the weekend with that guy I like, for those of you who are interested.
Since R and I spent the first two days pretty much attached at the hip, my friend E, who has heretofore been too chicken to ask R if he was interested in me, took it upon herself to do it this weekend while I was off doing something else. She worked it into a conversation about a lot of other things, but here\'s what was said. She asked him did he miss being up here at school, he said yes. She asked if he missed hanging out with us, he said yes. She told him I seemed to really miss hanging out with him a lot, and he said he really missed me too. She told him I seemed to talk about him a lot, and that she was pretty sure I was interested in him as more than a friend. He said, \"Uh, huh,\" like he was confirming he\'d heard what she said, but not commenting. Since he wasn\'t being any more forthcoming, she told him she was bringing all this up because she had seen me and R together and she thought he might be interested in me too. To that he said \"What difference does it make? I\'m not even up there.\" and she stopped asking him anymore, because he sounded mad/sad/bitter? when he said it.
I showed up a little later, and he was really nice for a while, and we played around a bit. Then we all went out to dinner, and all of a sudden he was paying no attention to me at all, other than to be polite, and paid way more attention to my friend E all night, to the point that she even noticed it. I was very hurt, needless to say, and figured I had my answer--not interested. BTW, E is married, and they have no interest in each other, other than friendship. She\'s like his little sister.
Next morning R and I had to get up early to do something, and while we were alone for a minute and waiting for someone else to show up, I told him E had told me she\'d told him I was interested. He nodded--very closed body language all of a sudden. I lied just a bit here. I told him I understood he was not interested in me, and I hadn\'t planned to say anything to him about it, but E had thought he was interested, which is why she\'d asked him. He nodded once like he understood--more a confirmation-that-he-was-listening kind of a nod than any comment. I then told him that I really valued our friendship and it was most important to me that we stayed friends more than anything else. Another nod. Then I asked if everything was ok between us, and he said yes. After that, he seemed like his usual self all morning, till we ran into E and everybody else, then he flipped into polite mode again. ( I have to say that I was extremely nervous about a presentation I had to give that afternoon as well, so I wasn\'t the height of conversation.) Still got a hug before he left at lunch, and he said he\'d give me a call some time this week. He\'s still coming up to visit us for a week--next week (when my birthday is--(he\'d asked Saturday what day it is to make sure he had the day right) so he\'ll be here for my b-day. This he told E after I left to go make my presentation. Dunno if he\'ll stay at my house again or at someone else\'s. Guess we\'ll have to see.
What do y\'all think? E says she\'s not sure what to think, since he never confirmed or denied anything, and from the way he was asking what difference it made. Our friend Clay thinks he does like me, and seemed honestly surprised about how he was acting. Sounds like a \"no\" to me.
Since R and I spent the first two days pretty much attached at the hip, my friend E, who has heretofore been too chicken to ask R if he was interested in me, took it upon herself to do it this weekend while I was off doing something else. She worked it into a conversation about a lot of other things, but here\'s what was said. She asked him did he miss being up here at school, he said yes. She asked if he missed hanging out with us, he said yes. She told him I seemed to really miss hanging out with him a lot, and he said he really missed me too. She told him I seemed to talk about him a lot, and that she was pretty sure I was interested in him as more than a friend. He said, \"Uh, huh,\" like he was confirming he\'d heard what she said, but not commenting. Since he wasn\'t being any more forthcoming, she told him she was bringing all this up because she had seen me and R together and she thought he might be interested in me too. To that he said \"What difference does it make? I\'m not even up there.\" and she stopped asking him anymore, because he sounded mad/sad/bitter? when he said it.
I showed up a little later, and he was really nice for a while, and we played around a bit. Then we all went out to dinner, and all of a sudden he was paying no attention to me at all, other than to be polite, and paid way more attention to my friend E all night, to the point that she even noticed it. I was very hurt, needless to say, and figured I had my answer--not interested. BTW, E is married, and they have no interest in each other, other than friendship. She\'s like his little sister.
Next morning R and I had to get up early to do something, and while we were alone for a minute and waiting for someone else to show up, I told him E had told me she\'d told him I was interested. He nodded--very closed body language all of a sudden. I lied just a bit here. I told him I understood he was not interested in me, and I hadn\'t planned to say anything to him about it, but E had thought he was interested, which is why she\'d asked him. He nodded once like he understood--more a confirmation-that-he-was-listening kind of a nod than any comment. I then told him that I really valued our friendship and it was most important to me that we stayed friends more than anything else. Another nod. Then I asked if everything was ok between us, and he said yes. After that, he seemed like his usual self all morning, till we ran into E and everybody else, then he flipped into polite mode again. ( I have to say that I was extremely nervous about a presentation I had to give that afternoon as well, so I wasn\'t the height of conversation.) Still got a hug before he left at lunch, and he said he\'d give me a call some time this week. He\'s still coming up to visit us for a week--next week (when my birthday is--(he\'d asked Saturday what day it is to make sure he had the day right) so he\'ll be here for my b-day. This he told E after I left to go make my presentation. Dunno if he\'ll stay at my house again or at someone else\'s. Guess we\'ll have to see.
What do y\'all think? E says she\'s not sure what to think, since he never confirmed or denied anything, and from the way he was asking what difference it made. Our friend Clay thinks he does like me, and seemed honestly surprised about how he was acting. Sounds like a \"no\" to me.