Help!! Could not get it up...

[Lscread]

Guys, and Gals. I have been seeing this REALLY hot babe. Last night at my house \"it\" gets going (BTW I was wearing AE). Anyway, While were going at it( Kissing touching) I notice that I am not getting aaaa \"excited\".... I mean, I am in my head, (she is SOO HOT) but nothing is happening below. This is NOT a problem that I have had in my life. However, it has happend once before when I was 19 and tried to have sex with a girl I had known for years as a friend. I am 43 now and I still have wet dreams a couple of times a week, and \"take care\" of myself as needed. So I know the drive, and function is still there. The only thing I can think of is that I was overly exicted or just plain performance nervous. I have been divorced for 4 yrs now, and this is the first girl I have been intimate with for 5 years. She is very nice, very cool.. 30yrs old 5\' 8\" long blond hair great body and so hot, and so affectionate to me.
This was about our fourth date..... We took our time, lots of four play. Yet no show from Mr. Johnson.
OK everyone... now that I have exposed my shame, please help me deal with too things: What the F#$K happened, and now that it did, how do I get over the fear it will happen again, cuz I know if I am all worried about it; it will happen again!!
Gals, a question for you.... I feel so stupid!! How is she feeling about this... do girls understand this? I mean I dont even understand it!! The fourplay was so hot.... she did climax twice just from that, but it all stopped a the moment of truth. Please respond, and please dont laugh /ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif
Lance

[jose]

No sense worrying since it only happened once, now if it starts being a problem again go see your doctor. I suggest using some herbal pills like \"horny goat weed\" (or maybe some of the guys out there have a better suggestion)before you meet her again.

[Bruce]

I think that sort of thing happens to most guys at some point in their life. When I was in my early 20s it happened to me from time to time with super-foxy women during the early stages of the relationship. Once I got to know them and we had \"done it\" a few times, it was great. There is nothing better than sex with a partner who is a \"10\" for you, but during the initial stages of intimacy it can be scary. I have found that 9 out of 10 women are very understanding when that happens, and it can be a tremendous weight off your shoulders just by explaining what\'s going on. One woman I had this problem with was incredibly moved by the whole experience of MY failure in bed. She had had a very strict religious upbringing and was just going thru the motions with previous boyfriends. When I told her I \"couldn\'t do it\" because I had some emotional problem or something, it brought out all kinds of blocked feelings for her and we became very close, and had a great relationship in many ways. So, I would explain what you are going thru to your gf and I think the whole thing will clear up in no time.
Not to worry,
Bruce

[proteus]

True. Another possibility is what I\'ve also heard that no matter how attractive a particular woman might be, that sometimes if this occurs, for a reason that is not apparent to your conscious mind, you possibly do not find her sexually attractive/compatible and so your body is in a sense rejecting her on a subconscious level. Not saying that\'s the case but don\'t automatically assume there\'s something wrong with you - maybe deep down something about her turns you off, especially if this is the only time this has ever happened to you.

[Gerund]

She came twice & you\'re worried? Okay, okay, I know what you mean. What happened would bother me, too.

The one time in my life I had erection failure happened when I was like 19 (& sober). It was purely psychological, because I was trying to cheat on my girlfriend, and my organ just wouldn\'t respond -- it was more loyal than I was, I guess. So in my case it was guilt that prevented the erection, but I\'m sure any heavy-duty psychological overload would cause the same result. I wouldn\'t worry unless it happened a few times in a row, indicating that it was more than just a case of initial emotional jitters.

So you were temporarily stuck in neutral. Once you get it in gear, you can make it up to her, right? BTW, keep in mind that pretty much all women figured out at a very early age that penetration isn\'t necessary for an encounter to be sexually satisfying!

Yeah, baby~! hehe

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I could not agree with Gerund more.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Welcome aboard Lscread - Every thread posted here so far is on the money. I just want to say that the sub-conscious mind is most likely the answer.

Picture this - You haven\'t been sexually active in 5 years so you are going to be a little guarded no matter how hot this woman is. If she\'s as hot as you say, you\'ll be mentally guarded against things like possible disease and her past history - things that are not tangible to you. It causes you to think 2 & 3 times about sex with her (or anyone) before you dive into it face first (if you know what I mean).

I\'m 43 also and the same thing has happened to me, so I\'m right there with you. You get over it by finding your own comfort zone with her and then the unit will work just fine. Trust me.

[MOBLEYC57]

Lscread, I feel your pain. The same thing happened to me when I was 16. In my mind, she was getting ready to get pusnished royally, but ole muley was on vacation or something, and he didn\'t hear the call of the wild. I thought I was turning gay, because he would always raise up into a double bicep pose when the time arrived. My advice to you is...you said you take care of yourself, which means to me that you have no problem stroking it....the next time stroke it!! She\'d like to watch, and once it\'s saluting...start drilling!!! If she\'s still talking to you, you\'re o.k. You can also look up EDRX, I just got it in my email yesterday, and it suppose to be good. It\'s something like viagra, but liquid.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

waaa-hahahahahahaha -- ole muley!

[Whitehall]

The EDRX stuff mentioned above looks like a reasonable set of ingredients but you can get everything yourself for a lot less money and not too much less convenience.

The most active part is the yohimbe extract. This is a witch doctor potion but it really does have an effect and can produce spectacular woodies (we\'re talking hickory not pine!) that last and last and last and last..... The l-arginine is usually useful in doses in gram quanitities so 1 ml (half a bottle) wouldn\'t have any effect. The tribulus is usually a long-term regime and I doubt you\'d feel anything with 1 ml dose as recommended. One can buy the raw yohimbe for a penny a dose and a competent, legitimate extract (Gaia or HerbPharm) for 35 cents a dose.

The kicker is that by ordering one little bottle (2 doses) at $5.95 via credit card you subscribe to monthly $56.95 shipments that you need to UN-subscribe within 2 weeks or you get charged anyway. It\'s in the fine print that you have to sideways scroll to find!

Frankly - its a RIP OFF!!!!

[MOBLEYC57]

Cool!!! Thanks for the info. I kept it in my email because I wanted to give it a try to see what gives. Love to experiment when it comes to body dancing!! Got a hand full of tricks! Sooner or later, we\'re all going to need something, but right now, my head is still working well enough to bring on the solid wood (oak).

[Lscread]

Your posts have really hepled me settle down..... thanks so much for all your replys! More are welcome...... still licking my damaged ego....
Lance

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WhiteHall - You wrote:
\"The most active part is the yohimbe extract\"...

You can find this and all the other combos mentioned in your thread at GNC by the pints. It\'s locked up in the glass case. It\'s not too expensive either...

Horny Goat Weed?

[oscar]

Lscread,

Well, I think \"ole muley\" is a bit more colorful a term than \"ego\", but if you can lick it, more power to ya!

Oscar /ubbthreads/images/icons/wink.gif

[MOBLEYC57]

Lscread...your ego will be just fine!!! What\'s important is that you get to live to try another day.

[Gerund]

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still licking my damaged ego....
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Hmmm... I wonder if FTR has anything that needs licking~ Oh, I\'m sorry, was that out loud? /ubbthreads/images/icons/wink.gif

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Yohimbe is given by prescription for impotence these days, too, so it\'s even AMA approved.

[oscar]

FTR,

Yohimbine carries some baggage even as a prescription drug, like drug interaction and blood pressure issues. I think that if one went the mainstream medicine route these days, he\'d find himself more likely to be prescribed Viagra.

Oscar /ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif

[oscar]

Sorry,

I neglected to mention Viagra\'s wood rating. (petrified)

Oscar /ubbthreads/images/icons/wink.gif

[Whitehall]

Note that the prescription version is the pure alkaloid YOHIMBINE while the raw herb, available freely and widely is YOHIMBE. The former is cleaner, I understand, since the herb has a lot more variety to it from many other alkaloids. Either has many effects on the central nervous system that are entertaining, at least, while viagra is pretty much strictly mechanical/hydraulic in action with no CNS effects.

With yohimbe extract, one can start the morning of a big date by taking a little at a time every few hours OR one could just take a full dose an hour or two before hand. The former method seems to \"wind you up\" more.

I\'ve posted my recipe for a yohimbe party punch on the forum before.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

I stand corrected. /ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Note that yohimbe bark must be properly extracted to be effective, you can\'t just make a tea out of it.

I think that one should boil it in water with some vitamin C but I never experimented this first hand.

[**DONOTDELETE**]

You get the tincture at the health food store, dude. Easier that way, I think, than bark tea.

[oscar]

FTR and Whitehall,

I believe it was I who was being corrected/clarified. I used the pharmaceutical name only because FTR mentioned it as a prescription drug. The clarification was no doubt useful for those who didn\'t know the difference.

Yohimbine ( title alkaloid of the herb Yohimbe) and Viagra are both excellent \"recreational wood enhancers\" in my opinion. But if I were suffering from an erection problem, I believe I\'d choose to forgo the entertaining central nervous system side effects of Yohimbine, and choose Viagra. No need to add other possible worries.

Oscar /ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif

[**DONOTDELETE**]

I had a chiropractor who recommended I take Yohimbe during a period of depression. It gave me palpitations really bad, and made me jittery. I\'ve been afraid of it since. Whitehall, do you not get that from it?

[**DONOTDELETE**]

What\'s funny is an erection problem posted by a guy named \'Lance\', LOL !

Anyway, without a doubt it\'s all \'nerves\' and next time all will be fine. At least you had a good girl who didn\'t make a big deal about it which would have made it worse.

[Whitehall]

Using the tea (make with ascorbic acid - Vitamin C), the most prominent effect (after the woodie) is the shivers up the spine. There is also anxiety, paranoia, insomnia plus tingly skin. Yes, the heart can race too. Lower doses and/or maybe the extract have less of these.

Recipe for Yohimbe Party Punch

One quart (liter) of water
4 tablespoons of yohimbe bark, ground fine
1 tablespoon of ascorbic acid (Vitamin C) powder

Heat water to simmer, add ascorbic acid and bark and stir. Let simmer just at boiling point for an hour - caution -it froths easily. Let cool and filter through coffee filter paper, add honey or sugar to cut the vile bitterness. Take one oz. (30 ml) every 15 minutes until you START to feel some effects then wait 30 minutes before taking more.

Avoid if on MAO inhibitors or have heart problems.

[BassMan]

If you\'re just looking for the extended woodie and enhanced arousal, without all the tingly, trippy side effects /ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif , Solaray makes a product called Viramax that has a very nice dose of a number of wood-inducing substances. There are two versions, one with yohimbe, one with tribulus instead. There\'s also a version for women. The recommended two caps of the yohimbe version makes for a great deal of fun, greatly increases one\'s drool factor, and I can even sleep afterwards.

I talked my doc out of a script for Viagra (it took exactly one \"I\'m fifty, do you think I\'m a candidate for Viagra?\"), pretty much to compare it with yohimbe. I concur about its mechanical nature. It gets it _real_ hard, but it doesn\'t add to the enjoyment a bit. Luckily, my insurance paid for it /ubbthreads/images/icons/smile.gif \'cause it\'s ten bucks a pop.