View Full Version : Simply confused - Whats right for me? my story
just-for-kicks
08-11-2010, 01:01 PM
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zgame
08-11-2010, 02:42 PM
Hello my friend:wave: :welcome:
You want to be a real respective team leader?
NPA will make you more agressive without
sentiments!
You will be more respected by all man + you'll be more attractive to girls.
they just dont
open up to you?
add Soe! it will help you to open up them a little:D
OR you can try complex products
like Alter Ego, Chikara.:cheers:
p.s why your team is scared of you? too old for them?
maybe it's you hair or
clothes are scary?:)
idesign
08-11-2010, 08:17 PM
Dear just-for-kicks,
Your
username betrays your motivation for being here and any advice given should be taken with the understanding that
frivolous undertakings bear the repercussions of ill-conceived actions.
Option 1: Screw the 12ft away girl in
front of the 9ft away wife and completely lose the respect of your entire team, lose your wife, and probably ruin
your life in a way that's much worse than not bagging the hottie.
Option 2: Gain personal and professional
character by completely shutting down the 12ft away girl and develop strategies to make 9ft away wife more desirable
than 12ft girl.
Your situation, as described, is so charged with potential disaster that any pheromone use could
rip the fabric of the universe.
Aside from the romance aspect, your team may be afraid of you because of your
intensity. That happens. Try to relax, not everything is life or death. You really don't know it all. Allow
others their opinions, and respect them. Encourage input and use those ideas.
Pheromones will not cover up or
overcome intrinsic behavior. If anything, they will amplify what you already project. Or worse, they will send an
incongruent signal that will confuse those around you.
Interestingly, pheromone use has taught me a lot about
myself and about other people. What was once a lark is now more serious and interesting, not to mention more
beneficial to my goals is using them, in many ways.
OK, sorry, not the answer you were looking for. :)
belgareth
08-12-2010, 07:04 AM
First, ID's advice is exactly
right, listen to him.
Second, at a guess I'd say that between your personal pheromone signature and your
intensity you are intimidating as well as sexually attractive. Personality plays a huge role but so does your
personal pheromone signature. You could be emmitting tons of adrostenone naturally, which would explain both the
intimidation and the sexual attraction. From your other post I understand you are in India, in a hot climate? That
could increase the sweat and increase the pheromones you are putting out.
Here's my advice for a test. Get
yourself and antibacterial body wash and use it every morning. Pay careful attention to your crotch and armpits. If
you can endure the sting you could even wipe down those areas with rubbing alcohol. The intent is to kill any
bacteria because some convert other pheromones to androstenone and to get rid of any build up of pheromones in those
areas. Use a strong anti presperent daily. I'm not implying you are not clean. I am suggesting that you have an
unusually high pheromome level and want to get it under control before adding more.
Try that for a month and see
what happens. You might be surprised at the changes you see.
just-for-kicks
08-12-2010, 08:21 AM
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Problem #1 The problem is my wife also works with us and the wife is seated less
than 9 feet away while this girl is about 12 feet away from my desk (in different directions thou).
Problem
#2 the girl and me put this issue of our "mutual" attraction towards each on the table less than a week ago. But
this girl has a steady boyfriend of 3 years. she doesn’t want to quit the relationship. And i cant leave my
wife.
Oh dear :( - all the ingredients are here for trouble ...
I doubt that your team is scared of
you - most people are careful of team leaders/bosses, etc. - hierarchy & all that. Just ask for some good ideas from
them on how to improve the business, listen to them carefully, & maybe implement them with their active
participation - some delegation ?
As you sweat alot that would put out more natural pheromones than normal. Why
not use a social 'mone to calm things down (SOE ?, etc.). Or wear a calming fresh smelling cologne around your
team. That could change your image in a positive way as people are influenced alot by smell.
You could change
your clothing style a bit - smart but casual, different colours, etc.
Some offices have also experimented with
putting e.g. lemon fragrance oil into the AC to motivate staff.
just-for-kicks
08-12-2010, 08:57 AM
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just-for-kicks
08-12-2010, 12:59 PM
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just-for-kicks
08-12-2010, 01:24 PM
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(I've heard that some companies
introduce fragrances into office air to lighten the mood - e.g. lemon, baked bread, cookies :cheers: . There are
also free standing fragrance oil heaters which are plugged in).
My guess overall is that you've done very well
in creating your company through your energy & force of your will, but that those same techniques don't always work
with individuals. Your personality may be dominating them a bit, & you may have quietened them with what you have
created.
If you ask people what they really think - only the confident ones will tell you, because the less
confident ones are worried about what might happen if you don't like what they have said :).
One way around
this is to have a Suggestions Box in which staff put anonymous typed suggestions about improvements - then you
would know what they really thought.
In the U.K. some companies have 'team building days' where you are
asked to e.g. cross a river with a barrel & a plank - & then you all fall in !! It breaks the ice between manager &
staff.
I had a manager who tried too hard to get on with us, & he used every technique which he had learnt on a
management course. It backfired & it didn't work because it came across as contrived. If he had just relaxed a bit
(within the needs to get work done by due dates ... ) & put himself in our position when he was less senior ...
The opinions of a total stranger of course ..
As for 'mones what about Liquid Trust ?
idesign
08-12-2010, 09:16 PM
Hi there jfk, didn't mean to be
rude in my post, and upon re-reading it I see that I may have been. Apologies.
There seems to be a disconnect
between your self-described manner and your team's response. You say you're always "smiling and laughing", but
they don't open up to you. I don't think intensity explains that.
You mentioned depression, are you bi-polar?
If so, that would easily explain your team's resistance to opening up and/or becoming closer. Its difficult to
approach someone who's response is unpredictable.
As well, some strategies for overcoming depression require
conscious behavior changes, which sometimes come off as unnatural and contrived. What you might think you are
projecting might come across completely different to others. I have personal experience with this one. :)
I'm
just shooting from the hip here, could be way off the mark.
I'll not comment any further on the girl/wife/team
situation.
Chas mentioned LT, a good suggestion. SoE might be good as well. -Nol is a good social
lubricant.
Keep in mind that pheromones all have a distinct scent. You allergies may not like them.
Good luck
with your team.
Greg
belgareth
08-13-2010, 05:58 AM
Yes! the climate here is very hot... but like i said i sweat even inside a Air
conditioned room.
In fact that's the two areas I use two different soaps on everyday.
I cannot use
perfumes or any anti presperent or anything with even a slight smell because i am allergic to them and i get instant
headaches and nausea even if some one around me uses perfumes or something such a talc powder... i have to get
away.
I think, based on what you have said, that your problem may be twofold. You have a naturally high
pheromone level (Androstenone) made higher by constant sweating and you are an intense personality. However, unlike
the others I do not think the focus should be on the personality, it should be on the pheromone levels.
I use an
unscented antipersperant myself for allergy reasons. The one I've found that works best for me may not be available
in your country. It's Mennen Solid - unscented. Again, be sure you are using an anti-bacterial soap or body wash
and look hard for a true anti-persperant that works for you. Not a deoderant! Even talk to your doctor about it. If
you are a coffee or tea drinker reduce your intake and maybe even try some 5-HTP before bed. The intent here is to
reduce sweating as much as possible by slowing your metabolism just a bit. Results might take a couple weeks but it
is worth a try.
belgareth
08-13-2010, 06:00 AM
Yes! the climate here is very hot... but like i said i sweat even inside a Air
conditioned room.
In fact that's the two areas I use two different soaps on everyday.
I cannot use
perfumes or any anti presperent or anything with even a slight smell because i am allergic to them and i get instant
headaches and nausea even if some one around me uses perfumes or something such a talc powder... i have to get
away.
I think, based on what you have said, that your problem may be twofold. You have a naturally high
pheromone level (Androstenone) made higher by constant sweating and you are an intense personality. However, unlike
the others I do not think the focus should be on the personality, it should be on the pheromone levels.
I use an
unscented antipersperant myself for allergy reasons. The one I've found that works best for me may not be available
in your country. It's Mennen Solid - unscented. Again, be sure you are using an anti-bacterial soap or body wash
and look hard for a true anti-persperant that works for you. Not a deoderant! Even talk to your doctor about it. If
you are a coffee or tea drinker reduce your intake and maybe even try some 5-HTP before bed. The intent here is to
reduce sweating as much as possible by slowing your metabolism just a bit. Results might take a couple weeks but it
is worth a try.
Regardless of the results, I think a -Nol product like SoE would be the only pheromone you would
want to wear. It should serve to take the aggressive edge off your signature.
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